How are you with boundaries?
This is something I’ve really tried working on in my business and personal life.
I’ve got to be honest, it’s been really hard for me.
I’m a people pleaser and really hate the thought of “letting people down” but one of the best things I’ve learned to do is to put me and my family first and it’s been a game changer.
If this is something you struggle with I want to encourage you to work on boundaries for you. It’s not selfish.
It will be one of the biggest gifts for your sanity, business and life.
Hi there! I'm Melissa! Once in a while, I like to reintroduce myself in 30 words for some of you that might be stumbling on my IG for the first time. I know what you’re thinking, that nightgown I’m wearing looks super comfy. It’s a dress people. I made a poor fashion choice and now I’m living with it.
1. I am obsessed with the Enneagram.
2. I am a small business strategist
3. I love Jesus and pizza and my family, and the order of that is not intentional. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Introduce yourself in 30 words or less! Excited to make some new friends on here!
It’s something that I have taken for granted.
Our most precious commodity.
I spend most of my time thinking about my future, the things I could or should be doing. I worry about things that feel like they are shaping my reality. I spend a lot of time investing in my business.
But what happens when something shakes your world? Do you spend your time busying yourself with your routines or do you stop and reflect?
I was curious about how I would react when faced with a gut blow and I don’t have a definitive answer.
It’s been a little bit of both. Keeping normalcy and reflecting.
And right now I’m ok with that.
She would hate to know that everyone is making such a “fuss” over her. That we’re crying for her.
She hated having her picture taken and wouldn’t like that I had been posting her all over the internet.
She took her last breath at 8:01am today. Even when you know what’s coming you can’t know how to handle it.
I spent the morning going through photos. I hate that I don’t have as many as my memory holds.
I sat listening to voicemails I had saved from her, just to hear her voice.
Save voicemails friends.
Thank you for walking through this with me and my family. The messages I’ve received have been so touching. ❤️
Even amongst sadness I’m still thinking about work.
I guess it’s not really work if I love what I do.
It might even be helping to keep me somewhat sane instead of focusing on reality.
So I have a few questions for you, do you bury yourself in work? What do you do to keep yourself motivated regardless of what is happening around you? Help keep my mind busy with your responses ❤️
Thank you for all the love and support. You don't know how much it means to me. This is one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with, but having a community of people around me makes it a little easier.
Leaving my trip to WDW on the first flight I could get.
My mom called me and told me I should come as soon as I could.
Grandma has declined fast.
I don’t have words right now.
It feels like a blur.
Heading on a flight to San Diego in a few hours.
You’re never prepared for this.
Taking these next few days to rest and relax at the @waltdisneyworld food and wine festival with friends.
It’s been a rough few months and with the news of my grandma this trip is very much needed.
I don’t feel guilty that I didn’t bring my computer or that we’re doing Disney kid-less. Not even one tiny bit.
Take time to have fun, even if it is amongst tragedy.
It’s funny how one thing can change you.
Last week we got the news my grandma was in the ER. They found a mass on her pancreas.
2 days ago it was confirmed that it’s Stage 3 pancreatic cancer. The doctors gave her a few months.
A few months? That wouldn’t be enough time to tell my grandma how much I love her. How her presence and influence in my life has helped to make me who I am. That her spending hours crafting with me gave me the courage to purse areas of business that would allow me to create. That her and grandpa coming to every gymnastics meet and football game to watch me meant everything to me. That creating a safe space for me and my brother when everything else around us wasn’t made me feel known. That decorating their home at Christmas every year is one of the reasons it’s my favorite season. .
There will never be enough time for all the memories that were created. They shaped me.
All the things I know about her there are still so many I don’t. I sat and started writing my life. Maybe it’s because I want to relive the memories that I’ve lost, or document my life for my kids. Either way, I started writing today. Write your story down. Not for yourself, for those that love you.