IDENTITY It wasn’t until recently that I realized it’s ok to have an identity outside of wife and mother. It wasn’t until uncertainty forced me to step outside of my “normal” routine and start the process of thinking “what does Kelly want”. So often we as wives and mothers put our goals on the back burner and somewhere on the road forget what it feels like to even want for ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with putting your family first but don’t forget yourself along the way. YOU matter and there’s nothing more fulfilling than holding space for yourself and including your goals and desires in the process.
Promising myself to travel more and to make travel an important aspect of self care. I’m constantly speaking about setting boundaries and making yourself a priority but never regularly schedule breaks to really zone out with my family and set out on adventures. Currently envisioning beaches, trains, airplanes and adventures for 2019. It’s time to start exploring as a family and even some just for mom and dad.
Q & A: How do you “balance” work versus mom life? * First, you know how I feel about the word balance. Balance is BS! Overall it’s about planning, prepping and trying my best to prioritize. Truly this should be a blog post. I have so much to say about this topic and I’ll make sure to touch on this more often. This, meaning the “blend of corporate life and mom life”. We always knew our goal was homeschooling and me being a stay-at-home mama. I was lucky enough to stay home for 6yrs. but financially things took a turn and we needed additional income. All that to say this is a new world for me. 2yrs. in and it still feels like I’m navigating this corporate life. Although Jason and I would love to live a more spontaneous life we realized being on a schedule was more realistic. So we figured out what works best for us and that’s throwing the idea of gender roles out of the window. During the school year it’s most difficult. I miss a lot of important dates. That means I may miss gymnastics but I’m present for all rewards and recitals. I drop off the kids at school and Jason picks them up. He makes breakfast and I make dinner... when I’m up to it. We share all responsibilities. Ultimately when I’m winning at work most of the time I’m slacking at home and vice versus. I had to surrender and accept that it will never be 100% for both at one time. So back to tips... The crockpot is amazing for pre-prepped dinners, don’t be afraid to ask for help, if you can afford a cleaning lady hire her and if you can’t do what you can and don’t stress just surrender and do your best, prioritize days for family and more than anything create boundaries for family when you’re at work or work when you’re with your family.
Sorry @mikerowe but I might have just bought SEVEN boxes of the bleak, gluten free wasteland cookies. A troop had some left and so I bought them all. I couldn’t help myself. I mean once they are gone they are gone. 🤣