⚡️The re-charge game⚡️
I’m such an introvert at heart 💜 Re-charging for me means quiet time at home.
It’s definitely a little challenging with two babies under two. However, that’s what nap time is for 😂
How do you re-charge? 🔋
👋 Are you listening??👋
As a married couple we are constantly learning how to communicate better. We used to find ourselves coming back to something we had said earlier and we both got VERY different messages 🤷🏻♀️
I know we can’t be the only ones. A lot comes back to how present we were in the conversation. I wanted to share some of the key pointers that have made the biggest difference. #4 is my STRUGGLE.
10 ways to have a better conversation:
1️⃣Don't multitask. Be present. Don't think about what you're going to have for dinner.
2️⃣Don't pontificate. If you want to state your opinion without any opportunity for response or argument or pushback or growth, write a blog 😂
3️⃣Use open-ended questions. Start your questions with who, what, when, where, why or how. Try asking them things like, "What was that like?" "How did that feel?"
4️⃣Go with the flow. That means thoughts will come into your mind and you need to let them go out of your mind.
5️⃣If you don't know, say that you don't know.
6️⃣Don't equate your experience with theirs. If they're talking about the trouble they're having at work, don't tell them about how much you hate your job. It's not the same. It is never the same. All experiences are individual. And, more importantly, it is not about you.
7️⃣Try not to repeat yourself. It can come across as condescending and we tend to do it a lot. Don't do that.
8️⃣Stay out of the weeds. Frankly, people don't care about the years, the names, the dates, all those details that you're struggling to come up with in your mind. What they care about is you. They care about what you're like, what you have in common. So forget the details.
9️⃣Listen. As Calvin Coolidge said, "No man ever listened his way out of a job."
🔟Be brief. A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.
Double tap if you will implement one of these tips 💖
💰 Let’s talk business 💰
Only 30% of women bother to negotiate their salaries. While 46% of men negotiate. 🤔
Companies set aside money with the expectation that employees will ask for better compensation packages yet but due to the low number of negotiation it adds up to almost $2 million in lost revenue over a lifetime for the average woman seeking to climb the leadership ladder 🏔
From personal experience, as I continue to work with women leaders, the battle between the need to be viewed as a hard worker who is ambitious and trustworthy vs. greedy and selfish are the two factors that weigh into the decision to delay the conversation and focus on the gratification that “one day,” someone is going to walk up to their office and make them an offer. There is an overwhelming feeling that we will be punished for asking, so we simply do not.
I’ll be going live this Sunday in my free online community with my personal story (how I’ve negotiated my salary over the years), tips and key strategies to help you gain the confidence to tackle negotiation.
You really won’t want to miss this!
To join, click the link in my bio 💕
🤔 What do you tell yourself daily? 🤔 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Self affirmations were something so foreign to me. Like you want me to talk to myself? Specific phrases? And repeat it throughout the day? 😂 I totally didn’t get it. .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
A dear friend of mine quickly reminded me. If you are not intentionally doing affirmations. What do you normally tell yourself? 🤯 I started being more aware of my thoughts and I was definitely not being kind to myself (without realIzing). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Whether you know it or not, you are always using affirmations…but usually not ones that will bring you what you want.
These are things like:
* “Everything I eat goes straight to my hips.”
* “I never catch a break.”
* “No matter what I do, I never seem to get ahead.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Sound familiar? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So now that we are aware it, how do we make the shift? If you don’t know where to start, I’m doing a mini 5 day challenge in my free online community starting Friday. I really don’t want you to miss out so go check out my link in the bio to join us 💖
📚 The more powerful stories are not the ones we read. But the ones we tell ourselves. 📚
🌟 The inner transformation 🌟
I look at this picture and the girl on the left tugs at my heart 💜 So uncomfortable in my own skin. I remember back then my biggest desire was to be able to wear a pencil skirt. It sounds silly but that’s all I wanted. I found myself in meaningless relationships because I just wanted some form of validation.
When I decided to make the commitment to change my lifestyle. SO MANY aspects of my life changed. I had to drop more than weight. I had to drop mental baggage that was holding me down 💼
I’m excited to continue on the journey of self love & showing up as my best self every day.
If this sounds like you or something you want. Join my free online community 💕 I would love to lock arms with you 👯♀️
🕵🏻♀️Impostor Syndrome aka Fraud Syndrome🕵🏻♀️
Let’s start with: What is it? Better yet, why do we care? 🤷🏻♀️ Impostor Syndrome is actually a psychological pattern in which a person doubts their accomplishments with the underlying fear that they are a fraud.
Sounds a little extreme right? 🧐 You’d be surprised how often we trap ourselves in this mentality despite external evidence of competence.
Individuals with impostorism incorrectly attribute their success to luck ☘️ or as a direct result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent than they themselves perceive to be.
As a leader in a technical role, it’s very common to be looked at for the right answer. It took me a long time to differentiate that what makes me good leader is not always knowing the answer but guiding my team to the right solution.
I’ll be diving more into this topic this week.
⭐️Join our discussion at a deeper level in our online community (link in bio). ⭐️
For now, have you battled with this⁉️
Comment below ⬇️
💖The fear of never being enough💖
As parents we tend to be so hard on ourselves. We question everything we do. Is this what’s best for our kids longterm? Am I working too much? Will they know how much I love them?
The list goes on and on…
My mom and I had a conversation when I first had Emma that I always think back on. She asked me “Do you think I was an absent parent?” and I immediately responded “Omg, no way! Only the best memories”. She quickly then reminded me that she has always been a working mom and that it’s not about the quantity of time but the quality.
Moments like this one where we are both in pjs, cuddling and watching a movie are our little memories. Sometimes it’s good to have a reminder that:
Everything we do is for THEM 💕
No need to go through this mom journey alone. I truly believe having a judge free community is so important. Click the link in my bio if you want to lock arms with us.
💁🏻♀️How to get Sh*t done💁🏻♀️
⭐️ Measure productivity in results, not hours.
⭐️ Rank your goals.
⭐️ Break it down if you can
⭐️ Plan downtime for reflection.
⭐️ Minimize daily choices. For example, keep your meals simple.
⭐️ Don't take it home. Life is not a game you win by being the most productive and working the longest hours.
Double tap if you will incorporate any of these to your day to day 💕
📝The To-do list dilemma📝
If you are like me, your to-do list is a mile long. I am the type of person that has to stay organized for my own mental health. I don’t see the point in getting stressed out if I can avoid it.
However, wether you have a list or not. How are you doing in regards to taking care of you? Are you stopping to think about how you are feeling?
I used to underestimate how much I needed to get my health under control. I was busy just focusing on my next task that I realized I wasn’t taking care of ME.
I’m so passionate about helping women take their career to the next level but not at the expense of their health. Who is in your corner reminding you to eat a healthy breakfast or even eat breakfast?
I understand your struggles. I live them. I’m opening up my coaching to just a few women in November. Click on the link and fill out the “online coaching” form. Let’s talk about your current day to day and how to achieve your goals.
😱Fear of change😱
Change is scary. It takes us out of our comfort zone.
Change challenges us to try new things, to think about new ideas, to do things in a new way, and to be a new person. When we’ve been doing something one way for so long, we will find it extremely hard to do it in another way, even if the new way is better.
Change is not attractive, it is not comfortable; it does not greet us with a big sunny smile when it arrives 🤷🏻♀️
But when we refuse to accept change over comfort, we forfeit our freedom. Acknowledging that is life changing 💕
🌟 Show up as your best self 🌟
You know you are capable of great things. You know that under the right circumstances you could go far. You believe in yourself and what you can accomplish.
It’s time to stretch yourself; to grow and allow yourself to develop. Think of this as a journey of self-discovery 💖
Here are five powerful tips to get you on the road to becoming the person you were meant to be.
1️⃣Try new things: Fear of change is your enemy. Kick things up a notch by regularly trying something new and unexpected.
2️⃣Pursue your dreams: What is your ultimate dream; the thing you want more than anything? What is your true calling in life? These are some of the important questions to ask yourself in order to unlock who you are meant to be.
3️⃣Sustain your motivation: Write down your goals and post them where you will see them every day, so you are constantly reminded of your purpose.
4️⃣Hone in on good habits: The goal is to make incremental changes to your lifestyle that eventually become a way of life.
5️⃣Focus on self care: If you want to operate at peak performance, you must incorporate self care into your daily routine.
What are you currently doing to pursue your dreams? Let me know in the comments ⬇️⬇️
➡️➡️This is your sign⬅️⬅️
Tomorrow is Monday. This is your opportunity to make a decision to start that project you’ve been thinking about. To conquer the habit you are trying to break. Or perhaps the health journey your body so desperately craves.
Step 1: decide 🙋🏻♀️
Now what’s next?
Step 2: Create your plan. This is where people get hung up. You don’t need a perfect plan to start. You’ll improve this over time.
Here are a few questions that can help you get started.
⭐️ What’s a realistic timeline?
⭐️ Will I need someone to keep me accountable?
⭐️ What are the key things I can prepare that will get rid of those roadblocks?
⭐️ What are my true roadblocks versus my excuses?
I would love to know what you’ll be tackling this week. Send me a message 📨
✨ Don’t undermine your worth and what you can bring to this world ✨
There was this moment today when I was writing down my goals that I realized 99% of them scared the HECK out of me.
But that’s what made them even more worth chasing 👀 I had to remind myself “5 second rule” and stop any thoughts that said “Are you sure?”
I’m absolutely sure! I can say with confidence that I’m at inflection point in my life 💖 It’s exciting, scary and the perfect time ☺️
What are some of your goals that have given you butterflies in your stomach? ⬇️
Everything might not always go according to plan 📌 Today was one of those days. We bought tickets to go see Disney Junior Tour and I thought due to a stomach bug, Emma was going to miss it.
Here we are, on our way there. Wish us luck that we are good 🤞🏼💕
But I realized my first reaction was getting stressed about a change of plans. It was up to me to adjust those thoughts 💭
There is so much outside our control that it doesn’t make sense for it to affect us. Easier said than done, of course. But first step is to make the conscious decision to shift your mindset.
I found meditation helps me A LOT. Do you meditate? If so, for how long normally?
✨ I REFUSE TO ALLOW ANYTHING LESS THAN THE LIFE I DESERVE ✨
I want to teach my kids not to accept anything less than what they dream of having. I want to teach them its OK to fail, in fact you have to fail. It has to be uncomfortable, it has to be painful but the rewards are LIMITLESS.
There appears to be 4 types of people in the world:
⭐️ The one who doesn’t DREAM
⭐️ The one who DREAMS about it but is AFRAID to pursue it.
⭐️ The one who DREAMS, takes ACTION, but they QUIT.
⭐️ The DREAMER, who takes ACTION…UNTIL. Failure is a tool but not a permanent roadblock.
There is no success without failure. Nothing will truly reach its potential unless you are constantly improving it. Every area of your life should look the way you want it to look. How powerful is that outcome is in your hands? Nobody else’s. This could be scary but think about it being empowering. Nobody can take it away from you.
Are you holding back or are you pursuing your dreams? 💕