Growing up, my parents told me I could be anything and I believed them. 👩🏼⚕️ A doctor.
👩🏼⚖️ A lawyer.
👸🏼The White House Press Secretary (thanks @allisonbjanney). The problem was the "you can be anything" trope was primarily rooted in what kind of successful job I could have that would make a lot of money. I filtered out the part on what career would lead to a fulfilling life, what would enable me to collect experiences and meet lots of people. Instead, my takeaway was there was only one metric that mattered: how much money I could make.
I'm not unique here. My folks aren't the only parents that wanted their kid to be the best they could be. Establishing a structure for a new human being to follow, rooted in love, to help ensure that maybe my life would be a bit better than the generations before me - that's all good stuff.
And I thrived in this system. Except when I tried to be me. That's when society stepped in, people's projections stepped in, and my young creative soul got caught in the cross hairs. 🚨NO NO NO DON'T BE THAT. IT'S TOO DIFFERENT AND YOUR LIFE WILL BE TOO HARD.🚨 Colleagues and bosses said things over the years like: "be sure to bring your first date personality to this client meeting" - going on to say that my "full" personality is "too much" for potential clients and that I need to tone it down so we don't lose the business. And the classic: "you're throwing away a perfectly good career" when I went to skydive full time.
As time went on, the message I got was that I could be anything BUT me. Suddenly there was a list of physical characteristics I needed to embody before people would stop to consider my intellectual or creative talent. It took me decades of internalizing those kinds of messages before I realized that it wasn't true.
The last 12 years were some of the most painful of my life. There are pockets of pure joy tucked in there, and not surprisingly, those are the choices I made for myself based on my own standard for myself.
I'm a little bit closer to the me I have always known I can be. This rediscovery period is such an adventure as I get to know my soul and let her out for the world to see. 📸@blueskyshaman
While filling your Sunday with sights to see in Pasadena, one final stop is must! Taking a tour through the Gamble House is not only a must see, it's like walking through history preserved over the years. ✨
If you love history and have an understanding of fine historic architecture, then your day should include this tour.✨
Every detail and work of art of the walking tour will leave you amazed and appreciative of all the Gamble House offers.✨
Tours are Tuesday through Sunday, so make sure you check this off your Pasadena list‼️
Sunday brunch is a tradition enjoyed by so many. It's something that just makes the day last a little longer and more enjoyable.✨
If you are in Pasadena and want a great place to enjoy Sunday brunch, head over to La Grande Orange Cafe. ✨
Finding exactly what you want to eat is not a hard thing to do when looking at La Grande Orange Cafe. Every ingredient and dish is thoughtfully planned and picked from local farmer's markets. ✨
American cooking and fine drinks are all shared in a restaurant space that has been around since 1934. ✨
What makes the perfect Sunday brunch for you❓