I am #bodypositive - The meaning of this phrase has evolved for me over the years:
Initially, Body Positivity meant coming to a place of acceptance and peace with my own body. I was around 9 years old when i started to hate my developing curves and folds. In the years that followed, my size, migraine pain, arthritis, endometriosis, and disconnection from my body due to trauma prevented me from seeing my body as a comfortable home. The only time i was not at war with my body was during pregnancy; but each time, immediately afterwards, i was back to a dysfunctional and unhealthy relationship with myself.
My yoga practice has been instrumental in changing this relationship. The pains (physical and emotional) have not left - and actually new ones have arisen - but even though i don't usually "love" my body, i am able to view all of myself from a place of care and compassion rather than contempt.
This self-compassion and personal body positivity has inspired a deep compassion for other bodies, too. For me, Body Positivity has moved beyond personal, internal work and into actions seeking justice and peace for all bodies - particularly for people in marginalized bodies.
As @sonyareneetaylor writes in @thebodyisnotanapology - "How we value our own bodies impacts how we value and honor the bodies of others. . . It is through our own transformed relationship with our bodies that we become champions for other bodies on our planet."
I am #bodypositive t-shirt from @ybicoalition
Add this to the end of your leg day for a little booty finisher. Was crawling out the gym adding it to my workout!
40 seconds on 20 seconds rest x 4 rounds
1️⃣Stiff leg sumo deadlift into squat (hinge at your hips and squeeze at the top)
2️⃣In n out jump squats (focus on your depth (range of motion) and explosiveness out of movement)
3️⃣Glute bridges (tilt pelvis inward and really squeeze zee glutes at the top)
4️⃣Elevated glute bridge (optional, play around with both and see which one you get more 🍑 engagement with.
If you try this let me know what you think.
Almost the end of the week yay, nearly there😆
Safe to say this week has been pretty full on. I’m half tired but half really energised about all the exciting things I’ve got going on. I took some reflection time today (I haven’t been good at that this week) just to stop, breathe and thinkkkk 💭
When I have lots going on I can start to tighten up a little and I’m realllyyyyy trying to practice ACTING when it comes to digesting lots of information instead of REACTING.
I also took a break to realign where my energy was going and to redirect it to things within my control. After that I really started to feel more calm and cucumber cool towards with my to do list and accountabilities.
Most of the pressure I feel comes from myself anyway and I constantly have to recognise that and chillllll out.
So those are my #thursdaythoughts and after a busy week, I’m looking forward to FRIYAY ✨
Just enjoying the carb life after being keto for a month 🙌🏼☺️ ngl I’m definitely gonna be pigging out on pic n mix this weekend 🐷🍭🍬🤤 I can’t wait to put some weight back on, pls all keep your fingers crossed it goes to the 🍑!! 😂
Hope everyone’s having a good week, work has been super busy & stressful for me recently as we’re preparing for a big event on Saturday which I’m in charge of organising so haven’t really had time to gym, but looking forward to getting my routine back to normal next week. Bulk life pending ⏱😍🙌🏼🙌🏼
Ps. Loving this @myproteinuk bra! Thanks @em.fitnessuk for the heads up 😘🙌🏼
Screw the rules💋.
Don’t wear glitter after 30 or white after Labor Day, don’t let your hair go grey, dont let acne or scars show, don’t wear dark lipstick in the day time, don’t wear a crop top if you have a belly, don’t dress sexy if you’re plus sized, if you’re over 40, if you’re disabled, if you’re a mom or wife or girlfriend or teacher or a doctor or a daughter or a student- SCREW THIS! 😡.
Let me blow your mind for a second. THERE ARE NO RULES. They are all fake. Made up by a society that polices women as if we are children who can’t freakin dress ourselves. (But men can wear cargo shorts in the snow or socks with sandals, or let their beer belly hang out and it’s like “awww Dad bod, cute!”🙄).
If you feel like you need permission, here it is. You are allowed to wear or not wear whatever the hell you want! You want to wear makeup? SLAY. You want to NOT wear makeup? ALSO SLAY. You’re not too old for that skirt, you don’t have to dye your roots or cover your freckles, you’re not too big to wear a bikini. The rules no longer apply to you my love. You are a free woman. Bring on the glitter and crop tops.💖.
I’m wearing @bacilingerie as a shirt in public because I make the rules.
That one right 👆 there is the damn truth.
Our thoughts can lead us down a dark, lonely road
AND we can’t help but
follow them as they
continue to reappear
over and over again.
They tempt us and prompt
our mind to go places
we never want to go.
The more we plead with them to
“leave us the fuck alone”
the more they come
longer they stay.
We play situations
over and over
in our head.
We wonder if I had did this
or said this.
Or hadn’t said that
would life be different today?
and if we’re not
they can prevent
them as well.
🕳Did you happen to catch my Insta-Story yesterday about this?
means to continuously think about
SAD, DARK thoughts.
I asked for some insight from you about experiences that you’ve had from ruminating and I was humbled to hear some of your honest responses.
You shared stories of past loves and people who have left your life and moved on... Things you wish you said and words you wish you could take back. 🕳
On another note I’ve been spending a lot of time on this topic because this year 1-12 people are likely to be diagnosed with DEPRESSION.
These NUMBERS are ASTOUNDING to me!
Then there’s another surprise...
are twice as likely to be diagnosed then men.
You want to know who else is more likely to be diagnosed???
RUMINATING is tied to depression, trauma, low self-esteem and trying to perfect life.
I’m working on a new project about ruminating thoughts and I’m
PASSIONATE as fuck
about it so expect more
on this topic.
But for now I want to know do you ruminate? Or have you ever had any experience with
Drop me a line below as you are the people that I would LOVE to hear from. Your experiences matter and to me they ARE SO IMPORTANT ♥️.
Flashback to 2014... I was working long, late hours in group homes with kids in the foster care system.
I was burnt out, underpaid, overwhelmed, and unfulfilled.
I remember thinking to myself... This isn’t sustainable...There HAS to be more. There has to be a better way.
I went into social work because I wanted to help people.
I knew I was meant to serve, heal, and help others in some meaningful way.
Except after years as a behavioral therapist, family support specialist, and clinical case manager, my cup was totally and completely
How well can you really serve from an empty cup?
The truth is, you can’t.
One day, one of the little boys I worked with ran up to me with a message he had written:
ELYSSE IS LOVE
I didn’t feel like love. 💔
I felt like frustration...and resentment...and anxiety...and exhaustion.
So what did I do?
In my desperation, I became willing.
To stop settling.
To show up for me.
To learn how to love myself (love as an ACTION) body, mind and spirit.
Enter true SELF-CARE (and the inspiration behind my first successful business, Wabi-Sabi Botanicals, which I launched just months later.) The self-loving moments and minutes that made my life bearable,
And then...beautiful. 🖤
The rituals that became the structures that support my success in life and business.
I’m sharing those rituals and self-care secrets in my *free* live series, Fully Expressed, Fulfilled and Free.
If you’re feeling burnt out, overworked, underpaid, unfulfilled, and are ready for something different, this free series is for you.
You don't want to miss it. (Link in my bio to save your spot. 📲) By the way... There ARE other ways to serve and make a meaningful impact in people's lives.
There are countless ways to help and heal without depressing or depleting yourself. (Just ask the hundreds and thousands of women who have been served by Wabi-Sabi Botanicals.) You’ll get to find out what serving like THAT would look like for you too.
Just CLICK the link in bio to get on the list for my *free* Fully Expressed, Fulfilled and Free live series. 🖤 See you there.
You wanna know when the biggest shift happened for me? .
It happened when I said yes to myself. It happened when I invested scary amounts of money in myself. It happened when I put my faith in myself. ✨. .
People would try to convince me I was wasting my time and money. In fact, the reaction I would get when I told people I had invested in a life and business coach was “You don’t need that. You could be spending your money in such better ways!” .
Ummm... Hold on Susan... ☝🏻 What was that? 🤔 Who are you to tell me what I do and don’t need? Who are you to tell me that I’m not spending my OWN money that I WORKED for “right”? Who are you to try to bring me down for investing in myself so that I can live a better life and be the best version of myself? .
You know what I have to say to that? A big “F YOU - just watch me!” that’s what. .
I could have let all these people get to me. I could have decided to change my mind. I could have turned right around and questioned if this was for me. I could have let fear take over. .
But I didn’t. I REFUSED to let fear win once again. I REFUSED to let the same things that were happening over and over again the past few years be my reality, ONCE AGAIN. .
I used what people were telling me to fuel my passion. I used the fear they were trying to instil in me to set a fire under my butt. I knew I would be proving these people wrong. .
And guess what... It worked. It worked because I chose faith over fear. .
Yes, sometimes those very same people that are telling you these things, actually are people that love and care for you. Sometimes they say something because they want to protect you. Sometimes they say these things out of nothing but love and you can’t blame them for that. In fact, that’s something quite admirable for someone to care so much about you to say these things to you. .
But it’s not about them. It’s not about what they think you should and shouldn’t do. It’s not their journey. It’s not their lesson. It’s not their calling. It’s not their path. So they really have no say in this. [CONTINUED IN THE COMMENTS ⬇️⬇️]
How do you find your way home ❓How do you pick yourself up ❓How do you find happiness within❓
. 🦋By turning up the volume of your shy inner voice, by doing YOU for YOU. By committing to the things that make time stop and space a blur and by treating yourself with the attentiveness with which you’d balance on a piece of string. By plugging out and tuning in, by being your own number one fan.#🥇 By zooming out of your struggles and zooming in on gratitude, by remembering that when you shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you still land among the stars. 🌟#torealitywithlove
Even after two degrees and so many life changing experiences I accept the fact that I will always be learning. 📚 .
I find it’s an easier place to be... it’s easier to accept mistakes and those not so great days where you feel like a fraud. In order to do something amazing with this life we need to be able to show humility in moments where maybe we don’t know the answers. 🙏🏻💜
Where our focus goes, our experience becomes.
If we only hyper focus on the negative within our relationship, our experience will be distorted in this way.
Instead, we must consciously reflect on the positive. It’s no one else’s responsibility to make us happy. 💫
By accepting self-responsibility and realizing we have the power to shape our relationships through or very own contribution, we can assume our personal power again and start living a more empowered life!
There is so much noise out there in the “wellness” world. Seriously! I can remember when I used to let it bog me down & make me feel crazy. Today, I can tell you it brings me so much joy to help other women climb out of the food & body craziness & make peace with food & respect their bodies - can I get an AMEN!?! 🙌
That said, I wanted to share with you some helpful food & body image shifts 👆As always, take what you like & leave what doesn’t work for you... But I encourage you to play around with these practices & ways of thinking & to experiment.... over & over & over.
Yep, that “overnight success” thing... is usually years in the making. So give yourself time, show yourself patience & please know I’m rooting for you from my little instagram corner over here. Because I believe it’s never too late to be who you want to be & everything you need is already right there inside you. You just need some support, guidance & reconnection with your body & self 💗😘 #truth
Drop a heart in the comments, if you’re with me 😘
„Look in the mirror. That‘s your competition.“ Mir ist gestern aufgefallen, dass ich nur in den Spiegel schaue, wenn ich mich schminke, meine Haare mache oder mein Outfit checke. Sonst gar nicht. Null. Fand das irgendwie erschreckend. Haben wir Angst davor, was der Spiegel uns zeigt? Haben wir Angst vor dem, was die Augen uns mitteilen? All das, was man durchgemacht hat. All die Ängste, die man hat. Ich glaube das war der Grund in meinem Fall. Ich saß gestern da. Im Hintergrund lief türkische Musik. Der Spiegel stand noch auf meinem Tisch, weil ich mich am Morgen geschminkt hatte. Ich habe zufällig reingeschaut und für einen Moment innegehalten und den Blick nicht abschweifen lassen. Tausend Gedanken sind mir durch den Kopf gegangen. Ich hab mich einfach nur angesehen und habe versucht meine Gefühle einzuordnen, die auf einmal durcheinander waren. 10 Minuten saß ich da und habe überlegt. Überlegt, wer ich bin, was ich will, wie ich all das hinbekommen will. Anfangs hat mich eine Angst komplett lahmgelegt. Hallo Verzweiflung und Tränen. Aber je länger ich in diesen Spiegel geschaut habe, desto stärker wurde ich. Wir merken meistens nicht, dass wir uns selbst im Weg stehen. Das beginnt damit, dass wir uns nicht mal richtig anschauen und uns überlegen, was wir fühlen und was wir wollen. Deshalb nehmt euch doch mal die 5-10 Minuten am Tag, schaut euch an, lasst den Tag revue passieren, setzt euch Ziele und glaubt an euch! Mein resting bitch face sagt alles😂 Überzeugung pur. Weil ich‘s kann😜 #selflove#selfacceptance#selfappreciation#mirrorselfie#bye
Throwback to 2011 when I was "skinny" trying way to hard. If the cleavage, ducklips, short shorts, cowboy hat and boots doesn't scream insecure I dont know what....I would leave the house like this. I felt that if I didnt dress like this to go out I wasnt desired. I was extremely self conscious because I had lost 110 pounds and I didnt want people to think of me as the fat girl, so I dressed like the skinny girls in my "new body" but let me tell you...this girl was hurting. I wasn't confident, I was insecure. I dont look at these pictures and wish I looked like that. I look at these pictures and I feel proud of the emotional progress I've made. I used to look at these kinds of pictures and think "ew, I've gotten so fat I wish I could just look like this again, I should have never let myself go". What this picture doesn't show you is how I was starving physically, emotionally, I was starving for attention to be seen, heard and loved. I was killing myself in the gym and at school to "get skinny", I was taking phentermine (legal speed pretty much from a weightloss clinic) getting B12 shots on my bum, I wouldn't eat every day, I was losing my hair from lack of nutrition and I was very weak and constantly tired. That girl in that picture was anorexic. I may not have been severe to the point of my bones showing or getting checked into a hospital, but I was sick. Food is control, weight is control and I wanted the control, all while living in self destruction because chaos is what I knew. I wasnt happy, I was lost and I was hurting. It has taken me all these years to understand what I went through, gaining weight all the way to 287lbs and learning to love myself to where I am today. I got help, I went to therapy and I stopped obsessing over the scale and food. I am not perfect, the self destructive behavior happens from time to time and I have more awareness about it because loving myself and being kind to myself is my priority. I share these ugly things about myself because in my transparency someone may relate and decide it is time to love themselves or seek help. This life is meant to live, love and help others. You are strong, you are capable and you are worthy 💕
Mi china cochina , por esos momentos junto a ti , donde me salgo de mi zona de confort donde mis temores llegan pero verte sonreír y sentir lo orgullosa que estabas de mi junto a ti y tus amigos conversando riendo. Vale el llegar a mi casa y no sentir mis piernas jajaja pero vale mas por verte sonreír y ese abrazo al final del día donde tu gracias fue mi gracias Caye . #salirzonadeconfort#selfacceptance#momlife#love#motivation#ladybug 🐞
Day 3 back at the gym. So these are basically my starting pictures. I hope to improve the back of my legs dramatically and hopefully achieve a perkier booty! Upper body I would like a lot more strength in my back and chest and hope that By doing that I’ll get some nice definition as a side effect....Day1 - 30 mins level 16 on the cross trainer followed by 3x12 reps on the last pull down.
Food wise I’m writing that day off as I was so hungry from working out that I had chips and two magnums and then made flapjacks at midnight- sorry, not very inspirational 😎BUT it was day one... SLOWLY SLOWLY CATCHY MONKEY
Day 2- Despite having a PT background I had never taken or attended one of these classes! AMAZING. Worked my chest, back, biceps and triceps and I still can’t walk properly! The squats were great. I chose light weights on my bars. Great class and only 45 minutes...
Food- flapjack for breakfast- oops- blueberry punnet and dried seaweed for lunch. Some raw chocolate chunks and for dinner I had mung bean, lentil and mushroom stew and a mixed salad with all sorts of colourful loveliness in. Sadly I had another magnum... Day 3 - TODAY.... corn cakes and beetroot houmous for breakfast and some pineapple chunks, lunch avocado sushi and seaweed crisps and dinner.... which I have yet to eat is homemade Dahl. I will have it with Kale. And for pudding I have some dark chocolate coated marshmallows.... I totally accept my body for what it is and I’m so grateful for my good health. I do still cringe to see the part I like least of my body on here as I go out of my way to flatter it, but this isn’t about insecurity, it’s about self acceptance and self improvement .. something we can all do mentally and physically every day.#fitness#inspiration#nurse#mother#healthylifestyle#healthy#rawfood#indianfood#selfimprovement#selfacceptance#positivity#bodypump
Yesterday I began talking about my body hatred. And I have a few more thoughts to add. .
I think of this gooey force field of fat around me as an outward sign of my fear. I can certainly blame my drop in metabolism as well as sorting out my SI joint pain problem for this newly added padding. But I admittedly quiet tthe fear that I combat daily to be my authentic self with a few rich meals and glasses of wine. I'm a lover of fun. .
I see a way out of this through compassion, conviction, boundaries, and achievable goals.And perhaps a great big dose of accountability. I won't be doing whole 30 but I see a 30 day plan coming and a few exercise classes. .
And I'm going to keep away from dressing room mirrors for a while. .
Is it weird I feel like more of a teacher now that I have glasses than I did when I was actually in the classroom?⠀
I so wanted to make a difference. ⠀
I wanted to change the world one person at a time. ⠀
I wanted to feel fully charged with joy.⠀
I wanted to feel appreciated and valued.⠀
I thought that’s what my long-awaited big girl dream job would bring me!!⠀
But I was wrong.⠀
Or so I thought.⠀
Turns out I had just misheard my calling. I was meant to teach, just in a different way!! Now I mentor other women on how to build their happiest, healthiest and most successful life. From food to fitness, from business building to self-love and everything in between. ⠀
Lifestyle coaching has changed my life and now I get to help other women change theirs too! This is the big-girl dream job that I was meant to do💕
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What Is Mental Health, a frequently asked question by so many. Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. This video showcases the opinions of mental heath professionals on a variety of questions that you may ask yourself everyday. Please subscribe to Sit In Your Truth's YouTube channel and share this video to spread the word!
Being fearless does not have to mean you’re not nervous or scared. It means you are brave. You show up. You try. And you feel your feelings. Even when you feel really scared. And maybe being fearless means you stay home instead. That’s ok too. That’s brave also. Because you listened to yourself and what you needed. #fearless#fear#doodlepeople
It was weekend five of the program, and we were told to expect something different. The schedule for Saturday indicated a 6:30 a.m. start.
Upon arrival, we were asked to empty pockets, surrender wallets and cell phones. We were ushered outside and walked a couple blocks as a group to a park bordering the Tenderloin district near downtown. We were each given a tiny slip of paper with 6 items listed, and $5 in quarters.
I glanced down at the paper. Oh my god, I thought. I don’t want to do this.
The paper described a scavenger hunt. There were physical boundaries, and instructions to avoid other members of our group. We were to do each of the six items on the list for 15 minutes, then reconvene with the group when the time was up.
The first item on the list: the only words you can say are, "I'm hungry."
The Tenderloin is seedy. Drugs, prostitutes, homeless folks, violence. I’d spent enough time there to know that it made me uncomfortable.
I took a deep breath, chose a direction, and started walking. It was early; the streets were barely waking up. The first person to cross my path was an older man. He said hello. I mumbled my reply, “I’m hungry.”
He checked to see that he’d heard me properly. “What was that?”
Me: I’m hungry.
Him: Oh, ok. What’s your name?
Me. I’m hungry.
All the while, I’m still walking. He walks alongside me.
Him: Do you want something to eat?
Me: I’m hungry.
Him: Let’s get you something to eat. What do you want to eat?
We went around and around like this for many blocks. During the course of our interaction, I had so many urges to set the record straight, to say hello, to apologize for creating concern about me.
I also knew that I wasn’t going to let this person spend his money to buy me a breakfast that I had no interest in.
A couple of times, he tried to escort me into a diner, a coffee shop. He opened the door and I just kept walking. He was so befuddled, and clearly questioned whether I had some deeper issues than just being hungry.
After a couple of tries, he left me. I could sense the confusion, the sadness, even, at feeling like he couldn’t help me. *
💥 self Acceptance 💥.
A positive concept. A negitive attached to it. We live in a world where there's a stigma attached to everything we do, everything we do, everything we believe in, everything we are and everything we starnd for. In that paradigm, self Acceptance is important. And for self Acceptance,you need to realise a few things.
You're not everyone's glass of juice/ glass of milkshake. You're going to be accepted by everyone. You're not going to be liked &strengthed by everyone. There are people who going to hate you, dislike you, try to bring you down &break you. But just because of someone else doesn't accept you doesn't mean you should let them define your options about yourself.
It doesn't mean you let them create a negitive space and indice your head about yourself 🗾.
Not everybody's going to like you but that's okay. Not everyone's going to support everything you do & that's honestly okay.
You're your own person 💃.
Accept your cracks &scars are bruises just as much as the twinkle in your eyes &your smile.
Accept yourself for yourself.
It's going to be hard, but you can do it. Believe that .
You're awesome. You're beautiful inside out 💕.
.love,. Fizza Zahra.
🌟New #ontheblog : my experience with a FACIAL REJUVENATION TREATMENT
Why am I sharing this?⠀
💛️ You know I'm a huge supporter of all the little things that can help us to take a better care of ourselves on a daily basis. I’d like to help you figure out what you can do at home in first place and also simple treatments that you can book without necessarily have to take a day off at the spa⠀
💆 This facial treatment was a perfect example to start with: it’s a facial but it lasts one hour, so it actually feels like taking a proper relaxing “self-care break” in the middle of the day
👀 It's a great way to dip your toes in the world of facial treatments or massages if you have never tried them yet!
🙋️ I had the pleasure to try a Chinese Cupping and Gua Sha Facial Rejuvenation treatment with Amanda Nordell (@amandanordellacupuncture) at @dublinwellnesscentre: it’s a treatment based on a combination of different techniques that Amanda carefully adapts to your own needs. I would definitely recommend to check out Amanda's website if you live in Dublin or nearby BUT I also hope that what I've written will be helpful and inspiring for those of you who live somewhere else 🌍
👉To read the full post: link in bio! Chiara #amatterofnourishment