“Sometimes tough seasons take forever because all we do is complain about them when Jesus is trying to take us from point a to point b. Yet we are so busy worrying or being mad or fighting that we don’t know that literally point b is the same distance as walking across the street. We just stop in the middle out of frustration that our seasons aren’t going where WE want them to go.” -chats with a friend #lessonsinaus#paulabbecomesanaussie#realtalk
A wise friend reminded me that I shouldn’t let people live rent free in my head, and though it’s a hard concept to grasp when someone meant a lot to you, it’s a concept I’m working on.
••also for those who have asked about this top, it’s from forever 21••
I always talk about the incredible women I have in my corner, but I just want to take a second to thank the incredible MEN in my life. While there are many of you, I’m seriously thankful everyday for the examples and friends you are to me. From phone calls, texts, messages and so on, you’ve stood by my side in seasons where I thought life couldn’t be more difficult. Whether it be a new friendship or an old one, You’ve encouraged me, you’ve motivated me, and you’ve been solid when I’ve been not so solid haha. So thank you for looking out, for being there and most importantly for running this race alongside me. You are all next level friends and I love that. You are so valuable to me and I love you guys. I miss you all and I’m thankful for you all. 🧡
Remember this: even when you feel like you are disposable to someone, there are a thousand other people who would jump on the chance to take their place. You aren’t disposable. You are important. You are loved, and you are A GOOD FRIEND. If someone leaves, let them. If they want to come back they will, and even in the heartbreak, and the shitty moments, when you get no explanations and cry for three days, know that you are still valued by so many. It’s ok to be sad, but don’t let it dictate your happiness. Know your worth, and remember that they once made you happy, so hold them to that standard. #notestomyself#paulabbecomesanaussie#lessonsinaus
I highly recommend long blacks (Americanos) and bagels with rose water cream cheese or something good along those lines.
ALSO- while I’m sharing my food hahah HIT UP @eccalgary TODAY to hear some world changers (and some of my favorite humans) preach for 5for5! Three campuses (North, South + Downtown) so no excuses to miss it! Unless you’re in Australia and physically can’t be there like me haha BUT FOR REAL. Hit it up. 👊🏽 #paulabbecomesanaussie
REAL TALK: I am blown away by all of your responses to my previous post. On Instagram, on FB, and via texts or messages. I’m truly humbled by the community I’ve been able to be a part of. You are all so special to me and im so thankful for each and every one of you. Thank you for encouraging me and loving me, but most importantly being people who teach me to love myself. I pray and hope that you are all learning to love yourselves more each day, and continuing to empower those around you to do the same. Love love love you all. 🧡 also- if anyone needs to talk about this subject or basically anything else, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m for you and appreciate and love you. #paulabbecomesanaussie
Self esteem has always been an issue to me that I don’t normally talk about. •
“Work hard so you lose weight, Drink this drink, try this pill, don’t eat that, you’re gonna gain more weight if you have that dessert, no ones going to date you looking like that.” All quotes I’ve heard all my life, and all things I’ve taught myself to believe. I believed that I was “too big” to wear a bikini so I hated going to the beach, I believed I was “too big” to wear certain things, so I avoided going out because I wasn’t comfortable with myself. I believed that I was “too big” to have anyone date me. “Maybe if I was thinner someone would love me, maybe if I was thinner I’d feel better about myself.” •
Let me tell you people,
HOW SAD IS THAT.
No wait, HOW STUPID IS THAT. •
Being here in Australia, has taught me quite a few things, but most importantly it’s teaching me self respect. How silly is it that we live in a world that constantly puts down women who don’t look like the people we see on TV, magazines, or the internet. Don’t get me wrong, those people are STUNNING, but let’s be real most of us don’t look like that. I don’t want to be someone who hides because I’m uncomfortable in my own skin. The way I choose to love myself, is the way others are going to love me. •
In saying all this, YES ABSOLUTELY live a healthy lifestyle, love who you are, work hard towards your goals, but also it’s ok to fricken eat that dessert. Learn to love the things you hate about yourself and I PROMISE YOU, you’ll feel a thousand percent better about YOU.
Also know, you are WORTHY of love. Whether you’re a size 0 or a size 20. #paulabbecomesanaussie
“You’re smart and kind and brave and humble and someone I value so so so much. You’ve taught me to be myself and that my story is worth listening to. You taught me to pursue my goals and passions because at the end of the day, it’s my life and no one is me. You taught me that hard decisions make the best outcomes and that loving on people is my greatest gift.” #fromPtoT#paulabbecomesanaussie