“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Lucille Ball ⠀ I spent most of my life seeking love and validation from outside forces to squelch the pain of my self loathing. But, the thing is even when I received it, I still felt empty. I didn’t believe it. I would question people’s motives, and it would often make me feel worse. Why? ⠀ Because I didn’t love myself, so how could I accept love from an outside source? I just assumed that people were placating me or that their opinion was wrong or stupid and therefore invalid. How could anyone love me after all, I didn’t even like me. ⠀ Liking yourself is not a luxury, it’s a basic need. When I first started to shift my mindset, I used to feel guilty about vocalizing the things I loved about myself, and fear often stopped me from accepting it as truth. ⠀ But it’s so easy to compliment others, what is it about doing the same for yourself? It’s the fear that you’re delusional. It’s the push back you may feel from others who are less grounded in themselves. ⠀ People may try to cut you down, but you know what? That is ALWAYS the result of them feeling uncomfortable about themselves. As a rule, secure people don’t care if you’re also secure. Confident people are attracted to confidence. Self love tends to be contagious. ⠀ People worth your time will lift you up, especially when you do it first. Treat yourself they way you would treat your best friend!