Human rights issues that uniquely or disproportionately affect men:
1. Paternity fraud (only affects men)
2.US selective service (in case of a draft) still uniquely affects men
4. War deaths
5. Suicide (overwhelmingly men)
6. Sentence indisparity
7. Life expectancy
9. Child support
10. False rape allegations
11. Criminal court bias
13. Failure to launch
14. Boys falling behind in education
16. Veterans issues
17. Infant male genital mutilation
18. Lack of parental choice when the child is conceived
19. Lack of resources for male victims of domestic violence
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After six hours of being open, here are the results of the poll from my story. I’m a little surprised that ‘no’ was the majority (although I agree). Throw in your take in the comments if you didn’t get to vote!
#mensrights#metoo#human#allgodschildren He who is without sin cast the first stone. She should heed those words. As should we all. Bringing to light this ironic twist of events does little to return the good name of many men. Hopefully with this we will learn some semblance of balance.
Siding with a movement that screams “toxic masculinity” as a male equates to one of the following options:
1. A lack of self respect.
2. The belief that through supporting such anti-male movements one will be able to sleep with a woman more easily.
Nine times out of ten it is not to push the generally baseless ideas of modern feminism.
I increasingly understand that masculine development tends to run across multiple stages and with each one having a kind of built in goal. In this wonderful book #richardrohr discusses the unique journey of the soul in the second half of life. While in the first half we are preoccupied with building our ego (achieving and performing), in the second stage we advance more through loss, falling and failing than the earlier pathways. The way up becomes the way down, so to speak. +
men’s gurus today, #probros , often preach a gospel of the first stage of life. My concern about this approach is that it fundamentally misses the goal of maturation and development. Moving from wild man to wise man is the progression. However we are so resistant to this truth that it often takes a failure, loss of a job, a lost reputation, a sudden death, or sickness, to bring us to seeing clearly. Without these kind of shocks, a man who should have moved forward to second stage goals Exists in a kind of arrested development. Like an old country song—get the house back, the girl back, go back to the good ole days when I appeared happier. Etc. +
Men in the first half MUST achieve and conquer. They MUST build and grow. They must increase their brand. Men in their second half must let these things go. They must now confront their shadow, their ego. They must give their empire away, or let go of it as an ideal. They must pour into others. They must begin to find value in the value of something more than themselves. This is spiritual mastery. +
The men I interview on “Lost Man Standing” are often men in this second stage of life, looking for meaning on the downward ladder. While it’s easy to sell younger men’s goals, it’s far more challenging to do the soul work of composting, fermentation, and honing. I’m proud to get to talk to these men. +