I want to talk about grief & loss of a loved ones today.. Our family has endured a lot of loss over the years. It is Something I haven’t spoken about on my page before. I don’t cope well with loss and grief. I struggle to understand that the world can be so cruel to human beings. I shut down and internalise everything. The first loss I had was when I was 5 years old. My grandad passed away. It was a confusing time. I didn’t understand that my beloved grandad had gone. I still hold memories in my heart of him even from a young age.The 2nd loss was my nan at 17. I didn’t cope with this well. My nan had a stroke when I was around 10yrs old. They told us she has a day to live. I always remember going to the hospital to say goodbye. It was heartbreaking. She went on to live for 8 years and unfortunately had another stroke and passed away. Having to go and say goodbye all over again was horrendous! We then lost my cousin jay. 12 yrs old taken suddenly from the family. It is 9 years today we lost jay. We then lost my another cousin Brett. 30 yrs old. A strong character in my family. Full of life and a bad influence on me. Always Sneaking me cigarettes and weed. I have amazing memories of an amazing human being! We then lost my auntie sue a year later. We all say she died of a broken heart from losing Brett. My uncle has been through hell losing his son and wife within a year and is just an amazingly strong man!! We then lost my dads best friend.martin..He was more like my uncle.. I have amazing memories of Martin we went on so many amazing holiday with him and his partner. Canada, America. Just great great memories and my most recently loss. My grandad Brian. We lost him a few months ago. He had parkingsons and dementia. Again, he had a fall and we were told he had 2 weeks to live. My mum was in Australia and I was up the hospital every night feeding him dinner and holding his hand. He pulled through but he got ill again and this time he just wasn’t strong enough to pull through. I think it’s always important to talk about our loved one we have lost. It keeps their memory alive. Grief is a horrendous thing.. And i wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy!
I’m sorry your thoughts are spinning around in your head. That there’s no time to act yet no time to rest. That you can’t catch a break & that you're misunderstood. I hope that even in this darkness, you listen to the part of you that is sure your anxiety isn’t all of who you are, because your pain doesn’t define you. I hope that you can let yourself rest, breathing through the time it takes until your fight rises up over this. I hope that you’ll give yourself permission to have a bad day, & to survive it. & then, one day soon in this life, I hope you’ll give yourself permission to really live. I hope we all can really live. #foryou#anxietywarrior
So much of life comes down to willingness, when you think about it.⠀
★ Willing to choose kindness.⠀
★ Willing to view others as equals.⠀
★ Willing to treat yourself with respect.⠀
★ Willing to set boundaries.⠀
★ Willing to put in the effort.⠀
★ Willing to change.⠀
And yes, willing to learn. Learning isn’t limited to education either. Are we willing to learn about other people? Are we willing to grow in empathy? Are we willing to pursue personal growth and learn how to release our past or change direction for the future?⠀
Are we willing to learn how to let go of or undo our stubborn habits that sabotage our health?⠀
Half, if not more, of the education process is learning how to ask the right questions. ♡
Do it for you! 🙌
So many get caught up in what will others think.
In the past I use to focus on doing things to impress others. I soon realized the only person that I should be trying to impress is myself. 🔥
If you are setting out to achieve something, do it for you. 🙌
Don’t always be looking for other peoples approval.
Achieve the things you want.
Be proud of yourself and what you can accomplish.🔥🙌💪
Get a Grip Book Club
Cant recommend @jordan.b.peterson work enough and excited to go and see him live in Birmingham in November. Just search him on youtube and there is a wide array of interesting talking points.
’12 Rules for life hits home- from identifying the deeply engrained hierarchical ladder that motivates our decision - making to asking indispensable and sometimes politically unpopular questions about your life and suggesting ways to better it’ 🌎Helping humans reconnect and thrive🌎
A week into October, and we have been busy planning for our small mental health awareness campaign in October. .
A heartfelt thankyou to those who have reached out to help us in every possible way so far. Supporting through your business, sharing personal struggles and stories. We will be sharing our program and initiative in the next few days. .
In the mean time, if you are struggling, would like to support, or know of anyone who needs support. Please reach out to us. Let's gather together, turn your struggle to an educational tool, equip the community with more insights on mental health. X
The thoughts that you think are so important for the results that you have in your life. If you see only the negative, fear the worse, or are consumed with worry, that’s what you are going to feel. The way that you feel will always determine the way that you act, behave and the results that you have. Encourage yourself to train your mind to be a resourceful tool that empowers you in how you think and feel so that you are not kidnapped by negative thoughts and emotions.
My class message today was inspired by the incredible @kat.john She posted this quote that struck a chord with me:
Using the present moment to feel f#%kin shit about shit that isn’t happening.
Sounds familiar doesn’t it.... something I too had to hear.
We spend so much of our time living in the future, worrying about shit that might or could happen. We forget that in doing so - the present moment, HAPPENING NOW, just slips away, leaving us spending far too much time in a state of stress or panic rather than at peace and present. What’s more, we waste time and energy on shit that isn’t happening and may not even happen.
It’s a daily practice - but what happens if we focussed on the here and now. How much of our anxiety and stress would subside, even just a little.....
I challenged my crew to worry only about the present moment in class, that at any point, they were safe and elevated by each other’s energy.
How do we grow, if we just don’t face each moment and deal with it as it happens. Life isn’t always going to be a bed of roses...... SHIT HAPPENS PEEPS !! But the beauty is in learning from the falls.
Happy Sunday amazing ones xx
➰ Возможно я и ошибусь, если употреблю слово «большинство» в каком-то совершенно общем плане в разрезе этого поста 🙂 Но опираясь на личную статистику, могу уверенно констатировать, что большинство из людей, которых я знаю, так или иначе сталкивалось со страхом «потерять себя»... Причём эта потеря согласно все той же статистике чаще всего ассоциировалась с такими процессами, как вступление в «серьёзные отношения», радикальная смена места жительства, рода деятельности и т.д. Лично мне потребовался довольно продолжительный период размышлений, чтобы дойти своим закостенелым мозгом до, казалось бы, весьма очевидной сути... Которая для меня открылась в том, что просто физически невозможно потерять то, что ты ещё не обрёл... И как бы парадоксально это ни прозвучало.. НО именно обретя, ты перестаёшь бояться потерять! ➰
The pain experienced during #mentalilllness is often magnified when it's kept in private. Having the courage to be transparent with someone about what's going on for you can often be a crucial step in the journey towards recovery and change. Don't leave your story untold #SpeakUp 🗣
What is a panic attack?
A panic attack is an exaggeration of your body’s normal response to fear, stress or excitement. It is the rapid build-up of overwhelming physical sensations, such as: • a pounding heartbeat • feeling faint • sweating • nausea (feeling sick) • chest pains • feeling unable to breathe • shaky limbs, or feeling like your legs are turning to jelly • feeling like you’re not connected to your body.
What can I do about panic attacks?
Talk to someone you trust 🕺
Try a breathing exercise 🧘♀️ Try shifting your focus 💭
Listen to music 🎧
Try reassuring yourself 🤔
Physical exercise 🏋️♂️ Keep a diary 📖
Eat a healthy diet 🥗
Complementary therapies 💆♂️ Support groups 🗣
There are some good Self-help resources here: https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/
Let’s start a conversation ✌️ #LETSSTARTACONVERSATION#PANIC#MentalHealth#TimeToTalk#MentalHealthMates#MentalHealthAwareness#MentalIllness#MentalHealthMatters#MentalWellbeing#MentalHealthIsTrending#MentalHealthNurseRich
[Re:music industry] Our field of work is unhealthy. Great financial risk, unlike return of investment, long hours, limited to no structure, lots of racism and sexism, locker room homophobia and transphobia, late night social engagements, the glamorisation and encouragement of alcohol and drug take. Surely, the aforementioned stress caused by newly integrated technologies is definitely playing its role too - but it’s not that we didn’t already have problems. If the industry wants to stop having a mental health problem, it should work for it. Each for their own and all for all. We have a problem and our industry needs a staged intervention ASAP.
- From my speech Improving an Artist’s Mental Health at this year’s Reeperbahn Festival/VUT Indie Days.
Clear Quartz is powerful, it is also programmable, meaning we can charge it or dedicate it to hold any attribute we wish.
If you are feeling self-conscious and you're feeling like you need support, you can charge Clear Quartz with a confidence attribute. If you're looking to improve your feelings of self-worth, you can charge Clear Quartz with a self-love attribute.
When the moon is full tomorrow, place your Clear Quartz beneath it’s light. Place another stone next to it; one that you want to apply its charge to your Clear Quartz. For example, you could place a rose quartz next to your Clear Quartz to infuse the programmable stone with self- esteem, restore confidence & balance emotions. The moon has cleansing and charging properties, and will wipe your stones clean of energetic buildup, while transferring the attributes of one stone to the other; in this case, the rose quartz to the Clear Quartz. This type of charge stays potent for the entire moon cycle.
Remember we always have #youinmind
xx - Zuela ♡
First tattoo: DONE!
Growing up in a conservative home/community/religion, meant that I thought of my body as something that didn't really belong to me, and all the decisions I made about it was supposed to be in sync with what outside forces (like an invisible higher power, or my parents, or school or church) would want for me. I've always loved the idea of a tattoo but grew up feeling immense guilt about it.
Now, I'm almost 27, and this experience was actually a liberating one for me. It was probably the first time in my life that I made a decision that actually helped me say that this body is mine, and I can do whatever I want to do with it.
And I'm SO happy with the results. 😍
Thank you to @popluvito and @realkbot for this amazing gift and for pushing me to do it, every time it looked like I was going to chicken out. And a shoutout to @chulumanco who decided that he wasn't going to hold my hand through it, but took on the role of Ultimate IG Bae instead. 💙🧡 [Tattoo was done at @blackandwhitetattoos by Dave]
Whilst strolling round Windsor with my lovely gal pals I stumbled upon this card that really angered me (so apologies in advance for this rant!). I understand the general message of this card is a positive one however i find the language- littered with shame heavy slogans very troubling. ○ "Suck it up, so you don't have to suck it in" "You dont get the ass you want by sitting on it" •
Yes, many people use exercise as a weight loss tool but why is it assumed that it is the primary reason that people exercise?! Why do gym ads/silly cards in silly shops never suggest lowering cholesterol/reducing stress/general INTERNAL health as a worthy gym goal? It seems exercise has been glorified as an all-out war on our bodies. The "go hard or go home" "excuses don't burn calories" approach, the military style drills and general glorification of pain?! 💩 •
At the bottom of this card it reads "daily exercise and healthy eating leads to increased awesomeness". Although this is a well meaning phrase- it implies that pushing your body to extremes & normalizing severe discomfort will make you on the whole, a better person (hint: it won't). 👍 •
By no means am i saying that intensity in exercise is a bad thing- i suppose its all about finding the middle ground. But i am so sick of gyms/fitness industry in general ubiquitously shaming people into exercise as opposed to encouraging them. 👐 •
I really believe that exercise can boost our physical & mental health when done in the right way, however (in my pointless opinion- lol sorry for the ramble this defs is one of those annoying posts) the fitness industry fails to acknowledge that the current "sweat your way to success" approach to exercise can often do more harm than good grrrr ○ (V soz for the rant & maybe im just being overanalytical/fussy buuuut meh if you don't like it then just scroll on past ⏩📱) •
"We know it’s possible to use time effectively and enjoyably to make the most of your day, rather than finding life dictated by time!" Time management workshop with spiritual and philosophical approaches added. TREAT ❤
well last night was bladdy amazing ,,, if not a lil messy o o p s.
thank u panna for a great night and everyone for being so kind and looking after me !!!
highlight has to be doing the cha cha slide with alexa on full volume ;)
lots of love lads
Brussels, Belgium where a late night kebab literally saved my life! Brussels in a Day where beetles decorate palaces and a cave with 2004 beers actually exists. Not to mention the idolised statues of kids peeing.
All the independent traveling women put your hands up! A solo female traveler is somewhat of a rare breed. We are often called "brave" which is a title still difficult to digest. Adventurous, yes. Independent, yes. Travelers, hell yes. Simply wanderlusters that couldn't wait any longer. We're asked why we are not traveling with others, we each have the same answer. If we waited for someone the four of us would not have had this moment and the opportunity to make the memories to follow.
From France, USA, Canada and Australia. Our conversations don't revolve around the mundane instead comparing countries and continents, similarities and differences, where we've traveled and where is next on our hit list. .
Lesson: 1) She who waits may wait forever 2) Black swans flying together, if only for a moment, is rare and lovely occurrence to experience
These guys! Oh these guys. They are the prefect duo to dint the stereotypical ways of the French. Julien and Alexandre are traveling Croatia in true bromance style. Alex having spent a decent stint in Australia has managed to pick up an Aussie sense of humour delivered with a French accent. We went for a beverage the boys gave me a profanity education in French. There are not many hostel goers who can stur you after a 6am return from a pub crawl without the need to kill but these two with their "G'day mate" and "Hey Aussie" at the break of dawn did so with such humour they just got away with it. It would be a hoot to catch up with these two when in France. Possibly still intoxicated but with a checkout time looming this photograph was taken.
Lesson learned: Thankfully with stereotypes there are always the exceptions.