Grief at any time is hard, but it is especially a trying time during the holidays. It is a time that you can get through with patience and support, it's definitely something you can't put a limit on. Here I've shared some of my family traditions, old and new and a few strategies that has helped me, and can possibly help you as well
Feel free to leave questions and or comments. God bless you all.
Screaming to Heaven Happy birthday son oh how I miss you!
I miss your voice,your sense of humor, your smile, your charm, your way of making mommy feel better. I just miss you, Happy Birthday son.Continue to rest easy.❤😘🙏
This statue is called "Emptiness" and was created by a grieving parent. It is a great attempt at describing how a parent feels after losing a child.
The hole is large the feeling is indescribable the pain is unimaginable the fact is real.
I'm not sharing what I think what I thought what I heard, I'm sharing what I know to be truth from experiencing it.
Until I felt the sting of death enter my own body it was hard to truly celebrate the Resurrection. I didn’t even realize my lack of anticipation and hope until it became ever so real to me after my first miscarriage and even more so after our second miscarriage. As we sang the lyrics in church today, “GONE, the tomb is EMPTY!” my mind immediately went to this gravestone in memory of unborn children. One of our children is buried there and my mind could barely contain the thought that one day she won’t be! I think Resurrection Sunday is my new favorite holiday simply because of the hope it inevitably brings. 🌷🕊💕
I’m a day late to the #BBBadvent , but still wanted to share. For some reason burning a candle feels a little sacred to me, it’s cozy and makes me want to slow down. And sitting here with a candle by my little Christmas tree filled with ornaments in honor of my two little ones feels so special. ❤️
To follow along with @burdenbearingbaskets’ advent, go to the link in their profile to download the calendar. Each day has a thoughtful activity for you to complete that allows you to pause and reflect on old memories of your lost loved one + to create new ones in their honor.
Today’s activity is buying coffee for the person behind you in line. An adorable card is included for you to print off and fill in about your child to be given to the person along with their drink. I see a late night Starbucks run in my very near future. 🌲☕️
Fun little fact: My best friend and I own @burdenbearingbaskets and today we released a FREE advent calendar! Each day from now until Christmas we have intentionally chosen an activity that will help your grieving heart as you face the holidays missing your sweet little baby, or any loved one for that matter. If your heart is weary just thinking about the holidays, then head over to @burdenbearingbaskets to find out how to download our #BBBadvent ! It’s free + easy + includes super adorable printables such as random act of kindness cards and adult coloring pages!
October is Pregnancy + Infant Loss Awareness Month. Two years ago in October I became a momma for the first time when I held a positive pregnancy test in my hands and a fearfully + wonderfully made child in my womb. It’s hard to fathom how my heart now yearns so deeply for the two sweet babies I’ve carried and lost since then. I never met them and yet I miss them beyond words. But I am so thankful for their lives and the ways they’ve changed my own life and drawn me closer to our Father. #iam1in4 and I am grateful that President Reagan declared the month of October Pregnancy + Infant Loss Awareness Month in 1988. It is a silent grief that so, so many women walk through. Feel free to share your stories of loss below. Your babies deserve to be honored + remembered this month (and every month). 💙💕
Guard your mind, as we mourn we become so open, so vulnerable, it's usually an open invite for sorrow and dark thoughts, that if not stopped right away can take root in our hearts, we can unconsciously begin to make vows, for instance to say things like"I'll never get over this pain, "I'll always have this hole in my heart" or "I'll never be able to move on" beloved these are vows,they will effect your thoughts and your views, I believe by saying these things we actually hinder the process of our healing, Jesus is close to those who are broken hearted but if we say these things we deny him the right to have access to the wounded areas of our soul, loss is a deep wound but it will not consume you, the sorrows will not have control over you, if you've said these things you can renounce them! You can take the time now to repent and allow God in! Give him access to your pain #concealerandaprayerlife#hopefilledfriday#joy#joyintherain#MourningMoms#mourning#grief#healthygrieving#loss#hope#healing
I was so honored to share my story about how my two miscarriages inspired me to start Lettered Hope on the @pregnancylossjourney blog today! The link is in my profile if you'd like to read more! 💕
Plus– you'll find a coupon code in the article that is good for the rest of the month! (And yes, I should have more copper "carried & loved" bracelets in stock by then!)
Hi friends 💕 I have created a miscarriage awareness shirt campaign. I couldn't find any shirts that I loved, so I designed this one and any money that is raised will help my business and ministry so that I can continue to help women experiencing this type of loss. If you'd like to order or read more details about my story and why I created this shirt, click on the link in my bio. :)
#Psalm23 seems like one of those cliche passages of scriptures everyone quotes until you actually find yourself in the valley of the shadow of death desperate for just an ounce of refuge. Then it becomes a lifeline and feels like a stream in the desert. 💜
Yesterday on the blog I posted about 2 Corinthians 1:3-7 | "This passage amazes me and convicts me all at once. How many places do I go every single day looking for comfort, even if just for a moment, that are not the Lord? Sometimes I go to my coffee or a dessert, sometimes I go to my husband, sometimes I go to Netflix, sometimes I go to Marshall's, sometimes I vent to a friend. But if I would just go to God and seek His face, I would be surrounded by His comfort. We make it so complicated; we allow ourself to wallow in sadness sometimes because we seek comfort in all the wrong places.
Netflix, food, our husbands, etc. numb out the pain. But God heals the pain. Other things help you forget about your pain for a moment or two, God walks with you through the pain so that eventually you can look back and praise Him for the pain. Things of this world are only a quick fix and deplete your hope, but God and His Son offer everlasting comfort and a never-ending source of true hope that reaches far beyond this world!
📸: @nicolynnolan_05 // @loydphotography
I love wearing this sweet bracelet everyday. It is not only a reminder that my two babies were carried & loved while they were still physically here on this earth, but also how their memory will be carried & loved in my heart for the rest of my life. There is a new option now in my shop– if you'd like to purchase one of these bracelets I can stamp hearts in honor of your babies. At checkout just let me know how many hearts you'd like added 💕 #LetteredHope#linkinbio
"Your heart only ever beat under mine."
For some reason this quote is so comforting to me 💕 I keep my new bookmark tucked in my Bible along with my ultrasound from our second pregnancy that shows our daughter's heartbeat next to Psalm 33:15— "he who fashions the hearts of them all and observes all their deeds."
This new bookmark is now in the shop for $3 + free shipping! The perfect gift to yourself or to another momma who knows the pain of being told her child's heart has stopped beating. 💔
Today on the blog I wrote about the abundant promises God has given us in Isaiah 25:4! Writing about this verse blessed me so much and I pray it also blesses you 💕 Whether you feel like you're drowning in a storm today, lost in the desert, or somewhere in between, this promise is for you! #LetteredHope#linkinbio
A new blog post on Psalm 61:2 is up on the blog!
"No matter how far away He feels, He's ever so near, working on me and my story. No matter where I go, no matter how hopeless it seems, or how far away from God I feel, I will keep crying unto Him... When your heart is overwhelmed, cry out to God. He is so, so faithful to meet us in our moments of despair. In the middle of our mess, He enters in with peace, sits with us through the night, and helps us move forward in hope to the breaking of the dawn."
Yesterday on the blog I wrote about Romans 15:13.
"When my heart aches with disappointment, is my hope still anchored in the Lord? Do I still believe that in the depths of affliction God is my ultimate joy Giver and peace Bestower? Answers to those questions that once seemed so sure can be shaken to their core in a season of grief and suffering."
Photo by my lovely friend @nicolynnolan_05 from @loydphotography and the adorable succulent planters are from my friend Natalie at @nspottery and her adorable display at @720market!
Last week on the blog I wrote about one of my favorite passages of scripture and how it became so meaningful to me.
"He is in every single situation, sisters! No matter how big, small, vulnerable, heartbreaking, intimate, crazy, or unfair it is. The Lord is omnipresent, or everywhere at once. It's hard to even wrap my mind around what that really looks like, but it is so comforting to know. He's in the midst of the biggest storm of the century, and He's in my hospital room as I face the biggest storm of my life. Sometimes His works are manifest and other times He is working behind the scenes, but He is always working for our ultimate good." #linkinbio •••
My super talented friend @nicolynnolan_05 from @loydphotography took this photo and I lettered over it on my iPad Pro. 🌿🖋
I am feeling so sad and sick of everything tonight. I have insane social anxiety everywhere I go because I cannot handle pregnant women right now and I'm terrified that someone else I know is going to announce a pregnancy. And for some reason I got super hopeful this month that I would get pregnant. I have no idea why, but now I'm not pregnant and feel miserable.
#11152015 was the date of our first miscarriage. 💔
Quoted from an angel mom...well said.
Today is the final day of pregnancy and infant loss awareness. This is why we share pictures and stories and statistics. Unlike breast cancer where there is a possibility of a cure, for pregnancy and infant loss there is not likely to ever be one. We very rarely get a cause or a reason for why our babies died. However if something we say or do helps just one avoid a loss by knowing the right questions to ask, just one in living with or through their grief or just one having resources so when they lose a baby they don't miss the opportunity to take pictures and make memories. Then all our tears and heartache have not been in vain. Our angels live on and have a legacy, those little tiny footprints have left a very big mark.
Quoted from an angel mom...well said.
Today is the final day of pregnancy and infant loss awareness. I could spend the day blowing up news feeds with more statistics and quotes. I have chosen instead to follow the example of some wonderful angel moms that run a support page here on Facebook. This is why we share pictures and stories and statistics. Unlike breast cancer where there is a possibility of a cure, for pregnancy and infant loss there is not likely to ever be one. We very rarely get a cause or a reason for why our babies died. However if something we say or do helps just one avoid a loss by knowing the right questions to ask, just one in living with or through their grief or just one having resources so when they lose a baby they don't miss the opportunity to take pictures and make memories. Then all our tears and heartache have not been in vain. Our angels live on and have a legacy, those little tiny footprints have left a very big mark.
FYI I dont make these posts for sympathy or pity parties this helps with my healing process being able to open up and express something I never really did before to share my testimony with others who may feel like I use to keeping feelings emotions balled in and stray away from the unexpected loss people just dont know how hard it is dealing with this type of pain postpartum and maintaing with life Im so happy that my progress is taking bigger steps and god is opening more doors to me meeting people who share the same hurt we are able to encourage each other with our different stories its easier to get advice from somebody that knows rather than somebody who wonders!! Im not trying to make anybody feel bad or whatever the case maybe so dont get it twisted!!! #mothersofunbornangels#PREGNANCYINFANTCHILDLOSS#mourningmoms#Iamasurvivor