For Viann and her husband Oscar, their long and bumpy road of infertility began 9 years ago. After numerous tests and failed treatments, IVF was their only hope of conceiving. In 2015, the procedure was successful. Early in the twin #pregnancy , one of the #embryos stopped developing, however subsequent ultrasounds revealed a strong heartbeat with the second. Their prayers had finally been answered and their dream of having a child was becoming a reality. At nearly 10 weeks, their doctor uttered the words no one ever wants to hear, “I’m sorry, there’s no heartbeat.” Overwhelmed with grief, and so many other unnamed emotions, the months and years that have followed have not been easy. No one is ever really prepared for how to cope with loss. It’s not something that is taught in school and in most families, not discussed openly. Men and women grieve differently and the couple would soon learn, these strong #emotions began to manifest in different ways.
In the months prior to IVF, Viann made it her mission to prepare for her body for pregnancy the best she could. It was almost like training for a marathon. Her regimen included an anti-inflammatory diet and numerous vitamins and #supplements . She felt strong and hopeful and started a blog to share her journey and encourage others #strugglingtoconceive .
Soon after their loss, that feeling of hope began to fade. Between the #IVF medications, and miscarriage, the hormonal roller coaster was unrelenting. Viann no longer felt she had a reason to focus on her health. There was nothing to look forward to and feelings of apathy set in. Not sure how to help his wife through this emotional struggle, Oscar did the best he could to be a supportive and loving husband while dealing with his own feelings of grief. He often found solace in lone fishing trips and spending time with nature.
Last minute beech htrip to wales mummyandArcher time 💙my sand monster #messy baby... try stoping a child from eating bsand 😅 #messymonsters dandbaby. Do not apply suncream to your child's head then let them role around in the Sand 😂😂😂😂😂 love our random days this dude is just the best 💙💙💙💙💙💙🦋💋
Messy but kinda cute.
That’s what I want to say to myself tonight, and that’s a lot thanks to @doddleoddle last video.. this is goblin me, last night at 3am. I like this pic of me, tho my hair is not perfect and I’m hiding behind the very famous b&w filter. After your vid, dodie (yeah let’s pretend you’re reading this) I really started thinking about my goblin side and tho I don’t really like this version of myself, it’s the one that allows me to be the “normal” me the day after the goblin time. It probably doesn’t make sense and I’m sorry, but I get what I mean. Goblin me is not that bad, I quite enjoy not wearing makeup and staying in pj and messy (sometimes quite dirty) hair, not going out and feeling ok with being just by myself? I mean, as sad as it sounds, it feels nice so I should apologize for not liking this version of me because society makes it a bad thing “healthy” people don’t do. Well I’m messy (edit: like this freaking caption omg) and not healthy, yet goblin me is the one that keeps me going most time (nights) so I thank her by this long stupid post and yeah, that’s it. Embrace your inner goblin and feel good about yourself. I know I’ll try to do it more now. To feel good about myself, I mean. Night ❤️
Ps: thanks Dodie from the bottom of my heart. Your book is my bible. Is that a thing I’m allowed to say? Well I did. Then again, you’re not reading this so that’s whatever 😂
PPS: if you’re still reading this please go over to @doddleoddle channel she gives wonderful wonderful advices and I love her very much so I think you’d be happy to have this cutie in your life as well. Just sharing some wisdom here.