Raise your hand if you’ve suffered from negative self talk 🙋🏻♀️
It’s been a slow process, but I’ve been able the last few years to get better at it. .
Would you say what you’re thinking about yourself to a friend? If no, then why are you saying it about yourself? .
Reframe! My therapist repeated this so many times it finally stuck. How can you restate the negative thought in a neutral /positive way THAT YOUR BELIEVE 👉🏼key!
If you look in the mirror and think “I’m so fat” you can’t reframe that to “I look so skinny.” We both know deep down you don’t believe that. What can you say that’s less harsh, and you believe? .
Slowly as you continue to reframe, it becomes habit, and your thoughts turn from negative to neutral/positive. .
Everybody has them.
They exhibit themselves in fear, frustration, inhibition, exaggeration, shyness, jealousy, aggression, and several other manifestations.
This very thing is one of the reasons I wanted to become a Life Coach.
I struggle with insecurity.
It can stem from unrealistic or innacurate viewpoints about yourself or others.
Also childhood experiences.
Current situations can aid this as well.
Or a plethora of all of them.
Often times people who are drastic or extreme have a root of insecurities (the guy with the over-the-top truck, or the bodybuilder at the gym, the girl that sabotages every relationship.) Insecurity and self-worth are twin sisters. Often insecure people can make make poor choices when it comes to themselves.
Some strains of insecurity can drive those around them crazy- jealousy and aggression being main culprits.
My insecurity exhibits itself in fear.
How do we conquer insecurity.
1- Remove toxicity from your life. It's SUPER hard to do, but vital. Remove it today.
This might be your current relationship, friendships, what you watch on T.V and the music you listen to etc.
2- Surround yourself with healthy things.
For me this is an incredible husband, an amazing church, a strong group of successful friends and family, avenues to give back, gym membership, following successful coaches, teachers, and professionals on social media, good music, awesome podcasts etc.
3- Find the reason you are on this earth. You are not an accident. What are you supposed to do while here?
4- Do the thing you fear or hate to do.
5- Release the past. It no longer needs to have a good on you. Let. It. Go.
This is not going to fix you overnight. It is a constant job.
Know you are SO special. There is only one you. Truly I mean that. You are needed. Someone you haven't met is relying on you to succeed.
This is all too common. Don’t settle. No one who deserves you will ever make you wonder why they are treating you so poorly. It has nothing to do with you and is a total self reflection of what is going on inside of them. Know your self worth and add some tax! You’re better than that 🖤 #happyfriday
Finally got to enjoy Chris Porter on stage and meeting him after the show was fantastic. My friends and family have been quoting him since his first special, “Ugly and Angry.” Side note, it’s now on Hulu. Netflix removed it but it’s still around! He did a great job of keeping us engaged and went beyond his allotted time. Such a great experience!
I’m too busy/ I got a lot going on/ I’m a single parent etc... doesn’t fly with me at all!!!... communication is key my friends don’t hold your life up for anyone who’s into games you’re better than that! (No this ain’t about me for you deep folks I’m single) I’m just encouraging someone out there who needs to hear this you’re worth so much more!!! #neversettle#excuses#worth#priority#option
This year has been filled with self care and self love
I’ve really overcome the concept of just because I eat healthy or unhealthy training excessively is not the answer •
I’ve realised that food is not the enemy but is fuel for our bodies •
I know that training isn’t the only way to have some me time, because it never helped me deal with my negative thoughts about my body, just pushed them deeper as I trained harder
Now I am so grateful for this year and to have learnt what I now know to share my journey again and again to help one person at a time •
I share this truth with you, because we must work on our body’s and minds every single day •
I’m just a girl that hasn’t trained for at that time 6/7 months and for the first time in her life, realised and was shown that nutrition plays more of a role that lifting weights, shown that when you eat you don’t need to smash another gym session in, shown that from feeding yourself right amazing things happen, with confidence, being healthy, feeling fresh, feeling happy and comfortable in my own body and learning my escape was to work harder on my mindset and looking after myself for the first time this year
For the first time in possibly in my life I know my worth, my value, my purpose and that I can allow my inquire self to shine 💫
Being brave to inspire you 💕
Do you ever feel like you are looking for external validation to know that people see you? Appreciate you? And love you?
It seems ridiculous right?
Almost egotistical... And this can be conflicting because it’s going against what you know.
You KNOW that external validation isn’t the missing puzzle piece that you’re looking for.
Yet you can’t seem to understand why you need it... Well I want to tell you something.
And it’s simple.
You look for external validation because you just need to know that it’s true.
Because you know your worth.
You know you’re valuable.
You know there is SO much more to you because you can feel it... You just need to know that it’s true.
And that’s ok.
Because you’ve been told and proven otherwise in the past. By people who don’t see and appreciate you for you.
You are special.
There are people that do care about you and what you’re doing... And there are lots of people who take notice of you.
So make sure that you hold these people close.
It’s ok to want to be loved. ♥️
Our business group, Women Of Worth (W.O.W 💜) @worth_co recently partnered with top Real Estate Agents in order to raise money for the “Extend a Hand Charity!!” We created a holiday gift basket that was auctioned off for donations. We were grateful for this opportunity to be able to contribute to our community! This was also a great platform to promote our business, as we are looking to help as many people as we possibly can! #WOW#WORTH#givingback#community#dallas#texas#womenmakingwaves#partnerships
Be gentle with yourself today-You’re doing the best you can with the information and tools you currently have. 🖤
Absolutely there’s still growth possible, and committing to that growth is a huge part of taking authority for your own life and future. 🌱
But each step of the way, give yourself grace that will enable you to take the next step, and the step after that-you’re doing the best you can with the information and tools you currently have. Have enough trust in yourself that once you know better, you’ll do better. 🚶🏻♀️
Progress, not perfection, my friends. -
Extending grace to myself and all of you today 🖤
...and so I know my worth and you need to know urs as well so that situations around u won't make it look as if u don't have any value. .
If I were to be listening to any song with my funky speakers it will be "How Far I'll Go" I'm in love with the wordings of that song. .
The right song for the right time.
Blood - Sweat - Respect
Today I was reminded of this. I am beautiful. And so are you.
It can be so easy for us to admire the beauty of the world around us, but we forget to realise that we are apart of that beauty too.
I really needed this reminder today and I know I wouldn’t be the only one. Some days we look at ourselves and believe that there’s some beauty to us. Then there are days where we pick at our faults, compare ourselves to other people and eventually come to the conclusion that maybe there isn’t anything beautiful about us.
But I was reminded today that God made me the way I am for a reason. He gave me my hair and He chose for me to have the eyes that I do.
He created me to think the way I do and to feel things the way that I do.
My personality was designed specifically by God, for me.
And when He made me, He was proud of what He had created. And the same goes for when He created you.
Your beauty and worth isn’t defined by the opinions of others. It isn’t defined by your outward appearance and whether or not it fits the standard of “beautiful” that society has set. It isn’t defined by your grades or your status or the amounts of likes you do or don’t get on that photo.
Your worth comes from the one who created you just as you are. He made you the way you are and while we may constantly pick at all our faults and wish we were more like someone else in some way, He thinks you’re beautiful and says you’re worthy just the way you are.
The next time you stare at your reflection in the mirror, remind yourself that God thinks you’re incredible. So you should think so too 💛