I constantly remind myself it is okay to be a beginner. It is okay to admit I didn’t know something I feel like I ought to have. It is okay ask for help.
None of these things are easy for me. But, because of practice, they are easier now than they used to be. •
I do not yearn for discoveries that lead me to the far ends of the Earth.
I crave for adventures that lead me to the hidden corners of your heart. *Yearning wants mostly to perpetuate itself*
Every night i wait for the sun,
Every day i wait for the moon,
And in between
Those moments of
I find pieces of memories,
When you've lived half of your life outside of the country amongst other nationalities, distinguishing who is on your side becomes second hand nature.
Know that you'll always be judged by your outer shell. But don't let that stop you from displaying your innermost energy. Some will reflect while most repel, let them take their course while you charge throughout yours.
History speaks for itself.
What's my secret? 🔑
No secrets 🤸♀️ I value transparency as everyone has a unique story to tell of how they beat the odds and became a badass. One thing I've found to be true in meeting inspiring people and learning from leaders is that there is no single element that will catapult you into your dream body, car, or career. No magic pill, no revolutionary book, no skill that will guarantee you success.
What TRULY works is discipline. Ritual habits purposefully performed with the intent of creating a better life for yourself. The product you see of athletes, celebrities, and business phenoms is the accumulation of years of pigheaded hard work and discipline, coupled with a strong belief that they deserve the best. The early mornings, clean diet, sacrificing time with friends and family to perfect your craft, fighting through the fatigue... fuels the excitement of great work coming together.
Anyone who knows me in my college days can attest that I was not a role model by any means. I partied all the time, worked out then layered on the junk food, and was surrounded by superficial relationships. I was tired and uninspired, and realized I had outgrown this surface-level lifestyle. My world changed physically, mentally, and spiritually when I reassessed where I was spending my time and energy, and started making the hard choices.
I am no where close to my final form, but I see what it possible, what is attainable, and I want so deeply for others to realize that this metamorphosis can take place within themselves too.
A positive attitude and hard work can make your dreams come true. 🦋
Summer is not winding down. 😬 I’m in the denial stage of my yearly grief. HOWEVER. This summer has been so hard and so good and has taught me a few things that have been on my mind recently 👇🏼
1. Social media can be the best thing, but also the worst. It can make me feel like crap. I didn’t even realize how my mindless, endless, moment by moment scrolling was playing a huge role in feeling depressed and negative about life, even for no apparent reason.
2. In July I was inspired to be more intentional and aware so I chose a golden rule 👉🏼 ✨no social media 30 minutes after waking up or 30 minutes before going to bed✨I also just stopped scrolling and found myself thinking about it much less.
3. I immediately began feeling so much better. It was like I gently reconnected with myself and had more headspace available for my actual, real life thoughts and gave myself more space and value for my living, breathing self vs my virtual self.
4. It gave me back a fresh breath of perspective and reminded me that social media and our virtual lives in boxes is just an illusion. It’s not real, it doesn’t have power to define me, it doesn’t give me value and how many followers I have or likes I get does not give me significance.
5. What matters and really defines us is how we live our real life. The decisions we make, the growth we pursue, the relationships we invest in, the memories we have of laughing with a friend, instead of writing “lol”, feeling the sun on our skin instead of the glare from our phones and noticing the warmth in the eyes of the person we love, instead of staring at the hashtag #couplegoals . Only when we start to not care about how many follow us or how often we post, or how our lives compare to a set of framed boxes are we truly beginning to taste a glimpse of freedom. And I for one, want to give myself a life where I feel free. #freedomfriday is a new thing! ✨
In a season of pruning where I am having to give up a lot of what I have grown use to in order to what I believe God has called me to, it’s important to remind myself of this basic truth.
In a lot of ways it seems obvious yet in the progress of letting go it doesn’t always feel that way. Questions like shouldn’t I have achieved more by now? Should I be starting over again at 30+? What will people think? The devils brats, thoughts that don’t serve but rather hinder steps of purpose.
We have to fight to resist the worlds standards of success to embrace Gods which is simply this ‘will you trust me? Will you obey me?’
After all my worth is not in what I possess but rather who possess me.
Thoughtful Friday 💕😊🤓🧐
I don't think you can feel truly free until you've felt what it's like to work for yourself, whether that's location independent (like me) or just a case of making your own rules and doing what you want each day.
After I gave my notice at work I had a week of holiday all ready booked, and during that week I felt soo FREE. Going back was like confining myself to this tiny box.
What I was capable of shrank.
I felt smaller. The time I had in the day to be creative and push myself was confined.
I could do whatever I wanted.
BE whoever I wanted. And I am a badass who loves to work on her own businesses and with other entrepreneurs and freelancers. I put my body and mind first. I am here for my loved ones.
I'm helping people find this feeling too. Not everyone has the drive to do this for themselves, so know if you feel that burning desire to be your own boss that you're already a step further than all those who have no desire to be bigger and better at all.
Don't limit yourself.
When do you plan to go full time? (give yourself a time limit!) or if you already are, how did you change as a person when you gave yourself that chance?
You are an amazing person with wonderful gifts and connections to share with the world! What do you value about yourself? Be brave enough to show and share your value! Know your worth; show your worth! Lots of love to you! 💕💕😘😘
This is what happens when I have no work for the day. I read, a lot. So far this morning I have done a ton of reading on keto and ketosis because to be quite frank I didn't understand it at all. I just thought... mimic this recipe or that recipe from this keto blogger, keep being active and working out at home moderately and I'd be fine... that I'd start losing weight FINALLY. AND of course I got rid of bread and pasta, rice etc. 😭😭ANYWAY, I've read a lot about keto. And as I'm reading about it, the main point of being in ketosis is to lose weight and be healthier. I started thinking about what being thinner will help me accomplish... is it for the right reasons???... Do I want to lose weight to be healthier or lose it to finally find a man that won't dump me when I gain weight!? Lol. Do I want to do it for me, to like what I see in the mirror??? Answer to that is (being truthful) for ALL of those benefits. I've been rangled into bad relationship after bad relationship and I'd be in relationships for... 3 to 5 years length wise. But as of the last 3 years I have had 1 relationship and it was done in a month, shoot probably not even a month (also we did talk daily, all day for FIVE NONTHS)... Why? Because I was going through a mother getting diagnosed with cancer, the loss of a job, the loss of my home, being so stressed I gave up on studying for my insurance exams because I just COULD NOT focus, failing even at a stupid menu test because I couldn't focus past the pain I was going through AND I was gaining weight... I wasn't happy in life, was I miserable as a girlfriend, no way but this man didn't love me like he said he did. My worst was a deal breaker for him and you know what? Whether you are a man or a woman you do deserve to be valued and to know you have value even in your worst times. Value starts with YOU. You set that bar. And aside from a relationship or being fat, skinny, toned, fluffy, having a fancy car or posh job... you have value. Strip away all materialistic things. Strip away the job title, the degree/certificate/licenses you have obtained. Just YOU, YOU are valued
Start by not kicking your teenage daughter out of the house because she's not following your rules. Talk to her. We have to have dialogue. Re-evaluate your rules. Be involved in her life. Be kind to her. Show her that a black woman who has endured pain can be positive. Love her. Care for her. This will make you feel good as a parent. And dont be afraid to ask questions so you can understand. We're living in a completely different era. Embrace the differences. #SmileAtABlackWomanToday#BeEncouraged#SpreadPositivity#GiveLove#ReceiveLove#ValueYourself#ReadBLK
“When you buy something from an artist, you’re buying more than an object. You’re buying hundreds of hours of errors and experimentation. You’re buying years of frustration and moments of pure joy. You’re not buying just one thing, you are buying a piece of a heart, a piece of a soul. A small piece of someone else’s life.” This is my art. This is my life. This is my world. And I'm delighted to share it with you.
WAYS TO PRACTICE SELF COMPASSION 🌷 .
Whenever you are about to criticise yourself - Pause. Observe your thoughts. 🔸Remind yourself 'To err is human'. Acknowledge your mistakes with a heart full of compassion.
🔹Think about what you can learn from the incident.
🔸 Choose to forgive yourself. Over and over again.
🔹Accept yourself COMPLETELY. Your flawed parts, your raw, human parts. Those parts which make you, you. Be kind to yourself. 🔸 Remind yourself what 'they' think about you does NOT impact your self worth. There are almost 7 billion people in the world. You cannot please everyone. You are worthy. Even if someone tells you otherwise.
🔹 Remember - Their perception about you does not matter as much as YOUR perception about you. 🔸Talk to yourself as you would to a loved one. Choose to be patient with yourself.
Remind you are work in progress and you don't need to figure out everything at once.
🔹 Please remember - You are NOT alone in this.