Anyone who has known/followed me from the start has seen quite a change in my outlook and perspective over the years. Until a year and a half ago I had always been a pretty self-righteous, pro-charity person and have supported a number of charities through fundraising and campaigning since the age of 7, when I first stood up in assembly to educate the other kids about the WWF and how we had to save the tiger. This belief has always come from a deep love of nature and a nieve desire to 'save' or 'change' it. But in more recent years I've come to question this perspective and ideal, to question the charities themselves and our own motives, as a greedy, short sighted species, for wanting to 'change' things without full understanding and particularly from our priveleged Western pedestals.
Since challenging and changing my own viewpoint, I (along with other friends I have now discovered share this view) have encountered many negative responses from friends and people within the surf community - the same negative, emotionally fuelled, illogical response I used to wrongly give people who told me what I actually believe now. "How can you claim to love the beach if you don't show up to a charity- organised beach litter pick" (on a beach which is already heavily cleaned by the council)?! If you're not wearing the free t.shirt, drinking the free wine, you clearly don't care... OR maybe you've just spent plenty time litter picking in solitude before there was a trendy hashtag and a pat on the back for it. It should be the norm, not a social occassion to prove a point.
A quick search into the financial spending of charities and its easy to see why skepticism is growing, particularly around what constitues as 'charitable activity' (5 star hotels and brand new company vehicles?) which the majority of money is spent on.
If you don't share this viewpoint, that's of course your choice but I would recommend doing your own research before handing over your cash. You'll be donating beyond your death bed before you've made a dent in most CEOs salaries. .
"Well why the hell not?'
This week I went to an exercise class with other actual humans beings for the first time in nearly three years!
Was I as cool as a cucumber?
In a word ...no.....I was absolutely terrified.
If you had ever (bizarrely) wondered what a 36 year old mum of two bricking it looked like, well I was the epitome of it!
So did I swagger in with bags of pseudo confidence and slotted right in with the others? .
In a word....no....I was like a babbling durracell bunny ramped up on her kids haribo.
Total verbal diarrhea. .
I went beetroot a few nano seconds after starting. Standard.
Did I enjoy it? I loved every minute of it.
Sometimes it's good to get the fear/adrenaline going to feel super proud of yourself for not giving in to it and going outside your comfort zone.
I'm back in my happy place now though!
Bank of Thailand Learning Center...New place to visit in Bangkok. Bring your friends, kids, anyone who wants to know more about #money and I'm sure you're gonna love it like I do. #lifeisforlearning#bankofthailand
Some days are for sadness and that’s ok. Let yourself feel those emotions. As long as you keep things in perspective and realize that everything isn’t bad. Tomorrow is a fresh start and that’s always something worth looking forward to.
Our wine school is starting again 27th August! This time we will host it at @colonialen_kranen and it will be hosted by @donsme @kenatcolonialen @laila_skorge A chance to learn about grapes and wine areas around the world. How the grapes are grown, wine production and the history of wine. We will taste around the earth for five nights. For more information send us a dm or check the link in our bio!
Today was a crapper of a day. I let someone’s cruel and condescending remarks effect my confidence during my uni clinical skills day which wasn’t ideal because my confidence can be lacking at the best of times. The victory for me was that as much as I felt like eating my emotions when I got home, I didn’t and I even had an epiphany and realized that this individuals words and actions actually say more about them and their lack of confidence. If they need to beat someone else down to feel better then I feel sad for them.
2 weeks today I will be embarking on a journey that takes me to a new challenge. Its going to take me out of my comfort zone and beyond! For the last few weeks I have been nursing an injury that made me feel down and doubt that I can take on this challenge. Today I have woken with a positive mental attitude. I am strong!!! And I will do everything to rehabilitate myself to be ready. Scared and excited but can’t wait to push the boundaries. #happinessisachoice#strongnotskinny#girlsthatfight#thailand#muaythai#fightcamp#lifeisforlearning @tigermuaythai @_fitterstrongerfaster @vtsystem 👊🏻
Are you too busy working to spare any time for your development?
I truly believe that if we are not growing we are in disintegration.
If you’re too busy earning a living or too realistic with your goal setting your missing out on real and meaningful success and growth.
Because the truth is, if you’re doing the same thing day in and day out and creating goals you know how to reach then you’re not growing. The result is you’re going to get the same results year after year, with only gradual—if any—improvement.
If you want to make real money and achieve your heart’s deep desires with big goals that scare you and excite you, putting in more hours at work and learning new marketing tips won’t help you. However, changing your mindset and certain habits will.
If you’re wondering how that’s possible in just a few minutes a day, think about this… Picture a jar that is half full of murky water. There’s a faucet above it that drips one drop of water into the jar every 30 seconds. What happens to the water over time?
The murkiness begins to fade. It’s not noticeable at first, but soon, you can see a difference. The water gets lighter and lighter and eventually it will become clear. It happens according to natural law.
This is how I coach and mentor - permanent changes bit by bit over time. Click the link in my bio if you want to really create some major differences in any area of your life. @parentingreimagined
Today we listened to the book ‘oh the places you’ll go’. What a blessing to spend these precious moments with my children. Since home educating we have grown more in awe of each other. The joy of learning and being together is immense and I’m forever grateful for following our hearts with this decision. I know now it was def the right one for us. #lifeisforlearning#ateacheroneverycorner#discoveringtheworldtogether
Sunday morning. Cold outside, warm in here. Late brunch. Time for some reading and musing. Loving shredded Brussel sprouts in my breakfast greens - thanks for the inspiration @bigbowlofhappy
Favourite quote from the book so far ‘the best rules do not ultimately restrict us but instead facilitate our goals and make for fuller, freer lives’. #sundayslow#feedthebodyfeedthemind#lifeisforlearning
Ants can also carry 5,000 times their own body weight! While we as humans cannot physically carry such a burden, in a figurative sense, many of us carry a comparatively heavy load-- In our work, our relationships, the pressure we put on ourselves to succeed in all of our endeavors, including our health and fitness goals. We often see minor setbacks as enormous failures; the disappointment in ourselves is sometimes enough to stop us on our path toward optimal health. In the realm of physical fitness, this is often quantified in weight, inches, sizing tags. When we don't see the numbers we'd hoped to see, we get discouraged-- "I keep failing. Why bother?" If we experience a set back, it is because there is some essential, foundational element we lack in order to move forward. Sometimes it's physical strength, emotional strength, sometimes it's knowledge, or self awareness.
What was the reason for the "failure?" or set back with my physical health -- Am I getting enough rest? Am I fueling my body with healthy food? Am I distracted with stress from work? What was my emotional state-- was I quarreling with a loved one? Was this a reasonable goal for me to set for myself? Do I need to adjust my expectations of myself while still posing appropriate challenges?-- Each time we fail, we create opportunities for ourselves to answer questions that will help us learn and grow in the right direction.
Like working our way through levels in an elaborate video game, we manage to live through similar lessons until we break through to the next set of challenges. Failure is fine. Failure can provide forward momentum, if you make it so.
Facing my fears at my acting class tonight... trusting myself more to connect to genuine emotions as required ...and play a mother whose son is dying... having never been a mum.... growing in courage every week #actorslife#couragetobevulnerable#lifeisforlearning