Sometimes we wear our sunglasses inside 😎 || Looking at this image, you see a two year old being silly. What you’re not seeing is a mom who is picking her battles and if her two year old wants to wear sunglasses during lunch indoors, that’s a battle I’m willing to not have. Because A is learning about having a voice and her own mind. Having a two year old is as challenging as it is fun. I am no longer calling it the “terrible twos.” It wasn’t a healthy thing for me mentally and it wasn’t a positive thing for A either. Instead I’m focusing on this stage as the “boundaries phase.” I have shifted my mentality from thinking A was purposefully being defiant to understanding that two year olds are simply impulsive and their emotions rule them - NOT logic. Two year olds aren’t capable of being malicious. They are impulsive and because of that you need to give them more time to process their thoughts. We just got over some of the most challenging weeks trying to stay sane with a two year old. Everything was “no” followed by kicking, screaming, crying, and more screaming. It was exhausting and I felt helpless and defeated. I knew I had no control over A’s behavior, but I did have control over my own. I did a ton of reading on toddler behaviors and learned a simple trick- just acknowledge what they are feeling to show you understand. Then PAUSE. Repeat if needed. Then set your boundary and give a choice if that makes sense. More on this in our latest blog post including how I executed this strategy IRL 👉🏼 #linkinbio 🆕
Christmas Cheer 🎅🏼|| Who’s this big girl? I’ve been running all around town this week trying to lock down a decision for pre-school 3s next year. They all seem great which makes it so hard to choose one. I started this search back in June and I still can’t decide 🙇🏻♀️ Parents who’s kids go to a #Montessori school - how did you or plan to transition your kids to “regular”school when they graduate? Did you have a hard time having your kids go 5 days a week? #somanyquestions
Time to get this holiday season started 🌲❄️ || This also means cold season for us. I’ve been a bit MIA the last week or so fighting cold after cold. But now we are slowly getting back into the swing of things - just in time to ring in the Holidays💙
F R E E 🕊 || And it was GLORIOUS. All 12 hours of my “me time.” The weather was Sunny and a perfect 84 degrees with low humidity. For those hours, I got to focus on self care. I relaxed and lounged to my hearts content. In contrast, to my days at home, there was always a million things to do that self care was just a future New Years resolution. I’m constantly worrying about what meals to make, what errands to run, what snacks to feed, what we needed fixing around the house...that I never had time to unwind till A went to sleep at the end of the night. Which means I only got an hour and a half - 2 hrs to “relax” (aka uninterrupted time to do what I didn’t get to do during the day). Anyway, this getaway is now just a distant memory and #tbt on my IG. But my main takeaway is to remind myself that it’s okay to take some “time off” - whether that means a physical getaway or just an afternoon. Disconnect, pamper yourself, or indulge on movies you’ve been meaning to catch up on. How do you practice self care and a balanced lifestyle?
Head in the clouds 💭|| How has it been a month already since our trip to #Barcelona ? Since getting back, we have been slowly getting used to the #terribletwos as our new normal. Which means, understanding how to manage and prevent tantrums. No one warned me it would be this challenging. I’ve heard stories here and there, but you never fully understand it till you’ve gone through it. Offer the wrong sweater? Tantrum. Offer the wrong snack? Tantrum. Have an errand to run, but your two year old has other plans in mind? Tantrum. You want your two year old to go in the stroller, but your two year old doesn’t? Tantrum. Thankfully, this week is off to a better start. The last few weeks have been all about giving A choices and trying our hardest to avoid the word “No” in our household (which is not easy). Two year olds are starting to become more independent and understanding they have a voice and opinion and can use it. So in the mornings, I’ll offer two out of options, breakfast- two options, everything is offered in the form of two options so that A can feel like she has more control over what she does in her day. It seems to help reduce the number of tantrums significantly. Any other parents have helpful tips that to get through the #terribletwos ?