When I first saw this photo I planned a post about stretch marks. I planned it because I know many, many, women struggle with the crimson or shooting star trails that adorn their bodes.
Once I started thinking about what I might write, I started thinking about the last couple of times I’d discussed stretch makes with other women.
In a conversation with @Dothehotpants, Dana asked me if it was ever frustrating to hear those with socially acceptable/non marginalised bodies talk about such minor details when my body struggled on such a fundamental level. I remember pausing and trying to find a way to better explain the YES that would have escaped had I not stopped my self. I never want to make anyone feel small or belittle someones concerns, but it is hard to reside here on IG, amongst a community intent on discussing stretch marks and cellulite when my disabled family are still fighting for the smallest level of awareness.
In the second conversation, @tiggerrific81 and I talked about how difficult our days had been, sharing notes on how we’d struggled to manage and had to find what felt like endless amounts of energy just to make it through. We talked about our worries and fears for our bodies and we paused to agree how blissful it might be to only have stretch marks to worry about.
Neither of these conversations are meant to take away from the real anxieties that people have about how their bodies are responded to day to day. But I have to be real, as I write this from my hospital bed, wondering what might happen to me during surgery tomorrow, the prospect of living with those kind of insecurities seems a luxury.
My politics are firm that ALL BODIES should live in a space free from fear and judgment. But giving everyone the same the same thing doesn’t make us all equal, and in this instance we need to see more discussion and representation of the realities of living as an ‘other’ body.
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