You are not a special snowflake
You are unique, you are no unicorn.🦄
Real talk - our circumstances are widely varied, but ultimately we are all the same not only at the cellular level, but also in our aspirations. Ultimately, we all aspire to happiness and self-actualization, aka LIVING OUR BEST LIFE.
It might look slightly different for everyone, but before you put up walls and assume that no one understands you, just give this some thought.
You are not a special snowflake.
On every level, we have more in common than we have differences.
Hi everyone, I was watching multiple videos and was reminded of how important it is to love yourself - truly. Not superficially, but down to the core. We hear it all the time, you must love yourself first to love others. You must take care of yourself before you take care of others. But in the midst of LIFE, work, kids, working out, progressing, or just resting, we forget what that really means. What does it mean? It means respecting yourself. Respect yourself to think positively about who you are, what you have achieved, and what you’re working for. Respect yourself to eat foods that allow you to stay “healthy” long-term. Respect yourself to rest when you need to and not feel guilty about it. Respect yourself to choose to be around people that care for you, that lift you up and propel you forward. Respect yourself to say no, when NO is needed. To respect yourself means to love yourself. We all want acceptance, attention, and love from others. But it all begins with us. Our thoughts, our words, our choices. #WellnessWednesday#BloomWellnessConsulting#LoveYourselfFirst
The day I delivered my baby I was 191 lbs (nobody believes me but it’s true), my stage weight for the San Antonio Classic (about 5 1/2 years after Maesa) was 112 lbs. The skin on my belly is there because I had a baby but it’s also there because I enjoyed lots of panda express and late night migas at Jim’s Restaurant with my husband 😜 When I decided to compete in a Bikini competition, my stomach was by far my biggest insecurity. I desperately hoped the skin would tighten up and I would have that pretty flat stomach like everyone else but nope👎🏻, it didn’t happen for me. On the day of my competition a girl commented on my stomach & I’d be lying if I said it didn’t mess with my head. I started comparing myself to her and the rest of my competition & yup mine was the worst🤷🏼♀️ So after tearing myself down for a good 30 minutes, I said eff it & eff her✌🏼
You see life happens the way it happens and we all make decisions based on our circumstances at the time. You can’t change yesterday, and I sure as hell couldnt change the choices I made over 5 years ago (and I wouldn’t anyways because my baby was a butterball the day she was born❤️). The only thing I could change were my thoughts at that very moment and I could either allow some shit comment ruin my show day or allow it to feed my fire🔥Fast forward to placings👉🏻 I got first call outs in both my classes and 4th place in open bikini Class A...and as for her she got nothing👌🏻 .
Don’t ever underestimate yourself. Don’t ever let someone take your power away. Your biggest competition will always be your mind and you gotta train yourself to believe in yourself and ALWAYS love yourself even when nobody else does. Just some real words for a world full of assholes 🖤
This seriously gives me all the goosebumps. 😱 If you’re reading this, and this just hits a deep part in your chest girlfriend... I FEEL you!! This was me.. and still is me, from time to time. Let’s be real. Life is HARD. Adulting is hard. Being a WOMAN is hard. 🤷🏻♀️ It’s 100000x easier to put your own well being in the back burner & take care of everyone else.. than it is to take time for your OWN self. Well girl.. lemme ask you.. how you going to give love, support && your best effort to those close to you.. If you aren’t first fueling yourself? 🤨Ever since I’ve decided to just do the damn thing, and put myself first for once.. and surround myself with some incredible powerful women, spend time on personal development && my relationship with God.. man.. my soul is just on FIRE 🔥 who knew all it took was saying YES to myself.. and getting out of my own way. If this is you girl.. and you’re sitting there nodding...I’m here for you. Life is so much easier with a tribe, than it is walking alone. 👏🏻💓#selflove#strengthinnumbers#madeforbrave#refiningtherealness#motherhood#fittribe#loveyourselffirst#fillyourcup#selflovedeficitrecovery#yesyoucan#noexcuses#warrioronfire
Another day ✅ I had an ultrasound today follow up and make sure my kidneys are pushing these stones out permanently all to find out I’m hyper producing again.
I’m at a loss...nothing has changed recently except for me getting so ill with pneumonia and strep. I take good care of myself with my diet/exercise.
The silver lining I’m choosing right now is simply this....we were able to find a way to control my stones before, we’ll be able to do it again. If I don’t talk about it, it is because I don’t like to complain 🙏
Any good diet suggestions for kidney stone factory people like myself?
In my 32 years (😳🤭) I’ve had seasons of deep sorrow, rampant rebellion, aspiration, contentment, indifference, passion, bliss, adventure, depression, anxiousness, euphoria, and more. ✨
I’m grateful for every second. Of all the things I could have been, this is what I am, and I’m damn proud. But it’s time to step up my game. I’m made for more; I can feel it in my soul.
2019 is MY year. A year filled with magic, healing, self-love, inspiration, creativity, and the TENACIOUS pursuit of the BEST version of myself.
My gratitude journal is started (thank you @msrachelhollis and @theholliscompany )and my calendar is already filled with classes, events, conferences, and races. BRING IT THE F*** ON. ❤️✨🖤🥰💫🧨🔥
Felt suddenly very panicky earlier. Couldn’t identify why. Knee jerk reaction was to reach somewhere outside of myself for peace. This has been a theme.
I don’t want to be alone. But I don’t want to be dependent on anyone either. I don’t want to convince myself that I need less simply because I believe my needs are an inconvenience.
As most recovering co-dependents experience, I’ve over-corrected by swinging into full independence mode (I’m gonna write a long thing about this sometime soon). It’s true that as I’ve learned to be for myself what I used to expect others to be for me, I've identified some “needs” as unnecessary that used to feel essential.
But I wonder if some of that is because certain needs went unmet for so long and I learned to adapt just to feel sane? In some ways, I became small, self-sufficient, the opposite of a burden — out of a fear that I’d be too much for people, too needy, and they’d leave. But my fear of them leaving outweighed my honesty.
I’ve decided to stop being someone I’m not. Because doing something just to prevent being abandoned is gross. So I’m learning to ignore the fear and be myself, whether they leave or stay.
I’m trying to honestly confront my needs/boundaries and bravely vocalize them no matter the outcome, in an effort to swing from extreme independence towards the middle — I think “interdependence” is the word. I’ve only ever known co-dependency and independence. Not sure I’ve ever known a healthy interdependence.
This self-editing is a life-long habit—ever since I first felt that someone didn’t like me as a young girl, I’ve been trying to be what I thought people would want. I paid attention to how I was perceived and adapted my identity accordingly. Every time I was rejected or made to feel like I was too much or not enough, it happened again: the self-editing. I got along this way for years.
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📣UPDATE: JOHN & RITA 📣
Congratulations to this champion couple🏅 for smashing STEP 2 of their journey. The 65 day' Burn that Fat' stage.
Here is an update on how they are tracking since the beginning of their journey:
✔down 13 kgs.
✔down 9% body fat.
✔down 12cm from his waist, 14cm from his chest, 14cm from his hips, 21cm from his stomach.
✔ down 14kgs.
✔down 8% body fat.
✔down 8cm from her bust, down 9cm on each of her thighs, down 12cm from her hips, down 13cm from her waist and 14cm from her stomach.
So how have these losses improved their quality of life? ⭐Rita is now able to fit into clothes she hasn't worn in 20 years! 👗
⭐ John has dropped 5 holes on his belt buckle!👖
⭐ At the beginning of her journey Rita’s blood sugar level was in the high-risk range (16) and is in the medium risk range (9). ⭐ One week into Step 1 of his journey John was able to stop taking his high blood pressure and gout tablets (which he had been taking for 34 years!). After struggling for 40+ years with weight loss and exercise our program has finally given them the KNOWLEDGE and DESIRE to lead a healthier more active lifestyle and most importantly a HAPPIER lifestyle. They are both such an inspiration, and a testimony to it never being too late! 👫
Good luck to you both in the last stage of your journey; step 3 'How to maintain It'.
The Holiday season is the perfect excuse to forget about ourselves. The thing is, you cannot pour from an empty vessel.
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#Reposting because I’m learning how to love myself again ⚠️Warning; Long Post⚠️
In this life you've got to love yourself first. Happiness comes from within, yes other people contribute to this but if you're constantly putting yourself second, third or last your never gonna know what it feels like to be put first. You deserve to be someone's number one, their top priority. Like wise, you should be able to do that for them as well. But you'll never be able to put some one you love at the top of your list if you've never put yourself there. You gotta love yourself, not in a "love the way you look way" I'm all about body posi 🙌🏻 but you have to love the way you think, fall in love with your choices, know the hurt from falling but know the bliss of getting back up. Making a mistake and learning from it. Loving that you made it a lesson and not a regret. Be open and honest with yourself, your friends, and your family. Knowing it's perfectly okay to say how you're really feeling instead of "I'm fine" when someone asks how you're doing. It's okay to cut negative people out of your life. Positivity is key in my life but I'm not going to lie and say everything is perfect all the time. I have an amazing life with great friends, family and opportunities. I am incredibly lucky for this life I've been given. Moral of the story: love yourself, be happy, don't put up with anything or anyone you don't have to.
Happy Wednesday 🎄⛄️🎄winter is approaching fast here in Rockies❤️. It’s a great time to begin a meditation practice or be inspired by something new 🙏tap the little circle (above left) to find free guided meditations on Loving Kindness, Gratitude and more.🙃#happywednesday#happyface#relaxandbreathesummmit
SORRY NOT SORRY 😉but today my #wcw is me💕Y’all its time to just be really real about the fact that’s it’s perfectly👌🏽 to love yourself 🥰 -
I honestly don’t care what anyone else has told you — ITS NOT SELFISH NOR SELF CENTERED TO LOVE YOU 😍 -
And while I’m certainly not saying you need to walk into every room proclaiming how much you love you (as Tbh that can come off kind of aggressive and is quite unnecessary in most situations 😂), what I am saying is that showing yourself self-love by honoring you — and trusting you — and crushing on you — and giving back to you — is a wonderful and beautiful thing💖 -
You should absolutely be proud to love you for exactly who you are, and for exactly where you are on your journey, no changes necessary 💪🏽 So be kind to you today. 😍. Crush on you today 💕 And continue with our month long commitment to #loveyourselfmore 💖 We’re in this together my YOGARIDAZ — my yogis 🧘🏽♀️ and my ridaz 🚲 let’s do this❣️👊🏽😘