An early Xmas prezzie from @psychologiesmagazine. Thankyou to the wonderful @suzy_skywalker and her team for creating the best journal ever. A must for yourself or the perfect present. Anyone else got an early present yet?
If I look back to the big breaks personally and business wise I've had in 2018, most of these have come from relationships and connections that have been nurtured over the years i.e. the seeds were planted many years ago. Basically if you're in it for the long haul (which I am) you cant buy someones trust - it has to be earned and that takes time.
As a coach, consultant and entrepreneur building a circle of influence is part of the course.
But how? ✅ Choose the influencers you want to be aligned with by their values and not just how well known they are.
This is a big one for me and I can easily get on my soap box about it. I dont give a hoot who you’re smoozing with or sucking up to if our values are a mismatch. And name dropping overdone stinks of desperation ✅ But when you do find influencers you love and respect (even though they aren’t perfect - because no one is) Invest time and probably money in getting to know them ✅ Think about what you can offer them (no strings attached) rather than what they can give you i.e. be a giver and not just a taker
As 2019 is edging closer what seeds do you want to plant for next year and beyond?
My coaching story began on the beautiful Greek island of Skyros. I was at a life and career crossroad and wanted out of my corporate cubicle but clueless and stuck. On Skyros I met a coach who patiently helped me get clear on what I wanted to do. I was oblivious to the fact she was coaching me.
By the end of the two week retreat my mind was made up and as soon as I got back home I signed up to train as a coach with CTI Co-active coaching. The same organisation she had trained with. This was in 2003 and I started to build my coaching business while still in my corporate career.
So do coaching qualifications matter? Hell yes! but then I would say that right? But why?? credibility, framework, depth to hold that 'sacred space' for your client.
Today's coaching landscape is very different and the title 'coach' is being used loosely. My philosophy is 'live and let live', so personally good luck to anyone who wants to take a leap into working for themselves and make a living.
However, in my experience the coaches who have been through a quality accreditation program are the real deal.
In 2006 I decided to make the big leap from 1:1 coaching to running workshops.
I did some research aka googling and randomly came across an organisation called Women In Technology. Run by the awesome @maggie_berry. My timing was perfect as Maggie was looking at running personal development workshops for her community. I was an ex-woman in I.T. so credible.
The first workshop I designed and facilitated was called, “How To Build A Successful Personal Brand”. I love uncovering people stories and helping them bring their stories together beyond the mask. The energy in the room was electric and I knew something special was happening for my participants.
Little did I know that this would become my signature workshop. In the audience of that workshop were several women from different organisations. I landed several big corporate clients in one evening. Some are still with me today!
Twelve years later I have earned more than six figures plus from that one single workshop. Today it exists as a journal, online masterclass and live workshops for coaches, corporates and anyone who wants to stop hiding and start living.
The ROI has been incredible. Creating a workshop like a product or as an asset makes good business sense. It’s the gift that keeps giving.
One of the biggest challenges my clients have is figuring out how to show up for their clients.
In my experience the ‘magic’ happens when I start sharing stories in my workshops. Mostly self-deprecating life lessons - of which I have too many. More importantly it gives my audience the permission to be vulnerable too.
In owning every part of our story, warts n all therein lies your genius 🧚🏼♀️ What parts of your story are you running away from? Think it’s irrelevant? Too scared to tell for fear of judgement?
Today would have been John Lennon’s birthday and his other quote which has always whispered to me is, “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.” A few years back as I was pivoting my business and moving it online I decided that I needed to carve some time away from an already very packed schedule. The only way to do this was to stop watching TV. So no more #madeinchelsea , #millionaire matchmaker etc - which I haven’t missed at all! But I also ended up saying no to making time to catch up with friends. As working for yourself can be isolating enough this wasn’t a smart move!
Here are a few lessons I’ve learnt about ‘not enough time’ syndrome. Especially if you’re a service based solo-preneur, coach or consultant spinning the wheel. - Dont sweat the small stuff, really just don’t. No one cares about the perfect logo - Make time for face to face connections and nurture the good ones - Be selective about showing up at every networking event like a ‘z’ list celeb - not pretty or cool - The most precious gift you can give someone is your ‘quality’ time - Making time for self-care should be number one on your list. For tips read @suzyreading book on self-care
How do you feel about time?
Years back when I decided to follow my bliss it felt so right. Little was I prepared for the rollercoaster ride of self-employment. Personally nothing could have prepared me for the lows. Caught up in the maelstrom of generating new business, delivering programs, ego, social media madness..SURVIVAL...the reality is it’s easy to forget why I started the journey. My WHY??? So my Monday intention is to connect back with that WHY....and put my focus back to helping others find their bliss, live purposeful lives, achieve their dream goals 👗💍🌴✈️💰😍🧘🏻♀️🏘💃🏼 #successcoaching#mindsetcoach#mindsetiseverything#dontquityourdaydream#knowyourself#beyourowngamechanger#mondaymotivation#mondayinspiration
Hurray 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 for Ruth Davidson the Scottish Conservative leader who said no to the top job and yes to her mental health, relationship and motherhood. “I value my relationship and mental health too much for it. I will not be a candidate.” Motherhood AND clambering for the CEO’s chair isn’t realistic. Whichever way you look at it something has to give.
For me it’s about having the freedom of choice.
Lean in @sherylsandberg Or lean back 🧘🏻♀️?
Oh how I miss the divinely delicious Nora Ephron. The other day night in on my own I decided to watch Heartburn again with @merylstreep – another one of my heroines. Took me right back to my wonderful uni days. The book/film is loosely based on Norah’s personal life. Her husband was cheating on while she was pregnant with their second child.
Norah could have played the victim but instead she turned her pain into art and at the same time entertained and connected with many women for generations to come. She chose heroine over victimhood.
A real heroine fights for what is right (in her own way) and votes every day with her choices and actions.
In my experience of coaching and training clients who want to put themselves out there, the one thing they are looking for to help them do this is courage. The courage of their conviction.
Where in your life do you need some courage?
At her core the Princess Archetype 👑 is all about innocence, trust, dreaming and self-care – and why not! She lives with an assumption she will be cared for and an expectation that life should treat you well. Princess Margaret the quintessential Princess Archetype was the fascinating blend of bohemia meets royalty, forever caught in the duality of pleasure vs duty she loved being the centre of attention. Known for switching on and off her charismatic magnetic charm. The shadow side of the Princess Archetype means she can be internally conflicted. In Margaret’s case this was her desire for pleasure vs call for duty. Feeling tossed back and forth like a shuttlecock between perfection and feeling worthless, the Princess archetype can play out as berating, wild optimism, denial and risk taking. Princess Margaret was a great example of this.
I don’t want to end this on a negative note as while ‘princess’ thing gets enough of a bad rap. I believe there are lots we can learn from the Princess archetype too. There is a lot of strength in vulnerability and reaching out for support and help is an important aspect of self-care. .
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