I wear my Scars as a Badge of Honor. What any of you have gone through at whatever level is an Inspiration for many other people worldwide.. Every Next level of your Life will Demand a New You and at times it takes and requires being broken to attain that New Level of Yourself
“My smile hides my tears.
My laugh hides my screams.
It's been this way for years.
Things aren't as they seem.
I always seem so happy.
With not a care in the world.
But you should know sadly,
Many things go untold.
Nobody really knows me.
They only know my cover.
But I wish I could let it free.
Let them know what's under.
But instead I practice
My smiles in the mirror.
Then the next thing I do is
Make my fake laugh clearer.
What is wrong? You need help?
Is all they will ask.
So I have decided
To live behind a mask.”
Angel Pearsall, UK
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Donald Trump doesn't believe women who have been sexually assaulted because it happened 36 years ago?
NZ Police believe in historical rape complaints. Not every victim (survivor) of sexual assault knows how to come forward, has the support to make a complaint, or never comes forward for fear of not being believed and being ridiculed.
Just because a woman or man, who has survived a sexual assault, does not come forward at the time of the incident it does not mean it did not happen. Many historical rape cases are heard in NZ courts and many abusers are found guilty many, many years later.
#iamasurvivor When I was 10 I told someone, who should’ve believed me, about the sexual abuse I had been suffering for 5 years. They didn’t. Instead, they asked for leniency at the perpetrators hearing. When I was 21 someone broke into my house and raped me. The cops didn’t believe me. They never investigated. 6 years ago a Detective contacted me. He said “they didn’t believe you because there was alcohol in your system and you were in bed.” It was 2am, I was sleeping. They had pulled my rape kit and ran DNA. It hit. I was one of his first victims. He went on to rape dozens of women. You ask why women don’t come forward. This is why. I was shamed and humiliated. I was attacked and my credibility was questioned by the people who should’ve advocated for me. I was raped a second time by the system. I know not all men rape. I know not all people shame and attack. Not everyone is guilty. But silence is culpability. We live in a rape culture where a woman isn’t safe to wear a short skirt and have a beer with her friends. Where girls are told to dress modestly so they don’t “tempt” boys instead of teaching our boys self control and respect. We live in a society where we tell 17 year old girls that boys aren’t responsible for what they do at that age, sending the message they won’t be protected. We live in a society where women don’t feel heard or safe. Women, and their rights over their bodies, are not respected. This is a complex and systemic problem. And it is not just men, but women who send this message. It’s something that’s taught and passed down from generation to generation. There is no easy answer. But I believe for anything to change, the narrative needs to shift. This needs to stop being about what women are or are not doing and focused on WHAT WE ARE TEACHING OUR BOYS! A woman should be able to dress and talk however the fuck she wants without the fear of being raped! If you disagree with this, you are part of the problem. We need to VOTE OUT ANY POLITICIAN who perpetuates rape culture! Their message, in no uncertain terms, is our our body is not ours. We are shamed for assaults and attacked for wanting birth control. VOTE. THEM. OUT. #ibelievesurvivors
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Every. Single. Time.
Please don't waste my time with "but the people who falsely accuse!"
It's a teeny tiny fraction of a percentage of those who report sexual assault.
And also, so many survivors of sexual assault don't report.
Far more than those who do.
Because they are largely not believed.
Because they bear the burden of proof and often there isn't any obvious physical evidence.
Because they are often dragged through the mud by those who don't believe them.
Because they are threatened.
Because it is unsafe.
Because they are afraid it might have been their fault (side note: it never is).
Because their attackers rarely see jail time or actual punishment.
Because in order to go through a trial, they have to spend thousands of dollars they might not have.
Because people shame them.
Because they feel shame.
Because, because, because, because.
And honestly, it doesn't matter.
I believe survivors every single time.
They are not doing it for political or professional or personal gain, despite what many suggest.
They often suffer when they speak out (see above).
Those who come forward are fucking courageous.
They deserve our support.
They deserve our solidarity.
They deserve our respect.
They deserve to be listened to and heard and believed.
Love my kids ....My biggest supporters....We are survivors and no one can ever take that away from us. “Don’t listen to what the people say cause they don’t know about you and me”.........Books are flying off the shelves and healing is happening for many women. I will take people unfriending me any day to save a life. Being a part of the in crowd is not always right!!! Bullying, Denial and Retaliation is some mess but we stand tall and thrive on... #iamasurvivor#sugar 💕🦋 https://www.iamasurvivorbook.com/quontica-conley
As a survivor of sexual assault I understand the magnitude of someone believing in you. So today I wear black in support of Christine Blasey Ford and ALL the brave souls who are speaking up. I #believe you. #believesurvivors
Our second survivor story for our Slice of Hope campaign comes from Jackie Henderson. Jackie is a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a friend, an aunt, a cousin, a human resources executive, a Christian, and in 2016, she became a breast cancer survivor.
After a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction, Jackie underwent chemotherapy and started taking Taxol to fight her cancer. “Chemo kills the bad stuff, but also the good stuff,” Jackie shared when thinking back on how she lost the hair on her entire body and dealt with the multi-emotional side effects of chemo. We are happy to say that Jackie has been cancer Free since October 2016.
She has been a volunteer with the American Cancer Society through Relay For Life and Making Strides Against Breast Cancer for almost 20 years and counting. Jackie and her husband Michael are living their lives to the fullest and have grown their family by three beautiful children through adoption. Thank you Jackie for being such an inspiration!
wearing black today in solidarity with my sisters and everyone that is standing up to make sure we are not just listened to, but heard. and BELIEVED. I've never watched the news with such a pit in my stomach, feeling nauseous watching those in power that have such blatant disregard for women, victims and human decency. but I've also never watched the news with such pride. watching so many people, not just women, rise up, use their voices, gather, protest, tell their stories, risk arrest, stand up for what they believe in. what they know is right. and fair. and just. and I'm proud. proud that no matter what happens in the imminent future, I know we will have been a part of something bigger. something that will, whether they like it or not, change history for the better. so be angry. but be proud. because women are damn stubborn, and we will not give up until we are really, truly, demonstrably listened to. (or until we take over, whichever comes first) #believesurvivors#cancelkavanaugh#riseup#iamasurvivor#metoo
2 days late with this post but Saturday (September 22) was my 1st Re-Birthday! 🎉 One whole year since I received my transplant. I can’t even believe it. I’ve been trying to not get emotional about it, but it’s just hard to fathom everything that has happened in the past year and how blessed I am. I can’t wait to see what all this next year has in store 😁🧡
This is the face of a survivor of sexual assault. This is my face, I have dealt with a few different situations, ones that are "oh it was just a joke" or the one when I was seven years old and had no idea what was going on, to the one in the workplace, where I lost my job because I wouldn't sleep with my boss. These are just a few to add to the millions all over the world #believesurvivors#metoo#metoomovement#iamasurvivor#momboss#momlife
I work from home but walked out to stand in solidarity with Dr. Ford and all those who have suffered at the hands of a perpetrator, a predator, intent on destruction of heart, body and soul because they had the power. The time is here to stand in our truths and take back that power. Tell your stories if you can. You are loved. You are believed. Your existence is your survival. I #believesurvivors because #iamasurvivor . #MixedBlood warrior. #indigenouswomen#blackwomen#IndigenousSheHulk
I never reported mine, and it happened 26yrs ago. I remember every detail even though I was intoxicated. So does that mean because alcohol was involved that I deserved to be taken advantage of? I've never told a soul except my husband. #believesurvivors#iamasurvivor#metoo
“I am a fighter. I have come through a hell of a lot...I’ve often felt like I have actually been in hell.
I remember when I woke up in the facility after I’d taken my last overdose. I wished I hadn’t woken up. I wished I had been left alone to just go.
Today, 2 years later, I’m so glad I did wake up. I didn’t just wake up from that, I have woken up to life.
I received such amazing care and kindness in the clinic from all the staff. It was the first time I really began to believe my life could be different.
Just know that even if you feel like there is no way out...there is. Get help. You are strong. Be a fighter.”
Jack, New York
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You get up to basically a robot routine of rushing, getting kids to school, myself to work and COFFEE. I reflect here about what I'm blessed with and I give thanks. Some people after giving thanks ask for a better job, to win the lotto, to get a better home or have the nice car or clothes. I don't ask for none of that. I ask for guidance to help me achieve happiness and love. To protect & guide my boyfriend and my 3 babies to bring them love and happiness. That makes me happy that brings joy in my heart.
The truth: I'm truly happy! When I look at what and who is important I AM HAPPY. I have EVERTHING I prayed for, the important stuff!
Knowing this makes me want to get passed all the old stuff and commit to healing my heart and accepting certain events that I tend to always let into my sunshine. #workinprogress#ihatecancer#ihatethementalgames#butthroughgodsgrace#iamasurvivor
Meet Happy @happyjukeboxcubed. Happy perfectly describes this bundle of love however happy, was not how she started life. This poor girls limbs were all cut off at the Yulin Dog Meat Festival. This is why we do what we do, so Happy can have a second chance at happiness.
Happy was rescued from the meat market at the Yulin Meat Festival in China last year by @animalhopeandwellness Happy miraculously survived canine distemper while being tortured. Happy's mom @animalalice89 is a veterinariany technician at the hospital in America that treated her wounds and restored her health and fell in love with her @animalorthocare Derrick created prosthetics to help Happy learn to walk again 💗 Happy is so strong and her happiness is contagious 💗 #iamasurvivor
I wear my Scars as a Badge of Honor. What any of you have gone through at whatever level is an Inspiration for many other people worldwide.. Every Next level of your Life will Demand a New You n at times it takes n requires being broken to attain that New Level of Yourself
He Raped my Body but no my Soul,
He Destroyed my past but not my Future,
He took away my Sleepy Nights but not my Dreams,
Speak out, Your Silence will not Protect you.
Join me tonight with more Survivors at 8.30pm on @switchtvke with the beautiful @misstamima as we speak openly n unashamed about rape. If you never Heal from what hurt you, you will bleed on the people who didn't cut you. Signate or go tv channel 830 or The Switch: 831 Go tv. Keep it locked n kindly share the video
Just think...there are women and men living through it right now. They've seen the news and are praying that their situation never gets that serious. Stuck & afraid with no one to talk to. Fear of judgement from family and friends keeps them quiet. Fear of being hurt, killed, or possibly having harm caused to their family makes them stay. The mental, emotional, and financial abuse are the shackles that keep them bound in a relationship that could potentially kill them. They are living in their own version of hell because they've been brainwashed to think that they deserve it.
Join us Saturday October 20th at Halls Chophouse. Safe Harbor will be there sharing resources and information on safe escape plans and how to get help even before you get out.
I wasn't even double digits when he stripped away my innocence. He made it a game and threatened me if I told anyone. He was in my family and at a young age you are told you can trust your family, especially those who are in charge of babysitting you.
This only lead me to toxic relationships in adulthood. So when I was raped after repeatedly saying no to a guy I was talking to, I didn't even see it as rape. It wasn't until talking to a friend about how I was laying there vulnerable, forced, and emotionless, that I even realized I was raped. I. Said. No. He texted me later that day saying he had a good time. I was laying in my bed considering suicide. He was well-liked, a graduating senior in college, and he kept convincing me that I wanted it. We'd done it before, how can that count as rape?
In both situations, there was no man in the bushes. There was no white truck with candy. I was convinced by society that there was nothing wrong, and even if there was...who would listen?
This is my art piece, I AM A SURVIVOR. I am currently accepting submissions of stories from sexual assault survivors for my upcoming art piece. You can remain annonymous, and I accept things of all types--personal stories, suvivor photos, screenshots of tweets/instagram posts/facebook. Please view my website via the "My Story" tab a link is given for submission.
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*photography by @sharekajennyk