English | Malaysian “I identify myself as Anglo-Malay. My mum's English and my dad’s from Malaysia. I was born in the UK and then moved out with my family to Kuala Lumpur when I was 6 months old.
It was a relatively lower middle-class upbringing. Malaysia is very multicultural, so you don't really notice that you're different because there's the Indian neighbour across the road and the Chinese neighbour next door. Then there's the Malay families all around the place and you don't really notice that I've got a White mum.
When I went to primary school I realised I was different, the only other person in my school of mixed-race heritage was my older brother. Slowly my parents gravitated towards other families who had mixed race children, we are all friends now. They are identified as Eurasian by the community.
I lived in a really nice community, so you didn't feel different as such. But I think there was always a curiosity. It wasn't until I came to England that I experienced any negativity.
I was told that both my grandparents were really against my parents’ marriage, but by that point they knew that there was nothing they could do. My grandad on my father’s side was more strongly against it and to try and stop them. My parents met through their family’s postings in the British Army. They met at a mutual friend's house. When it became clear that my dad was going to marry a White woman, my grandmother was against it but her only positive comment was ‘at least the children will be beautiful’. There is always the assumption is that your mum is the Asian one. People don't really understand like I can, I can imagine this is almost a stigma you have that the Westerner goes out to find an Asian wife.
If I had the opportunity to come back again I would wouldn’t change my heritage, I would probably want to come back less hairy!
I think it's inevitable that the world is going to be less and less distinctive. Humankind is going to be less and less distinguishable by physical identity. I’m looking forward to a world where the colour of your skin doesn't matter because everybody's a range of shades of Brown. I just think it'll be amazing.” #mixedracefaces