I am a strong woman, made of soft and wild things.
This is how I am, how I should be, how I stand now raw and revealed. Finally, comfortable in my soft and my wild.
For so long, for too long I stood only proud in my strength. Shying away from my soft and way to afraid to show my wild.
Why are we as women so conditioned to be this way? To be constantly tortured in a world that needs us to be strong and wild and soft but only allows us to be one or the other, often so torn by trying to separate and choose that we end up being neither.
We need to realize that it is often our softness that yields strength beyond our comprehension, our wild that allows us to be tenacious and tender, and our strength that allows us to run with the wildest of them.
We need to start stepping into our divine power, completely. We can be everything we need to be, everything we want, all at once,
and that is our power.
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SF Wild Woman Series // The beauty of integration...that we don't have to split ourselves between wild nature and our "goodness" or loyalty. The Wild Woman Series in San Francisco is an opportunity for self-identified wild women to gather and deep dive into the wild woman archetype. The next course begins Wednesday, October 4 in SF and focuses on major themes (i.e. creativity, sexuality, sovereignty, etc.) from Clarissa Pinkola Estés' "Women Who Run with the Wolves." Each week will explore a different myth from an archetypal, depth-psychology perspective grounded in somatic exploration. Details: *Wednesdays 7:30-9pm
*Six-week series from October 4-November 8
*Flood Building: Wild Woman Therapy (870 Market St, Suite 919)
All self-identified women welcome! Link in bio for more info. #wildwoman#wolves#wildwomanseries#womenempowerment#wildwomansociety repost @indijam And @r.h.sin
WILD WOMAN SOCIETY (SIX-WEEK SERIES IN SAN FRANCISCO AND EAST BAY) // The Wild Woman Society is a group for modern-day wild women to explore and work with edges around vulnerability with ourselves and the world. The weekly gathering focuses on major themes (i.e. creativity, sexuality, sovereignty, etc.) from Clarissa Pinkola Estes' Women Who Run with the Wolves. We (working with @danamarienielsen And myself) will explore the myths from an archetypal, depth-psychology perspective grounded in somatic exploration.
Across cultures, women have been gathering in circles for thousands of years. Beautiful things can happen personally and collectively when we are able to express our unique and collective struggles, gifts, passions and pains in a nourishing environment. This six-week group is a brave, supportive and embodied space for diverse women to connect, heal and be witnessed in their wildness, together.
Participants will experience: *Practical ways to develop your intuition and embodied knowing
*Initiating ourselves more into our inner wild woman
*Access a deeper level of understanding and knowledge of the wild woman archetype in mythology *Feeling empowered and connected in a community of women
*Connecting to our own unique expression of the wild woman archetype
All self-identified women welcome! We encourage diversity and do our best to approach the topics from an intersectional lens. CLICK ON LINK IN BIO FOR MORE INFO #wildwoman#wildwomen#wildwomansociety#womenwhorunwiththewolves
Me sexing it up in an attempt to make my eBay sales go a little faster and with a bit more fun!!! I e spent the last two days listing so much goodness on my shop. Have a peek if you fancy a bargain. I've got dresses, sportswear, jewellery, shoes X showgirl outfits and so much more. Link in my bio 🐰🐣💕💜
An excerpt from 100 stories worth telling. www.nikkigroom.com
Honoured to be featured. 😊😍⭐️⭐️ 100StoriesWorthTelling #38 : Star Monroe,
Beyond Fake “My parents were controlling, and my identity for a long time was that of the “good girl.” That was, before I discovered boys, booze, and sex. Mix this with bulimia and a hatred for my own body and you have one messed-up teenager. Later, I found myself searching for love (although I didn’t know it at the time) and would bed man after man just to fill the void inside. I even entered into a 10-year marriage with a man I didn’t love as part of this quest. Not surprisingly, it ended badly… on my 30th birthday.
After that, I went on a rampage again. Abandoned, hurt, and rejected, I dove back into booze, men, and (this time) drugs. During this heady time I opened up my fourth and fifth businesses, became phenomenally successful, spent all the profits on drugs, holidays to Vegas, and designer clothes. Fast forward 7 years and I was bankrupt, had a severe drug and alcohol addiction, and a trail of abusive and toxic relationships behind me.
I decided on July 1, 2008 that enough was enough. I stopped using cocaine and booze. And I became one of the UK’s top competitive figure athletes. I opened up another (successful) business teaching my life philosophy. I ran retreats, mentoring groups, and became an in-demand speaker. But something still didn’t feel right. Although my ego was being stroked, my soul was feeling left out. And I still felt unhappy. I wasn’t sure of who I was anymore.
Cue my life falling apart around my feet. I stopped and took stock. I ditched what wasn’t important to me. The busy businesses. The workaholic tendencies. The designer outfits. The unnecessary spending. The booze that had sneaked back in again. The toxic relationships. I simplified my life so I could get closer to the real me. I stopped being uber glamorous, returned to my roots, let my hair go wild, took off my fake nails, and began to think seriously about removing my 600cc breast implants. I slowed down, took up yoga, started walking my dogs in the woods every day. And I no longer worked every hour.... Read the rest www.nikkigroom.com
Spring has sprung. Upping my daily movement by incorporating as many mini walks as possible. Side note: I may be slightly obsessed about how many steps I can get in a day, but that's another topic for another day 😀👣👣👣👣👣👣👣👣
I'm in the midst of letting go of so much stuff. Clothes, furniture, old ways of being, funky ways of thinking.
Its humbling that I get the opportunity to do this.
It's also very liberating.
Because it is all paving the way back to me. 💕💜💜🌺🍭🌸🍒🍦⭐️💋
My first barometer of "acceptable" attractiveness was at 13 years old via Vogue's Beauty Bible.
The Beauty Bible told me to be "perfect" I need to have three gaps between my thighs when I stood upright legs together and I needed to balance a ruler on each hip bone (with space underneath) when lying down.
Three eating disorders later, crazy addictions to various substances, hours in therapy and years of hating on my body I'm finally walking out the other side.
Look I get it, Vogue was not the only thing that led me on the road to my own destruction but it was definitely one of the huge nails in the coffin.
At any age we are susceptible to outside forces but especially when we are young children/teens.
Be careful what you feed your eyes, body & soul.
Set an example by defining your own style and sense of beauty.
Surround yourself by others that do that same.
We are in this together.
And FUCK VOGUE.
Judge me all you want. But I love to snuggle down and watch episodes of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.
Yesterday I caught up with one of the latest episodes and the only woman I could really resonate with was Yolanda.
Yolanda used to be a high fashion model and for the past few years she has battled with Lymes Disease. I have been following her for the past couple of years and admire her bravery, courage and commitment to being true to herself.
On this latest episode in a sea of beautifully dressed, highly made up and manicured women, Yolanda sauntered on in just her flip flops, zero make up and hair pulled back in a pony tail.
I love the fact that Yolanda is being true to herself, is committed to looking after herself and removing as many toxins as possible from her life and her body.
In a world full of fakes it takes courage to be truly, deeply you.
Here's to YOU being YOU. 💕💜💕
The amount of pressure we load onto how our body looks is astronomical.
There is not a day goes past that I don't see at least 3 people either touting their lean tight toned body or telling me how they can help me do the same.
I was talking to one of my client's the other day about weaning her baby. She told me how confused she was with all the advice everyone else was giving her. I gently invited her to pause for a moment and asked her "what do you want to do?" She looked at me for a second and then proceeded to tell me exactly what she wanted to do. "Go do that" I said because what you want to do is more important than what everyone else wants you to do.
It's the same with our bodies. When we listen to everyone else and the noise that pervades social media we become confused, disillusioned and overwhelmed.
I get it, it is easy to let someone else tell you what to do, it really is. But when we let someone else dictate what they believe is right for our body we hand over control and personal responsibility.
We are the architects of our own design or destruction (you choose) and when we have the balls to side step all the noise this is the beginning of us journeying back into who we are are, what we really want and how we want to go about it and that my friend is power! Power for your own personal growth and change.
So a couple of questions for your body. And yes I meant for your body. Your body is wise beyond wise and holds all the answers for you.
Take some time, lets say 30 mins. Shut down social media, in fact it would be good to have a break from social media 12 hours before and 12 hours after this mini exercise.
Sit down with a pen and paper and ask YOUR body these questions.
How are you feeling right now?
What do you need right now?
If I was to change one thing, what would that thing be?
How do you want to feel on a daily basis?
How would you like me to move you?
Practice talking to your body, practice listening to your body and practice doing what your body wants to do.
From my body to yours.
We are in this together.
The road of self-hate is one that most of know vvvvvery well. It is uncomfortably comfort. It is easy, it is the path most travelled. It is where we revert to when the going gets tough.
The road of self-love is strange, it is the road less travelled, it is very uncomfortable, it is the unknown. And most of have no bloody clue how to walk this path let alone find it.
But when the day comes (and it will) when the realisation hits you - that you are no longer prepared to walk along the road of self-hate then I urge you to reach out, ask for help, seek support. Because I guarantee you switching between this two roads will be challenging with a capital C-H-A-L-L-E-N-G-I-N-G.
Look for women/men who have done the work on themselves, who have worked with people and those people say nice things about them.
Hold yourself as you would a small child in distress. Practice being kind, practice opening your heart and your mind to the unknown. And practice having faith in yourself that there is another way. Because there is.
Changing our patterns takes awareness first. Then a willingness to do the work and to forever continue doing the work for as long as we live.
I love you.
I'm holding you.
And I'm walking right alongside side you.
Transforming....transitioning. Always an icky sticky process. Walking away from your comfort zone and into the unknown takes courage, resilience and a truck load of kindness, compassion and support. Leaving behind what no longer serves me and embracing more of what does. It's a long old trek but I'm committed to the process and humbled by the unravelings.