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• hope •

Friends. Partners. Whoever that someone is.

It is super exhausting to have to continuously translate your spirit.

#speakmylanguage #spirit #hope #whathealsyou
• words •

Some silences are way too heavy to bear all on our own. Words can help carry some of the heaviness. They can help break the heavy-heavy silence surrounding the pain. Even if it is just writing it down on paper. Or sharing a few with a trusted friend.

Allowing words to carry some of my pain has been one of my greatest blessings.

#sayitoutloud #breakthesilence #youarenotalone #words #created #to #hold #silences #tooheavytocarry #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou #rangoli @mazadohta
• words • Some silences are way too heavy to bear all on our own. Words can help carry some of the heaviness. They can help break the heavy-heavy silence surrounding the pain. Even if it is just writing it down on paper. Or sharing a few with a trusted friend. Allowing words to carry some of my pain has been one of my greatest blessings. #sayitoutloud  #breakthesilence  #youarenotalone  #words  #created  #to  #hold  #silences  #tooheavytocarry  #wecandohardthings  #whathealsyou  #rangoli  @mazadohta
The difference a year makes. I understood for the first time last year why this time of year can be hard/difficult/awful for some people. So I’m very grateful to have my rainbow and my sunshine under the tree this year. (There is also another sunshine knocking around somewhere, but he’s camera shy ☺️). The point is to spare a thought for those people who find this time of year hard/painful and to count yourself lucky if you aren’t one of them. Happy Christmas ya’ll... I do love Christmas and I’m happy it’s a lot lighter this year, but it will always be bittersweet 🎄🎅🌈☀️☀️👼🏻 #firstchristmas #rainbowbaby #whathealsyou
The difference a year makes. I understood for the first time last year why this time of year can be hard/difficult/awful for some people. So I’m very grateful to have my rainbow and my sunshine under the tree this year. (There is also another sunshine knocking around somewhere, but he’s camera shy ☺️). The point is to spare a thought for those people who find this time of year hard/painful and to count yourself lucky if you aren’t one of them. Happy Christmas ya’ll... I do love Christmas and I’m happy it’s a lot lighter this year, but it will always be bittersweet 🎄🎅🌈☀️☀️👼🏻 #firstchristmas  #rainbowbaby  #whathealsyou 
• Take it easy on yourselves my loves.

#almosttheendoftheyear #takeiteasy #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou @butterfliesandpebbles
A few weeks ago Adrian's lovely mummy, Emma showed me a picture of this stunning Holly bracelet. I fell in love with it but wasn't able to get it delivered over here (American shop). Out of the kindest of her heart and the understanding of what it is like to be a bereaved parent, Emma bought it herself and sent it over here as a present. @adriancito_jp Thank you SO much. We have never met, we live thousands of miles apart but we have a special bond... Holly and Adrian 💗💗 #whathealsyou #heartofgold
A few weeks ago Adrian's lovely mummy, Emma showed me a picture of this stunning Holly bracelet. I fell in love with it but wasn't able to get it delivered over here (American shop). Out of the kindest of her heart and the understanding of what it is like to be a bereaved parent, Emma bought it herself and sent it over here as a present. @adriancito_jp Thank you SO much. We have never met, we live thousands of miles apart but we have a special bond... Holly and Adrian 💗💗 #whathealsyou  #heartofgold 
• strength •

You are stronger than you think. Remember that when the going gets tough.

#strength #overcoming #resilience #firstthepainthentherising #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou @justsayingirl
#AdventToRemember Day 12
This morning Teddy and I popped into the local library to leave a card and present for the three ladies who run Rhyme Time on a Friday. We’ve been going weekly since last November. Teddy and his cousin Araea really love it, and they’ve both grown and developed so much since we started. I wanted the ladies to know how important it is for our family. It’s definitely helping my heart begin to heal. It isn’t a special needs group but they include Teddy so well and always try to make sure he’s joining it, happy and safe from other little feet running around 💕✨👏🏻
#AdventForAlex #AdventToRemember #CPWarrior #WhatHealsYou #ChristmasThankYous #LocalLibrary #BiggleswadeLibrary
#AdventToRemember  Day 12 This morning Teddy and I popped into the local library to leave a card and present for the three ladies who run Rhyme Time on a Friday. We’ve been going weekly since last November. Teddy and his cousin Araea really love it, and they’ve both grown and developed so much since we started. I wanted the ladies to know how important it is for our family. It’s definitely helping my heart begin to heal. It isn’t a special needs group but they include Teddy so well and always try to make sure he’s joining it, happy and safe from other little feet running around 💕✨👏🏻 #AdventForAlex  #AdventToRemember  #CPWarrior  #WhatHealsYou  #ChristmasThankYous  #LocalLibrary  #BiggleswadeLibrary 
• it gets better •

Hang in there dear hearts.

#blues #itgetsbetter #thistooshallpass #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou #cleowade @cleowade
It finally feels complete. ❤️💗💙💙💚 And yet, I’d give the world for them to be here to be loved on during the Holidays. It’s a bittersweet life, life after loss, that’s full of beautiful moments and just plain heart breaking ones.

I haven’t written a blog post for @thecolorblueandhope in a long time because I feel I’ve been in a weird season. It’s hard to describe this season. I just can’t pinpoint the actual words but tomorrow’s milestone is worth writing about. I owe it to Charley Lynn, Grady, Ryder and you to share where I’m at in this story of ours and where I feel God is calling me in this new season of life. Two words come to mind: slow & steady. Be sure to look out for a new blog post tomorrow. It’s long overdue! Here’s to a new Chapter! #thecolorblueandhope
It finally feels complete. ❤️💗💙💙💚 And yet, I’d give the world for them to be here to be loved on during the Holidays. It’s a bittersweet life, life after loss, that’s full of beautiful moments and just plain heart breaking ones. I haven’t written a blog post for @thecolorblueandhope in a long time because I feel I’ve been in a weird season. It’s hard to describe this season. I just can’t pinpoint the actual words but tomorrow’s milestone is worth writing about. I owe it to Charley Lynn, Grady, Ryder and you to share where I’m at in this story of ours and where I feel God is calling me in this new season of life. Two words come to mind: slow & steady. Be sure to look out for a new blog post tomorrow. It’s long overdue! Here’s to a new Chapter! #thecolorblueandhope 
#AdventToRemember Day 11
This morning I read about @doms_pyjamas on an insta story and knew how I was going to honour Alex today. On our way back from Teddy’s physio session we swung into Tesco and bought pjs in what should be Alex’s size, and a book I think he would’ve enjoyed. Although I would give anything to be buying these things for his own Christmas Eve box, knowing that these pjs and the book will be wrapped up and given to children in refuge makes my heart happy and will hopefully make my baby proud ✨🎄📚
#AdventForAlex #AdventToRemember #domspyjamas #PositiveSteps #WhatHealsYou #GrievingMother
#AdventToRemember  Day 11 This morning I read about @doms_pyjamas on an insta story and knew how I was going to honour Alex today. On our way back from Teddy’s physio session we swung into Tesco and bought pjs in what should be Alex’s size, and a book I think he would’ve enjoyed. Although I would give anything to be buying these things for his own Christmas Eve box, knowing that these pjs and the book will be wrapped up and given to children in refuge makes my heart happy and will hopefully make my baby proud ✨🎄📚 #AdventForAlex  #AdventToRemember  #domspyjamas  #PositiveSteps  #WhatHealsYou  #GrievingMother 
• Tuesday reminder •

You are a gift to this world. Do not let anyone else make you feel otherwise.

#tuesday #reminder #yourheartisbeautiful #youarestrong #youarebrave #gift #whathealsyou @butterfliesandpebbles
I spent the day in the studio making my way through a stack of orders that came in over the weekend and I kept thinking how grateful I am that you trust me with your grief.
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I certainly know how hard it can be to let people in after loss and how vulnerable it feels to share your pain, so thank you for allowing me to be one of the few who gets to witness your journey. 💛
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I also want to remind you that tonight is last call for holiday orders via regular mail. It might seem early but I am a one-woman show so I need sufficient time to make, package, and ship everything…with room to spare in case the post office gets wonky. You feel me? So shop now at TheJoyfulJewelryBox.com or pay for priority mail later. 😘
I spent the day in the studio making my way through a stack of orders that came in over the weekend and I kept thinking how grateful I am that you trust me with your grief. . I certainly know how hard it can be to let people in after loss and how vulnerable it feels to share your pain, so thank you for allowing me to be one of the few who gets to witness your journey. 💛 . I also want to remind you that tonight is last call for holiday orders via regular mail. It might seem early but I am a one-woman show so I need sufficient time to make, package, and ship everything…with room to spare in case the post office gets wonky. You feel me? So shop now at TheJoyfulJewelryBox.com or pay for priority mail later. 😘
When I ask someone in grief how they are getting through Christmas, how they are getting through all of it, I can tell by their eyes.⠀
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It is hard, their eyes say.⠀
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Because when someone you love dies, it doesn’t mean you stop loving them. It doesn’t mean you stop thinking of them. It doesn’t mean you stop feeling any of it. ⠀
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#candidgrief #mamagrief #whathealsyou #grievingparents #grievingmother #babyloss #childloss #stillbirth #griefshare #bereavedmother #lifeafterloss #lament #spiritualgrowth #oncomingalive
When I ask someone in grief how they are getting through Christmas, how they are getting through all of it, I can tell by their eyes.⠀ .⠀ It is hard, their eyes say.⠀ .⠀ Because when someone you love dies, it doesn’t mean you stop loving them. It doesn’t mean you stop thinking of them. It doesn’t mean you stop feeling any of it. ⠀ 💙 ⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ,⠀ #candidgrief  #mamagrief  #whathealsyou  #grievingparents  #grievingmother  #babyloss  #childloss  #stillbirth  #griefshare  #bereavedmother  #lifeafterloss  #lament  #spiritualgrowth  #oncomingalive 
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#knotsofyoursoul #when #whathealsyou #rangoli @mazadohta
Everyday with her is a miracle 💕
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Haven’t been posting much here lately, the holiday season is weird for me. But here’s some pictures I’ve been wanting to post and just now getting to. Mila will be eight months old this week. Still amazed I got to bring her home safe and sound. .
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#MilaRae #heartcare #whathealsyou #lifeafterloss  #littlesister  #babygirl  #parentingafterloss #PAL #rainbow #rainbowbaby #motherhood #SevenMonths #SevenMonthsOld #Christmas
• Journey on my lovelies. We have done so well.

#journeyon #loveyourself #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou @butterfliesandpebbles
• the secret •

Give. Then give some more.

#givetoget #thesecret #love #friendship #life #give #simple #whathealsyou @leticiarae
what if we gave ourselves more permission?
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oh to know the very lenses 
through which you choose to see
the giving, the taking and the
offering in which is truly living
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so great an influence given 
in the words your lips released 
they were the making or the breaking 
and the very shaping of me
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for all the things still left unsaid
for the methods of overcoming
and attempts to fill the void instead
the heart sought a language it did not know
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your words were meant to shape me,
mold me, make me but the gaps grew 
too large and never did you fully see 
more than your eyes could discern from only looking
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may a deeper belief begin to reside
where no doubt could ever jeopardize,
a lamp burning long, burning bright
emboldening the truth to come fully alive
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no name was spoken for that which your eyes fell upon and others chose to put their own labels on places that longed for one, may the falsities that covered me now shake off and be gone
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for now is a time of reckoning
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leaning inward to listen and learn 
what is still unknown, pursuing the freedom 
that will surely come while uncovering the substance revealed from within my own soul
what if we gave ourselves more permission? . oh to know the very lenses through which you choose to see the giving, the taking and the offering in which is truly living . so great an influence given in the words your lips released they were the making or the breaking and the very shaping of me . for all the things still left unsaid for the methods of overcoming and attempts to fill the void instead the heart sought a language it did not know . your words were meant to shape me, mold me, make me but the gaps grew too large and never did you fully see more than your eyes could discern from only looking . may a deeper belief begin to reside where no doubt could ever jeopardize, a lamp burning long, burning bright emboldening the truth to come fully alive . no name was spoken for that which your eyes fell upon and others chose to put their own labels on places that longed for one, may the falsities that covered me now shake off and be gone . for now is a time of reckoning . leaning inward to listen and learn what is still unknown, pursuing the freedom that will surely come while uncovering the substance revealed from within my own soul
• missing pieces •

For my baby. For my mom.

#missing #absence #loss #grief #pain #hurt #struggle #life #babyloss #losingmom #sayitoutloud #thisismytruth #loveneverdies #whathealsyou @chloefrayne
• how to live •

This is how we grow. This is how we learn. By paying attention.

#whenweknowbetterwedobetter #payattention #lookaround #ourworld #thegood #thebad #takenotes #learn #grow #knowledge #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou @notesfromyourtherapist
Last week we were thrilled to announce that our Miles In Memory total was £11,930 . . . But it seems as though we were a little premature in doing so, as our total has now hit £15,038, which is a record breaking amount for Miles In Memory!!! Thank you so much to everyone who took part, donated and supported the challenge in memory of our much loved and missed babies ♥️
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#milesinmemory #milesinmemory2018 #achingarms #achingarmsuk #charity #fundraising #fundraiser #babyloss #babylosssupport #babylosscharity #comfortbear #therapy #whathealsyou
Last week we were thrilled to announce that our Miles In Memory total was £11,930 . . . But it seems as though we were a little premature in doing so, as our total has now hit £15,038, which is a record breaking amount for Miles In Memory!!! Thank you so much to everyone who took part, donated and supported the challenge in memory of our much loved and missed babies ♥️ . . . #milesinmemory  #milesinmemory2018  #achingarms  #achingarmsuk  #charity  #fundraising  #fundraiser  #babyloss  #babylosssupport  #babylosscharity  #comfortbear  #therapy  #whathealsyou 
#AdventForFindlay
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✨ Day 9 - Journals ✨
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After a busy weekend, last night’s #adventtoremember was about taking some time to reflect.
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Ever since Findlay died I’ve written to him. Notes scribbled on the back of postcards; pages laden with words of grief, of longing, of love; the odd blog post.
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I used to write to Findlay every day. In the back of my wardrobe is a pile of journals whose pages are heavy with ink and feeling. .
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I’ve kept every single thing I’ve ever written to & for him, but often I find it too painful to read back. The shock, the trauma, the heartbreak particularly of those early weeks & months - it’s all too raw, too volatile. It transports me back to a place and time when I was utterly broken; a shell of a person.
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But great grief comes from great love, and there is an honesty, and authenticity in those words; the ones written before I learned I would survive it, written when I thought I was alone.
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Last night, when the little ones were in bed, I spent time reading through some of those early entries, the very first love letters to my son.
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Some chapters I skipped passed, shielding my vulnerable heart; but what I found in those pages was love, in its purest form.
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I found love and I found strength - for it is only when we see where we started that we realise how far we’ve come. .
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I am stronger than the author of those letters; my love for Findlay is stronger too.
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I will always write to you, my darling little boy, and they will always be letters of love 💙✨
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#ForFindlay #loveletters #letterstoloved #motherandson #whathealsyou #babyloss #stillbirth #tfmr #thisismymotherhood #grievingmother #lifeafterloss #instagramblogger #mummyblogger #norfolkmummy #norwichbloggers #memoirsofmotherhood #onemissingmum
#AdventForFindlay  . ✨ Day 9 - Journals ✨ . After a busy weekend, last night’s #adventtoremember  was about taking some time to reflect. . Ever since Findlay died I’ve written to him. Notes scribbled on the back of postcards; pages laden with words of grief, of longing, of love; the odd blog post. . I used to write to Findlay every day. In the back of my wardrobe is a pile of journals whose pages are heavy with ink and feeling. . . I’ve kept every single thing I’ve ever written to & for him, but often I find it too painful to read back. The shock, the trauma, the heartbreak particularly of those early weeks & months - it’s all too raw, too volatile. It transports me back to a place and time when I was utterly broken; a shell of a person. . But great grief comes from great love, and there is an honesty, and authenticity in those words; the ones written before I learned I would survive it, written when I thought I was alone. . Last night, when the little ones were in bed, I spent time reading through some of those early entries, the very first love letters to my son. . Some chapters I skipped passed, shielding my vulnerable heart; but what I found in those pages was love, in its purest form. . I found love and I found strength - for it is only when we see where we started that we realise how far we’ve come. . . I am stronger than the author of those letters; my love for Findlay is stronger too. . I will always write to you, my darling little boy, and they will always be letters of love 💙✨ . . . . . . #ForFindlay  #loveletters  #letterstoloved  #motherandson  #whathealsyou  #babyloss  #stillbirth  #tfmr  #thisismymotherhood  #grievingmother  #lifeafterloss  #instagramblogger  #mummyblogger  #norfolkmummy  #norwichbloggers  #memoirsofmotherhood  #onemissingmum 
The Compassionate Friends held their 22nd worldwide candle lighting tonight, in honor of the beloved children we have lost. My pictures are from our local event. While we didn’t have the turnout we had hoped for, it was exactly what I needed. Always thinking of my boy up above 😇💙🙏 #TCF #CompassionateFriends #SIDSmom #AngelParent #BabyLoss #LifeAfterLoss #GriefStoriesAreLoveStories
#WhatHealsYou #AndrewJoseph #AngelBaby
• switch •

Growing and healing.

#switch #mentality #whathealsyou @leticiarae
• holiday season •

Sometimes life throws curveballs and they can affect our holiday season. Here are some tips I will definitely put to use from @biglifejournal. (swipe left)

#struggle #loss #grief #pain #anxiety #holidayseason #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou
Just over a week til our last support meeting of the year! 😟 **PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE LET US LNOW IF YOU'RE STAYING TO MAKE BAUBLES FOR YOUR BABY!** Just state you're going on our Facebook event, or drop us a message if you're wanting to join in with the bauble making so we can make sure we have enough!

#includingourbabiesatchristmas #stillamum #stilladad #stillourfamily #stillourbaby #christmasdecorations #christmasbauble #miscarriage #stillbirth #neonataldeath #support #grief #babyloss #AlwaysLovedNeverForgotten  #SayTheirName #breakthesilence #whathealsyou
Just over a week til our last support meeting of the year! 😟 **PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE LET US LNOW IF YOU'RE STAYING TO MAKE BAUBLES FOR YOUR BABY!** Just state you're going on our Facebook event, or drop us a message if you're wanting to join in with the bauble making so we can make sure we have enough! #includingourbabiesatchristmas  #stillamum  #stilladad  #stillourfamily  #stillourbaby  #christmasdecorations  #christmasbauble  #miscarriage  #stillbirth  #neonataldeath  #support  #grief  #babyloss  #AlwaysLovedNeverForgotten  #SayTheirName  #breakthesilence  #whathealsyou 
• this world •

Completely horrified and completely in love. All at the same time.

#thisworld #fearit #loveit #bothcanexist #atthesametime #whathealsyou @holly
#AdventToRemember Day 9
Obligatory Christmas photo for the relatives. What else is there to give your nan? I will print off the less shouty looking photos to give as gifts but this one captures my Teddy perfectly. He might not be able to run away from me (yet 🤞🏻) but he sure can let me know when he’s got the hump. This photo also features two nods to Alex: an A and a star cushion✨😍 my little loves.
#AdventForAlex #AdventToRemember #MotherOfTwo #WhatHealsYou #NeonatalLoss #ChristmasPhoto
#AdventToRemember  Day 9 Obligatory Christmas photo for the relatives. What else is there to give your nan? I will print off the less shouty looking photos to give as gifts but this one captures my Teddy perfectly. He might not be able to run away from me (yet 🤞🏻) but he sure can let me know when he’s got the hump. This photo also features two nods to Alex: an A and a star cushion✨😍 my little loves. #AdventForAlex  #AdventToRemember  #MotherOfTwo  #WhatHealsYou  #NeonatalLoss  #ChristmasPhoto 
• the gift of a new day •

Let us treasure the days where chaos is a little less. Let us not obsess over the "perfect day" so much that we miss out on how perfect today is.

#newday #freshstart #gratitude #treasureit #learnfromit #holditwhileyoucan #whathealsyou @michellemaros
Remembering important dates can mean so much to a hurting friend, even years down the road. One practical way to support a grieving friend is to mark birthdays, anniversaries, due dates, or other key dates on your calendar and send a quick text or note on those days.
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Join us as we discuss this and other ways to help a hurting friend in Episode 22: How to Support a Grieving Friend with Rachel George.
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#ttlpodcast #griefsupport #grief #iamahopemom #mamagrief #whathealsyou #bereavedmother #podcast
Remembering important dates can mean so much to a hurting friend, even years down the road. One practical way to support a grieving friend is to mark birthdays, anniversaries, due dates, or other key dates on your calendar and send a quick text or note on those days. . Join us as we discuss this and other ways to help a hurting friend in Episode 22: How to Support a Grieving Friend with Rachel George. . . . #ttlpodcast  #griefsupport  #grief  #iamahopemom  #mamagrief  #whathealsyou  #bereavedmother  #podcast 
• loss •

Oh gosh i needed this today. I have been struggling so much. First Christmas without mom is making my heart ache in ways I have trouble putting into words.

#loss #grief #struggle #missing #sohard #holidays #thisismytruth #strength #whathealsyou #morganharpernichols @morganharpernichols
• Happy Sunday ♡

#lovehard #dontleaveanythingunsaid #spreadlove #love #whathealsyou @dallylondon
Truth is, you don’t need my jewelry to help you cope with your grief. But you do need a community that understands what you’re going through and that’s exactly why @TheJoyfulJewelryBox exists.
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I love hearing your stories so leave a comment and tell me what brought you here. 💛
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Photo by @asiacrosonphotography
Truth is, you don’t need my jewelry to help you cope with your grief. But you do need a community that understands what you’re going through and that’s exactly why @TheJoyfulJewelryBox exists. . I love hearing your stories so leave a comment and tell me what brought you here. 💛 . Photo by @asiacrosonphotography
• This.

#grief #hope #love #whathealsyou @ginnylimer
#AdventToRemember Day 8
Today Teddy and I received a Christmas card with Alex’s name in. I love receiving actual hand written post, and when Alex features it’s extra special ✨ My friends and family have been brilliant since Alex died, they don’t shy away from his name and always acknowledge me as a mum of two. That means the world. Families are often so much more than what is visible to the eye. With that in mind, this year I bought myself a tiny star stamp and a silver ink pad. I have stamped the star and written a little ‘A’ inside on each card and gift tag written from my family. This has helped keep Alex alive in our thoughts, and has been so very comforting this Christmas. I needed a way to keep him close, to include him. I found it ⭐️
#AdventForAlex #AdventToRemember #WriteFromTheHeart #WhatHealsYou #MotherOfTwo #SayTheirNames #PositiveSteps #NeonatalLoss
#AdventToRemember  Day 8 Today Teddy and I received a Christmas card with Alex’s name in. I love receiving actual hand written post, and when Alex features it’s extra special ✨ My friends and family have been brilliant since Alex died, they don’t shy away from his name and always acknowledge me as a mum of two. That means the world. Families are often so much more than what is visible to the eye. With that in mind, this year I bought myself a tiny star stamp and a silver ink pad. I have stamped the star and written a little ‘A’ inside on each card and gift tag written from my family. This has helped keep Alex alive in our thoughts, and has been so very comforting this Christmas. I needed a way to keep him close, to include him. I found it ⭐️ #AdventForAlex  #AdventToRemember  #WriteFromTheHeart  #WhatHealsYou  #MotherOfTwo  #SayTheirNames  #PositiveSteps  #NeonatalLoss 
• invitation •

New day.

#wearealive #freshstart #invitation #whathealsyou #favoriteartist @brianandreas
Oh, the thrill of hope! • 💙⚓️🧡 • #heddingsomewhere #ahealingyear #whathealsyou #wherethehealingbegins #advent
• Beautiful.

#whathealsyou @loveaprilgreen
TRUTH 👌🏻 .
Cullin’s mama 🙏
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I love these words thank you @ginnylimer 
#griefsupport #griefjourney #whathealsyou #lovesaves #hope #support #bereavedmothers #babyloss #neonatalloss #stillbirth #share #healing #journeytowellness
I took a moment to sit with my grief. 
Encouraging my heart to open. 
To feel. 
Instinctually I resist. 
Plunging into the darkness. 
Pushing all those near. Far away. 
I fight the urge. 
Plunging deeper. 
Afraid of how deep I’ll fall. 
Afraid of how long I will stay there. 
No idea how I will get out. 
All strength eludes me. 
Courage long gone. 
An empty shell remains. 
With all thoughts everywhere else. But here. 
I could feel the darkness creeping up on me. Lurking in the shadows. 
Pulling at my heart. 
I carried on. 
Until the crescendo. 
The unveiling of all the broken pieces, shattering on the ground. 
The walls closing in. 
The heaviness in my body. Deep. Aching. 
Every piece of my soul broken. 
Everything broken. 
Empty. 
A shadow remains. 
An outline of my soul. 
Finding solace in the warmth of my husbands embrace.  #iam1in4 #broken #grief #death #empty #emptiness #pregnancyandinfantloss #pregnancyandinfantlossawareness #stillborn #stillbirth #saytheirnames #sands #whathealsyou #stillbornstillloved #wherethereislovethereislife
I took a moment to sit with my grief. Encouraging my heart to open. To feel. Instinctually I resist. Plunging into the darkness. Pushing all those near. Far away. I fight the urge. Plunging deeper. Afraid of how deep I’ll fall. Afraid of how long I will stay there. No idea how I will get out. All strength eludes me. Courage long gone. An empty shell remains. With all thoughts everywhere else. But here. I could feel the darkness creeping up on me. Lurking in the shadows. Pulling at my heart. I carried on. Until the crescendo. The unveiling of all the broken pieces, shattering on the ground. The walls closing in. The heaviness in my body. Deep. Aching. Every piece of my soul broken. Everything broken. Empty. A shadow remains. An outline of my soul. Finding solace in the warmth of my husbands embrace. #iam1in4  #broken  #grief  #death  #empty  #emptiness  #pregnancyandinfantloss  #pregnancyandinfantlossawareness  #stillborn  #stillbirth  #saytheirnames  #sands  #whathealsyou  #stillbornstillloved  #wherethereislovethereislife 
• happy ending •

America has been obsessed with a "happy ending" for #JenniferAniston for over two decades but, as she told Elle in a new interview, she doesn't believe in that old-school approach. 🙏 Aniston isn't letting society's conventional definitions of happiness and fulfillment through marriage or children distract her, and that's something we can all learn from. Have you focused on small things that you can control and noticed its impact on your overall happiness? 👏 -@thrive

#happyexistence #happyprocess #obsessed #happyending #happiness #life #whathealsyou
• happy ending • America has been obsessed with a "happy ending" for #JenniferAniston  for over two decades but, as she told Elle in a new interview, she doesn't believe in that old-school approach. 🙏 Aniston isn't letting society's conventional definitions of happiness and fulfillment through marriage or children distract her, and that's something we can all learn from. Have you focused on small things that you can control and noticed its impact on your overall happiness? 👏 -@thrive #happyexistence  #happyprocess  #obsessed  #happyending  #happiness  #life  #whathealsyou 
• don't burn out •

I don't know who grace and frankie are but I am definitely feeling this.

#worldonfire #stepback #dontburnout #takecareofyou #tomorrow #webringmorewater #selflove #selfcare #whathealsyou
#AdventToRemember Day 7
A couple of different triggers made today a hard day. I had to try very hard not to get consumed by thoughts of Alex (and Teddy)’s traumatic births. This gift from my beautiful friend @kayseystevens123 made my day. A little beacon of light in what was a bit of a dark day. Just what my heart needed. Today was one of those days that was just about surviving, and trying to keep the hope a bit brighter and louder than the fear. 
I printed the photo of Alex with Santa as big as I could in Boots, I’ve ordered the sparkliest frame I could find to put it in. Having another tangible link to him helped. It’ll be part of this Christmas and every Christmas to come ✨💙 #AdventForAlex #AdventToRemember #WhatHealsYou #LifeAfterLoss #NeonatalLoss #GrievingMother #LoveAlwaysWins
#AdventToRemember  Day 7 A couple of different triggers made today a hard day. I had to try very hard not to get consumed by thoughts of Alex (and Teddy)’s traumatic births. This gift from my beautiful friend @kayseystevens123 made my day. A little beacon of light in what was a bit of a dark day. Just what my heart needed. Today was one of those days that was just about surviving, and trying to keep the hope a bit brighter and louder than the fear. I printed the photo of Alex with Santa as big as I could in Boots, I’ve ordered the sparkliest frame I could find to put it in. Having another tangible link to him helped. It’ll be part of this Christmas and every Christmas to come ✨💙 #AdventForAlex  #AdventToRemember  #WhatHealsYou  #LifeAfterLoss  #NeonatalLoss  #GrievingMother  #LoveAlwaysWins 
• TTTS •

December 7th is twin to twin transfusion syndrome awareness day. All of December is TTTS awareness month. My biggest hope is that one day no one else will ever have to know how horrible this disease is and all the pain and confusion it leaves behind. It has been many years for me and I still carry around all the scars and pain. I miss my little angel everyday.

#ttts #raiseawareness #breakthesilence #december7th #yousuckTTTS #whathealsyou
• TTTS • December 7th is twin to twin transfusion syndrome awareness day. All of December is TTTS awareness month. My biggest hope is that one day no one else will ever have to know how horrible this disease is and all the pain and confusion it leaves behind. It has been many years for me and I still carry around all the scars and pain. I miss my little angel everyday. #ttts  #raiseawareness  #breakthesilence  #december7th  #yousuckTTTS  #whathealsyou 
With the addition of Ezra Joy this year, so much has changed in our little home. Until I get back to a rhythm with writing, here's a repost of last year's Advent blog on the hope-filled Gospel of Christ in the midst of sorrow. Still so relevant to me, even today. So thankful for this Hope.💙🕯
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"For the four Sundays preceding Christmas day, we focus our attention on Christ’s birth, and ultimately his Second Coming. What I love the most about Advent is the centrality of light. The burning wicks of the candles in the Advent wreath evoke a sense of warmth, peace, and comfort. Every year I’m always reminded of the passage in John, which states, “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it” (John 1:5). John, referring to Christ as the Light of the world, reminds us that He was sent to restore what was broken by sin.

Victor and I make the effort to open our home to family, friends, and their littles during this sacred time. We share a meal or dessert, light the respective candle for that week, and reflect on passages of Scripture related to the prophecy, birth, and coming of Christ. It is such a holy communion and a beautiful way to shift our focus--so prone to wander--back on the Light of Christ."
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[Link in bio; print by @maisondepax]
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#pregnancyandinfantloss #infantloss #lifeafterloss #mamagrief #whathealsyou #1in4 #Advent2018 #OHolyNight #ChristIsBorn
With the addition of Ezra Joy this year, so much has changed in our little home. Until I get back to a rhythm with writing, here's a repost of last year's Advent blog on the hope-filled Gospel of Christ in the midst of sorrow. Still so relevant to me, even today. So thankful for this Hope.💙🕯 . . "For the four Sundays preceding Christmas day, we focus our attention on Christ’s birth, and ultimately his Second Coming. What I love the most about Advent is the centrality of light. The burning wicks of the candles in the Advent wreath evoke a sense of warmth, peace, and comfort. Every year I’m always reminded of the passage in John, which states, “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it” (John 1:5). John, referring to Christ as the Light of the world, reminds us that He was sent to restore what was broken by sin. Victor and I make the effort to open our home to family, friends, and their littles during this sacred time. We share a meal or dessert, light the respective candle for that week, and reflect on passages of Scripture related to the prophecy, birth, and coming of Christ. It is such a holy communion and a beautiful way to shift our focus--so prone to wander--back on the Light of Christ." . . [Link in bio; print by @maisondepax] . . #pregnancyandinfantloss  #infantloss  #lifeafterloss  #mamagrief  #whathealsyou  #1in4  #Advent2018  #OHolyNight  #ChristIsBorn 
• healing wounds •
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"People don’t always like it when we’re working through our pain. They don’t always like it that we haven’t “let it go” or “moved on” yet. You can honor that your healing takes whatever time it takes.
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Some wounds may *never* be permanently healed. And then there will be new ones. To be human is to encounter pain.
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If that makes people uncomfortable ... it’s okay for people to be uncomfortable.
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Don’t let anyone shame you for your vulnerability and courage. ❤️" @notesfromyourtherapist

#pain #wounds #struggle #emotions #feelings #resilience #emotionalintelligence #shame #vulnerability #courage #healing #behuman #whathealsyou #notesfromyourtherapist
• healing wounds • ° "People don’t always like it when we’re working through our pain. They don’t always like it that we haven’t “let it go” or “moved on” yet. You can honor that your healing takes whatever time it takes. ° Some wounds may *never* be permanently healed. And then there will be new ones. To be human is to encounter pain. ° If that makes people uncomfortable ... it’s okay for people to be uncomfortable. ° Don’t let anyone shame you for your vulnerability and courage. ❤️" @notesfromyourtherapist #pain  #wounds  #struggle  #emotions  #feelings  #resilience  #emotionalintelligence  #shame  #vulnerability  #courage  #healing  #behuman  #whathealsyou  #notesfromyourtherapist 
What feeds your heart? Planning trips with loved ones and cooking meals at home with others keeps my heart full #travel #openheart #whathealsyou #experience #homecooking #hugs #itstimetofly #dearones #positivepsychology #dowhatyoulove #makealist #therapy #inallforms
what if we spoke more kindly to ourselves?
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to the young one
who cannot see ahead
here is the promise
i hold for you
you will be safe
you will be seen
the box of pain you’re carrying does
not define you
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to the broken one
who does not understand
here is the guarantee
i know is true
you are worthy
you are known
there is fear in the breaking open
but you are so strong
and you are not alone
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to the innocent one
who will never be the same
here is the vision
i see for you
you will bring light
you will bring hope
even though the journey is yet unknown
your days are still far from done
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to the invisible one
whose desire is to hide
here is the offer 
i bring to you
breathe a little louder
laugh a little deeper
a gift is still inside you
and the world is waiting for you to shine
what if we spoke more kindly to ourselves? . to the young one who cannot see ahead here is the promise i hold for you you will be safe you will be seen the box of pain you’re carrying does not define you . to the broken one who does not understand here is the guarantee i know is true you are worthy you are known there is fear in the breaking open but you are so strong and you are not alone . to the innocent one who will never be the same here is the vision i see for you you will bring light you will bring hope even though the journey is yet unknown your days are still far from done . to the invisible one whose desire is to hide here is the offer i bring to you breathe a little louder laugh a little deeper a gift is still inside you and the world is waiting for you to shine
• Nuff said.

#whathealsyou #cleowade @cleowade
We weren't sure if we wanted to put the tree up this year or not since we didn't put it up right after Thanksgiving. Last year I really enjoyed decorating our our space and didn't know why until we found out that we were pregnant. It makes me think that Joy liked Christmas. In this year of firsts, I keep identifying new triggers for my post-loss anxiety and grief. I didn't know if decorating for the holidays would be one of them. But we decided to do this after all in the new space for this season that should have been Joy's first Christmas. So, here it is! It's the only fake plant in our new space, surrounded by (some of) my living tree/plant collection 😌🌱 swipe left for my #throwbackthursday picture of our (fake) tree (and my real tree collection) from last year. 
#whathealsyou #yearoffirsts #pregnancyandinfantloss #lifeafterloss #growthroughloss #ficuslyrata #dracaenamarginata #dracaenaanita #moneytree #chlorophytum #peacelily #elephantearplant #plantsaremytherapy #plantsmakepeoplehappy #saytheirnames #whereifindJoy
We weren't sure if we wanted to put the tree up this year or not since we didn't put it up right after Thanksgiving. Last year I really enjoyed decorating our our space and didn't know why until we found out that we were pregnant. It makes me think that Joy liked Christmas. In this year of firsts, I keep identifying new triggers for my post-loss anxiety and grief. I didn't know if decorating for the holidays would be one of them. But we decided to do this after all in the new space for this season that should have been Joy's first Christmas. So, here it is! It's the only fake plant in our new space, surrounded by (some of) my living tree/plant collection 😌🌱 swipe left for my #throwbackthursday  picture of our (fake) tree (and my real tree collection) from last year. #whathealsyou  #yearoffirsts  #pregnancyandinfantloss  #lifeafterloss  #growthroughloss  #ficuslyrata  #dracaenamarginata  #dracaenaanita  #moneytree  #chlorophytum  #peacelily  #elephantearplant  #plantsaremytherapy  #plantsmakepeoplehappy  #saytheirnames  #whereifindJoy 
Speaks everything my heart feels these days. Thank you @katietorwalt and @bryantorwalt for your beautiful gift of lyric writing
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Music is my safe place. It brings up memories that I had thought were lost. It puts my mind at ease. It walks me beside our Lord. It lifts my weary heart on days that hurt. It reminds me of promises that have been given to me .
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#whathealsyou #legacylivinglife #holdtohispromises #choosejoy #monatgratitudeweek
Speaks everything my heart feels these days. Thank you @katietorwalt and @bryantorwalt for your beautiful gift of lyric writing . . . Music is my safe place. It brings up memories that I had thought were lost. It puts my mind at ease. It walks me beside our Lord. It lifts my weary heart on days that hurt. It reminds me of promises that have been given to me . . #whathealsyou  #legacylivinglife  #holdtohispromises  #choosejoy  #monatgratitudeweek 
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#word #fixyourhumanity #whathealsyou @thegoddessrebellion
• how we find our way •

Step by step.

#whathealsyou #neonsoul #alexelle @alex_elle
⭐️ Day 5 ⭐️
#AdventForNoah
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I'm really feeling this. We're only 5 days in, Noah's birthday is Saturday. 
When I planned my #AdventToRemember calendar, it's pretty much empty. Especially comparing it to last years! I have a few things i'll be doing the same as last year, donations etc. I felt like a bit of a failure at first. Like I was a terrible Mum for not filling December with enough Noah every day. But the truth is, I have my Sunshine. I'm his Mum too. It's very hard to admit to yourself that you're not doing a good job at being Mum as well as Dad. But i've accepted it now
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I cannot possibly parent 1 when my sole focus is on the other. I need to parent them both without giving the other less attention. I've also had a massive realisation that I need to give myself attention too!
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I'm looking at people's Advent posts & thinking how terrible I must appear for not doing anything big or amazing. But it's almost 2 years since I lost my Noah & I have never had the time of self healing yet. I need to do this for Me, Calum & Noah. I need to feel like me & everything i'm doing (or not doing) right now, is a step in the right direction! I'm finally accepting that it's ok for me to take care of myself first sometimes ❤️
#NoahsMemory #BabyLoss #ParentingAfterLoss #Christmas #WhatHealsYou #Vilomah
⭐️ Day 5 ⭐️ #AdventForNoah  . . I'm really feeling this. We're only 5 days in, Noah's birthday is Saturday. When I planned my #AdventToRemember  calendar, it's pretty much empty. Especially comparing it to last years! I have a few things i'll be doing the same as last year, donations etc. I felt like a bit of a failure at first. Like I was a terrible Mum for not filling December with enough Noah every day. But the truth is, I have my Sunshine. I'm his Mum too. It's very hard to admit to yourself that you're not doing a good job at being Mum as well as Dad. But i've accepted it now . . I cannot possibly parent 1 when my sole focus is on the other. I need to parent them both without giving the other less attention. I've also had a massive realisation that I need to give myself attention too! . . I'm looking at people's Advent posts & thinking how terrible I must appear for not doing anything big or amazing. But it's almost 2 years since I lost my Noah & I have never had the time of self healing yet. I need to do this for Me, Calum & Noah. I need to feel like me & everything i'm doing (or not doing) right now, is a step in the right direction! I'm finally accepting that it's ok for me to take care of myself first sometimes ❤️ #NoahsMemory  #BabyLoss  #ParentingAfterLoss  #Christmas  #WhatHealsYou  #Vilomah 
Some days are harder than others. .
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The past week or so, Mila has been doing so many new things and we’ve been getting ready for Christmas/New Years. I can’t help but think what Jensen would be doing and what he’d want for Christmas. It’s so hard to try to be happy for Mila and all she’s doing, but have this internal haunting of knowing he should be here too. In four months he’d be three, this is the third Christmas without him, and I’m still trying to figure it all out. He’s always, always in our hearts. .
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#JensenGrey #heartcare #whathealsyou #love #loss #griefjourney  #support #lifeafterloss #bigbrother
Some days are harder than others. . . The past week or so, Mila has been doing so many new things and we’ve been getting ready for Christmas/New Years. I can’t help but think what Jensen would be doing and what he’d want for Christmas. It’s so hard to try to be happy for Mila and all she’s doing, but have this internal haunting of knowing he should be here too. In four months he’d be three, this is the third Christmas without him, and I’m still trying to figure it all out. He’s always, always in our hearts. . . #JensenGrey  #heartcare  #whathealsyou  #love  #loss  #griefjourney  #support  #lifeafterloss  #bigbrother 
• teacher •

I love what I do ♡

#shapinglittlelives #kindergarten #teacher #whathealsyou @biglifejournal
The Question we should ask ourselves is..What are we representing or in service to, if not our spirit’s knowledge of Divine Love?  #prayersofhonoringourvoice #whatdrivesyou #whatblindsyou #whathidesyou #whathealsyou #pixielighthorsewisdom #thoughtstoliveby #goodmedicine
Hi friends. Welcome to day 3 of @bethelightadvent Acts of Kindness 2018.
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Host: Lindsay Joy Taylor, @TheJoyfulJewelryBox.
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Today’s Act of Kindness: Leave flowers for cemetery visitors.
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They say one of the best ways to deal with your pain is to help someone else and it feels fitting that this particular act of kindness lands on today's National Day of Mourning. This is the third year I’ll be dropping flowers off at the cemetery {it’s raining today so I postponed my plans} and even though it hurts my heart, it also brings me joy to know that I’m remembering my mom well when I serve others who are grieving too. 💛
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If you’re also looking for ways to give back in honor of your loved one this holiday season, I encourage you to join us. If you do, be sure to share and tag #BeTheLightAdvent2018.
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Scripture: “The true light that gives light to everyone was coming into the world. He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him. He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him. Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” // John 1: 9-12
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Please check in with Jennifer @chrisjen_creations for tomorrow’s installment.
Hi friends. Welcome to day 3 of @bethelightadvent Acts of Kindness 2018. . Host: Lindsay Joy Taylor, @TheJoyfulJewelryBox. . Today’s Act of Kindness: Leave flowers for cemetery visitors. . They say one of the best ways to deal with your pain is to help someone else and it feels fitting that this particular act of kindness lands on today's National Day of Mourning. This is the third year I’ll be dropping flowers off at the cemetery {it’s raining today so I postponed my plans} and even though it hurts my heart, it also brings me joy to know that I’m remembering my mom well when I serve others who are grieving too. 💛 . If you’re also looking for ways to give back in honor of your loved one this holiday season, I encourage you to join us. If you do, be sure to share and tag #BeTheLightAdvent2018 . . Scripture: “The true light that gives light to everyone was coming into the world. He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him. He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him. Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” // John 1: 9-12 . Please check in with Jennifer @chrisjen_creations for tomorrow’s installment.
Lighting a candle for Ari and my grandad at magical Wells Cathedral, after a few weeks of intensive making for markets. I'm now on something of a comedown after all the stress and socialising! This was a beautiful day out in an ancient city.
In @celticfusiondesign dress and underbust corset because they'd just arrived in the post that morning. Not an ad, just amazing handcrafted clothing minus the airmiles ❤️
Lighting a candle for Ari and my grandad at magical Wells Cathedral, after a few weeks of intensive making for markets. I'm now on something of a comedown after all the stress and socialising! This was a beautiful day out in an ancient city. In @celticfusiondesign dress and underbust corset because they'd just arrived in the post that morning. Not an ad, just amazing handcrafted clothing minus the airmiles ❤️
#AdventToRemember Day 5
A poem for my baby at Christmas 
Every bauble hung for you
Brings comfort, joy but grief anew
My heart is grateful for each token,
Messages written and your name spoken
But at the same time the tears flow
For the magic of Christmas you’ll never know
I hope that you know I think of you
It’s the strength of this love that will see me through 
Big thank you to @lperkins145 for Alex’s star ✨💕 #AdventForAlex #AdventToRemember #WhatHealsYou #GrievingMother #WriteFromTheHeart
#AdventToRemember  Day 5 A poem for my baby at Christmas Every bauble hung for you Brings comfort, joy but grief anew My heart is grateful for each token, Messages written and your name spoken But at the same time the tears flow For the magic of Christmas you’ll never know I hope that you know I think of you It’s the strength of this love that will see me through Big thank you to @lperkins145 for Alex’s star ✨💕 #AdventForAlex  #AdventToRemember  #WhatHealsYou  #GrievingMother  #WriteFromTheHeart 
• flip the switch •

Do it.

#fliptheswitch #newperspective #wecandohardthings #whathealsyou @hiddenheartbreak
I'm beyond excited to share that I was today's guest on @merriweatherc’s podcast!
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I connected with Danielle shortly after opening my shop thanks to good ol’ Instagram and she literally helped me change the course of @TheJoyfulJewelryBox. She believed in my vision and I mean it when I say this community wouldn’t be what it is without her guidance and support. 🙏🏼
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Click my profile link to listen to us chat about my mission and how things came to be because I think it will encourage and inspire you. As always, thank you for being here. You are what makes this meaningful work possible. 💛
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Photo by @lunapeakcompany for @snapshotsoflifeafterloss.
I'm beyond excited to share that I was today's guest on @merriweatherc’s podcast! . I connected with Danielle shortly after opening my shop thanks to good ol’ Instagram and she literally helped me change the course of @TheJoyfulJewelryBox. She believed in my vision and I mean it when I say this community wouldn’t be what it is without her guidance and support. 🙏🏼 . Click my profile link to listen to us chat about my mission and how things came to be because I think it will encourage and inspire you. As always, thank you for being here. You are what makes this meaningful work possible. 💛 . Photo by @lunapeakcompany for @snapshotsoflifeafterloss.
For those going through some kind of loss during the holidays: the Christmas season isn’t a time of celebration. The holidays can be an incredibly difficult time of facing your loss head on. Instead of bringing up sweet memories, it’s a reminder of what you no longer have. ⠀
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If you are the one with a huge hole in your heart, then be kind and gentle on yourself this Christmas. There are no expectations to put up a tree or go to a holiday party or whatever normal is (or was) for you. ⠀
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If you know someone going through a hard time, then the same advice holds true. Be gentle and kind. Don’t take their absence at your holiday party as a personal rejection. They may struggle to get out of bed or even eat. Grief can suck the life right out of you. But it always helps to know you are not alone.⠀
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#griefshare #bereavedmother #lifeafterloss #lament #spiritualgrowth #oncomingalive #candidgrief #mamagrief #whathealsyou #grievingparents #grievingmother #babyloss #childloss #miscarriage
For those going through some kind of loss during the holidays: the Christmas season isn’t a time of celebration. The holidays can be an incredibly difficult time of facing your loss head on. Instead of bringing up sweet memories, it’s a reminder of what you no longer have. ⠀ 😔⠀ If you are the one with a huge hole in your heart, then be kind and gentle on yourself this Christmas. There are no expectations to put up a tree or go to a holiday party or whatever normal is (or was) for you. ⠀ 💦⠀ If you know someone going through a hard time, then the same advice holds true. Be gentle and kind. Don’t take their absence at your holiday party as a personal rejection. They may struggle to get out of bed or even eat. Grief can suck the life right out of you. But it always helps to know you are not alone.⠀ 💙⠀ The best thing you can do is walk beside someone during the holidays and accept the place they are at. This is the best gift you could give them.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #griefshare  #bereavedmother  #lifeafterloss  #lament  #spiritualgrowth  #oncomingalive  #candidgrief  #mamagrief  #whathealsyou  #grievingparents  #grievingmother  #babyloss  #childloss  #miscarriage 
i’m still learning to listen on the inside.
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familiar words i can no longer sing
i feel my security melting
as questions arise and 
authenticity sneers
closed eyelids leak out painful tears
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it is in the wrestle my character forms 
the breaking down now builds again
trusting self and 
the path i now forge
i have not lost what i once thought stored
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expand the threshold go deep within
allow the overcoming 
to awake my skin
i am not without 
i have what i need
allow the struggle to build capacity
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a map is effective only with the key
what if it’s on the inside of me
no more lost 
no more unsure
peace can now hold me secure
i’m still learning to listen on the inside. . familiar words i can no longer sing i feel my security melting as questions arise and authenticity sneers closed eyelids leak out painful tears . it is in the wrestle my character forms the breaking down now builds again trusting self and the path i now forge i have not lost what i once thought stored . expand the threshold go deep within allow the overcoming to awake my skin i am not without i have what i need allow the struggle to build capacity . a map is effective only with the key what if it’s on the inside of me no more lost no more unsure peace can now hold me secure
The Riley Katheryn Foundation is happy to finally share with you all that we have reached the milestone of helping our 100th family! To commemorate this milestone, we have launched a fundraising campaign- 100 Donations in Honor of 100 families. We are hoping to collect 100 donations, of any dollar amount, in honor the 100 families we have been able to help after the loss of a baby. 
The 100 families include 113 babies from 58 cities across the state of Michigan. We have worked with 32 funeral homes and 4 monument companies. We have been able to donate over $47,000 to families in a time of need. 
We would like to thank our board members: Tim Lynch of Lynch and Sons Funeral Home and Dana Abrams.
Thank you to our friends and family for your continued support! We are so honored to help others in memory of our daughter Riley.
-John and Katie Rohrhoff, Co-Founders of The Riley Katheryn Foundation

To donate, please see the link to the home page of our website below:
https://www.rileykatherynfoundation.org/ #100 #milestone #commemorate  #thankyou #rileykatherynfoundation #nonprofit #pregnancyandinfantloss #stillbirthawareness #lifeafterloss #whathealsyou #alwaysinmyheart #stillbornstillloved
The Riley Katheryn Foundation is happy to finally share with you all that we have reached the milestone of helping our 100th family! To commemorate this milestone, we have launched a fundraising campaign- 100 Donations in Honor of 100 families. We are hoping to collect 100 donations, of any dollar amount, in honor the 100 families we have been able to help after the loss of a baby. The 100 families include 113 babies from 58 cities across the state of Michigan. We have worked with 32 funeral homes and 4 monument companies. We have been able to donate over $47,000 to families in a time of need. We would like to thank our board members: Tim Lynch of Lynch and Sons Funeral Home and Dana Abrams. Thank you to our friends and family for your continued support! We are so honored to help others in memory of our daughter Riley. -John and Katie Rohrhoff, Co-Founders of The Riley Katheryn Foundation To donate, please see the link to the home page of our website below: https://www.rileykatherynfoundation.org/ #100  #milestone  #commemorate  #thankyou  #rileykatherynfoundation  #nonprofit  #pregnancyandinfantloss  #stillbirthawareness  #lifeafterloss  #whathealsyou  #alwaysinmyheart  #stillbornstillloved 
This is the first time in a few years I am actually looking forward to Christmas. Holidays are still very tough but I actually want to participate in it this year. 
I think it has a lot to do with the support I’ve continued to receive. I have been a part of a grief support group for approximately a year and In honor of our angels and our anniversary we created memorial ornaments  by @whatsyourgrief. 
We added a few things but here’s the gist:
Each color ribbon represents a specific emotion and the length is determined by how much it is felt. We also included glitter and flowers that represent memories and writing a personal message which answered the question: how has your baby made a positive impact in our lives?

I hope this idea helps others who are unsure how to honor their little ones during this holiday season.

#myheartbeatsforejd #ihadamiscarriage #whatsyourgrief #memorialornament #mybabymatters #latemiscarriage #im1in4 #whathealsyou #stillamom #stillstanding #alwaysmamabear #bereavedmother #lifeafterloss
This is the first time in a few years I am actually looking forward to Christmas. Holidays are still very tough but I actually want to participate in it this year. I think it has a lot to do with the support I’ve continued to receive. I have been a part of a grief support group for approximately a year and In honor of our angels and our anniversary we created memorial ornaments by @whatsyourgrief. We added a few things but here’s the gist: Each color ribbon represents a specific emotion and the length is determined by how much it is felt. We also included glitter and flowers that represent memories and writing a personal message which answered the question: how has your baby made a positive impact in our lives? I hope this idea helps others who are unsure how to honor their little ones during this holiday season. #myheartbeatsforejd  #ihadamiscarriage  #whatsyourgrief  #memorialornament  #mybabymatters  #latemiscarriage  #im1in4  #whathealsyou  #stillamom  #stillstanding  #alwaysmamabear  #bereavedmother  #lifeafterloss 
She is in everything.
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We’re moving. We’re selling furniture. We’re selling our couch. The leather on this one cushion has started to crack and peel. It’s worn, yet unremarkable to most. .
This is where I was laying when she died. I know the exact moment, and I’m still haunted by the physical sensation of her death. It was in the middle of the night, and I’d come downstairs because I couldn’t sleep. My belly rested on this spot as I watched TV through half-open eyes. .
This worn cushion tell the story of a mother who has laid in the same place every day since her daughter died, for no other reason than to feel close to her. .
I have mixed feeling about letting this couch go on Saturday. On the one hand, I hate myself for lying there instead of going to the hospital when her movements slowed down. It’s a painful reminder of how things could’ve been different. On the other, it’s become an almost sacred place I return to again and again because she was there. I miss her. I wish I wasn’t so connected to a silly couch and had her with me instead. I think only a bereaved parent can truly understand the depth of these nuances... how something as simple and nondescript as a couch can make you feel nearly every emotion, all at the same time.
She is in everything. . We’re moving. We’re selling furniture. We’re selling our couch. The leather on this one cushion has started to crack and peel. It’s worn, yet unremarkable to most. . This is where I was laying when she died. I know the exact moment, and I’m still haunted by the physical sensation of her death. It was in the middle of the night, and I’d come downstairs because I couldn’t sleep. My belly rested on this spot as I watched TV through half-open eyes. . This worn cushion tell the story of a mother who has laid in the same place every day since her daughter died, for no other reason than to feel close to her. . I have mixed feeling about letting this couch go on Saturday. On the one hand, I hate myself for lying there instead of going to the hospital when her movements slowed down. It’s a painful reminder of how things could’ve been different. On the other, it’s become an almost sacred place I return to again and again because she was there. I miss her. I wish I wasn’t so connected to a silly couch and had her with me instead. I think only a bereaved parent can truly understand the depth of these nuances... how something as simple and nondescript as a couch can make you feel nearly every emotion, all at the same time.
• community •

We need each other. We do.

#community #togetherness #sisterhood #bettertogether #strongertogether #whathealsyou @brianandreas
#AdventToRemember Day 4 ✨  Last night I donated to @4louis.charity so that another grieving family can receive a memory box. I didn’t understand at the time why the neonatal nurse was fussing around with ours so much when we were saying hello and goodbye to Alex but when I left hospital clutching it, and in the days, weeks, months that followed, I saw the importance. This box has been my link to Alex during so many dark nights and I’m honoured to be able to pass on a small amount of comfort to other parents in Alex’s name ✨❤️🎄 (📷 photo is of a box donated for Alex’s birthday in November - hopefully his new box will be put together soon)  #4LouisCharity #AdventToRemember #Advent4Alex #WhatHealsYou #NeonatalLoss #GrievingMum
#AdventToRemember  Day 4 ✨ Last night I donated to @4louis.charity so that another grieving family can receive a memory box. I didn’t understand at the time why the neonatal nurse was fussing around with ours so much when we were saying hello and goodbye to Alex but when I left hospital clutching it, and in the days, weeks, months that followed, I saw the importance. This box has been my link to Alex during so many dark nights and I’m honoured to be able to pass on a small amount of comfort to other parents in Alex’s name ✨❤️🎄 (📷 photo is of a box donated for Alex’s birthday in November - hopefully his new box will be put together soon) #4LouisCharity  #AdventToRemember  #Advent4Alex  #WhatHealsYou  #NeonatalLoss  #GrievingMum 
• baby loss •

To all the superhero mamas out there. I see you. I hear you. I am with you.

#babyloss #loss #grief #hurt #pain #ache #struggle #livingwithout #strength #courage #superheromama #raiseawareness #breakthesilence #sayitoutloud #whenweknowbetterwedobetter #mommyofanangel #thisismytruth #youarenotalone #whathealsyou @abedformyheart
• relationships •

This.

#relationships #keepitpositiveorkeepitmoving #whathealsyou @amberibarreche