“Who?” “ME?” I hear you ask. Yes, you. The one reading this. The one who thinks she can’t do this today. The one who is telling herself that she’s not good enough. The one who is focusing on that one comment that you have on repeat in your mind. This is for you. You are bloody brilliant, Mama. Art by @littlebylupin
Can someone with good taste as you can see i dont help me to make this are Christmasy with out spending too much?..
I only wish I had taste like @fbghome and @wioleta_kelly 😭😭😭 With my lovely turf broken laundry basket I should really invest in something nice 😂😂
There. I said it.
Well, the legendary Chimamanda Adichie said it. I just gave it a fancy font!
It’s from my latest blog post about my top tips for Feminist Parenting!
Check it out and tell me what you think (even if you don’t totally agree!)
To be honest I think most of us secretly are feminists. Gasp. Feminism is literally just the wild idea that all people should be treated equally no matter what’s going on between their legs. 😮
When that doesn’t happen, we have to get up of our arses to advocate for groups who, let’s say... haven’t been advocated for too much so far.
And feminist parenting? Well it’s not really about treating boys and girls EXACTLY the same. It’s creating a world where their genitals don’t affect their chances of a happy healthy life.
Do you think that kind of makes sense but you still wouldn’t call yourself a Feminist?
Why do I turn to this when I'm loosing my beeds.. I actually feel like I'm going to leave him and just go.. Walk and scream but I'm breathing and breathing and trying to keep him entertained and the toddler gives in and just stops winging in my ear after 3 days.. Days like this I feel like I have failed being a mum to Patrick day 3 his just been picked up to feed and change his nappy as his brother is just being a complete asshole and is actully standing beside me and crying because I don't have a clue 😭😭😭😭 I told husband to bring white wine and takeaway from work his response is Ben an asshole? 😂
⚡️GIVEAWAY⚡️Tis the season and all so I’ve teamed up with @mummypages to giveaway two fantastic MummyPages+ packs ✨✨
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We had the best day yesterday at @kildarevillage with all the lovely mamas and babies! Thank you so much to @val_forde @emily_dmurray_ and the rest of the Kildare Village team who treated us like VIPs for the whole day!
It was great to see so many mamas take some time out for themselves during this super busy time of year. As always, the session with our style guru Natalie Svikle @stylists_notes was so inspiring and helpful, we picked up loads of brilliant tips for the festive season.
We were so busy eating the yummy food, having the chats and shopping that we didn't take many pics, so if you have any good ones please tag @mum_talks (thanks to those that have already!) also check out our highlights for the insta stories from the day! #kildarevillage#vipdayout#mamasdayout#timeout#festiveseason#irishmums#fashion#shopping#mumtalks
Top Tip - Festive hack!
If you can’t put up decorations at home because you’re in the middle of a tremendously inconveniently timed house-move, just pop down to the christmas market and fake it in front of one of their trees for sale. 🎄
**Added bonus** You get to feel like an eejit kneeling down to take a selfie in the middle of all the christmas shoppers... Seriously, How do millennials do this all the time?
Anyhoo, you’re welcome!
What’s your best festive hack? Surely it couldn’t be more useful than mine?
This baby is such a little star ⭐️ He rarely complains and is so smiley wherever we go / I drag him to 🙈 We collected our wreath earlier from @oasisflorists in Terenure - now he’s totally oblivious but if he was awake he would have been ALL over that wreath! Literally! It’s beautiful 🌺🎄❤️ #christmaswreath#supportlocal
Only two short weeks to go now until Christmas morning – and if you are looking for that perfect present for a pregnant pal or brand new mom – we think one of our #bowandrattle changing bags is bound to go down a treat 💕 Stylish and practical, they are pretty much the one bag every mom should not have to do without ✔️
When was the last time you celebrated a win in motherhood?
We gain momentum by getting something done, acknowledging the progress and then moving on to the next thing. When we can see an end in sight, it gives us the motivation to keep going so that we can celebrate the completion of something with a sense of achievement. The thing about motherhood is that there is no end date. There is a start date but it never finishes. It’s never-ending.
I mean, it’s not like you can say (and actually believe) that this current ‘project’ you’re working on will be wrapped up and put to bed by the time it turns 18. Job done. No, it doesn’t work like that. Just as I’ll never stop the moon from rising or the tides turning, I’ll never stop being a mum. I can see how this motherhood ‘project’ that lasts a lifetime brings with it the feeling of being burnt-out. Got a project at work finishing soon? An essay due in? Half-way through a one-month fitness challenge? All of these have check-points along the way, places where you can celebrate the little victories in order to be reminded of the progress you’re making, how good a job you’re doing or even to let you know that you’ve gone way off mark and it’s time to get back on track. That doesn’t really apply to the day-to-day realities of motherhood, does it? This is why it’s so important that we NEVER underestimate the importance of acknowledging the little victories. When you recognize how far you’ve come, you feel encouraged to keep going, to keep trying your best.
The same applies for motherhood. In fact, I would argue that it is even more important that you take the time to honor the job you are doing and the wins that you have regardless of how little or small they may seem. Now, here is the best bit.
YOU get to decide what the wins are. YOU get to apply your own check-points to your day, your week or even your month. Only YOU know what a win for you is. This is why I have started to take note of all the little victories during my day, ones that are relevant to me and give me a sense of achievement. Otherwise the never-ending project of raising my little humans can seem too big, too vague. What are you going to celebrate tomorrow?
I’m so delighted to say that I’ll be joining forces with Ash @motherlyretreats for the amazing retreat she has planned in May. When I met Ash for a coffee to discuss her vision for the retreat, I immediately knew that she was someone I would enjoy working with. She spoke with passion about what the retreat means to her and what it will do for the women who get involved. She spoke so openly and honestly about her own experience of motherhood and how this has driven her to build something bigger than herself in order to create a safe and nurturing space where mums can just be themselves. I’ll be doing a talk on the first evening, Friday 10th May on a topic that is soul-achingly familiar to us all in different ways. I’ll be talking about the impact of motherhood on our perception of our self-worth. I’m so excited for what’s coming. More and more mums are starting to share their hopes and fears about motherhood and what it means to them. There is a growing recognition that our uniqueness as a woman is what makes us so powerful as a mother ❤️.
Let’s be honest. Motherhood can be tough. But My Expert Midwife is here to help. Designed to tackle taboos around pregnancy and childbirth. The team at My Expert Midwife are very passionate about offering the women of Ireland the same service we offer the women in the UK. Follow the link in our bio to register for our newsletter, where you’ll hear about our exclusive Ireland launch offer.
Let’s talk baby showers this week - who is expecting, who is planning a baby shower or baby brunch? Is it just for the girls or are the boys getting involved too? Our range of invitations are available as printable files or ask us to have them professionally printed and delivered to you 💕
We have to admit - this Ask Everymum query from a member of our community creeped us out a little bit - not least because of all the responses we received from other mums via our Facebook page.
"My four-year-old claims to be 'seeing' people in our house for a couple of years now. We live on a rural farm in a valley in Kerry. In one of our fields is a mass famine grave. The mound and standing stones are still visible. When my little boy was two he was playing outside. He ran inside absolutely petrified and told me "there was a girl with no face" standing in our driveway and she wanted to come into our house because "she had no house anymore". I took him outside and told him to show me. He pointed to the field where the mass grave is and told me "she lives there but she has no house". He wouldn't know what was there.⠀
Two years later, and 'Roisin', the girl with no face, is still in our house. She mainly stays in his playroom because she likes his toys apparently, but sometimes "comes through the walls" because she's scared on her own. He WILL NOT go into his playroom on his own, and for the last two years has been consistent on where Roisin sits. He says to me constantly "she has no face and she always cries because she wants to play with my toys and she can't". ⠀
Read the whole piece and responses on everymum.ie - the link is in our profile. ⠀
It’s funny how we can doubt ourselves in so many ways and yet not in others. I have constant doubts about myself as a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend - you name it. But for some reason I never doubted that I could bring Mama Moments to life.
Maybe it’s because it wasn’t as big a gamble as others have to take when following their dreams - I didn’t have to quit my day job or remortgage the house or rent expensive equipment. It’s just me, my laptop and my kitchen table. Making connections with other amazing women running their own businesses to include their products in the boxes. Getting to know my customers - amazing women I have learnt so much from.
This has truly been an amazing year. I never would have guessed last December that 12 months later I would own my own business - and yet here we are! Ever since becoming a mother and struggling with pnd I wanted to do something to give back and encourage other women to prioritise self care and their mental health. I am so thrilled that Mama Moments is doing exactly that for so many of you and I am privileged to be part of your journey. Thank you to everyone who has supported me this year. You are all amazing 💖💖💖
Just balancing out my post from yesterday…. My other little monkey doesn’t do a bad silly face either.
Happy friday folks!
We’ll be spending the whole weekend packing. For. The. Big. Move!
Can’t get too excited though… we’re not actually moving for ages, we’re just outrageously organized!! 😎
Did you know that moving house is considered the third most stressful thing you can do in your life?
(After a death and a divorce)
Listen, if you have any tips to make it a bit less of a nightmare, do be kind and share them. We’re not up for dying of a heart attack before we even get in there!
Our Follow Friday this week is the beautiful organic skincare range @riaorganics.
Nicola, a nurse with specialized training in skin healing and renewal, saw first-hand how people were becoming increasingly mindful about what they put on their skin. Passionate about seeking organic alternatives, she began formulating her own organic skincare range in 2013. #beauty#skincare#glow#organicskincare#riaorganics#mamas#irishmums
A mood. This morning.
We have two two year olds who’ve decided they no longer care for sleep.
Can’t believe I didn’t even used to drink coffee. What was I thinking?
That’s what becoming a parent does to you I suppose.
Now, shut up and give me all the coffee.
I am absolutely thrilled to finally reveal the contents of the December box! Most people received their box today and lots have been sharing photos and videos so I thought I should probably do the official reveal!
The December box contains:
👉 The ‘Gather’ Christmas scented soy candle from @nicole_clean.slate 👉 A gorgeous custom made leather & turquoise ‘mama bear’ keychain from @moccaberry 👉 An amazing mulled wine mix from House of Tea in Bray, Co Wicklow
👉 A delicious bar of orange chocolate from @tremendoustruffles; and
👉 The fabulous self care journal which I custom designed in collaboration with @reyoflightdesign specially for Mama Moments!!
It is an absolutely amazing box to round off the year with and I was thrilled to be able to include TWO custom items as well as that stunning soy candle for the normal price. .
✨I am also delighted to say that the journal is now available for sale individually on the website if you want to buy extras for friends and family ✨
To see inside the journal check the highlights tab 😍 I also have a live unboxing of the box in highlights too! 👀 .
📷 by @peppermintdolly
Everyone says this little monkey is an absolute copy/paste of his Dad (lucky little man!)
I don’t know though. I see some similarities between him and I somehow, don’t you?
Eh, that’s it. You didn’t expect such a short post from me, did you?
I totally managed it and here’s how I…
I blew it again, didn’t I? 😣
Second of all, what does man-up even mean? Come on!
Here’s a few women throughout history who were so badass, they’ll make you rethink the phrase ‘Man Up!’
Share it with your little girls so they can see how strong, brave and powerful women are. 💥💥
Share it with your little boys for the exact same reason!
💥💥 And if you have any more to add to the list… share them with meeeeeee!
BOUDIKA - A British Celtic warrior queen who fought the Roman legions
KATHERINE JOHNSON - A mathematician at NASA who got astronauts all the way to space
HATSHEPSUT - A full on Pharaoh, ruler of ancient Egypt. .
SOJOURNER TRUTH - A former slave, and apparently one of the "100 Most Significant Americans of All Time”. .
ROSA PARKS - Civil Rights super hero. .
HELENA MOLONY - An Irish revolutionary and freedom fighter .
With women like these, it makes me question how on earth it isn’t ‘Woman Up’?!?
(From my latest blog post ‘5 Harmful Things Boys Hear Every Day’ - Oh do check it out… link in bio)
If you’ve been following along on stories you’ll know that I was working with @babogue_sleep the last few weeks to try and improve my 2 year old daughter’s sleep as she wasn’t getting enough (and neither were we!). Erica said to me yesterday that she wasn’t sure how I was still upright running on such little sleep with 2 young kids, my own business and a day job. It’s funny as I hadn’t really thought about it before but now that the little miss is sleeping more I’m realising how big a difference it makes. I have so much more energy the last week! I think I had just become so used to broken sleep over the last 5 years that it was just my norm. It doesn’t matter how tired you are as a mother you still have to get up and look after everyone, and somehow you do! We do need to remember to look after ourselves too though and sleep is now firmly at the top of my self care list ✨
Ps I HIGHLY recommend Erica if you’re thinking of sleep coaching, I was very hesitant to work with a sleep coach, but she’s absolutely lovely and very family led 💖
Are you stuck? Do you feel like you’ve tried everything and still nothing works? Are you starting to believe that this is just the way it’s supposed to be? If your answer to the above questions is YES then I’m going to let you in on a little secret that I find works every time. Come closer.... ready? Ok, here it is. *Get the fuck out of your own way*. Does that seem harsh? It’s kind of meant to be. I say this to myself regularly so it’s not just you that feels the harshness of it, don’t worry. But just think about it for a minute... without knowing your exact circumstances, or stories, or reasons (excuses?) why things are the way they are, I do know that more often than not, the only thing standing in the way of you moving forward is you. Look for your door today ❤️
This is the current situation I can definitely see a change in the belly but I feel so disappointed in myself as I let old habits creep back ok Paulina no point crying now 30min work out let's have you with toddler running between my legs 😂
As you can see i done nothing really even the cm hardly moved.. Its week 2 that I'm back exercising 3 times a week. I'm giving myself 20days for 10cm loss and 2kg loss do you think that's possible???
Want to know a little bit more about Bow & Rattle and how our business came about? Our founder, Caragh O'Driscoll recently chatted business, babies and our seriously swoon-worthy nappy bags with Herfamily.ie – and you can read the feature on their site now ✔️
I have just finished packing the last of the December boxes 🙌🏼 All orders are being shipped tomorrow so most people should be opening their self care boxes full of amazing goodies on Wednesday!!
Any orders received before 9am tomorrow will still ship tomorrow. But please order fast as I’m down to my last few December boxes! (link in bio).
I will post a live unboxing on Thursday to give subscribers a chance to open their box (don’t want to spoil the surprise!).
Feeling very Christmassy now ✨✨✨
How many parents out there are just sick of allllllll the free time they have to lounge around and relax?
If I eeeeeeeever get a minute free though, I try to make it count!
This is me at the amazing Sagrada Familia in Barcelona. They started building it in 1882… and it’s STILL only about 70% finished.
Lessons I learned from a quiet moment of reflection? (I mean, a moment without two toddlers hanging out of me demanding snacks)...
All good things take time, and patience is a virtue. (especially when your little ones want to do things ‘by themselves’) 🤨
Let’s give ourselves a break Mamas and Papas, we’re all building our own ‘Familia’.
(See what I did there? That’s right!)