Excuse the typos but the message the message is very true. But for both men and women. Be careful about who you allow in your life, be careful about ppl intentions for you in their lives. Sometimes your position in someone else life may not match up to what you may want from that person. Don’t be surprised... some people may have laterite motives but allow them to be open. Allow them to be honest. I’d rather someone be completely honest and tell me what they want instead of playing the game just to go around and get what they may want in the end. No one respects the liar and deceiver in situations like that. Be better than that ! #staytrue#intentions#love#loyalty#honesty#black#attraction#keepit100#blacklove#hurt#lies#liars#people#couples#blackpeople
So far, today’s been a good day. It had a purpose... lunch with a lovely friend at @bettys and we chatted about all the taboo subjects of death and finances and all those things people shy away from. It’s quite refreshing to have friends who just treat me like me and not some broken object, even though I might actually be a bit broken.
But being broken is OK; you just work out how to get by with the broken bits and take each hour as it comes. You win at some and fail at others but that’s OK too. I’m just rolling with it!
So I got dressed up, made the effort and we had a lovely time with a glass of champagne to toast my lovely hubby Simon. Thank you @amcarroll1965 and @emcazx for a lovely time.
Skirt and top from @newlook boots from @nextofficial
What did she tell you that set you off?
She told me I work too much and then when I come home, I’m exhausted. Of course I’m exhausted, I’ve been putting in as much overtime as possible to pay for daycare.
How did you feel when you heard that?
I felt like all the hard work was for nothing. I felt like I was getting shit for doing the right thing. How about I work less and we go into debt, how about that?
What finally broke through to you? What shifted the conversation?
(long pause on this man’s end)
She told me misses me, man. She got all teary eyed and told me she misses me.
And how was that for you?
It fucked me up, but in the right ways. It made me know she cared and reminded me why we’re going through all of this. It made me feel like we’re in this together and I’m not alone.
What did you do when she said it?
I hugged her.
If you miss someone tell them. If you miss them and are getting angry at them because of it, perhaps today is an opportunity to express that differently.
Happy Uncivilized Monday…you fucking legends.
I saw a post by @theempoweredwomanproject earlier asking people to post a collage of pictures about what mental health looks like. Here’s mine. For about the last 30 years I’ve been living with disordered eating, managing it, or not is a constant exhausting battle. I can tell you approximately how much I weigh in any picture, not just these, ANY picture taken of me in my adult life. There’s about a 4 stone fluctuation in these pictures that is symptomatic of my ability or lack there of to manage this issue. In my adult life I have lost and gained 10 or more stones, over and over and over and over... It’s my only coping mechanism, my worst enemy my closest confidant. It is something that I am deeply, deeply ashamed of and that I would not wish on my worst enemy. It defines not just how I feel about myself but how I believe others perceive me and how I judge my value as a human. My life, my failures and successes are all catalogued next to a score in stones.
I am capable, reasonably intelligent, compassionate human being. Who lives with a condition that controls my life far more efficiently than I am able to.
Eating disorders are not something silly girls do, it’s not about fashion or fitting into a size smaller jeans, it’s not just about excepting the way you look, or embracing your inner beauty, it’s not a “normal” thought pattern, it’s not something you take a pill and get over and it’s always there, waiting for you to fuck up and return to it.
If you are struggling with disordered eating, if you’re starving yourself and feeling like a winner, if you binge and purge, if you only ever feel calm while you’re eating but live with the offset guilt that comes with the perceived failure of eating, please, please seek help.
Don’t lose your life to an eating disorder.
This is what my mental health condition looks like.
Happy Monday everyone! My intentions for this week are hard work, self care, and honesty. -
I have so much I want to do in my life but I have a lot of hard work to get there; thank goodness I consider myself a workaholic. With hard work also comes self care. With being a workaholic I tend to over work, and forget to do things daily that make me also feel good, (I.e. yoga, smoothies, eating right, drinking water, getting enough sleep, etc.) so as long as I am giving 100% of my efforts to my goals while also taking care of myself - my honesty part will just fall into place because I will be holding my self accountable and being honest to myself. ✨
I love when this little guy joins me at the end of my workouts! 😍
Maybe not so much when he tries to sit on me during the abs portion of the workout, but it’s still entertaining! 😂
We had a super busy, but fun weekend & I definitely was not perfect in my nutrition by any means. I am still working on allowing myself grace on the days when I don’t make the best choices by remembering that I’m only human. I have, however, been on my A game when it comes to my workouts! Regardless of what I may be eating, I haven’t allowed myself to miss a single workout by making excuses for myself & that is a complete change from a year ago!
Now here’s to hoping I can get the rest of my goals on track by the new year. 😜🤷🏼♀️
It’s Mindful Monday and I want to share transparently what I’m really working on in my mindfulness journey (and many times struggling and failing)...I am highly distracted A LOT of the time. If I take an honest look at how I show up, especially with my loved ones, I see how often I’m on my phone, texting, playing games (damn you Word Cookies and Best Fiends), and checking social media meanwhile the people I care most about aren’t getting the best of me and the authentic, loving connection the need and deserve. If you too are struggling with this type of addiction I want to share an app that if helping me hold myself more accountable. It’s called “Moment”, (and it free - woo hoo!! 🎉) It basically allows you to set screen time goals, tracks your “pickups” and gives you feedback about how you are doing. It’s been heartbreaking and eye opening for me to see the how much I am on my phone, but I do know that knowledge is a powerful tool and it’s been so helpful on my journey. I’d love to hear what you do to help with distractions...I’ll take any advice I can get in this challenging area for me. ✨
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Past Weeks I have distance myself Away from Everyone.
Carefully annualizing my relationships
Cynicism: An inclination to believe that people are only motivated by self-interest
Pessimism: the tendency to see, or emphasize only bad or undesirable outcomes, results, conditions, problem etc
Negativity: the expression of criticism of or pessimism about something
Optimism : HOPEFULNESS AND CONFIDENCE ABOUT FUTURE OR THE SUCCESSFUL OUTCOME OF SOMETHING
There no limit to this CUT Off
Family, Friends, Children, Dogs, Cats
Ask your self do you display any of those definition.
If So 🤷🏾♀️ You had GO 🙅🏾♀️ #negativity#entrepreneur#friendship#family#children#smallcircle#Succesful#Investing#Future#Goals#Happiness#Joy#Honesty#Mylife
You aren’t your faults or your mistakes. Sure, that’s helped you become who you are... but you are beyond that.
You are a masterpiece and I see you, I see you at your best always 💕
because that’s who you truly are 😘