Look another selfie on your feed!
I just liked my face this morning and wanted to share a positive realization I had-
Even though my mop is frizzy (cause I'm really not that good at doing my own and wash-day is tonight), wrinkles and blemishes, and limited makeup skills... Ive never felt so comfortable with myself. Age? Healthy, loving relationship with not only Tony but myself? I dunno but its a pretty cool feeling. 😊
Someone wanna teach me how to hair? That'd be pretty cool too.
Incoming rant emo post
Most of the time, I receive support and encouraging or flattering words from people. But I have heard and still hear:
-Ew that's too much
-I don't want to look like you (innocently, but still said to my face)
-I liked your body better before -Youre manly
-I dont sleep with dudes -Making assumptions as to if I'm running cycles or not
Strangers in passing, friends, and even from former significant others and family. And from fellow gym goers. Like I did tonight. *oh eck!*
I've worked pretty hard for what I've done. It's not for everyone. I dont give a shit if you like it. I'm not doing this for everyone, I'm doing it for me. Mentally and physically. Im sorry your insecurities make you feel a certain way when you're around me, or I challenge the idea of what you think a woman should look like. I look like Alena. Dont put me in a category. I dont want to be there. -----
Come with me. I love making friends, our genetics are different and I train/eat to look the way I do - you wont look like me unless you want to and bust your ass for 4 years straight. Even then our bodies are wonderfully different. And I'm not even that impressive!
I dunno. My feelings are a little hurt. But it also motivates me. I feel good, I look good, and I got a man that thinks I'm pretty damn sexy. you dont have to praise everyone all the time, but putting them down doesn't do anything productive either. Challenge the norm, let people do their own things in peace, and dont be scared of women that aren't following social rules ;)