My mother-in-law was a doctor in the Russian army during World War 2, traveling from camp to camp along the front, sleeping under the operating table. She told me that almost every day of the war, she had to amputate soldiers' limbs – almost always without anesthetic.
She shared this with me in a Botanic garden in Israel when I invited her to "be present" rather than locked in to "war zone" mode.
"Ima (Mom)," I told her, "You're not on the front. You're in Israel in a beautiful botanic garden with your daughter-in-law and grandchildren."
Chutzpa is a word that comes to mind. I was a young mom bent on helping a woman in her eighties emerge from battle.
"What do you know of where I am?!" she exclaimed more than asked. Then she told me about the amputations. "And do you know what they ALL cried?" she added. "Every one. We'd give them alcohol and I'd begin. At which point they began to scream. 'Mammatchke!' (Mommy!) they'd cry. 'Mammatchke!' until they passed out."
That conversation opened me to the depth of the mother-child relationship in a way I had not previously grasped.
One of the teachings I have found most useful to my clients is that whereas our parents are the mother and father of our bodies, the Holy One Blessed is He and the Shechina are the Father and Mother of our SOUL. It frees our earthly parents up from responsibility for our wellbeing as adults and therein opens the path to greater peace and joy both in ourselves and them. It also opens us to the healing power of surrendering to a G-d who is both all-powerful and intimately involved in our lives.
What are your thoughts on the undercurrent of our relationship with our moms? Of how to manage and heal it, allow it to flourish?
Want to explore more? If you’re in the LA area, I’ll be speaking on “Like Mother Like Daughter” at 8 pm this evening, 8835 Key St, LA, 90035.
“This is Roger. My father in law. He left us on October 28th of this year. It is still raw, unreal, unthinkable. He was diagnosed with cancer on August 9th and gave it a hell of a fight, but it was aggressive and ultimately took over his body. My husband and I are gifting this to his mom, my mother-in-law, Roger’s wife. I lost my father at a very young age to a tragic accident. My mother gifted me with a memorial tear on a necklace during my teenage years when dealing with his death became real for me. Greif is not something that you do or that you go through and then you are done. It is intertwined in our lives and it changes and evolves. I wore the necklace all the time. I continued to wear it as I got older, for big moments in my life and for the small. It was my way of having him with me. I could touch it, and know it was going to be ok, and if it wasn’t at least I knew he was with me. We are gifting this to her so that she can have him with her. In her day to day, in the big moments, the moments with the grandkids that are too hard to bare because we so want him there with us. He was a good, good man. He was loved, he is loved and he is missed deeply. Thank you.”
Six years ago today we all lost a special person when my mother-in-law, Judy Souza, left us to be with the Lord. Before she left she taught us all how to be a better person and to be thoughtful to others. She looks over us every day and would be proud of all of us. Love you Mimi! ❤️
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And this is why I love my mother in law ❤️ Child care crisis meant I had to ask if she could drive 3 hours from Yorkshire and look after the loons on Friday morning while I go to a meeting in Birmingham. Her response two seconds later....no questions, no I’ll see what I can do, just straight in there with I’ll come down on Thursday night. I know some people find their MILs tricky but from day one I have lucked out with mine and I will forever be grateful to her for always being there 👏
ПЕРВЫЕ ШАГИ! 🍁
Всегда очень сильно мечтала о ребенке, люблю этих сладких карапузов, всех готова зацеловать. Такие сладкие ангелочки всегда поднимають мне 😍😜 настроение.
Когда я стала мамой, я ощутила все прелести материнсва. Нелегкого конечно.
Но, первые слова, первые шаги - зто 💎 золотое время.
Наша крошка пошла сама в 11 месяцев ровно, и я не расстроилась, что позже меня на целый месяц. Ползать деткам очень полезно для спины, к тому же укрепляются все мышцы.
Первые шаги, до сих пор в моей голове. Такие приятные и теплые ощущения на душе, чувствуешь как ребенок взрослеет и достигает таких глобальных, для него 🐥 малыша, успехов.
Так смешно когда пупс 70+ сантиметров роста бегает с комнаты в комнату. Маленькие ножки настолько шустрые, что иногда не успеваешь за ней. Больше всего получаю бурю эмоций когда Тая бежит ко мне и бурчит под нос - "мама", "мама". Тут вообще устоять не возможно чтобы не ухватить ляльку и 😍💋расцеловать.
Стать мамой, я считаю - большой героизм, каждая мама сильный и бесстрашный воин. Пережить роды нужно, это конечно одно не из самых приятных чувств, но когда такое драгоценное чудо тебе первый раз приложат к груди, то всё - рай, эйфория и просто неземная радость 💕
Family history day. Mom and Eric found newspaper reports from 1894 covering Eric's famous great-grandfather, Jacob S Coxey. My mom, Lucy Sullivan, has volunteered at the archives for many years. She’s 86 years old and has spent her entire life in Butte, a city whose history she knows and loves