🍃 When people do this, they’re expecting others to anticipate their wants and needs, so that they’re absolved of the responsibility of speaking up for what they want. Unless, of course, the need isn’t met (and they get annoyed). Then you’ll probably hear all about it!⠀
This expectation is enshrined in many cultures as how people - especially women - should act toward those they care about. ⠀
My mom and I have a generally healthy relationship, but it drives me crazy when she tries to get me to do the co-dependent behaviors that she was taught by her parents.⠀
If you're sick of taking responsibility for other people's needs, find out how to escape the trap of co-dependency in my latest article. Click on my profile link to read it!
Photographer Jared Polin and his reallty cool project Six Degrees of Photography sparked this thought from me as he ended his program asking "where's photography gonna take you?". Photography has taken me to places and situations but I give more credit to my personality and finding my confidence for that. It wasn't my gear and not even necessarily my shots but my desire to really connect with people. I never make it about the money and it stays pure. I think one of the main destinations it will take me is to myself.
Check out Jereds awesome project here: https://www.facebook.com/125087687512074/posts/2147076645313158/
Have you ever read a book?
Of course you have. So if you have, you know that there are several, sometimes dozens, of chapters in one single book. Sometimes there are multiple books. Multiple stories.
You are a book. You are in a chapter. There was a chapter preceding this chapter; and, a chapter is waiting to follow.
So, if this is a bad chapter for you... hold on tight. Your dark chapter WILL end.
And, when it does, you will feel wonderful. You will feel new. You will feel rejuvenated. Because, this... this is a new chapter. And this time, you know how to read better.
Have you been putting something off until it's the 'right time' or saving something for a rainy day???
There is no time like the present, this very moment is unique and special. Do your best to acknowledge, embrace each and every one x
Mainly after I became a mother, I have been experiencing internal conflicts of values very often. Which makes making even small decisions and moving on with life in general difficult and frustrating. As I read the book Rethinking depression by #ericmaisel , I understand how important it is to aknowledge and honor my most important values. As @sofia_de_assuncao says in her free e-book, your most important values can be called guiding values and are why you do what you do.
So I have now listed my #guidingvalues . This doesn't mean I don't value the other values - basically I value every single value listed in the book, but they don't guide my decisions and life. I identify them and honor them in other people.
This exercise helps me to stay focused and guides me in moments of indecision and confusion; but mostly it brings me clarity on who I am, and #selfesteem .
#Freedom heads the list and explains many of my choices, dreams and visions, and also rage, angst and anger, now and in the past. This realization is already having consequences in my daily life and I can't wait to see where it will still take me.
I was asked recently by a good friend of mine okay more like yesterday why I go through so much effort to hide my curly hair? She absolutely LOVED it! We’ve known each other for almost 6 years and she hadn’t ever seen it! 😱
I had all these excuses... it’s not a pretty curl, some of it is curly, some pieces are wavy and others are wavy/straight. Because of this I hardly ever wear my hair natural. I‘ve been on a mission to love myself exactly as I am today so that means I need to embrace the curl!! Why is it so hard for us to find the beauty in ourselves? Why do we allow ourselves to speak in a way we’d never speak to a best friend? It’s ridiculous the amount of pressure we put on ourselves. Hi I’m Karen and my hair isn’t my favorite thing about myself... but starting today I’m going to work on loving it!
What’s something about yourself that you try to hide from the world that actually is uniquely beautiful?
As I embrace the curly what is something you’re going to work on embracing about yourself? Because hunny you’re perfect just the way you are!
Be yourself. Let people see the real, flawed, imperfect, weird, quirky, beautiful person you are. Do that and that’s when the magic begins! Xoxo
My top tip for today.....share!
Share? I hear you say. This doesn't just apply to out kiddies sharing toys and germs with each other and us!
Share for us is our burdens and our wins, our thoughts and feelings.
I've been struggling recently and when things all blew up and I was able to share what was going on for me, the weight lifted. Everyone who originally thought I was just being a grumpy git could finally understand my fears and frustrations.
A problem shared is a problem halved so they say so if you have any struggles and finding it hard to deal witht them on your own, share them with someone you trust. They may be able to help you or if they can't help you they are likely to be there to support you or understand if you aren't presenting at your best.
Similarly if you are succeeding with something or have solved a problem, share it with everyone. Not only will those who love you love that you are happy and thriving. It may also provide others with inspiration or motivation to overcome their obstacles.
So Top Tip for Tuesday..........SHARE!..............EVERYTHING, your wins, your struggles, part of you with those you love and Trust!
NEW HAIR WHO DIS?? Fun fact. That straight hair y'all usually see me rockin? That crap isn't natural. Nope, it takes a decent amount of straightening with a hot flat iron for me to achieve my straight hair. The truth is, I have wavy hair. But let's not get confused here....it ain't cute wavy. My natural wave is... well, trash. It looks lopsided and wonky and it'd make you question if I've bothered to brush my hair at all in a few days. But since flowy beachy waves are in rn, I thought why not lean into my natural a bit more and have my hair curled to achieve this look here?? And let's just say, I'm totes digging it!!
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Lately I have been trying to disconnect with social media in order to connect with myself. Through that journey, I have discovered SO much. I can’t wait to share it with you all! #LiveAsYou#amethyst
This has been a huge focus for me over the last week or so as we near the end of 2018 ✨
It is SO easy at this time of year for us to slip into a lack mindset, focusing on everything we didn’t do, 😒 the habits we didn’t stick with, the goals we missed out on.
But it is SO IMPORTANT for us to reflect on what went well in 2018.
What DID we get done this year? ✔️
What did we LET GO of? 💼
How did we GROW? 🌱
These kinds of reflections are honestly going to do SO MUCH more for us than all the needless stressing, worrying and beating ourselves up ever will.
let’s end this year full of gratitude and ready to make 2019 amazing! 💕
What’s something you achieved, or that you’re grateful for in 2018? Tell me in the comments below 💭
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Looking back on my determined hunt of my poor husband, I realize what a jumble of emotions I was experiencing. "The course of true love never did run smooth" etc. And I was a ball of anxiety and determination. Thank goodness my husband is so relaxed in comparison. I'm beginning to wonder how on earth I will tie all the parts of this story into a cohesive whole... But before I tackle that, I do wonder how I was so certain and determined at such a young age that Alex was the one for me...
I love my body. But it loves me more when I take care of it! The @sweat app has so much of what I need to keep me fit, motivated and feeling SO good.
It's basically like having a personal instructor without paying a hefty fee each time you need to get a little extra motivation and @SjanaElise has got me back to enjoying yoga again! She's basically your little cheerleader and the app does things like track your progress wirelessly, plays your fave songs, gives you tips and keeps ya moving.
Fat. Curvy. Unhealthy. Real.
All words that have been spoken about my body from others and from my own mouth. I want you to pay attention to the first thing that came to your mind when you saw this.
Over the last few years I’ve focused on those thoughts, the inner dialogue I carry around daily. I’ve changed the way I speak to myself, the way I label bodies and define my own.
This is the first time stepped into a workout class after a long hiatus, I was totally anxious. But I had to remind myself, Parisha, you are in control of the conversations in your brain, you are in control of how you choose to define beauty and wellness.
Double tap if you believe every body is a beautiful body. AND Visit the link in my bio to download the SWEAT app! #hbtsp#hbtsweat#ad
This pic is from summer 2017, since my Instagram was hacked before I set up extra security and wasnt using it for awhile I will just probably post pics n pieces of old posts with new ones.
Truth tho sometimes u have to have faith that everything will work out for the best. Sometimes u have to leap...
Have you ever wondered if you're in the right career field? Are you apprehensive about selecting the right area of study in college? Maybe you are nearing retirement and seeking direction on the best use of your volunteer time. What if the answer to all of these questions was inside of you all along?
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New post 🔥 “In the landscape of the soul, there is a desert, a wilderness, an emptiness, and all great singers must cross this desert to reach the beginning of their road. Jesus. Buddha. Moses. Mohammed. All wandered through the wasteland, speaking to demons, speaking to empty air, listening to the wind, before finding their dove, their botree, their tablets, before finding their true voice. I have hope for you exactly because I see you have entered this desert, following in the footsteps of those few who have been teachers.” – Ray Faraday Nelson (quoted from the book: Chop Wood, Carry Water) #travelmemoir#blogging#writing#adventure#selfdiscovery#reflections
12 décembre -12 ème pensée PEACE AND LOVE à partager ... 💕🌎 J’apprends à me connaitre, je remarque les activités qui me font du bien, je reconnais les personnes qui me rendent heureuse, JE M’ACCORDE DU TEMPS DE LIBRE POUR SATISFAIRE CES BESOINS !
Aurélie 🙏🌸💕🌎 #love#selflove#namaste#light#yoga#selfdiscovery#meditation
Question: Would you be interested in attending Intentional Mornings?
I’m thinking about creating a new offering for 2019. Intentional Mornings! This morning event would be open to ALL conscious creators. If you want to live intentionally and be connected to a community of other like minded & open hearted individuals, this would be the event for you.
We would meet on the first Tuesday of each month to explore and discuss our monthly intentions. How we want to feel or what we want to experience in the month ahead.
I’m thinking a combination of guided intention setting, mindfulness, visualization and community building conversations. I’m also considering having speakers if their message aligns with the self-discovery and growth that I am intending for the group.
If this would be of interest to you, will you please send me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) or DM?
I’d love to kick off the new year with an event on 1/8 if people are interested.
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December Reflections IV
Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post and shared their own #DecemberReflection ! It's so inspiring to see how everyone is growing and learning, and it gives me life!
This year for me was a lot of navigating relationships with people both platonically and romantically. Putting myself out there, also meant attracting a lot of the wrong kinds of people, and giving my energy to people who can't or won't reciprocate.
@chinaealexander just talked about this in her recent livestream, on how you can be energized by being with people who can have riveting conversations with you, who can make you belly-laugh, and return the love that you give. And how when you're dealing with individuals who have misaligned values to you and are toxic to you, it drains the shit out of you.
Not all relationships need to be connections. Be it family, long-time friends, or new acquaintances, if they're bringing you down, or if you find that you're spending way too much energy on them that you're not getting back, cut them out. A connection is a two way street, one person can not single-handedly make a relationship work.
✨Cut out the toxicity in your life and let go of what no longer serves you.
✨ Harness the power of saying NO. .
Do you buy time or sell your time? If you sell your time, are you where you want to be financially?
Value your time and delegate tasks to employees and contractors so you can focus on the big picture.
Comment below some ways where you sell your time
Daily Minute Ep. 071 - Being Grateful for Negativity
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Hardships and challenges will always find their way into our lives. There will always be bumps on the road. We will get rejected and things will not always go our way. All the is ok and it’s called life. What we need to do is just keep going. Have unwavering faith that everything will turn out well in the end. It doesn’t rain forever. Just believe, and envision that life happening. It will happen.
isn’t this comfortable, miraculous thing.
It can get ugly,
it can get confusing.
It’s gritty, it’s hard.
It’s difficult to confront yourself sometimes,
it’s difficult to be the person who does things differently,
who doesn’t settle.
But it’s the greatest gift you will ever give yourself.
It will push you towards figuring out what your own personal version of happiness looks like;
and when you grow on your own terms,
when you figure out what actually matters to you,
and when you carve out your own path,
you live on your own terms.
You love on your own terms.
You become the person you have always wanted to be,
rather than the person you were always told to be,
and that is beautiful.
Because when it comes down to it —life is about making yourself proud on your own terms.
It’s about finding a happiness that works for you."
Be like yourself, that will be amazing ✨
I wish you a great day 💚💛