I had posted a picture of myself in a yellow saree. A fellow Malayali instagrammer took a couple of minutes of his/her life to comment thrice telling me that I need ‘Adakkam and Othukkam’ (contextually meaning to be demure and submissive when roughly translated from malayalam). The next comment said that I look nothing short of a prostitute.
It was jarring to open the comments section. In an impulsive moment I deleted the comments without even opening the person’s profile. In retrospect, I feel that I should have started a conversation and made them aware of the ridiculousness of their behaviour: A) Prostitute is not an offensive term. The only thing that I took offence in was knowing that a fellow Malayali lacked social consciousness. For years, we as a state have taken pride in being progressive and faring well in development indicators. This kind of an attitude and these words set us back a long way. B) It’s 2017. If you still believe that it’s okay to tell a woman that she ‘needs Adakkam and Othukkam’, think again. And I can assure you, you will not have the courage to say that to her face - it’s pathetically easy to hide behind the safety and anonymity of your phone.
To all my friends out there, I know it’s scary and crippling to have mean things thrown at you from the virtual world. Stay strong, they’re fewer and weaker than we are.
Wedding Ready: Part 2
I’m compiling a #Catalogue of #OutfitInspiration and #OutfitIdeas that can be used in any #IndianWedding .
This outfit is Part 2 of the series.
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I’ve detailed how I’ve put it together below:
☀️The #Saree :
This is a 21 year old saree from my mother’s collection. It is black #CottonSilk with golden geometric #Zari work.
☀️The #Blouse :
This is a black sleeveless top from @hm. It is mandarin collared with a slight v-neck.
☀️The #LongAiryJacket :
I wore a long, almost-sheer jacket with black, maroon and gold digital prints from @WForWoman for the final touch.
Thanks for reading! ♥️
Happy tomorrow 😊