Hands up if you’ve ever had something smart to say about how other people raise their kids? 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏻♀️ Hands up if you’ve ever been smug about your own parenting style, only to have that humble pie shoved down your throat at some point or another? 🙋🏼♀️🙋🏻♀️ . . .
This week Charlene and Sam discuss things they vowed NEVER to do as parents and how they’ve fallen short of most of those promises. Whoops. . . .
We also chat to the lovely ladies behind @mamameetupsa, @rattleandmum’s Tanya Kovarsky and @mascara_and_mimosas’ Sarah Booyens. Check out the #linkinbio to catch the latest episode. . . .
// YOU'LL FOREVER BE ALONE // Inspired by the transparent @msrachelhollis I decided to make a list of lies that I tell myself. Turns out a lot of the lies [and fears] are centered around this LIE. I want to smack myself for thinking it, but this is a serious roadblock for a lot of females. Why? Maybe it's because it seems like everyone around us is getting engaged, married, moving on with their lives--living out a happiness we so wish we had. Why is it so hard to be happy with ourselves? Maybe it's because we are our worst critics. Maybe it's because someone, be it a stranger, a friend, or even a significant other, has put you down or pointed out something and now you're self-conscious. It can be so difficult to be positive about yourself, but this list of lies helps me point out the flaws in my thinking. Like, I'M FREAKING AWESOME. But maybe I'm just not ready yet and I'm developing into a person that will one day not be alone. I'm just not being patient enough to realize that right now I need to focus on myself and becoming happy with JUST MYSELF. Spend some time writing out the lies you tell yourself. Figure out WHY they're lies. Find the things that make you happier with yourself. Learn to be okay with who you are. Just don't lie to yourself; you don't want someone telling these things to you, so why would you tell yourself those same things?
Today, on the #houmarathon training plan, I was supposed to run 10 miles. I was able to walk uncomfortably for a mile. In running shoes that my husband had to tie for me.
Trying not to cry or panic, but fellow runners understand. Hitting cryotherapy later. Fellow marathoners - I can still get back on track for a January marathon, yes? #liesItellmyself
Another day of daycare under her belt! Those ladies are really starting to love this one! The only time she rides in the car on my console is after I pick her up from daycare. That must mean she really does miss me 😍 #liesitellmyself#blindspot#pitbull#princess
So I finally finished @msrachelhollis 's book #GirlWashYourFace and not only was I inspired all over again and left feeling motivated. I cried, y'all. I hesitated to even move onto the final chapter bc I didn't want it to be over. And when it was, just like I dreaded.. I CRIED. I was sad. Left feeling empty. I'm gonna miss reading her words and being reminded of why I've embarked on any journey I'm still on--event planning, becoming healthier. BUT I'm on a mental health journey just the same as a physical one, and I'm fortunate to have the tools and resources available to me to utilize even though I no longer have the words on these pages to read. PS Long post ahead!
But why this chapter? Of all the lies and stories in this book why do I choose this one to 'gram? Because I certainly don't vehemently believe I'll marry Matt Damon, not even @taylorhanson (anymore) but bc this one spoke to me!
A) she refers to herself as "the girl with the clipboard" and I laughed out loud recalling every time someone has approached me at a wedding bc I had the clipboard or the walkie talkie. Dead give away right? And the fact that she started out as an event planner makes me like her even more, as that is one of the goals I have and relate to as I read the book. But also
B) bc she talks about identifying a seemingly crazy or even silly goal bc it's not about that goal necessarily but the moves you make to reach it that may get you other successes that you were meant to have in the first place.
I see all these influencers I follow like @fashionablykay, @healthyhapachick , and @emmasthing out here living their best lives and even some of them getting an early release copy of #GirlStopApologizing WHAT?! What is their life?! So, Rachel says to write it down. So here, I announce my wild, outlandish goal. Let it be know that I will get an early release copy of one of Rachel Hollis's future books. That's all. 👌
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So it’s taken me a few days to process through my feelings... It’s been a really REALLY tough week for me. Quite honestly this has been one of the hardest years of my life. I’ve cried multiple times since Sunday, more than I can recall in years. Someone just mentioning IRONMAN makes me wince and puts a lump in the back of my throat. And yesterday it finally occurred to me just why it hurt so bad. I have struggled all my life with this irrational fear, a lie that I perpetually tell myself over and over - “You’re not good enough” . I have this deep seated feeling of inadequacy in everything. Not smart enough, not thin enough, not athletic enough, not nice enough, not pretty enough. I am constantly criticizing myself internally. I will replay a scenario over and over in my head thinking why did you say that or why didn’t you do this, why aren’t you good enough?! And this race has absolutely gutted me. I know I did the right thing, I know I have nothing to prove, but seeing so many people finish and knowing that I didn’t re-affirms I’m not good enough. This year I have been humbled again and again, I feel like I have been struck to my knees and then Sunday happened. It was one more obstacle that I just didn’t have the strength to fight. ....
The past month has been busy. I moved my office, interviewed for a job that I’ve wanted for years but could never quite nail the interview, learned new things and read some amazing books. After reading Rachel Hollis’ “Girl, Wash Your Face,” I took a break from the chaos and wrote down some of the lies I tell myself. Right now, I’ve been having sleep issues and feeling run down. One of my lies is that I need all the caffeine to function right now. No, I really need to just listen to my body. It craves sleep, exercise, good food and time with my family. The link is in the comments.
⏰ Two of the biggest reasons people tell me they can't get a handle on their nutrition is because "I don't have time to meal prep" or "it takes so much time to be healthy." -
I just have to debunk these ideas FOR YOU. FOR YOUR HEALTH. FOR YOUR LIFE. Because I used to think the same thing!
So, meal prepping isn't as huge of a task as most people think. Think of it this way - cook once, eat 7 meals. I am a huge fan of "sheet pan dinners." I put 6-8 chicken breasts on a sheet pan with simple spices (salt, pepper & garlic) and then I chop whatever veggies I have on hand and roast them on another sheet pan. Throw it in the oven at 375 until chicken is cooked through and veggies are fork tender. While that's cooking I will make a pot of quinoa or rice. Takes 40-45 minutes. So, if it takes you 15 mins a day to make and pack or make lunch each day, you are spending over and HOUR AND A HALF of your "I don't have time" time.
THINK ABOUT IT!
And, now, the "It takes so much time to be healthy" excuse. This is the one that actually irks me more than a little. And like I said, *I* used to feel this way, too. And then I had a shift in how I think about life. - It's no secret that eating healthy can keep you alive longer, right? So basically you're telling your children "I don't have time to stick around and be your mom." You're telling your spouse, "I love you but you're not worth the time it will take to stay healthy so I can enjoy life with you." And basically you're telling yourself, "Screw it. I don't love you enough to choose a salad over a pizza."
Are you serious?
You schedule in extra time to get your oil changed or your tires rotated. So, you’re investing more time in a hunk of metal that you do in your own health.
Think about that for a minute.
Guess what. You’re worth it. Your family is worth it. ⏰
In today's edition of #liesthatkeptmedrinking .
The belief that as long as I didn't drink in the morning, or before 12, or after a certain point in the day, or limited myself to xyz, that I was in control.
The book I've been reading has helped me see right through this with the analogy - would you say the same about a heroin addict? Because they only have it one or two times a day and not before noon, they're fine? "Oh, [person] only has heroin at 3pm every day, he's completely in control."
The truth is, as long as we have those caveats we aren't in control, #alcohol is.
I can see this much more clearly now.
Y’all I feel like this tree.
Yesterday was not my best.
I felt like a failure.
My energy was low and 😕 defeated.
I had some of my worst class’s as an instructor .
I let myself spiral out and gave others opinions of me the highest value.
Did I mention ..
I felt like a complete failure .
All while trying to teach class and pretend I wasn’t split in half .
I’m going to try again today just like this tree.
Try to carry on and regrow .
I’m not a failure but perhaps I can do better.
I can address my weakness and grow from it.
I know the “gram” is a glossy place for all the perfect things in life. BUT...
I wanted to let you know sometimes we feel like a complete and total failure. Like the only option is to ugly snot cry in the shower . Like you should just pack it in and go home to your safe space ( bed / couch) eat that whole bag ofTrader Joe’s plantain chips ( because you don’t even have real ones anymore) and watch Carnivale all while contemplating your path as a “fitness instructor “ , but I may be a little biased on that last one.
Well thanks for listening I’m gonna try and be less of an eyore from Winnie the Pooh.
Yup just pulled a character from a kids movie ....
Omg I need real adult friends !!!!