Having one of those weeks. You know the ones where you feel a bit blah, a bit unsure about things.
The silver lining though is that these periods for me are always followed by positive growth and changes.
So instead of getting too caught up in the negative feelings, I’m rolling with them and feeling excited about what’s around the corner 💕
Pesan Ibu Elly Risman
Senior Psikolog UI, Konsultan Parenting Nasional
Orangtua.., anakmu itu bukan kaset yang bisa kau rekam untuk kata-kata kasarmu.
Jagalah kata-katamu agar anak hanya tahu bahwa ayah ibunya adalah contoh yang baik, yang bisa menahan amarahnya.
Duhai orangtua, engkau pasti kesal kalau anakmu nakal.
Tapi pernahkan engkau berpikir bahwa kenakalannya mungkin adalah efek rusaknya jiwa anakmu karena kesalahanmu...
Kau pukul & kau cubit anakmu hanya karena melakukan hal-hal sepele.
Kau hina dina anakmu hanya karena ia tidak mau melakukan hal-hal yang engkau perintahkan.
Cobalah duduk dan merenungi apa saja yang telah engkau lakukan kepada anakmu.
Apakah engkau lebih sayang pada susu paling mahal yang tertumpah?
Anakmu pasti menyadari dan tahu ketika kemarahan itu selalu hadir di depan matanya.
Jiwanya pun menjadi memerah bagai bara api.
Apa yang mungkin terjadi ketika jiwa anak sudah terusik ?
Anak tidak hormat pada orangtua.
Anak menjadi musuh orangtua.
Anak menjadi sumber kekesalan orangtua.
Anak tidak bermimpi hidup bersama dengan orangtua.
Hal-hal inikah yang engkau inginkan, duhai orangtua ?
Ingatlah, jiwa anakmu lebih mahal dari apa pun termahal yang ada di dunia
Jaga lisan dan perlakukanmu kepada anakmu. 👶👦👧👶👦👧👶👦👧 Untuk saya dan bapak ibu semua.. Share buat para orang tua...☺🙏
🤱🏼 MILK 🍼
Breastfeeding Oscar has finally come to an end after 13.5 months. .
Before Oscar was born, I naively thought that breastfeeding would be so easy (which it is for some) but as it turned out, it was one of the hardest, most painful things I have experienced on and off for the first three months 😬. Throw suspected CMPA into the mix and I really felt like the odds were against us (I also REALLY missed cheese and chocolate!! 🙈) .
That said, I am so, SO glad that I persevered to get to the point where Oscar has now weaned himself off breastmilk. I always wanted to finish when he was ready and I’m not ashamed to say that I am really proud of myself for continuing this long in spite of everything. Motherhood has definitely shown me that I am mentally tougher than I ever thought.
It doesn’t matter how you choose to feed your baby (#fedisbest ) but if you do choose to breastfeed, you will not regret it. When it goes well, it is one of THE best feelings in the world. 😍🤱🏼 .
Picture above: I offered Oscar half a cup of @alpro oat milk (warmed for 20 seconds in the microwave and shaken) in his @munchkin_uk cup before bed last night. He took it and drank the lot then said “yum yum, tasty!” 😂 so I guess this will become part of his bedtime routine from now on (or until he works his way to the top of the milk ladder when he’ll be able to drink full fat cow’s milk). .
Another major, bittersweet milestone completed for me and my little guy ✅ 😢😊💕
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Keep the connection with your child - before the world and it’s despicable fuckers get their cunthooks on them.
Start whilst they’re young. Call it their time. For example, Tilly’s time. Or as @drlauramarkham_ahaparenting puts it "Special time"
Let your child direct play for 10-20mins
Give your lil one nothing but your undivided attention
Set a timer
No phones - No TV - Just you and your lil one.
Why do this?
It's great to improve your relationship with your child, plus it will help them dissolve any feelings of unease. It’s about connection. You have to be their role model – set the bar. Don’t let the media, their peers or any other outsider, tell or show them the way.
After all, its your duty so be their guide.