I had the most wonderful conversation with my mom this week
In the past, our differences have fostered a combative and tempestuous relationship. However, yesterday couldn't have exemplified more of the opposite.
She taught me the "Lesson of the Butterfly." (which turns out was written about 11 years ago by Paulo Coelho, author of The Alchemist) This is my summation.
There once was a man wandering aimlessly through the forest when he happen to come upon a caterpillar struggling to emerge from his cocoon. For hours, he waited in anticipation for a beautiful butterfly to break free. Alas, the caterpillar worked himself to the point exhaustion and ceased his efforts entirely.
In a panic, the bystander attempted to assist the helpless insect by cutting open the bottom of the cocoon. Thus, catapulting the critter to ground.
Like a true hero, the man waited for his beautiful butterfly to catch the winds of gratitude and whisk away to freedom. However, his dream never manifested.
Instead, the sad, oversized insect seized on the ground with shriveled wings---dashing all hope of any type of life its "guardian angel" hoped for him. It is there it took its last breath, and to the horror of its savior, it died.
The truth is in order for that caterpillar's wings to grow strong enough, it needed to struggle to break free. By removing that struggle, the caterpillar ceased to actualize its destiny.
My mom told me this story, because truth is this week, I have been struggling.
I'm not sure if I'm the caterpillar seeking to manifest my personal purpose or if I am the guy in the forest trying to do right thing and for lack of a better term fucking everything up.
While I figure that out, I guess I'm going to appreciate the lessons I can learn from bugs.
This is a Blue Morpho Butterfly. At first appearance you don't notice the sheer genius mother nature has utilized to create such an insect. When they are flying, the inside of their wing is a brilliant iridescent blue. Upon resting though, they use their brown outer wing as camouflage. They also use mimicry to ward of predators.
I know you see the face of an owl. Can you spot the face of a snake? 🐛🦋
I can't even tell you how many times this gorgeous building popped up in my feed while I was planning my move to Medellín!⠀
This is the Rafael Uribe Uribe Palace of Culture. It's a national monunment of Colombia and is home to the Institute of Culture and Heritage of Antioquia (the "state" if you will, that Medellín is in). No the name doesn't have a typo ... Rafael was a famous general (and lawyer and journalist) and has two last names because both his paternal and maternal family names were Uribe ... uh ... 🤔⠀ ◽⠀
Even on a cloudy day this building was spectacular and with it being only a few metro stops from my neighborhood I'm sure I'll be back many times during my six months here! 👏
11 months into the year but you still haven't used the utensils for anything besides the usual binge. End the year on a sweet note by cooking an easy to make dessert. Need your ingredients, DG Mart is here to help.
I’m a little sad 😢 my Greece trip is coming to an end. Although I checked ✔️ many things off my bucket list 📝, I still feel like there is still so much more to experience. Here are the top 3 things I learned on this trip:
1️⃣ Fanta is so much better here 🤯!
2️⃣ All pitas, gyros and sandwiches seems to have French fries🍟in them.
3️⃣ Greek’s really like Feta - even during breakfast 🍳🧀 .
Maybe the next time I’m in Greece, I won’t only think about food 😅.
I read somewhere once that we judge ourselves on intention, and others on action.
I've never been very good at that.
I berate myself constantly. "I should have done this."" I was perceived as that." The notion that I am constantly disappointing people haunts me.
Yet for some reason, I give others the grace I never afford myself. Perhaps it's because I truly understand the human condition and recognize that if you give someone enough time they will fail you. I can live with that.
What I can't live with is failing other people. It is my single greatest fear in life. I've always been that way. I think it's part of my mental programming.
I remember sitting down with a counselor in the 5th grade after the Columbine shooting happened. I told them that I wanted a school shooting to happen at our institution so I could be the person that saves everyone and tackles the shooter. 🤦♀️ What a foolish notion coming from a mere child.
In adulthood, I got a tattoo echoing a similiar sentiment taken from a line in my favorite Michael Jackson song. "I'm only human." I guess I wanted to remind myself of that.
I'm not sure if the unobtainable standards I have imposed on myself have helped make me be a better person or created an antihero who's super powers are self doubt and scrutiny.
Do any of you feel that way?
In the field of psychology, they call these limiting beliefs. They are the false beliefs a person acquires after making incorrect conclusions about life. Somewhere along the way, I impoverished my confidence and sense of self worth by believing such conjectures.
I am going to change my path for 2019. I am going to become that super human bad ass who is going to change the world. But on the way, I think I am going to try to be a little more gracious with my soul.
I don't need my tree of life growing from a seed of doubt.🌳
Limestone mountains and water as far as your eyes can see!
There are many bays where you can go for a day or an overnight cruise in Vietnam - Halong Bay, Bai Tu Long Bay, and Lan Ha bay near Hanoi are some of the popular ones. All of them are stunningly beautiful. Halong bay receives maximum tourists and the beach gets really crowded however the cave near Halong bay is the biggest and prettiest. Bait Tu Long Bay and Lan Ha Bay are not at all crowded and also have caves to see.
This is a must in your Vietnam itinerary, so when are you planning to go?
Santorini is a tourist destination between March to October. During the 8 month summer ☀️ period the small island with a population of 1️⃣5️⃣0️⃣0️⃣0️⃣ triples because of the foreign workers that come in preparation for the tourist season. Winter ❄️ in Santorini may be cold 🥶because of the 45km/h winds 💨 but there are many reason to still visit the island from November to February.
_ ✅ Food. With all the extra shops that are open only for the tourists closed for the season, that leaves only local establishments. This means that all the food you find on the island is fresh, authentic and local 👌.
✅ Crowds. Tourist season on the island of Santorini is insane. Imagine wanting to visit an attraction only to find that it’s packed with people already no matter what time of the day. Going during the winter season means less people which allows for the perfect photos.
✅ Price. High season also means expensive 💶. Going during low season means you get more bang for your buck without the inflated tourist prices.
If you plan to visit this beautiful island during the winter months, just remember to bundle up for you might get blown away by how cold it could get.