You are meant to eat all your favourite foods on your birthday weekend right?
Well this time last week, I was going around the supermarket with my best friend buying all the stuff for when people come over and I couldn’t actually think of anything I wanted.
In years past, this would be the time I would grab every food that I “shouldn’t” eat and don’t let myself eat, and then go to restaurants, order the most indulgent thing and be able to eat it guilt-free for one weekend a year. Essentially, it would be a weekend of banned foods.
But now that I don’t have any banned foods, for my whole birthday week, I couldn’t think of anything I wanted. Even birthday cake, is not something special because if I want birthday cake when it’s not my birthday, I get it 😂 In all seriousness, I do! I’m an adult, I can do what I want. My housemate is used to coming home around twice a year to a random cake, just because I felt like a birthday cake.
So does that make my birthday week less special? No! It means my birthday week is just no longer about food. It means I can enjoy food the other 358 days of the year and I no longer feel guilty for eating foods I like. And for those of you who think you would binge all the time if you had this mentality, you don’t!
When you stop banning food, you’ll start discovering that a lot of foods you’ve banned, don’t taste very good without the feeling of being “naughty” or perceiving it as a “luxury” or a “treat”. And for those of you who aren’t from the U.K. and will inevitably ask, that’s a massive Yorkshire pudding, which was delicious! 😂
Yes I don't wear dresses all the time! More in the summer but still not all the time 😁. So I think I struck a nerve with the last post. My goal was promote self love and acceptance. I have always had an issue with my body image, I think I've mentioned that before. I have always been thin, even to the point where it was unhealthy. Not because I wanted to be even thinner, but because I have had stress to the point along with a high metabolism, it caused a bit of worry. I've heard it all, "she's bulimic", "ugh you have the perfect body". We always hear about oh they are so big they need to loose weight. We never hear about the problem of gaining weight, when honestly that can be a problem too. We are so conditioned to have the perfect body that nothing is great until we have that shape. But what if we could just be happy with us. We are made how we are, if we want/need to change it, then work on the change. I know I only have one perspective, my own, but cant we all agree that none of it matters unless we just love ourselves? I just wanted to create a safe place for dialogue, love and growth.
But if your still annoyed then I apologize. No harm was meant. Just me still learning to love parts of me and wanting to spread that journey and if others felt that too, they are not alone... 🙏☮🕉❤ #selflove#growth#selfacceptance#peace#alwayslearning#mypath#mytribe#love#buildeachotherup#nohate#healthylife#perspectives
Don't Compare Your Chapter 1 To Someone Else's Chapter 20.
In the world of FalseBook and Instagratificationgram it's way too easy to compare yourself to others and feel inadequate, far behind, depressed, etc...
But there's a couple of things to consider.
#1 . You have no idea what that person has endured and gone through in their own journey and
#2 . No body every posts the failures, setbacks and tough times... Only the highlight reel.
Next time you're feeling discouraged or out of sorts because you think everyone around you is moving 💯 times faster, remember this post, stay in your lane and keep the focus on your goals, your life and your journey.
You probably wouldn't of survived in that others persons shoes anyway 🤷♂️
Wer geniest es auch manchmal einen Abend komplett alleine nur für sich zu sein? Manchmal habe ich das Gefühl, man darf das in unserer Gesellschaft nicht zu laut sagen 😅 - ein Samstag Abend alleine? Zu Hause? Nichts unternehmen? Das geht doch nicht!!! Aber ab und zu, besonders wenn man vielleicht eine stressige Phase hinter sich hat, tut es soooo gut und für mich ist es als würde ich meinen Akku wieder aufladen 😊🔋 und mir fallen 100 Sachen ein, die ich dann machen kann 😅. Ich hab das zwar selten, aber wenn sich die Gelegenheit ergibt so wie heute, dann freue ich mich richtig darauf. Mittlerweile habe ich aber schon einige gleichgesinnte getroffen, ich bin also scheinbar nicht unnormal oder komisch 😁, sondern nach so einem Abend total entspannt und gut gelaunt - wirkt sich sehr positiv auf eure Mitmenschen aus 😄👌🏻☯️. In diesem Sinne - egal ob alleine oder mit deiner Crew - #happyweekendeveryone 👌🏻
Double tap if you’ve been experiencing intense energetic shifts and overwhelming change in your life— you’re feeling pulled away from familiarity, ready to let go of some old habits or identities that are no longer serving you.
Can we agree that letting old selves die is beyond easy? It’s natural to want to cling to the known. But when we ignore the signs that our mind, body, and spirit are out of sync, we deny our inner voice.
I’ve come to find that the greatest way to honor yourself is by leaning into what being in tune looks like for you, right here right now; not what it looked liked 5 years ago, or even last month, but now. Often times we already know what we need, or simply need to let go of in order to create space for the answers. May I remind you that you are already it. 🙏
If you’ve been waiting for that sign or extra push like I was, consider this it. There is beauty in evolution, in learning to love the sound of your feet walking away from things that don’t serve you. It’s time to stop fighting the current of change, and instead flow with it. 🌀
Today I woke up and instantly could feel my skin. The tell tale feeling that deep beneath the surface another breakout is forming. It’s not visible yet. But it will be. Probably just in time for my escape to Florida next week to celebrate with all my siblings. I won’t lie, I cried. Lamented about my tired eyes and aging skin. Breakouts and forehead lines 🤦🏼♀️ Externally I am doing everything right. A simple, gentle yet clarifying skincare routine. Salicylic acid peels to prevent clogging. Oil free hydration and minimal makeup. Internally I am fighting a battle against my wild hormones (not exclusive to just me of course, it’s pretty much a reality for every single woman right now) by taking hormone balancing supplements, anti inflammatory supplements, stress reducing supplements and liver support. I drink tons of water. Though my diet isn’t as good as it typically is (hello BBQ food and sheer summertime laziness) I still eat better than the average American. I exercise to help my hormones. I meditate to help combat stress and focus on healing any limiting beliefs in my head. And yet, today I wake up, stilling battling this stupid and (on the grand scheme of things) completely insignificant affliction. I want to be “above it”. To not care. But, I cried. And then, cut myself a small break. Decided to do a kundalini self care practice - (dry brush/coconut oil ((only on the body!)) and took a cold shower) to cleanse my liver and flush my lymphatic system. It’s no miracle cure, but it grounds me. Reminds me of the power I have inside me and lets me reset my head for the day when I need it. I don’t know what my lesson is in this. Just know that if there is something about your appearance bothering you, I feel your pain, support your struggle and encourage you to remember that you are NOT your appearance. You are so much more. And even if you aren’t sure of it today you’re stronger than you know. I am too.
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We live in a society that ridicules women for loving themselves too much. We live in a society that does not talk openly about #masturbation ; the intimate act of loving yourself. We’re compelled to feel remorse and regret when we touch ourselves and feel release because we’re conditioned to feel exclusive to a man, incomplete without one, and to the fact that sex is an action only done between couples in a relationship that no one ever talks about the relationship you have between you and yourself. In order to be able to fulfill others’ desires and to experiment with them, you must first understand and experiment with your own, on your own. Remember: Your sex drive is nothing to be ashamed of, your kinks are nothing to be ashamed of, you are human after all.
Image description: This is an illustration of @frances_cannon ‘s photo she took of herself and the caption she wrote that empowered me to talk about the topic. I have been going through a lot of phases of self acceptance and discovering my sexuality, essentially what it is to be a woman and I have never felt more powerful. The quote attached is something someone once told me and it’s been in my head a lot lately. .
How do you feel? How far along are you? Do you care your body is changing? You’re so small. You’re so big. Are you planning on breastfeeding? Do you still highlight your hair? Will you keep working? Are you planning on a natural birth or do you plan on using drugs? Do you still eat deli meat? Can I touch your stomach? How much weight have you gained? How will you get the weight off? Oh, you still exercise? Have you thought about preschool yet? 😕
The smathering of well-intentioned curious, you’re-having-a-baby soon questions. 🙄
I’m grateful I work from home because every venture out is a fresh new round of comments, which is actually sweet because I know people are just trying to connect. But man...
So here’s the deal: I feel good but am slowing down & re-evaluating all priorities in my life (especially including how much I work) & who I decide to coach & take into my programs. I’ll be #31weekspregnant this Monday 😮 I have no cares that my body is changing... it’s a part of this major life transition! I do care about my occasional constipation & how sometimes when I laugh... or sneeze... I pee myself! 😬 And I haven’t even had the baby! 😑 My body is my body - big, small, in-between - whatever you decide as your perspective. I’m just trying to care for her ❤️ I plan on trying to breastfeed but if it doesn’t work, it’s not the end of the world. Drugs all the way. 🙌 I do still eat deli meat & most things... 😋 I highlight my hair with organic coloring (I have roots... this blonde isn’t natural!), I’ve gained what my body has needed to & I have NO plans on taking it off. I surely do still move my body - big fan of walks & rows for my posture & mental well-being. I have SO not thought of pre-school... I haven’t even registered for the hospital... on my list for this week👊
So- that’s that. Cheers to all my fearless women out there, just getting your feet out the door in the morning sometimes is enough 🙏 Drop a heart in the comments, if you’re with me 💗
P.S. my last Better Body Image Challenge for a long time starts this Monday! 👉 If you want to join, grab the link in my bio (@corinnedobbas ). Such an amazing group of BRAVE women already ✨
Friendly reminder that most of what you see on social media is only a FRACTION of the full picture of someone's life, and that majority of people are posting carefully curated images that only showcase their best, most noteworthy moments.
Most people aren't sharing about the days when they feel lonely and broken and hopeless. They aren't sharing about losing their job or getting broken up with by their long term partner or getting turned down from a big interview. You're ONLY seeing and hearing about the good stuff.
✖️The super positive yoga teacher you follow who seems to have the perfect life - they also battle PTSD and have daily flashbacks of their trauma.
✖️The cool girl you went to college with who has thousands of followers - she also struggles daily with an eating disorder and often feels disconnected and invisible and alone.
✖️Your friend who landed an amazing job and is now really successful - they also struggle with debilitating depression and anxiety and have days where they think about not wanting to be alive because they feel so overwhelmed.
🙋🏼And I'm not an exception to this. I have all these pictures up of me traveling and smiling and looking happy and free.
➡️ But what you DIDN'T see is that after taking this picture, I was sobbing in the car on the drive back because I was in such excruciating pain.
➡️ You didn't see that the next day, I was so fatigued and sick that I could barely walk.
➡️ You didn't see all the moments on this trip when I felt hopeless and helpless and depressed.
✖️You can't compare your behind the scenes with everyone else's high light real because you're only seeing a SLIVER of what's actually going on.
✖️The truth is that no one's life is easy. Everyone has some type of darkness and baggage they're carrying.
✖️You aren't inadequate because you struggle and have days when you feel lost and broken. You're human.
💌 You're doing the best you can to show up every day and navigate the obstacles in front of you, and that's all you can ask of yourself.
💌 And no matter how your process compares to anyone else's, it's enough.
💌 No matter what your life looks like, you're okay and enough.
I’ve had this photo backed up into my phone for 4 years. Did you know that the Giraffe is known to also be called “ Africa’s Gentle Giant “.. It symbolizes Grace, Peace, Individuality, Protection, Communication, Perception, and Farsightedness.. all the qualities that represent why it’s my favorite animal, the qualities I like to hold within myself. Which is why I’m still learning how to balance all of these out, but one thing I’ve learned to keep in mind for sure is that when things get hard we stand strong enough to keep moving..Invoke the Giraffe when you need help walking with your head held high, It demonstrates being grounded in physical existence and its ability to see spiritual vision within yourself . #giraffe#spiritanimal#innerpeace#individuality#grace#peace#selfmotivation#selfreminder#selfacceptance#spirituality
Sign of a GOOD coffee shop...when the whole crew gets in!
I walk in coffee shops and see people sipping on their coffees, maybe laptops up, or catching up with friends and think to myself: could Coffee shop hoppin and conversations be a HOBBY?🤔
It's my world squirrel so It is NOW! #Foreverlife#Imthatgirl
I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'Well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, 'I'm sorry,' and then you say to yourself, 'I'm sorry.' If we all hold on to the mistake, we can't see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can't see what we're capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one's own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that's rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don't have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach. ➖➖➖Maya Angelou ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ #selfacceptance#accountability , #innerpeace#peace#selflove#spiritual#contentment#life#love#wisdom#wisdom#selfesteem#bodyimage#beauty
I rarely wear makeup, fix my hair (I do brush it), I have bags under my eyes (there isn’t enough concealer in the world), and my eyebrows haven’t been touched in a really long time. I think it’s great for those who get manicures, waxed, and do their face. I’m just not the type that does that all the time and I’m always cautious about posting these kind of pics. I’m aging and I’m slowly accepting it😊 #selfacceptance#30s#love#positivity#mom#80sbaby#woman#memories#age#selflove
UpDaTe::::: hello!! it’s been BUSY, guys. Friday was spent preparing for holiday n also saw my psych who annoyed me a bit to be honest but hey ho. Then at 2:45am this morn we got a taxi to the airport for our flight at 6! (Which was delayed until 7). But we made it! The hotel is lovely and the ocean view is gorgeous 🌊 I won’t lie, I’ve been struggling a bit today with self confidence :-( I feel so ugly compared to literally everyone else here and also chub rub has started already even tho I have Lush’s ‘silky underwear’ and cycling shorts :-( I think it’s cos I shaved my vag ?? Idk maybe that made it sensitive. ANYWAY. Won’t let toxic thoughts ruin my time here as this is probs the last family holiday I come on soooo, really wanna have a tabby time. xoxoxo
🎥TODAY IS THE 48HR FILM PROJECT🎬.
To say that I'm excited would be a huge understatement. This is one of the best opportunities of my acting career thus far! The team I'm blessed to be working with is extremely skilled and seasoned. Our script is super fun, twisty, and feminist. My role is hilarious, strong, and substantial. This film is going to be fantastic.
If you'd like to see it you have to come to our screening!!! Out film will be screened at the @belcourttheatre 8/22 at 9:30 pm! You can get tickets online, but get them fast! If you don't attended the screening, unfortunately, you won't be able to see the film for a very long time because we are submitting it to other festivals. To comply with the rules of most film festivals, our film won't be available online until the film festival circuit is finished! SO COME SEE IT NOW!!!.
Actors and film makers often have talent that no one ever sees because landing the right gig is such a battle. The @nashville48hfp Allows you to create your own opportunities to really flex your film muscles. I love you guys! Have a great Saturday and don't forget to FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS!.
Every 6 months or so, I decide I can't freaking STAND my hair being long and want to chop it all off NOW. I emergency need a haircut, tell the stylist I want it short, but it has to be out of my face, stylable in less than 5 minutes & I also need to be able to pull it into a pony. They laugh and say, "yah, no...keep it long enough to put it in a ponytail". I grumpily agree, am never happy with my haircut, and then continue on not doing a damn thing to my hair, pulling it into a ponytail for the next 6 months....until I have another freak out at how much I can't stand it being so long. Seriously. So. Friggin. Predictable.I am completely UNWILLING to change my hair routine, and expect some poor stylist to whip out some magic on my hair and fix my issue. Here is my own reality check. If I want to be happier with my hair, I need to put some effort into it. When it comes down to it, that is SO not a priority. I don't want to put effort into it, because I'd rather spend time on things that are more important to me. And that is okay. But this time, I'm going to make a hair appt, and just not expect anything other than a trim, and accept that that is the best option for me right now. If I'm not going to change, then I can't expect my hair to magically change, and get pissed when it doesn't. Is there something in your life you want to change but aren't willing to or haven't put the effort into it? If so, can you accept it & be ok with that? Or is it something that actually IS important to you? Let me know, I'd love to hear!! .
💙Befriending YOU BEYOND MEDIA "BEAUTY" - beyond the highly sexualized imaging of the feminine and increasingly the masculine in our culture. What we do to women, affects men - what we do to men, affects women - because we are all so connected & impacted by how we are taught to see and treat one another. One of my favorite films is "Killing Us Softly" on images of women and men in media advertising and media pornography by Jean Kilbourne. 😃
Check out the awesome MediaEd.org - on gender representation in our society. Sut Jhally has done an incredible job of uncovering this issue in our culture with his video entitled: "Dreamworlds 3: Desire, Sex & Power in Music Video"
Also check out Videos on trauma MK mind control in Hollywood and music videos related to Katy Perry, Britney Spears, Miley Cyrus, Beyoncé, Taylor Swift.
Check out JeanKilborne.com
Check out how the secret earth government syndicates of the cabal\illuminati are behind the current toxic-to-humans mass media, education, medical, agriculture, etc. system matrix. Why? Because knowledge is power and the truth ultimately sets us free. #GenderHealing#EmpoweringWomen#SelfCompassion#Awareness#SelfAcceptance#WomenStudiesRock#GenderStudiesYes#SelfPortrrait#MassHypnosisOfTheMassMedia#Feminism#HollywoodMKUltraMindControl
The weekend calls for cute and comfy! You’ll usually catch me in a pair jeans to channel my inner tomboy. BUT, I always love to add a feminine touch. Whether it’s peaking through a cami, or not showing at all, @wearlively always makes me feel girly and beautiful.
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Women's Embody Love Workshop tomorrow!!! Expose Media Myths • Change the Conversation • Commit to Kindness • Recognize Your Worth ❤️ This transformational workshop will be from 1:30-3:30pm and it's FREE! What could be any better? See you there! #LifeIsAnEcosystem
Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fears.
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I know what it feels like and how to live my dreams.
I know how to live my life without having my fears controlling it.
I know how to let go my fears of insecurity, judgment and loneliness.
I am safe.
I know how to be motivated by my dreams rather then fear.
Слишком многие из нас не живут нашими мечтами, потому что мы живем в наших страхах.
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Я знаю, как это ощущается и как жить своей мечтой.
Я знаю, как жить своей жизнью, без того, чтобы мои страхи контролировали ее.
Я знаю, как отпустить мои опасения по поводу отсутствия безопасности, суждения и одиночества.
Я в безопасности.
Я знаю, как быть мотивированным моей мечтой, а не страхом.
In manchen Momenten kann ich mich erinnern: ich merke für was ich meine Essstörung benutzt habe. Ich habe sie benutzt um mich sicher zu fühlen. Sicher gegenüber Situationen, vor Ereignissen und vor Personen. Ich hasse es mich unwohl zu fühlen, keinen Plan zu haben, Streit zu haben, Tadel zu bekommen und Angst vor Ereignissen zu haben. Und da kam die Essstörung ins Spiel, sie gab mir eine Sicherheit, eine Sicherheit über Dinge, die eigentlich nichts mit Essen zu tun haben. Es ist das Ventil, dass aber keine Lösung ist.
Ja, es tut weh, zu merken, dass man manchmal verloren ist, dass man merkt, es gibt Menschen, die einen nicht leiden können, die einen für dumm halten, die dir weh tun werden. Aber es bringt nichts diesen Problemen mit Hunger entgegentreten zu wollen und mit soviel Hass auf sich selbst. Wenn alles um dich rum mal ins wanken gerät, was total normal ist, solltest du dir das Essen geben, dass du brauchst um dir selbst und auch mal anderen in den Arsch treten zu können.
One of the biggest lessons to learn in life for empaths/highly sensitive women.
We naturally give, feel into others' needs and provide what is lacking. It seems to be our default setting.
This is often a survival mechanism stemming from when we were a little girls and had to keep the world around us from collapsing.
That heavy burden now holds us back when we're fully grown women who just desire to enjoy life fully.
It's time to let go of those invisible chains; they serve us no more purpose.
It's time to embrace ourselves in our full glory and see that we deserve to receive; just like anyone else.
We're not special, so we won't get a special treatment either; we deserve just as much as anyone else.
Let's let go of the past and the old stories we've always believed in; that we're not good enough, that we're in the way, that we're too much and therefore need to give before we can receive.
There is no debt. You don't need to feel any guilt. You're even; you're alive.
This gives you the birthright to be, to breathe, to take up your space and ask for what you need.
Give yourself what you always give others so generously; your undivided love, attention and space.
It's time to DO YOU. The people around you will love you for it in the end.
Love & courage,
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Have you ever asked yourself, 🤷🏼♀️“Who am I?”🤷🏼♀️
You may have asked yourself and felt this many different times throughout your life, in the transition from a child to a teenager or teenager to an adult; when graduating from college and search for a career; when entering a relationship and needing to figure out who you are as you intertwine your life with someone else's life. The sweet fragrance of Inner Child™ may encourage you to connect with your authentic self.
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Problems are a part of life, but suffering doesn't have to be. Ask for peace, ask for serenity and you will have it.
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