FROM THE MINDSET OF ONE OF “THE OTHER WOMAN”
A True Story
It was evening, and the young woman was weeping as if her heart would break. She had sworn to herself, never again, this will never happen again. He was someone else’s
husband, what if they were found out?
He would most likely go home to his wife, she would take him back – the wives almost always did, “because of the children,” they’d say.
... Why hadn’t she met him before his wife?
She sighed deeply, then stood up, almost tripping over her long flowing Roberto Cavalli silk chiffon dress with spaghetti straps – another perk of being with a wealthy man.
He said he “might” drop by this evening, so she needed to compose herself and tidy herself up. He always said to her: “I love being with you. You’re so calm and collected, there’s no drama; no, we have got to do this and that and the other. You’re my oasis,” he would say.
The operative word here though, was “might”, nothing was ever certain with him. It was a habit that she could not stand. If that, in his words, “wicked witch of a woman I made the mistake of making my wife” was so terrible and horrible, then how come it was ‘might’, and he was at home with her.
If he did manage to make it, he would always go back home to her unless they were abroad or out of the city. He said about her, his wife, “We don’t make love anymore – she suspected they still did – we only make war” and to her, “I make love to you only, you’re my addiction.” As if being an addiction was such a good thing. Ironic really, cheating on one’s mistress with one’s wife...
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She always knew in the back of her mind that you wasn’t the one but part of her didn’t want to believe that.
Words that left your lips were just that because your actions could never match your words
And when she wasn’t around she knew someone else had your mind occupied.
But part of her didn’t want to believe what was happening right in front of her!
Feeling alone when they were alone had her mind so fucked up but she didn’t know how to get the person she loved to actually love her...
She thought maybe if I prayed for it then it would get better but days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months; and the one thing that seem to grow was the distance between their hearts
But part of her didn’t want to believe that last part until the day he looked her in the face and told her he was in love with someone else💔
I’ve been waiting to post about this, because it’s important to me to tell this story, but I want to tell it right. .
First off I want to say Danny is an amazing partner and father to our kids. Hands down the most supportive and helpful husband I could ever dream of.
Those who know me well know that I can be quite a handful some days. I’m stubborn and loud and needy. But I have a huge heart and would do anything for anyone. He deals with the bad and the good like a champ when it comes to my needs and happiness.
That being said he is definitely not without his faults. He has struggled with self image and depression sense he was a child. As a result of that struggle, he allowed himself to get into a position that had him making one bad decision after another, ultimately leading to an affair last year.
My world shattered.
At the time all I wanted was to be done.
A lot has happened in the last six months but I made a very difficult decision and decided to stay. To fight for my marriage and my family.
I’ve been very quiet about everything, including moving out, getting my own apartment, moving back in, and finding out more horrendous things.
I felt ashamed of what had become of my life, because this wasn’t me, I didn’t make those decisions, why should I have to live with people judging me for staying?
I found a blog that completely changed my feelings about this. I started to think perhaps my story can help those others who have struggled with infidelity in their marriage and felt ashamed to speak out about there experiences. Just maybe someone will read this and think “I’m not alone”. I want to share our experiences and struggles.
Some days are really good and some days are still very very bad. But the point is, we are trying. ❤️ #bodypositivity#couples#relationships#infidelity#fightforourmarriage#fightforwhatyouwant#loveishard#mentalhealth#noshame#proudofmyself#dontjudge#mystory#refusetobeavictim#knowyourworth#knowledgeispower
#Councillor kills wife for condemning his affair with son's girlfriend
A former #UKIP councillor has been found guilty of murdering his wife, after he had an affair with their son's partner and now faces life in jail.
Stephen Searle, 64, strangled his wife, Anne, at their home in Stowmarket, Suffolk, on 30 December. The ex-Royal #Marine had denied killing Mrs Searle, 62, after she found out about the affair with Anastasia Pomiateeva.
He was found guilty by a jury at Ipswich Crown Court and will be sentenced on Wednesday. Judge Mr Justice Green said Searle's "act of #infidelity in one way or another led to this". It took the jury three-and-a-half hours to find him guilty of murder, after a six-day trial. #Searle had previously told a jury his wife had uncovered his affair with Ms Pomiateeva, who is the mother to at least one of their #grandchildren , months before she died.
He claimed that on the day of her death, his wife of 45 years had attacked him with a knife following an argument and was killed in the struggle that ensued.
In a #victim impact #statement , one of Searle's sons, also called Stephen, said: "Not only have I lost my mum, but because of what he's done I've lost my dad too." #News#usa#Gist#macdanielsblog#instagram#instanews
It’s always been amazing to me how music 🎶 can trigger memories. Sometimes it can be a beautiful thing.. Sometimes not.
I grew up listening to #DefLeppard with my mom. I would spend my summers riding with her a lot which means I grew up loving her music. So when she found out back in 2011 that Def Leppard was having a #concert in Kansas City, she jumped all over the opportunity to take me to see them! We pre-planned that for FOREVER as my firstborn was only going to be 3 months old & I was a #FirstTimeMom so being three hours away overnight was a big deal!! We had such an amazing😍 time. The concert was so much fun! It should have been a #BeautifulMemory ! Unfortunately though, that trip was followed by years of me not being able to even listen to ANY Def Leppard song because it would turn my stomach. Because even though nothing bad happened AT that concert... when a woman finds out that she’s been cheated on while away, it doesn’t really matter what she was doing during that time, that memory will forever be tainted💔! Hearing their songs, even in movies, would then make me instantly nauseous, sad, mad, & every other emotion you can think of. She HATED the fact that the memories we made on that trip were forever ruined. That a band we once both LOVED listening to together, I couldn’t listen to anymore. Not for years!
Fast forward to 2018. She finds out Def Leppard is BACK in concert only this time it’s in our OWN town!!So last night... meant so much more to me than just a concert! It was the closure I needed to celebrate my #healing ! That it didn’t hurt me anymore. The terrible memory that had once been attached to all Def Leppard songs for me was GONE & now all the old wonderful memories were back! ❤️Plus new memories at this one that weren’t centered around anxiety, or thoughts I was trying to push out. I had an absolute amazing time. AND getting to celebrate that milestone w/ my #ChildhoodBestFriend too made it even better.
So take it from me; there WILL be a day when something you NEVER thought you’d get over... you’ll be over. You’ll be truly healed. Not just “trying” to forget, or move past. You’ll be in such a better place that you’ll #grow from it!
Hey y’all it’s #tellthetruthTuesday and somebody needs this message!!! When I decided to work on increasing my confidence and being whole, it meant dealing with all my STUFF!!! I had to do the work!! .
Hey y’all it’s #tellthetruthTuesday and somebody needs this message!!! I’m SPILLING a piping hot cup of my own true tea ☕️ today!!! *full video will be on my Youtube Channel this evening!! I’m talking #relationships#infidelity#love#marriage#depression#anxiety#lowselfesteem#fogiveness & #selflove
Life ain’t always pretty, and it dam sure ain’t perfect! You gotta grow thru what you go thru.
Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle ✨✨✨ Peace, Love, & Light,
Be Curvy, Be Bold, BeYOUtiful 💜
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One of the first tools that started to pull me out of the fog was a book called Leave A Cheater, Gain A Life. Every single page had me nodding. How did this author know my story so well? Turns out there is an unwritten handbook that cheaters follow and they are all e x a c t l y the same. You are not alone. As isolating as this is, so many people have our story. This book isn’t about reconciliation. It’s about building your W O R T H 💗#divorce#divorced#singlemama#infidelity#cheating#worth#value#worthy#worthyoflove#leaveacheatergainalife
Lol! Who else hates liars and cheaters? 👋🏽 We followed an obvious pathological liar on an infidelity case recently. This guy lied about everything- even something as simple as being at McDonalds. He was on the phone with his girlfriend while we were watching him, sitting in McDonalds, and he told her he was at Subway- just lying for no reason. Who does that?! Doesn’t seem like a keeper to us- red flag for sure. Could you be in a relationship with a known liar? Good women fall victim to good liars, we see it all the time. But luckily for our client, she’s not a victim today. On to the next one honey. #nottodaysatan
Show us a man who locks his phone and never divulges his passcode, and we will show you a man you cannot trust. He has made the message clear: Don’t trust me, I have things in this phone that I don’t want you to see.
Trust is one thing you cannot compromise with when seeking a life partner. However, if you are already married to someone like this, may God give you the grace to cope.
(Full post on our blog, link in bio). Stay Lifted!
Its normal to feel lost, its not normal to stay lost. Overcoming an affair is extremely difficult at first, but its completely normal. However, its important that you eventually find yourself again and become the person you truly want to be.
If you have any questions, or feel like you're struggling to do this you can contact us at email@example.com and we will do our best to get back to you as soon as we can.
His words are sweet
Brought to you by the honeybee
He whispers passionate in your ear
About a love that is crazy, wild and free
He makes you feel loved, wanted and young
And it will already be too late when you realize that you got stung
Leaving his venomous toxin in your life
he will cause you pain
But you will not be able to get out because he has become your cocaine
You'll never feel that first rush again but you will keep chasing the lie
Even when it means you will have to say goodbye
He will be the reason you lose everything that once meant most to you
God, familylife and living in the light and truth
It will change who you are and you will feel trapped in his arms
Because now the hunt is over you see the truth behind his charmes
True love does not steal, take you away from your loved ones or make you lie
It does not make you sad nor does it make you cry
Sweet child remember there is always room for a second chance
But it means you will have to surrender to Me for a deep fulfilling true romance
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#receipts#readersofinstagram#infidelity "Perry has tried her best to ignore the burning sensations stirring in the pit of her core. Lately it's become all too familiar, particularly when her unanswered calls go directly into Robert's voicemail. I believe they call that having receipts, well Perry has collected many of those!" TRAILER: A View From Harlem
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What is your rule when it comes to cheating? •
After trying to work it out with serial cheaters, cheating and/or lying of any kind are deal breakers for me. So is my motto. But what I realized is that the pain and trauma of being betrayed by someone you loved and trusted take time (and sometimes professional help) to recover from. Whether you decide to stay and work it out or move on, betrayals need healing. A favorite of the show @noirsxtherapist will be returning this Wednesday to discuss #affairaftercare and how to heal the hurts of betrayal. Make sure you tune in! @affairaftercare
Infidelity. Let’s talk about it. It’s a word that holds a lot of emotion and negative connotation in our culture. “The State of Affairs” has been one of my favorite books written about infidelity and how to work with couples who have gone and/or are going through it. It’s happening a lot, and instead of just looking at how to deal with the aftermath of an affair, it’s important to look at why it’s happening. Infidelity occurs in happy marriages, bad marriages, successful marriages and unsuccessful ones. In my opinion this book is a must read for couples and therapists alike. I love books that give a fresh new perspective and challenge the status quo and this book does just that.