Regrann from @terryderon - I say all the time that expectations are what leads to disappointment and heartbreak. So when women have an expectation that having sex with a man is going to produce a certain result they are inevitably setting themselves up to be hurt and disappointed if it does not turn out that way. If women would see sex for what it is, a mutual act of pleasure between two people, and choose to do it because they want to give and receive pleasure they would experience a lot less heartbreak and have a completely different perspective on men, sex, and relationships in general. I hear women all the time say things like “men should just be up front and say they just want sex”, which is rarely the case between a man and woman since there are usually multiple other things that occur between them that build up to the point of being on the level to have sex. My question to women is why aren’t y’all expected to be up front with men. A lot of men would pass up on pussy if y’all made it clear y’all were only giving it to him to manipulate him into a relationship! Tag someone that would like my page or the things I talk about! ↗️ Turn on your post notifications!! Tag someone that would like my page or the things I talk about! #terryderon#expectations#relationshipadvice#lovelife#dating#relationships#message#nolie#wordstoliveby#truestory#trust#respect#realtalk#imjustsaying#facts#truelove#accurate#reallytho#truthbetold#loyalty#straightup#factsonly#worstfeeling#lonely#trustissues#breakups - #regrann
Fourteen Desserts of My Life
(6/14) Caramel Candy Cubes
He’s right, you can’t depend on your friends all the time. But I see it differently: it’s not about my friends failing me, rather, I shouldn’t depend on them when I need someone to be there. I should be depending on myself ‘cause, in the end, all I have is myself to count on.
I was waiting for the exact moment to write this and there I was feeling it again. I hate and love this feeling not because of what I feel but because I know I’ll learn to get through it alone without depending on anyone.
It’s that moment when I feel like I don’t have anything or anyone. No one to talk to. No one to confide with. These are the moments I want to talk to someone but I don’t know who I can talk to or if I want to. These are the moments I feel that I’ve bothered so many and I can’t run to them anymore. These are the moments I want to cry my heart out but if I do, I’ll let everything sink in, end up crumbling down, and back to where I’ve started. These are the moments when I think I have nothing left, not even myself. I’ve built a wall because of pride and I still won’t let it go. I long for peace in my head and trying to do things alone but the more I try, the more I long for someone to be there. Am I alone? Am I lonely?
There’s a big difference between alone and lonely. At this moment, I think I’m alone and always lonely. But there’s an upside to all these... this has always been the exact moment I realize that I am capable of so much more. Now, all I have to do is surpass the now and find the courage to push forward.
🍬 This is very personal so don’t try looking for any connection between the candy and what I’ve written. I always had a hard time looking for this candy whenever I crave for it. The day before my birthday I found it like how I found a deeper part of myself today. Two things that I got from writing this are: (1) Loneliness is state of mind. Well, for me. I could have chosen not to be lonely if I want to all along; and (2) I was never alone. My mind was playing tricks on me, as always. I can never be alone with my thoughts. I can be happy in my “solitude”; I just have to fight the demons inside my head.