BE PROUD OF YOURSELF ALONG THE JOURNEY. If you can’t appreciate and love yourself where you’re at and the way you are RIGHT NOW, guess what? You’re not going to be able to whenever you reach your goals.
Find love for the journey...
While you’re on the journey.
Don’t worry what people think of you or about the way they try to make you feel. If people want to see you as a good person, they will. They want to see you as a bad person, absolutely nothing you do will stop them. Ironically, the more you try to show them your good intentions, The more reason you give them to knock you down if they are committed to misunderstanding you. Keep your head high and be confident in what you do. Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead instead of wasting your time of those who want to drag you back. The way ahead of you may be heavy but the regret of going back behind you will be far heavier. You can’t change people’s views, you can only change your own. You have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not anyone else.
Surround yourself with women who make you happy, who respect you, who can be themselves around you, and who don’t make you question yourself. The kind of people who don’t make you lower your standards, who look you in the eye, who speak to you from your heart, who know nothing about you but respect everything you stand for. The kind of people who genuinely care, who bring light and not clouds, who make you feel worthy and empowered. They are the ones worth bringing into, and keeping in, your life. Everyone else? They’re just passing through.
I have such a hard time trusting people. I siphon off my heart all too often because of a few bad storms and honestly, it hurts. It’s disappointing. It’s easy to recluse out of fear and to live in angst of something similar happening again. I often don’t face or confront the issue or event and internally digest it, to which it manifests itself later on. And I have a feeling... I’m not the only one who does it.
So today, I faced some things that have happened that I’ve put off, head on, confrontation and all. They are some things that riddle and rattle deep down within me, leaving me unsettled and distracted. And you know what? I’m not scared anymore. Fearful of what will happen or what they’ll think. I’m proud and at peace. What happened from here? Idk. I guess that’s what you have to find out next.
If you happen to deal with the same internal conflict and battle, here’s what I’ve found:
To all the people in your life who have not known your worth, who have been reckless with your heart or fallen painfully short of your expectations, sincerely wish them well, forgive yourself from holding onto it and preventing yourself from really living. Forgive them for their shortcomings (as well as your own), scoop up that huge beautiful life lesson and all the pieces of your heart, and sail on. You have mountains to move, dreams to dream, and a world to change, even if only the world is your own.
“Why’d we ever move away”. You ever find yourself questioning big life decisions? Have you ever realized that it’s probably a bad thing if you don’t? Change is risky. Change is intimidating. Change is hard. But that doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. We moved from Reno/Tahoe with one goal in mind: growth. For our business, our partnership, our own individual and spiritual growth. But we would never know what we were and are capable of without leaving our home base. And the best part? We can always come back 🙂
Can we just take a moment to talk about these two incredibly beautiful human beings that blessed my life with their presence and hearts this last week?! 😭 Lemme tell you about @jenndancing & @samdancing - they’re the people who are undeniably themselves. They’re the people who wear their hearts on their chest and who have passion in their tears. They fight everyday for what they believe in, they never let success get to their head, nor failure to their heart, nor do they ever let their spirits settle for less.
I have such a tremendous amount of respect for their strength to remain soft while they let their fire burn hard. These two people are the type of people I look up to and who remind me to look up. Find individuals and brands and organizations in life that ignite the fire within your own heart to be a light giver to the broken world around us all.
Jen & Sam are people that just purely love people. They see people’s hearts instead of their faces. They leave it all out there. And man. They’re one of a kind. And maybe even cooler, is that all the things that make them great, you can cultivate and harvest within your own self. You can be an inspiration. You can be the light bringer. You can be the leader of not only your life, but the lives of others. All you have to do is #bethelove . 🖤
I’m learning to live between effort and surrender. Balance isn’t something you just find, that just falls in your lap and you say, oh look, everything is perfect and great. No. #Balance is something you create. It’s understanding what you can control and what you cannot. It’s being okay with not being okay. Taking the time to understand that everything you say, eat, feel and do, requires balance. Only through this avenue can we grow.
#SelfDiscipline is cultivated through understanding your balance and when you stop trying to prove to the world around you who you are. Here you’ll begin to find the natural ordinaries of being simply human. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do. If you lose balance, you need to know when you’ve lost it.
Follow your heart, but don’t forget to take your brain with you. And stop going to war with yourself trying to find balance between the two. Have success stories and tales of failure.Stop blaming life and start owning your life. Strive to be the very best version of… you.
If the smile doesn’t say it, I don’t know what does. Overwhelmed with gratitude and humid AF but no other complaints in the world!
The biggest thing I realized during this trip has been that what you do in the shadows defines you. The work you’re willing to do when nobody is watching, the passion and desire to help others that’s in your heart, and the determination to spread positivity and empowerment to others as near and as far as possible, it’s all worth it. I’ve never felt so in the right place at the right time with the right people in my entire life.
This community has not only changed my life, but the lives of so many others. It’s dares to challenge people to constantly ask, “why not me?”. So I’d like to challenge YOU, to ask YOURSELF, the same question.
Why. Not. Me.
Whether it’s professional or personal, big or small, what do you want to do that you’re keeping yourself from doing? Remove the obstacles, put faith in front of fear, and do it. I’m serious. I believe in you. Believe in yourself, too!!
The most important decision about your goals is not what you’re willing to do to achieve them, but what you are willing to give up. Not everyone is going to understand and not everyone has to. And that’s okay. It’s so important to make your vision so clear in your head and your heart that your fears become irrelevant. When you chase the goal, you’re going to lose. You can’t have it all. But I’d rather sacrifice everything for a little while to have everything for a long while. And if it just looks like fun and sunshine and rainbows? You’re right. It is. It’s the best ride of my entire life. But what you can’t always see? The sacrifice. The tears. The moments of hopelessness. You don’t have to because I use those moments of darkness as a moment to light a fire. This week, seeing our athletes, our partners, our future opportunities, has been eye awakening to what lies ahead. It’s a beautiful think when a passion becomes a purpose. The @crossfitgames have been one of the best moments of my entire life. And it’s only just beginning. Go chase your dreams. Don’t let fear and adversity get in your way. You want to start something big? Do it. The only person who has to see the vision... is you. In your heart. In your soul. And let it radiate through every action, thought, and word that you have. Be the one who makes their dreams a reality. Make. Shit. Happen.
You’ve got two hands: one to help yourself and one to help others. Even if it feels like a single drop in the ocean, you CAN make a difference.
How have you reached out lately? What have you given without expecting anything back? When was the last time you offered out your hand instead of your judgement?
You can’t help everyone, but you certainly can help someone. And even if it’s just one person, your effort is worth it. You will be helped as you help others. Make time. Listen more. Offer a welcoming heart instead of harsh words. So when you get the chance to help someone, whether it be man, woman, child, kin, elderly, stranger, literally whoever and however, just do it.
You don’t need money to help someone.
You just need a heart.
📷 @francisfordfoto for @swlverine
Here’s to the people who try their hardest to be good enough for everyone, but try just a tiny bit more to be good enough for themselves. Here’s to the people who are willing to fight everyday for what they deserve instead of just demanding it. Here’s to the people who feel like they’re under constant storm clouds and who refuse to give up. You are the people that make this world a little more wonderful. You are incredible. You have so much potential and no matter how very far you think you have to go, there are people out there who admire you, who love you, and respect you, for just being... you. 🖤
Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light. Remember this - you are in charge of how you feel and today you should choose happiness. Are you making your happiness and personal growth a priority this week? Are you taking care of yourself? Are your feeding your body with nutritious food and making time to nourish your soul? Are you willing to put yourself in a trial-by-fire process to discover the real purpose and passions within your life?
If you want to be happy, you have to be happy on purpose. You always have a choice to be happy, to learn to understand instead of just endure, to wake up and actually decide what kind of day you’re going to have, not just ‘see what happens’. Sure, you could make the argument that happiness is just a feeling, but sometimes, you have to decide to feel it. Like opening the windows in a house to let some sunshine in.
Change can be hard. In fact, it takes no extra effort to settle for the same old thing or routine. Auto-pilot keeps us locked into the past while taking charge of the drivers seat allows us to live in the present while preparing for the future. Transforming your life takes courage, effort, and commitment. Have confidence in your decisions. Give it everything you’ve got. Choose happiness and live with purpose, goals, and vision. Invest your energy on not only creating, but living, a positive life. The world around you is a reflection of the world within you. Make it great!
You won’t find glory at the center of safety, but at its edge. You won’t find love at a place where you are covered, but in the space where you are exposed. You gotta take some risks. You have to not only pick up the dice, but roll ‘em. So go ahead, take the gamble. You have nothing to lose except the chance to win. Life is not long enough to spend it on the sidelines.
At my first competition, I wasn’t afraid of the workouts or the heat or my performance, I was terrified to wear shorts. I didn’t want to take my tank off. I was scared to show my body, the parts that I’m most self conscious about. It was hot as hell and I decided to anyways. If you know me, I’m comfortable at home. Shorts in public for me, is hard. I have a huge irrational insecurity about my legs. No before I continue further, this post isn’t a pity party or a poor me or fishing for compliments. It’s honest.
Truth be told, I was scared and I went out and tried my very best to not worry about what others thought of me or if they’d harshly judge my body. I wasn’t there to be perfect. I was there to try. To be strong. To sweat and scream and lift and just try to be better than I was yesterday.
My teammate told me the night before “who cares what they think - they’ll find something to judge anyways” and suddenly I realized, who cares, and most of all, why the hell do I care so much? Why do We hate our bodies so much? We keep ourselves from so many things in life out of fear and I’m learning each day that I don’t want fear to dictate my actions any longer. Fear isn’t going to keep me from loving my body, accepting my body, or anything else. And I don’t know if anyone else out there feels this way, but I’m so sick of hating my body and treating it so poorly.
And you know what else? I don’t think fear should keep you from loving yours either. And while I’m on this note - just because you have cellulite or dimples doesn’t mean you’re fat or unhealthy. Every body is different and unique and beautiful in its own ways. Yeah, maybe someday I won’t have cellulite, but if I don’t? I’m good with it. It doesn’t define me. It shouldn’t define you.