What if everything that was happening to you was actually happening for you? How would that change they way that you move through your day? How would that change how you treated those who appear to stand in your way? What if you looked at your life from a birds eye view. And you saw how everyone else is just like you?
“Our perceptions of ourselves aren’t really reality.”
I’ve been really hard on myself lately... I’ve fallen into this rut where I haven’t worked out like I should, I haven’t eaten as clean as I should, and I constantly feel like my hair looks like crap because I’m 2 weeks overdue for a cut and color. But today... I got 4 compliments.... On. My. Hair. My hair... the hair I’ve been complaining about... the hair I think looks ridiculous right now... the hair that needs a cut and color (in my opinion.) And I’m wearing a shirt I ordered online, was super nervous about the fit, put it on and realized I could’ve gone down a size. .
Don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up over the little things. Love yourself just the way you are, flaws and all 💜 #SelfLove#PositiveVibesOnly#YouArePerfectTheWayYouAre#YouDoYou#RealityOverPerception#NoFilterJustMe
Your first wounds and your deepest triggers will become your greatest teachers. When you can face them with no need to control, that’s how you know you are not who you were before. The first stage of leaving the ego behind is to release all that forged your mind.
“I honor all the ways that the world works that I don’t see. And there are many. I honor all the things that my body does behind the scenes. And there are many. I am a being of infinite potential.” And I surrender to the flow completely.
Sometimes I go a few a days without looking in the mirror. Sometimes I look and I don't like what I see. Today and the last few days I've been working on positive self talk!! Be kind to yourself and comfortable with you are! There's only one of you!! ❤❤ #loveyourself#youareperfectthewayyouare#Goddoesntmakemistakes
I have spent so many countless hours, days, precious moments... trying to be what I THOUGHT other people wanted me to be.
The truth is, IM LOUD, I SWEAR, I dance in public, I love a bit of car karaoke at all times, I’m superrrr inappropriate at usually all the wrong times.
I LOVE TO LAUGH, I love to make people laugh even if it’s at my own expense.
I love to make people happy, and I love being around other people, IM CLINGY AF, if we are friends we aren’t just friends we are like totally best friends forever and I’m going to call u everyday and call your family my own too. But this means I am also down for you at anytime of any day, you need something I got you.
I have high expectations of myself and others, I rarely wear makeup and usually don’t have great outfit coordination, my shoes are usually dirty, my hair in a bun I could go one but you get the point #ImperfectIsPerfect .
But all that said, I AM ME, and ain’t nobody else out there just like me, THAT is my SUPERPOWER. .
So whilst I may not be your cup of tea, I am OK with that, I don’t like tea either and some people prefer something a little wilder... for those people 🙋🏽♀️ hey, I’m Alless. .
There is nowhere else I would rather be. No one else I would want to see. I have happily arrived to this moment in time. Free from all my yesterdays and dreams of tomorrow. Free to experience all my joys and sorrows. *
In other news I have fallen in love with yet another flower this lil watercolored beauty is a Frangipani 🌸 #earthart
First, huge shout out to my amazing hair dresser Amy Lynne Hazen (recently mentioned in Boston Voyager, link below) for my much needed haircut and color. :
Despite coming off a sleepless red eye and going o’natural I wanted to post this picture. I’ve been talking with a lot of people, women in particular about the negative impact social media has on them and their self esteem. They say they always see beautifully made up, thin women who look perfect and like they have their shit together and it makes them feel like shit. I’m here to say that’s BS. :
Are there beautiful men and women out there? Of course, but guess what they don’t always look that way. :
Are there happy, confident people out there, of course, but there are also a shitload of people that are insecure and fearful.
The point is please don’t let the images you see on social media make you feel bad about yourself. You are amazing!!! Don’t believe me? Post below and I’ll tell you why I know you’re amazing. :
Own it, all of it, the wrinkles, the fears and everything else. :
We are all players in this divine comedy.
A sacred space where you can choose who you want to be.
If you know who you are you can live till infinity.
When you remember how to play you have mastered alchemy.
I’m not fixing it.
She came down this morning so excited for school she got dressed, brushed her teeth and did her hair.
H- Mommy do you love my hair
Me- yes baby you are beautiful
H- thank mommy I think so too
And why would I
Why fix it
Every time before I have fixed her hair a piece of her heart breaks and I can see her becoming deflated.
This goes against the exact person I dream of her being
I used to care about what others thought. That my parenting was judged by others by how cute and put together my kids were with the “right” clothes and “perfect” hair
No more. I am learning other people’s judgements have nothing to do with me and everything to do with them.
So next time you see my kids out rocking their own version perfect and beautiful I encourage you to smile and say to yourself ~wow those are some awesome independent kids
instead of the “usual” look and response “wow can you believe she let her kids out like that?!” #bebold#bestrong#beyou#freeandwild#lookinwardnotoutward#castlove#notjudgement
Now this is a story all about how my life got flipped, turned upside down. ⠀
⠀I kid, I kid, 😂 but in all seriousness I’d like to tell you about the me from a year ago. She struggled. Struggled financially, struggled having time for her kids and husband. And having time for self care or friendships?! Forget it! Like most moms she put everyone’s needs above her own. But she was tired, lacked self confidence, and felt unfulfilled. Maybe one day there would be time for her. But that time seemed very distant. ⠀
Then I was introduced to #SeneGence . I started the way most people did; fell in love with #LipSense and signed up to get a discount. I had NO IDEA at the time that this would be the beginning of my new business and a new life for my family! ⠀
Within a few months I had surpassed my income from my previous job; Plus making enough to pay for all of my own makeup and skincare products. I was soon able to pay off credit card debt and afford splurge restaurant meals and vacations for my family. I met so many women JUST LIKE ME who were building their own businesses and taking control of their family’s futures, and we became not only friends, but each other’s support systems. By pursuing my own dreams and goals, I’ve been able to provide for my family and help so many other women do the same. I would not be the person I am today if I had let my fears and doubts stop me from believing in myself and taking a chance on ME. ⠀
This month SeneGence is gifting FREE memberships to women who want the opportunity to start their own business or get their beauty products at a discount! If you’ve been thinking about building a career from home, being your own boss, earning extra income, gaining friendships and self confidence, then there is nothing to lose! Take a chance on yourself and you’ll be amazed where you end up a year from now. Sign up through the link in my bio and use my sponsor ID 460598. I can’t wait to meet you and help you make the most of this business!
Xoxo, Jess 💋
Take a moment to stop and think about three activities that make you abundantly happy. For me these three are painting, dancing, and connecting with nature. Ask yourself how often do you do these activities? How often do you prioritize your own happiness? Ideally you would be doing one of these activities everyday.
Now, I want to challenge you to observe yourself. When do you feel happy? When you do notice yourself being happy observe: what you are doing, who are you with, where you are, and what happiness feels like in your body. Make a mental note or take a mental picture.
Simply through being aware of what makes us happy and how happiness feels we give ourselves the space to not only experience it fully but to call in more. When you pay more attention to your joys you are training your subconscious to live a more joyful life. You are rewriting your story. You get to choose how you experience this life. I hope you choose happiness whenever you can. ❤️
I made this to remind how beautiful , gorgeous you are . Never forget that you are perfect the way you are , and that will never change . Some of you may look in the mirror and tell , hell , my eyebrows are sooo thin , I have so many pores , my nose is enormous , my lips are tinier than an ant , my boobs are small , I have absolutely no waist , my butt is flat , my thighs are thick , my legs are short , I’m fat like a pig , I’m thin like a stick , you are perfect the way you are no matter what , don’t let anything upset you . Because your family , your friends , Me and Sig love you , but first you have to love yourself , only thing you have to do is smile 💓💖💓 #youareperfectthewayyouare#iloveyou#perfect#gorgeous#pretty#amazing