*GOOD PEOPLE & GOOD COFFEE... This week has been filled with good people and good times. It’s been the week of dreams and mostly everything I hoped from trying to build my own business.
Mainly I’ve met incredible people and had coffee with them, laughed with them, podcasted with them, messaged them, phoned them, went to see The Band with them.
Yes a few things that are quite major need figured out in my life, but I’m getting there and in the meantime I’m trying to focus on the good vibes.
Happy Saturday fellow good humans. ❤️ Becca xxx
*HAPPY MAMA NI... This time last week I was very pleased to be supporting a new venture by @marie_louise_mckendry called #HappyMamaNI
Happy Mama NI is a series of events for mums where you can bring along the kids and hear about things for you ❤️ Topics range from self-care to photography to makeup.
I spoke on compassion over criticism. About giving ourselves a mental break. About asking for help when we need it. About accepting that it’s okay if not everything is done or perfect at the minute. It’s about speaking to ourselves with kindness and love.
Community is such an important part of self-care. I talked about this in my recent self-care blog series. And I was moved by the need and desire last week for community and just how compassionate each of the women were to one another as they shared stories and struggles. @marie_louise_mckendry has created a warm and safe space for mums and it was amazing to be a part of.
If this sounds like your cuppa tea (and it should 😁) then the workshops are on a Thursday AMs from 10-11.30. Get in touch with @marie_louise_mckendry to check ticket availability. There is also a great and supportive Facebook group called Happy Mama NI Club. Go join!
Happy Thursday. May your coffee be strong.
*BOUNDARIES... So this post wasn’t meant to be going up today but I can’t contain myself.
I was asked to write a guest blog for Limerick Mental Health Association @limerickmha and it’s been published today!
It’s on emotional boundaries. What they are. Why we need them.
Link is in my bio if you fancy checking it out.
I would love to hear your comments!
*WRITING... I got given this pen as a gift. I’m a massive stationary fan but this quote really is true of how I feel right now. “Writing is the painting of the voice” - Voltaire
I absolutely adore writing. I never ever thought I would. I enjoyed writing essays for my degree but creatively writing and making it a core part of my day and my business wasn’t something I had planned. I always wished I could paint or make things that look beautiful, and frequently told myself how I just wasn’t creative. But here I am, creating.
Voltaire is a fitting person for this quote to come from. He wrote during the Age of Enlightenment, pushing for separation of church and state and for freedom of thought. His writings were also crucial in the acceptance of Newton’s gravitational theories in France. He was an activist using his writings and his voice for good.
Our voices are powerful. They are creative. Use them! Writing makes our voice last. We can have a bigger impact. We can make change.
What will you use your voice and writing for today?
I’m going to use mine for good ❤️ Becca xx
*SELF-CARE WEEK... It’s this week. Self care week. The theme is Self Care For Life. I believe it’s further than that. Self Care IS life. It is literally how we are living each day. Our basic needs. What we are doing to take care of ourselves. To parent ourselves. To meet our needs to survive and to live.
This is me walking into self-care week, living my values. In the throes of feeling like a shitty friend and feeling like I was failing today, I could have got caught up in my anxious episode and disregarded my needs. What my body was telling me I needed. What I know I need every day to survive. I chose to eat a meal and to hydrate myself. I did it in silence. It took 15 minutes. I felt better. I felt much more able to face the rest of the day. My day in turn became amazing. All because I chose to live my life by taking care of myself.
A revolution needs to happen. A self-care revolution where we realise that this isn’t about all the nice things we see online. This is about us going right back to a basic human level and acknowledging what we need to survive physically and mentally, and what’s missing right now from our needs.
I’m ready to join that revolution. Are you?
*MINDFULNESS... There’s so much chat out there about mindfulness. One would be forgiven for thinking that you need to be a zen master and buy an assortment of apps, books, clothes and accessories before even beginning to consider trying mindfulness.
Truth is - we can practice mindfulness anywhere and for free!
Johnny from @pranayogabelfast talked about Mindful Walking at the last Melters Meetup. Taking a walk with no phone, no music, no distractions. Just walking alone with your thoughts, noticing nature, noticing your surroundings, noticing the air, the weather, the architecture, the colours, the smells. That is practicing mindfulness.
Slowing down and taking a walk is good for our physical health too. We live so fast paced - down to the wire - but we need to remember to slow down. Perhaps you could try a mindful walk?
I was so happy to see a Mindfulness Trail at @rowallane.nt @nationaltrustni on my last visit. It’s a beautiful walk, which I won’t spoil on here, go and experience it!
I did love this sign so much though that I had to share. The picture is a lotus flower which is my favourite because...
“The lotus is a flower that blooms in the mud.
The thicker and deeper the mud, the more
beautiful the lotus blooms.” This sign says to me “peace...this way...”. What other things do you think you could do mindfully?
Have a great Wednesday!
*VOICE... I’ve been really challenged the past week by something @jo.rourke said. “Don’t just respond on social media with an emoji. Would you walk up to someone in the street and just make a heart shape with your hands?” No you wouldn’t because that’s not social! It’s not called social media for no reason.
It’s like we have got caught up in this “like button” craze and although I will be the first to admit I absolutely love an emoji, I hadn’t ever given this much thought. I’m so used to responding to texts, social media posts, etc., with an emoji. I hadn’t ever thought why I was doing this.
Last night I was typing and this thought from Jo popped into my mind and I just burst out laughing. Could you imagine reliving the conversation threads you have that are just emoji responses?! I would be making a laugh face to my best friend for days. Without any noise. Without any response.
I had a conversation with the fab @melwiggins this AM and the words she used were so spot on that I had to share. This is all about a quick acknowledgement. When we respond to someone by liking their post, their message, or by sending an emoji-only response, we are acknowledging their contact but we aren’t taking the time to engage with them meaningfully. How are we supposed to build and maintain friendships and relationships if we don’t use our words?! This will be a hard habit for me to break no doubt because social media is all about a quick acknowledgement. A like, an emoji...where is the meaningful interaction? It’s there behind the squares and I’ve met some amazing friends this year...but are we so caught up in figures, numbers of likes and followers, that we have forgotten to be social?
Jo gave amazing advice last week to engage with your followers beyond a like. Talk to people, like we did back in the day before social media. Talk to them. Listen to them. Have the banter and the laughs. Embrace the criticism. Talk to people. Use your voice!
In the spirit of celebrating all things words, here’s a photo of me last week using my words to talk about my passion - mental health.
I wonder how many of us read the captions under the photos...let’s chat!!! Becca xxx
*LIFE... is like a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
Moving forward is so important. Life can quickly pass us by if we are focusing on the past or the future instead of the present. I absolutely love goals but I do think that sometimes we can get so caught up in where we want to be that we forget to acknowledge, embrace and enjoy where we are.
Being present in the present is not about staying still. It’s about being in that very moment. Being present in our lives. And the world. The world that goes on and changes around us even if we have our focus on the past or the future.
I have goals and plans of course, but each day is amazing and I am making a conscious effort to not wish them away anymore. The be fully present in my day and my life because that’s how I will keep my balance and keep peddling forward.
Hope you have a wonderful Monday.
*AUTUMN... I have never been one to say I love Autumn or Winter. I love heat, sunshine, all things Summer. This year things are different. I am still a Summer lover, I always will be. But having the headspace to be working on my own business and my own goals has really given me the space to begin to appreciate things around me. I’m a nature lover, tree hugger, National Trust and forest park rambler. So why wouldn’t I love being surrounded by tree confetti! Leaves are falling and creating the warmest picture of colours that look like a cosy fireplace.
So this is my excited face about Autumn and seasons and the world continuing to turn and nature doing her thing.
I will never love anything more than Summer but I am embracing Autumn and looking forward to being inspired by it.
*PAUSE... Taking time to smell the flowers, or sunflowers in this case, can be a struggle. But that’s exactly what I’m doing. I have a list to do today and that list is filled with tasks and pauses. Time to breathe, to nap, to eat, to walk, to just be still, to rest.
I’m exhausted. It’s a good exhausted but I need to pause. Especially before I go see the Brownies tonight for their Halloween party.
Hope your Thursday is fantastic and you take a wee break.
*LEAN IN... Last night I was invited to Lean In Women in Coffee organised by @orlaveronica
I don’t work In Coffee but I am an avid coffee drinker and it was so wonderful to be in amongst the fabulous people who are running businesses and ventures that keep me elbow deep in the life fuel.
I was invited to speak about self-care and I chose to focus on community and showing ourselves some love. This circle is all about community. All about a group of people coming together to have each other’s backs, learn from each other and celebrate each other.
I felt so privileged to be welcomed into their community and I hope they got something useful from the session.
I got so much from the event last night. I met @jo.rourke when I went in and after some unintentional penis humour I felt so at ease. Jo led an incredibly refreshing and informative session on Instagram and I got so many useful tips on how to make social media work better for my life and my goals. This lady walks the walk. But the most powerful and refreshing thing, that made me want to jump on the table and scream “yes, integrity and she gets it” was when Jo talked about owning our voice. There is enough space for each of us. There is enough space for all the ideas, thoughts, opinions, businesses, plans, blogs and voices. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that your voice doesn’t count. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel that your voice is less because you have less followers or you have been doing it for a shorter time. Your voice is important and must be heard!
I felt so validated in that moment and I still do. We can let others drag us down and let them make us feel less because of what they say to us or about us. In the end, what matters is integrity. Do you. Your tribe will fall into place and they will be the best people for you.
Orla is creating a great community space and I was so happy to be a part of it and I cannot wait until the next meeting.
I am excited for the people who have each other’s backs. I’m excited for the kindness and generosity. Im excited for my space and my voice. Don’t be a dick folks, it’s a way nicer world when you aren’t.
Photo credit: @stphnhstn & @jeanyq
*MELTERS MEETUP 18/10/18... Some details about the first ever Melters Meetup this Thursday evening 18th October 2018!
Event starts at 7pm and will be on until 9pm.
Parking is on-street and there should be plenty available in the area at this time.
I’m so excited to welcome each of you along on Thursday evening! It is going to be great!
Thanks to everyone who has supported, donated and bought tickets. You all being there means the absolute world to me!
Any questions please give me a shout, and we have a few tickets left if anyone is still interested!
Love you all, you big melters!! Becca xxx
FOOD... When I was thinking about how I wanted the melters meetup to go, I knew I wanted food because I believe people make better connections when they eat. It helps us to feel comfortable and connected to each other.
I wanted something amazing, something local, something produced with love and care.
@biarebelramen is Northern Ireland’s only hand-made, locally sourced ramen shop...and they are also he winners of the best Asian restaurant in The Food Awards Northern Ireland 2018.
When they agreed to be a part of the Melters Meetup I wanted to jump up and down (I may have...) because I LOVE what they do, how they do it and everything they stand for. The food is utterly incredible and I’m so excited for each of you coming along on Thursday night to experience some amazing food, cooked by experts and all round amazing humans!
It’s pretty addictive...I’m sure you will be hooked if you aren’t already!
If you haven’t got a ticket yet, we have 5 left for this Thursday’s event. Get in touch!
*MORE GOODIES... The first ever Melters Meetup is being held in @bodenparkcoffee in Belfast. Orla @baaadbitchalert the fabulous proprietor and my wonderful friend is not only hosting us but has given each person coming along a sample of her locally roasted coffee beans! Orla’s #lovinglysourcedlocallyroasted coffee has just started being sold in @indiefude in Comber so you are definitely in for a treat with this sample!! Aren’t you all so excited?! 5 tickets left everyone! If you want one, just get in touch!
*EVEN MORE... I am in a sea of natural bath salts right now thanks to the lovely Shauna from @thenaturalbeautypot in Enniskillen! Who knew we had natural, handmade, vegan friendly, not animal tested products right on our doorstep here in NI?! Check out her amazing online store and a wee birdy tells me she may just be launching a newsletter!
Shauna has kindly gifted some wonderfully smelling bath salts for the Melters Meetup on Thursday. I am really struggling not to hop into a bath right now...except we don’t have one in our house. They smell incredible and look so amazing. Each one is definitely made with love and care.
I hope they will remind you to stop and smell the roses, peppermint or calendula and lemongrass and take a moment for yourself!
I am so delighted with the goodie bags we have for each of you!
Can’t wait to see you all on Thursday at the first ever Melters Meetup!
*EVEN MORE GOODIES... I’m so excited to share another awesome gift you will get in your goodie bag for Melters Meetup!
Janine from @janmary @janmarydesigns has kindly donated a positive affirmation keyring for each and every one of you who comes along to Melters Meetup on 18th October!
Janine has been my friend for over a year now and Melters Meetup wouldn’t be happening without her. I am so grateful for her support and for her giving her amazing products to the event. Janine makes wonderful jewellery - go check out her page!
I am so excited that each of you will be able to remind yourself daily to “follow your heart” and “find joy in the journey”. Aren’t these goodie bags fabulous?! If you haven’t got your ticket, we have a few left! Get them before tomorrow!
*BEACH LIFE... I’m a solar powered human who loves heat, sunshine, blue skies, shorts, Birkenstocks and sand on my feet. I really am not a fan of socks.
NI living means that it’s kinda cold here all the time, my toes are always chilly, they rarely feel sand and I’m usually in shorts but in front of the fire. I’m even starting to embrace the slouchy jumper...mainly because I can still have a shoulder out and not feel too cold.
Would I trade it for beach living? Yeah I would in a heartbeat...except for Christmas time because you can’t be somewhere warm at Christmas.
We hit up so many amazing places when we were in Florida and I haven’t talked about it a lot. I am going to write few blogs on what we did. But in the meantime, here’s a photo of my happy face in the sunshine at Smathers Beach.
*LIFE GOALS... When you wake up at 6.30am feeling like death warmed up and you wish you were back in 35 degree heat eating a doughnut in the shape of a voodoo doll.
Man, that was a good doughnut.
Would I get on a plane just for that? Hell yes I would. (I’m also partial to a thrill ride so that would also happen...) #lifegoals#voodoodoughnut#waitedtenyearsforthat#itwasamazing#takemebackplease