As a kid I wrote letters and put them in a bottle to throw in the sea, that inspired me to make this. This is a tiny lovenote that says "I love you forever" as long as you live the love will never fade or be forgotten.
I know this isn’t as exciting to all of you as it is for me but this means the world to me. Little notes are the best to find especially from your boyfriend. Like seriously, it gives me a sense of joy and love. I love you so much @roldvold you are my everything. •
The concept of queens letter to all my ladies👸 #speakup •
I've written a bunch of articles on the topics of "Speaking Up" and realized that it can be difficult to know where to start. Especially when you have felt disrespected, have not been able to react on the spot and keep thinking about it.
The other day, my girlfriend came up with a hilarious & witty concept.
The Queen's Letters.
The concept is simple: when you want to set someone straight, whether a lover, a friend, a colleague or literally anyone who recently messed with you, you prepare a queen's letter. Forget about ghosting.
Here is the template. - Example 1: X tells his friends that you're hitting on him.
1. Start with kind words that you really mean (the shit sandwich): "Hey X, hope you're well, just to clarify things: you're a great friend and I consider you as being part of my close circle of people that I respect and trust.
2. Say it straight out:
But I am 0% attracted to you and never have been / will be.
3. Add something gentle & close:
Sorry if you misunderstood my behavior. If you have any question, feel free to reach out to me directly, thanks. »
Note: the amount of gentle Vs straightforward words really depends on your communication style.
Queen's letters do the job.
We've cleared the air and set our personal and professional boundaries various times using this technique. Surround yourself with people who respect you and care about you.
Try it out and let me know how it went in the comments below ;)
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I have experienced a million small situations of sexual harassment. But despite the red flags, I kept going for it. I saw this guy again, I kept seeking those jobs, I stayed in the car.
And worse, most times, I did not speak up.
Why? Low self-esteem? Probably. Fear of making the other person uncomfortable? Definitely.
At the moment, I knew exactly what to do, I knew exactly what to say. I was screaming inside of my head.
But I got paralyzed. Shame was taking over. I thought I had misunderstood. It thought it was not real.
Earlier in January, three of my friends confessed having been raped.
But that's not what shocked me the most.
What shocked me the most was that they KEPT HANGING OUT with the predators. They did not see themselves as victims.
They blamed themselves for not having known better.
For having accepted their drinks.
For having trusted them to take care of them and respect them as they were saying no. As they were crying. After they blacked out.
And the only thing they wanted to do in the morning was to hide away and pretend it did not happen.
A pure walk of shame.
So I am begging you ladies to go ahead and speak up. And if you can't do it on the spot, it is never too late. Trust your instincts. Remove toxic people from your life. Respect yourself and do not let anyone enter your intimacy without your consent.
There are too many stories of disrespect towards women, abuse, and sexual harassment.
My trick is to count the red flags: - One red flag: be on your toes. Speak up. - Two red flags: just walk away.
Calligraphy by @plume_and_pulp 🖌