Happy Mental Health Awareness Month ✨
I’ve made it my life mission to normalise anxiety, depression and body image insecurities.
My mental health battle began probably 4 years ago now.
It began in denial - I created this idea of how I wanted people to see me, but mainly how I wanted to see myself. Amongst it I couldn’t at all see this, but the ones closest to me eventually caught on. This denial is the tiring stage, I used all of my energy creating a happy girl to the world until i couldn’t handle it anymore and moved onto the next stage.
Realisation- this realisation wasn’t a good realisation, but just awareness that I wasn’t okay and I didn’t want people to see it so I avoided them, social events, people that had this idea I ‘had my life together’. Because I didn’t, and the anxiety of being found out and this idea that I had to cope for the rest of my life made me feel helpless and like this was the new me, it’d never pass & the rest of my life would be flat, unemotional, numb, pressured, too hard... I wanted to give up, so many times.
This lead to the most dangerous next phase... identity- depression and anxiety became a part of who I thought I was. If I ever felt a slight bit of happiness or joy I’d instantly shut it down, because my mind had been programmed to believe I was this thing called depression and the list of symptoms was then who I had to be, according to doctors and the internet.
I can remember the exact moment I decided that this coping thing was no longer an option, either I die, or I find a solution. I began to remove depression and anxiety from my identity. It took time, but I stopped saying I had depression and anxiety, and replaced it by calling it a ‘mood’. I then started to notice I could actually start allowing moments of happiness and joy to last longer than short moments. These short moments turned into longer and longer moments.
I went through a process that allowed me to reprogram my mind, then learnt the process myself to help others. It saved my life.
I guess amongst it all, at the time I just wanted to believe it would get better. So today’s post is a reminder that it does! 💖
This is something I think myself and my fellow generation have in common.
I’ve had to really confront myself with the reality of this lately - success and progress take time.
Have you noticed your weight loss goals are in the 4,6,8,12 week time-frame?
Have you ever stopped to think after the 12 weeks, then what? It’s over?
Maintainence is another commitment.... but if you’re anything like me the more you succeed/results you see, the more you want to succeed and see more results!
Weightloss/muscle gain/saving for a house/achieving business success - whatever it may be, needs a timeline for accountability purposes ONLY!
It’s a time you look at the strategy you put in place to achieve those goals, and re-assess whether they actually worked for you. If not, change the strategy, not the goal! Never give up. Ever.
Our minds have a smart trickster behind the scenes sometimes making us believe we have already tried our best/everything - WRONG! You can ALWAYS find another strategy if you want it bad enough!
So set a goal date, but not as a finish line. Set a goal date, but be realistic, allow for slower periods/off days/days off etc. Slower is better than nothing at all.
Set a goal date & never let it define your self worth.
What you do isn’t who you are.
Be kind, be loving, be compassionate- that’s is all you need to feel confident in who you are. You’re beautiful, embrace the fact no body is you and your uniqueness is solely yours❤️
I used to be the girl who needed be perfect. Have the perfect job title, perfect life, perfect body... thinking back now I didn’t even realise how much my daily life actions and choices were a reflection of who I thought I should be for other people.
I was the girl who always said yes to people, when deep down I wanted to say no. The people pleaser who could never speak up and put my foot down with people (usually those closest to me) when I felt hurt or disrespected.... I didn’t like ‘the drama’ to the point I’d say sorry when I believed the other person should be, I’d let situations that hurt me slide. I was a typical door mat, insecure girl who didn’t really believe I deserved any better. I was scared of losing relationships that drained and de-powered me, rather than allowing myself to be open to relationships that supported & encouraged me to really do me!
So this post today is a reminder to say no and allow space for people to come into your life and treat you how you want to be treated. A post to remind you that saying no, makes your yes matter more when you mean it. A post to remind you, you are not obliged to do things for people you don’t want to do.
Dr Suess was right when he said ‘the people that care don’t matter and the people who matter don’t care’ - it’s a quote I truly try live by.
The only people you’ll only ever offend by saying no are the ones that stood on you in the first place.
It’s time to re-assess whether their place in your life should really be there.
And it’s time to accept yourself wholeheartedly- cellulite & all 😜
The more accepting you are of you, starting with honesty, followed by expressing it to others shamelessly, the more your life will be dominated by you, not how you feel you should be for others.
Everyone is beautiful, it’s about embracing it all and loving it anyway 💖
That day we got stuck on an elephant trunk & a tourist Asian family had to help us get down...the struggle was real 😂
Barcelona definitely takes you out of your language barrier comfort zone! You meet & connect with people from all over the world and have to find a way to understand them beyond words...a skill so undervalued and what I’ll ensure to pass down onto my children ❤️
P.S how tanned we were bree 😉👏🏼
Do you ever find yourself saying ‘I just can’t relate to them’ or ‘I just can’t understand at all where they are coming from’
Why do we have to? Why must we always feel this need to be understood by others? This need to fit in and be liked?
As a subconscious protective mechanism, our automatic responses to people who we generally don’t like, is more effort with them to be liked. Our automatic responses to seeing people do what we don’t feel comfortable doing is to judge, so we don’t feel uncomfortable with ourselves for not trying.
The more we pay attention to this so called ‘ego’ and the more we can educate ourselves and others about it... the better we will be as a society in decreasing bullying and this need to be right and others to be wrong... this need for us to be better, and others be worse.
If you can catch yourself out when you’re acting like this, then that’s the best possible place you can be in to start changing how you treat yourself... and ultimately how you treat others.
Be kind, always ✨