#whywouldthey when they are using the blackman as an escape goat to cover up all the dirt that they do and have done. If they point the finger at us and the world is looking at us as the bad guy they will never see who the real bad guy is, always remember every bad guy needs a fall guy and the blackman is the fall guy of the world. #💯 #realshit
💯This is a massive principle I've seen many people fail to recognize for many years.
Its easy to get caught up in getting someone else's approval, or getting them to *see* you as the person you really are.
The result is fixating on that person or outcome too much, and at the cost of burning up your mental and emotional capital that could be used to elevate your game until you've hit a level where you'd no longer care because you're attracting new leagues of people into your life.
For every minute you spend thinking "why doesn't he/she see the value that I offer them!? Why don't see me for who I am or the potential we could have together?" You could be spending that time hitting a new level.
This is sometimes hard due to sentimentality and being emotionally vulnerable with someone. A beautiful part of yourself see a beautiful outcome with you both coming together, but they may not be able to see that vision the way you do.
Some people need you to be exclusive, or hard to get, or an asshole, or overly-dramatic or even emotionally abusive to make yourself relevant in their reality.
I don't recommend any of this and think its horrible, but it's also important to understand why sometimes when you're a good person people may not be responsive to it....look at their previous relationships, not what they *say* they want, to determine what they objectively respond to.
That being the case, why PERSONALIZE it when someone isn't seeing the vision? That only burns your time, weird them out and everybody loses.
Instead, put Work into YOURSELF and let them figure out what they weren't able to see down the line as you move up the totem pole.
Of course ironically, but then you'll no longer care because you have better things to do and have attracted higher quality people.
You'll probably still hold a place in your heart for the person's approval that you once coveted, but the roles will reverse and you will wish them the best.
Any time I've followed this rule my life has improved, and anytime I've failed to recognize this rule and became "myopic" short-sighted and needy I've suffered.
There's SO MUCH opportunity in life.
Keep growing. Stay abundant. You got this.