I didn’t know that one’s heart could keep Expanding...
But, I guess that’s how love works, huh?
Love is Life. & Life Grows.
Something about children. The way that they pour back into me...more than I think I could ever reciprocate!
Their heart’s are so innocent & adoration, so pure.
Some of the most Frequently Asked Questions as a Single, 27 year old female:
•”Why are you still single?”
•”You haven’t found anybody yet?”
•”Why don’t you just give ‘_____’ a chance?”
•”You think maybe you’re being too picky?” ...to name a few.
So let me answer these for you (Since I currently fall under this...in her late 20’s, & still single, bracket)
1. Giving my heart to someone is an investment. This is my.LIFE, not a board game. So, though potential may surround me... it may be flattering for a moment. But, I’m waiting for (1) Purpose.
2. Let me put it like this. A lot of people have their different views on this. Here is mine.
While I do not believe it is my ‘duty’ to seek out a man, I also do not believe that this means that the woman hides away in a hut expecting the man to find her in a hole.
So, I wouldn’t say I haven’t ‘found’ one yet. But rather.. I’m not sure that he has found me.
—Recently I googled eagle 🦅 facts, and saw how they choose their mate.
The male (multiple actually) finds her. & SHE chooses (whichever male who’s able to carry her weight, if she were to fall)
3. I’ve given Chance after chance to people who haven’t even deserved it. & I wouldn’t say that because of disappointment I won’t continue to do so. However, I will say... I’ve learned not to waste my energy on someone who may be on a different route from what I’m traveling.
4. Am I being too picky?
No. This isn’t about me or any ‘potential’ mate. This is about purpose. If two do not fall in line, together.. they will constantly be in conflict.
Now, let me transparent for a moment, (because raw and real is what I try to stand for). I’m not going to pretend like I don’t have ‘surface’ preferences.
Such as height, skin color, smile, build, etc. But, at the core of my expectation is a man of purpose.
Not another failed boyfriend.
But, a Husband in Purpose.
#futurewifey ❤️ //shoutout to @acemetaphor —I’ve been religiously reading his book #thefuturewifehandbook & have been very encouraged in my waiting. Being reminded that it’s not in vain. There are men who still believe in what I desire—My Hope is Alive) #worththewait )
Happy 10th Anniversary to these 2 Love Birds! (My brother & sister in law) I pray that everything that God desires for your marriage become even more alive now than it was at the genesis of your relationship!
Today, I also honor my parents in their 32 years of marriage. & sister and brother in law, in their 3.5 years of marriage.
One thing I’ve learned from you all.
Marriage isn’t easy. It takes work. & it takes sacrifice.
But one thing’s for certain.
When I see you look into eachother’s eyes... I see the statement “it’s all worth it”
Love. (Real love) IS. worth it.
It’s worth the good,
the bad, & the ugly.
Cause Fact is, we all have it all... but how many people are willing to do life with us in all of our ‘greatness’? (that’s one way of saying it😜) Blood ‘has’ to stick by your side.. a Spouse Chooses to. & I’m blessed to see you all choose eachother... in the good,
choose eachother in the bad,
and choose eachother in the ugly, and at the end say it’s worth it.
#iamhopeful#loveislasting#marriageworkswhenyoudo “I don’t want to just be a wife, I want to die a wife” (—inspired by: @acemetaphor)
Do not be deceived. ✨All that glitters is Not Gold✨
—Not everybody who gives you a fruit 🍎 is looking out for your health—
a Gift isn’t always a blessing. Sometimes gifts given are a curse wrapped in a nice package.
Careful in unwrapping your gifts.
All GOOD things come from above.
Ya know, sometimes a relationship or a connection can LOOK LIKE a good thing.
Isn’t that what deception is... something that draws you in, catches your eye, flashy, enticing, attractive or appealing... & then next thing you know, you turn around and see that you’ve been mislead/ deceived.
Deception= caused to believe something that is not true, typically in order for someone to gain some personal advantage. —This is Your WARNING—
Aren’t you tired of tryin to be serious all the time for someone who doesn’t know how to have fun?
Or tired of tryin to be fun for someone who doesn’t know how to be serious?
Honey, Be Bold. & Be ALL of You.
Because, What is for you will be for you.
Which is Basically saying, to those who mind- don’t matter. & to those who matter- don’t mind.
Who is for you will LOVE you wholly & completely. Covered in Strength & Uncovered Sometimes revealing pain... they will love you. ALL OF YOU. & You Deserve that.
So, wait for it.
Maybe If you knew how often I fell... perhaps you’d better understand my rejoicing for every time that I get back up!
Because what many fail to realize is that it’s not that those succeeding never fall... but rather, those who succeed are those who Continue to Get back Up... they may experience stumble after stumble, but they don’t quit on purpose!
I may quit a number of things in life... , but Purpose isn’t one of them. & I may fail in many areas in life... but, Progress isn’t one of them.
I’m almost certain these babies don’t recognize me when I wear makeup 😆
Went to this one’s bday party this weekend, & she was shy with me! 😩
Anyways,...So.... I can’t believe I’m now (officially) a nanny of 2- 1 year olds!
This is just me askin’ for y’all to Keep me lifted in prayer! 😜
#nannylife 🎢 #rewarding#motherofnations#noteasy#itsworthit
#datenight ya know, I’m gonna be transparent for a second. Is that okay? (Well, if it’s not... just unfollow me😝)
Cause some of y’all, probably gonna think... “Cayla’s done lost it”...
But, hey,. Just hear me out for a second.
So, I went out tonight, right?
Did my makeup and threw on some heels & drove into the city for the date I’d planned (for myself). My getaway, if you will.
I went into this place with a slight expectation of what it would look like... and somehow, when I first met @acemetaphor outside the doors. He gave me a hug, we introduced ourselves... & those first nerves I’d had, they left.
But Then,...(when the event had actually started) when called to the front to ask him a question to do his beginning monologue... I’m not gonna lie... I was shaking. (That’s another story I won’t get into... hahaa but, let’s just say there was a dance off and.... Uhmm, if any of y’all know me... Twerkin is not exactly within my bio. 🤣) Anyyyyyyway,... so, nerves were back, I’m in front of a room full of people I don’t know....next to this handsome chocolate man. (SN: listen, When he came closer to me, I felt his hand gently touch the middle of my back... I was shaking in my heels.. literally. He probably felt it.)
Fast forward, after the event was over,..I lined up to have books signed, get pictures and what not.. This is just me being transparent y’all.
I’m a single woman.
Who desires the gentle touch of a strong man with a sincere heart.
I lined up.. & walked over and got my hug from Mr Ace, himself.
But, It wasn’t just a hug for me.
It was a hug, following a full night of words of affirmations and reminders.
Reminding me... that while “Perfectionism” can be an issue, waiting for the perfect person For You is not... & also reminded
that a sincere heart will hold me with care, look at me with respect, listen attentively, lead me with honor, and cover me in strength.
As I then handed him my book,
And he writes... “"ᴄᴀʏʟᴀ, ʀᴇᴍᴇᴍʙᴇʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴛʜ.”
& signs his name,
@acemetaphor my hat’s off to you.
I honor what you’re doing.
Tonight, deeply blessed me.
You will be a man worthy of a woman’s wait.
God bless you!! 🤗