Let’s just be real. We all have moments when we’re in a funk. 😖
Maybe you’re not feeling the workout routine or healthy eating. Maybe you’re snippy with the kids or partner. Or maybe you’re not really applying yourself like you normally do. Heck, the holiday season in and of itself can be a reason for feeling out of whack.
I’m with ya. I recently found myself uninspired and unmotivated to go after the very things I said I wanted.
Self sabotage at its best. It happens to the best of us. Even life coaches aren’t immune.
I had been pushing myself a bit too hard and wasn’t feeling aligned/balanced. Funk ensued...the misalignment of where/who I was being versus where/who I wanted to be.
Who can relate? 🤦🏻♀️ Coaches can sometimes coach themselves out of a funk (we have many techniques after all). 😊 But some coaches seek the help of another coach...to help them see what maybe they can’t see themselves. That’s one of the things we do best. 👓
I love being a coach. I not only use the tools and techniques to help other mamas, but I use them to help myself. I’m human too!
So what did I do? I did some gratitude journaling and reframing/perspective shifting. I chose to reconnect to my big picture “why” to help me see the forest through the trees.
If you’re in a funk, remember that it happens to us all. If you have tips to share on what works best for you to get out of a funk, I’d love to hear! And if you’d like some support to get out of a funk, shoot me a DM and we’ll chat. 🤗
For this month I am turning my desk into a Ginger Bread house, and I couldn't be happier about it!
I love the end of the year, you get to look back at everything that has happened, every achievement you accomplished, every struggle you overcame and you can know that all the effort you put in has been worth it!
Gingerbread aside, I just like decorating, depending on my mood that is 😂
I am excited to see what 2019 brings for myself, my family and my friends. Before that though, I am looking forward to seeing if I win this year's competition 😜
Does your work do fun activities over the holidays to keep moral up too?
Holiday Check-in friend.
How are you really feeling?
Are there things happening in your life that are interfering with your joy this season?
Are you wondering why this happens every year to you?
Are you wondering why people continue to do the same destructive things that they’ve been doing year after year?
I feel you. •
We can’t control people even during the most wonderful time of year-although we’d like to think that we can damn sure try.
If you feel like skating away on that river, that’s totally ok! It’s totally normal for you to feel that way.
Let’s use that signal in a different way. Let’s ask that part of you that wants to skate away som questions so that you can get the answers you seek.
This is the most wonderful time of the year. The time for miracles and the time of forgiveness and hope.
Choose wisely who you spend your time with and just maybe you won’t need that river after all.
With massive love,
The things you don’t see in these pictures: -Me yelling at my kids not to place the ornaments too close together - TJ opting out of decorating (even though I specifically waited until the weekend so he could be included) because “There’s too many people around the tree.” 🙄 -My ongoing meltdown because NOTHING electronic has worked for us the first time around, and somehow dead Christmas lights and broken ornaments remind me of my dead mom.
If you’re struggling with the holidays, I believe this could be for you. ❤️ New blog titled “‘Tis the most wonderful time of the year... unless it isn’t.” #linkinbio#holidayscanbehard#blog https://mytribe304.blog/
You’ve got one. You know you do. That friend who always complains about their dry skin. Uh huh. That one. Listen, tinned fish are chock full of healthy EFA’s. How about popping one of these delicious @jose.gourmet conservas into their stocking? They’ll either love you for it or be perplexed. And nothing says “Happy Holidays” like confusion. ❤️🕊
A Christmas Schmidt Story:
One year, my sister and I gleefully met Santa Claus!! We had a blast at my dads company Christmas party and got photo evidence of the big mans existence. Good thing because our dad missed our big moment! When we finally saw our dad (who had just changed out of this exact Santa suit 🤦🏻♀️) we told him how disappointed we were he missed meeting Santa. And you thought you had daddy issues!
That’s the thing about adoptive dad’s though, they have to be a little bit extra to take on the challenges of many roles to kids who would have missed out on a lot more if it wasn’t for them. I’m lucky and proud to be #adopted and hope that as you spread your holiday cheer you remember all of the children waiting for families or just trying to navigate the system until they age out. A little kindness can change a life! 🎄
Many people have emotional struggles during the holidays. Cold weather, reduced sunlight, sad anniversaries, and loneliness can hit you hard. Take care of yourself. Check in on others and ask how they’re doing.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255. Free, confidential, available 24/7.
Up until the last few weeks I feel like I’ve handled this new life like a champ... all the ‘firsts’ that have come at us over the past few weeks however have me checking myself. I still handle it, I have to, but it’s with much more effort and encouragement from those closest to me. Remember those who are alone or grieving, especially this time of year. You know someone who could use a little love... then give it! You have no idea what it can mean to them. #begracious#grievinghasnoroadmap#smilethroughthepain#holidayscanbehard
The holiday season can be exceptionally difficult and littered with grief triggers for the bereaved. Anniversaries, holidays, traditions and milestones can reawaken memories and highlight feelings of sorrow, loneliness and inadequacies.
It’s okay to feel overwhelming emotions. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to laugh. It’s okay to to decline invitations for celebrations, or to accept them. Please be kind to yourself and know that whatever it is you are feeling, it’s normal!
Please don’t isolate yourself or bury your grief! Surround yourself with safe friends and family and find a suitable grief support group. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Posted @withrepost • @salarmykrocphila If you are a family in need, the holidays can seem incredibly overwhelming. We are accepting applications for holiday assistance through December 7 at the Kind Family Resource Center. We serve the following zip codes: 19129, 19140 (west of 5th street), 19141 and 19144. Stop by with your personal identification/photo ID, proof of address (utility bill, etc.) and the original birth certificate or medical cards that indicate birth dates of children (ages 12 and under). We are here to help! #supportingcommunity#holidayscanbehard#letushelp
If you are a family in need, the holidays can seem incredibly overwhelming. We are accepting applications for holiday assistance through December 7 at the Kind Family Resource Center. We serve the following zip codes: 19129, 19140 (west of 5th street), 19141 and 19144. Stop by with your personal identification/photo ID, proof of address (utility bill, etc.) and the original birth certificate or medical cards that indicate birth dates of children (ages 12 and under). We are here to help! #supportingcommunity#holidayscanbehard#letushelp
Good Morning y'all! ☀️ Over the last week or so I have had a lot on my mind about the holidays. 🎄 For some or even most people the holidays are a time of J.O.Y. but for some people the holidays are a time of L.O.N.E.L.I.N.E.S.S. and/ or P.A.I.N. It is very important that we remember to pray for the people or families who are hurting. Whether they recently lost a family member or whether they lost a family member during the holiday season prior to this year. 💔 There are members of families who don't get to come home or don't have a place to call home. If one of these is you, know that I will be praying for you! I have lost a family member during the holidays and I know it's not easy!
BUT... Just remember that the lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. - Psalm 34:18 🙌
If anyone needs prayer, I'm here. 🙏
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So get this…
Five months after my dad died, I was dreading the holidays. How could he possibly miss this??
By the next year, I was so excited for the holidays I was ready for my family’s gift exchange by early October.
And now, we regularly plan our holiday bashes 9 months in advance.
Want to know how I made that shift?
Click here to join me on DEC 12 for the online workshop Who said the holidays are always happy? How to heal during the holidays.
So here’s the thing.
The steps I took weren’t rocket science. I didn’t need tons of counseling or medications to feel differently about the holidays. And I want to give the EXACT steps I took to YOU so you can let the healing in this holiday season.
I thought so.
It’s time to grab your seat when you click the link in the bio for the ENCORE round of the online workshop Who said the holidays are always happy? How to heal during the holidays.
You will get my #1 tool for healing this holiday season AND learn
how to talk about the elephant in the room,
feel good about the festivities you might otherwise have dreaded,
and find ways to make your traditions bloom now that things are different.
I used to feel like the world was out to get me. What did I do to deserve such pain everyday? My mentality was that everything happens for a reason and I must have done something wrong for this bad thing to have happened.
But that’s not exactly how it works.
While we can talk about reasons all day long, the real, hard truth is that as soon as I stepped outside of my own suffering, rewrote my self-talk, and saw my holes as an opening for something new, my grief triggers transformed into love notes.
Right before my very eyes.
Just like that.
Yours can too.
Join me for the online workshop Who said the holidays are always happy? How to heal during the holidays to let the healing in. Hit the link in the bio to grab your seat for ONLY $55.
Sending love your way,
P.S. Can’t make the live workshop? Grab your seat and I’ll make sure you get the replay straight into your email inbox to take in at your convenience.
Last night while we decorated the tree, typically I start thinking about my Dad and get weepy, but last night was different. After five years, I was able to think about him and smile, or bring up his name and tell a funny story, instead of cry. The year after he died we would come home and our tree would have fallen. All the ornaments scattered all over the floor. This happened probably five times that season. We were convinced it had to be my Dad keeping us on our toes! I bring this up for anyone going through grief this holiday season. Feel your feelings. Let the tears flow. You don’t need to make anyone else feel comfortable about your grief. It is not weak to cry. It’s okay to say their name or feel sad. Slowly and as the years go, hopefully your tears will start to be replaced with laughter. In time, that deep piercing pain starts to soften and those huge waves that knock you over, and leave you unable to breathe, start to space out. They would want us to choose joy. They would want us to Let Life Smile again. Happy Hanukkah and a very happy start to the holiday season! @optionb is a wonderful resource for anyone needing extra support this time of year. 💞
A few weeks ago, I hosted an online workshop : 🔸Who said the holidays are always happy? 🔸 How to heal during this season when someone you love is missing from your dinner table? 💔
The major takeaway? .
You can PREPARE 🌿
Healing during the holidays isn't some far out, impossible accomplishment. It can happen in your own kitchen while pulling out the roast, around your family circle while sharing laughter, or even in the quiet moments between the action. Because when you shift the language of self-talk, you remove those double whammies with one fell swoop and open yourself up to healing 💙
In 10 days we're giving you this GIFT again 🎁 so you can go from dread and loneliness to honest, authentic appreciation for this time of togetherness 💝
In this workshop, you'll learn : .
☑️ How to talk about emotional grief, especially when someone we love is gone from our holiday table
. ☑️ How to manage expectations about the festivities and their outcomes so instead of disappointed about things you walk away feeling good .
☑️ How to recreate traditions so they can bloom in new situations and you can appreciate them again .
☑️ How to plan and navigate all the logistical decisions so you can experience this time without added stress and be present to your needs for healing (Who's going to make the toast? Who will carve the roast?) .
☑️ All with the bonus of reminding us the true reason for the season (Hint : It's not just about giving.... It's even deeper) .
So here's the question :
ARE YOU READY❓
Hit the link in Bio to grab your spot for the next "Who said the holidays are always happy? How to deal during the holidays?" on December 12th LIVE @1 PM PT
Let the countdown begin, see you in 10 days ⏰
#agingcourageously#lonelinessthoughts ✨ #aloneatworld#acceptingyourself#themeproject#timeforhealing#griefandloss#holidayscanbehard#livingwithloss#griefandlosssupport#redefininglove#holidays 🌴 #everythinghappensforareason ❤️ #yourvibeattractsyourtribe 🙌 #dontbeafraidofthedark#youarenotalone#happytohelp
Long post ahead...and it gets better at the end 😁
The holiday season has begun and to be honest, for 19 years I haven't truly enjoyed Christmas. I have dreaded hearing Christmas Carol's on the radio. Putting up decor has just not seemed festive (in my heart) and it all has seemed like it just isnt worth it. 😪
Why you may be asking...well 19 years ago, I lost my mother (no, she didn't just wander off. Lol). We lost her to the culmination of a 20 year battle with cancer that had ravaged her body and a bout with pneumonia which took her down a path she couldn't recover from.
See, my mom made the holiday. She loved Christmas and he traditions surround it. And since her passing it has been challenging to find the joy in the season she loved most.❤
Yet, there is always a silver lining. Because when I do ultimately bake the cookies, hang the lights and put the ornaments on the tree, for a few moments she is with me. See she was an artist and would make ornaments for me for the tree and hearth. So each and every one of those pieces she made I will treasure for the rest of my life.
So remember that not everyone who appears to hate the holidays does so because they're truly a grinch. Maybe they have a broken heart and just need a little compassion. Each year I have to remind myself to be grateful for the traditions my mother bestowed upon me and that she will always be with us because I am here.🎄🍬🤗 May you find joy in this holiday season! And if you're feeling alone, know that you are not and there ARE others out there going through something similar and you're not alone!
You see it’s easy to show people what you think they want but how about the truth?!? I had amazing wings!!! I also had some potatoes with those wings! Why because I really really wanted them! I also had @ketocakesutah cupcakes for breakfast! Right now it’s about a balance for me! I need to take some time and really look at what I want my journey to look like and my whys because losing weight became to much of a focus for me and that led to some pretty bad self talk and that leads down a dark road. @melissdoesketo was amazing and sent me #brainoverbinge and I plan on spending some time really devouring it. In transparency I know where I’m struggling and it’s demon I always face and I always hit a wall and it’s where I’ve spent most of my money, time, effort, and energy trying to overcome most of my life!! Some demons run deep! But here’s the thing I’m a fighter, I’m stronger then I’ve been mentally in a long time, and I know I have an army of amazing supporters here and you guys support and love means more then you know, even more so going into the holidays!! #ketolife#reality#itsajourney#wings#balance#failureiswhenyoustoptrying#holidayscanbehard
So...some days, it's easy for me to compare my *behind the scenes* to someone else's *highlight reel*. Then I have to remember the goal isn't about establishing a lifestyle brand, it's about living in brand new ways. ♥️ People SURVIVE differently. I tend to *talk about it* these days, but years ago I was *silent*. I am also in the business of *creating* now & then to work through my tough moments.
My surviving loss is about people (not things) & not always thru death but sometimes silence/distance. I consistently internalize & ask "What did I do? How can I fix it? How many times do I reach out before the lack of response becomes my answer?". And then I read something that said (loosely): Don't take someone's silence personally. Maybe they've distanced themselves to take care of themselves. Their immediate tribe. And they just don't have anything else to give right now bc they are trying to SURVIVE.
And that changed me.
Most days, that gets me by without my heart crumbling. But HOLIDAYS? Yowza...they stir up #allthefeels . The emotional rollercoaster ride from the end of November through the beginning days of January are no joke for me.The emotional weather report is mostly joyful w/intermittent gloomy moments combined with some pop-up emotional downpours. You know...*normal* for #empaths .
I find myself coping well enough at the moment. I've taken the goodness (the memories, the laughter, the stories no one else would) & I've accepted (most days) that it was better to have LOVED & LOST than never to have LOVED AT ALL. Yeah, I know it sounds uber cheesy...but it's real.
You just never know the battles someone else is fighting or what another is trying to survive. And you sure can't always tell what their trauma is by HOW they are coping. So being KIND has gotta be the way.
Even if their waters look calm & their social media looks #ahmayzing ...remember there might be a colossal storm hiding just outside of the camera frame & you might not want their *shiny* after all & they might long for your *real*. ♥️ #bekind#bealight#tryingtosurvive#beafriend#becreative#loveisneverlost#smilebecauseithappened#holidayscanbehard#maythememoriesbeablessing
The holidays can be a hard time for those who are having fertility issues. Seeing family and friends who ask the same questions. No kids yet? When are you guys gonna have a family? Make babies already would ya?! Don’t you WANT kids? Everyone wants kids!
No, not everyone wants kids. So leave them alone. Mind your own business. If they haven’t shared THEIR personal story with you then take a hint. They don’t want to. Why? Because it’s none of your business. Will you be carrying this child? Will you de feeding and educating it? No? Ok perfect...then sit down.
Or maybe they DO want kids, maybe this is attempt number 4 and 3 others have failed. Maybe IVF is too much money and they just can’t afford yet another treatment. Maybe it isn’t in the cards for them and maybe, just maybe they have decided the hurt was too much and they don’t want to adopt. Maybe it’s none of your business.
Don’t ask! Leave them alone!
For all my moms who never gave birth, my sisters who’ve made the choice not to populate the earth, for all of you... this post. Just this. 🤗#morningmotivation#love#mindyourbusiness#family#goals#biteyourtongue#holidays#holidayscanbehard#depression#sad#fertility#fertilitydiet#bekind#dontbenosy
I am thrilled to be back from a brief maternity leave and back to part-time office hours.
For those who have not already connected with me or who are not on my newsletter list I wanted to send out a quick update on my return to practice planning:
I am back to part-time hours and my hopes/plan is to be gradually increasing my hours to full time again as soon as I am able (if all goes as planned within the next 3-9 months). At this time I am encouraging all current or past clients who would like support during this time to schedule ahead of time as spaces are filling up about 4 -5 weeks ahead. (I do also have a cancellation list so let me know if you would like to be added). I will also be doing full time time hours for a few weeks in December in order to accommodate the stressful times during the holidays and the end of the benefit year for most; however these spaces are filling up quickly! (Contact me directly if you are interested in reserving a space as these spaces are not listed online yet and I am anticipating that December will fill soon). Thank-you so much for your understanding during this time and I look forward to being of service over the holidays! #holidayhelp#psychologyyyc#maximizeyourbenefits#holidaystress#holidayanxiety#holidayscanbehard#heretohelp
Trying so hard to see abs through my mashed potato belly today.
Nothing says “get your shit together” quite like a 35 minute cardio sesh. What a wake up call!! Even though last week I stayed on track with my workouts my nutrition was beyond bad. You can work out all day, every day... but if your nutrition sucks the workouts won’t be phenomenal either. They say abs are made in the kitchen... unfortunately so are potatoes, breads, and desserts.
Thankfully- new week, new mindset. And I don’t have to do it alone. I can re-get my shit together with the help of my friends. Even if I don’t physically see my workout gang, the support and community feeling from them is amazing.
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I miss my brother. He's been gone 5 years now. Life has changed so much. I miss hearing his voice at the holidays - he always called no matter where he was in the world. He never, ever forgot a single one of us on a holiday or birthday. I wasn't blessed with that gene and I still have this feeling that Jack will call and remind me to call one of my sisters. Our family isn't the same without him. #holidayscanbehard#imissmybrother
The holidays are not merry & bright for everyone. Please remember to be extra kind this time of year. You never know the battles people are fighting. Taking a break and breaking the house rules with my sweet Beagle #raedunn#youvegotthis#bekind#holidayscanbehard
After what may have been a difficult holiday for some, we might want to take some time to debrief and analyze. My thoughts and ideas on my blog this week. #edrecovery#holidayscanbehard http://www.innerrevolution.org/debrief-analyze/
It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas 🎄. .
I actually put our trees up weeks ago because the weather was nice and we had a weekend at home to do it. .
But I really do enjoy decorating and this is our first Christmas 🎄 in our new house 🏡. .
Last year at this time we were moving into a different house and I was rushed around decorating it for the first time.
Crazy how much can happen in just a year. .
Holidays can be hard for so many no matter how much we try to find joy. .
I know this past year was one I never want to repeat. .
Both parents were diagnosed with cancer and we found out my Dad also needed open heart surgery all within 24 hours of each other. .
I was leaving my husband and 3 kids in Illinois every month for a week or so at a time so I could travel to Tn to help anyway I could. January-September was the most stressful time in my life. .
I feel like it aged me 10 years. 😊
Don’t get me wrong, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat if I had to but dear God I pray this next year is less stressful. .
This past year made me realize that life can change in a split second. .
Life is precious and life as you know it can become unrecognizable. You can go from being on top of the World and feeling like you’re in control to feeling like you have no control and you’re covered in sinking sand. .
This past year has also taught me it’s ok to say NO! I’m getting much better at it. Cause friends if you don’t take care of yourself, YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF OTHERS!
I have learned that even when you feel like you have nothing left to give, no strength left, no energy and no desire to do those things you once loved..... that God is always there. He carried me through this year.... I don’t even think he guided me... I was so weak and tired that he picked me up and carried me. .
This Holiday Season is so different than the years past.
My thoughts have changed, our lives have changed and I am forever changed. .
One thing that hasn’t changed is my love for Christmas 🎄and ❤️ for decorating. . Do what brings you JoY during the hard times .. do it no matter how crazy it may seem to others. 😘
So.... After all that, I forgot to bring out the freshly made cranberry sauce and we didn't feel like waiting for the pumpkin cheesecake bars to chill. .
It was probably my most quiet thanksgiving ever. My family gathered in CA where they all live, and my husband was stuck in OK training for a new position in the army. I got to see my older kids and parents with the magic of FaceTime. And somehow, I even made it through the day without crying. So very thankful for this youngest son of mine--he may be a teenager, but this child can always make me smile ❤️. .
Counting down the days when we will all will be together in the flesh for Christmas time. .
Hope you all had a nice holiday whether quiet or bountiful. And for those of you who were apart from your family, like me, I pray that you found some joy and light or created your own. 💫
Today I am Thankful that I had a home to be welcomed into. Thankful for a beautifully scrumptious meal to share amongst family. Thankful for being hugged and loved upon by my niece and nephews. For those who didn’t have a home to visit, a meal to share, a family member to hug or just having a hard time with the holidays in general... I am sending you some extra special love, a piece of pie and a hug..
Happy Thanksgiving Instagram Family and Friends!
For most, holidays are a joyous occasion, but for some, the holidays are a sad, tearful and lonely time. They may be spending their first holiday without a loved one. It could be the first time someone spends the holidays away from home. Holidays could conjure up bad memories and they just don't like them, and that's okay.
I am fortunate to be among the former category and holidays are joyous for me, but there have been times in my life when holidays weren't so welcome. Grace kept me, and thankfully, holidays are what they used to be.
All this to say, I hope for those struggling today, that one day, holidays may not be so tortuous, but in the meantime, know that I am here for you and others are too.
If it gets too bad, reach out for help,
To some, people may say that’s extreme, but I have seen it in practice, where holidays are too much to bear for some people, and thankfully they sought help before it was too late.