Rape takes a part of you that you’ll never get back. It’s like an earthquake through your soul, separating you from your sanity. On days or weeks like these, I feel defeated, and like I cannot repair myself. Yet, I still have to keep living my life. I have to keep going...this week I’ve been asking myself why? What’s the point? Who would care if I were gone. If you know someone is struggling with emotional pain and distress, reach out to them. I’m not talking about me. What I’m saying is that, telling your struggling friend to “call you if you ever need to talk” is a load of BULL SHIT. The least you could do for those people struggling is reach out to them. Bc the last thing we wanna do is ask for help about a situation that has permanently skewed our vision of humanity. .
Our steps... the 4 A’s AWARENESS... ASSERTIVENESS... AGGRESSION... ACTION. These for words encompass our basic mindset in our training. Your primary task is to stay aware at all times and especially if something appears to be out of order. You then must move asserting your position in whatever way helps your situation. Be it leave, run, tossing keys or valuables or an alarm or negotiating. If this doesn’t solve your problem then you must immediately shift to your next line of defense... aggression. Aggression is what gives you the power you need to face violence. Aggression gives you an equal standing to violence. It shifts you from just standing up for your rights to fully committing yourself to defend yourself at all costs. Then a split second later you have one choice if they aren’t stopping or backing away with their potential assault you must act. Act in the form of motion. A very aggressive motion at your attacker. That action does not stop until the attacker stops moving anywhere in your direction. Immediately check no one else is around to also attack you. Too often attackers have backups. And yes you must do to them whatever you did to the first one... stop them in their tracks with whatever it takes. Then quickly get to a safe place.
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❗️This is imperative: • some ideas and quotes from @amberkhan podcast • [link in her bio]
In the rape culture that’s being installed upon us men are groomed to think they want a certain thing - the blankness. This mindset of control and oppression searches for a female with no redeeming qualities, that’s not going to oppose him and isn’t a threat in any way. The docile, timid, demure nature is instilled in women early so they are easy to deal with. It’s like having a “yes man” around, and no other species has that because it is the beginning of the end.
Once you suppress women - you control the culture, that’s why it’s so important to train them to not think anything of us.
But what’s going to happen when the world comes for you, and it always does...? An actual serious, fierce woman is such an asset to everyone she’s around. You need a smart, alert partner or else you both could die.
Why would you want to be anything less but the strongest, most beautiful, confident version of yourself ladies?
At volume 5 of Safe Spaces we are launching our support group for rape survivors. We understand that healing is a personal journey. We also know that support is a very crucial component to the healing process. This support group will provide a safe and confidential setting for survivors to share their feelings and thoughts with others who have experienced the same trauma. Members will also learn positive coping skills from each other in order to move into the role of "survivors"
If you'd like to be a part of the support group please send a DM or email email@example.com.
so many times the misconduct of adult men is downplayed or written off because "he has a bright future ahead" or "he is changing his ways" or "he is usually a nice guy". like, okay, but who cares? if he perpetuated sexual abuse against someone he needs to be held accountable for it, end of story. The reality of the trauma endured by the victim will always be more important than the potential of a man to change.
.sexual abuse is gender agnostic, this is just a specific issue observed when there is male on female abuse.
I’m pro-life mainly because when we have too many options we use them and it promotes a lack of personal responsibility. In cases of rape, the man should be publicly executed and the woman should be eligible for abortion. But other than that, I think we need to talk about personal responsibility. You have to learn through experience I suppose but will people learn if they always have the option to not suffer a consequence?