So every once in awhile, someone gets really, really, REALLY pissed off at one of my posts. 🤣 And that happened recently, so I wanted to tell you how I handle the situation:
1. Honestly, my first instinct is to laugh. 🙈 On one hand, I empathize with the fact that this person is CLEARLY hurting to lash out over something so small + unimportant. On the other, I always wonder if people ever notice how irrational they sound when they throw toddler-style temper tantrums on the Internet? 🤷🏻♀️
2. The next step is I say a prayer for them. I know that saying “I’ll pray for you” is usually passive aggressive AF, but I spent a decade of my life feeling like a victim, so I get it. So I simply pray that God will heal their broken hearts and bring them comfort.
3. I become besties with the block button. 😜 It’s okay for me to both bless AND release. 🙌🏻 Like, yeah, I’m sorry you’re struggling. But also, I don’t have to tolerate verbal abuse on account of your pain. I know my worth, and that ain’t it! 💃🏻
4. And the most important step: I never ever EVERRRR shrink my message to fit into other people’s comfort zones!! 🚫 It’s totally okay if you don’t dig my vibe. It’s also totally okay if you just aren’t READY to hear the kinds of things I talk about. But I KNOW for a fact that lots of people get a lot of value out of my truth, and it would be a DAMN SHAME to let an occasional negative Nancy steal my gifts from the rest of the world. 👎🏻
For the first time... just this year... after 3.5 years of coaching... I GENUINELY don’t care what other people think about me. 🙏🏻 It has taken 3.5 years of consistently filling my brain with positive inspiring messages from people I admire. 🧠 And 3.5 years of reaching out to literally THOUSANDS of people + putting myself in the vulnerable position to be criticized. But it’s been worth every single unfavorable message to get to this place where IDGAF. 🙃
I don’t miss that gut punch feeling I used to get every time someone told me I suck. #FREEDOM ✌🏻 Now I deeply BELIEVE in my worth, and no keyboard warrior can touch that shit. 💻
I hope you feel the same. 💕 #abovethebullshit
Don’t let “lack of time” be your excuse for not working on your health and fitness this year.
Here’s a list of 15 things you could WASTE your time doing for 20 minutes... 1. Complaining.
4. Doing other people’s work.
5. Watching TV.
6. Hanging out with negative people.
9. Reading the news.
10. Antagonizing others.
11. Playing video games.
12. Eating junk food.
13. Not putting things away.
14. Surfing the web.
15. Fighting with others.
We ALL have busy lives. Between momming, wifing, running my household, and running a business, I could EASILY say I don’t have time.
Give me...no, give YOURSELF 20 minutes a day to work on yourself and doing something good JUST FOR YOU.
Are you ready to stop wasting time and be good to YOU for a change? Come workout with ME instead! I can let you try it for FREE. Comment below with a 💚 or send me a message and I’ll give you a chance to show yourself that you can handle 20 minutes. 😉
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So many people ask me what healthier & safer haircare products I use, but it typically doesn’t stop there. They want something that actually WORKS (but of course) & some even up the bar by asking for a recommendation the WHOLE family can use. That’s when I introduce them to @babobotanicals. This Certified B Corp & Made Safe company believes in the power of plants & keeping things cruelty free. Babo is a company that cares, & I’m not just taking their word for it, my favorite resource Environmental Working Group (ewg.org) gives their shampoos & conditioners some great ratings, too!
The top Babo shampoo/conditioner combo in my book is “Smoothing Berry & Primrose” (pink 💗 label). It has a sweet scent that reminds me of happy times (haven’t pinpointed the exact nostalgia scent connection yet…candy?!), but this one might be better suited for the girls in the family. Next is “Moisturizing Oatmilk & Calendula” (yellow 💛 label), which has a very comforting scent, so I really like to use it on cold and/or rainy days, or days when I am not feeling so great. I think this scent works best for everyone. The last one I just picked up recently, which is the “Lice Repel” (blue 💙 label). I had always passed it by in the past, but when I read the ingredients (🌱Rosemary, Thyme, Tea Tree, Mint🌿) I thought it was perfect for bringing circulation & stimulation to the scalp, & therefore encouraging hair growth, which is why I decided to give it a try. Never having had lice (knock on some serious wood here), I figured the side benefit of repelling the nasties isn’t so bad either! However, this scent is quite strong & might possibly bother sensitive people. I had to rinse multiple times!
So, though I have a whole closetful of various “green" shampoos & conditioners myself, if you are hoping to consolidate & only have a bottle or two in your tub/shower, Babo can cover your whole family’s needs…which is also handy with a houseful of holiday guests!
A taste of Turkey 🇹🇷- Last night we ventured out with our #🏳️🌈brothers to feast upon some Turkish cuisine- creating memories together!
Despite my toxic & traumatic 5 year relationship with a dark & narcissistic individual in Istanbul Turkey, I discovered much about Turkey & the layers of its history, culture & traditions... and food!
I was relieved, that I had no disabling flashbacks, maybe it’s because I filtered out the toxic content of those 5 years with him!
Having had my passport secretly taken by him, I had only one way of ‘escaping’ the chains ⛓ he bound me in (metaphorically), to convince him that in order to top up our funds over the European summer (I was teaching & schools closed for the Summer) I needed to return to Australia!
With that, I got my hands on an emergency passport .... made my way back to Australia... and then attempted to undo the trauma I’d experienced in those 5 years! The only thing was, that I did what I was programmed to do ... return to the origin of my chaos - the family environment!
My first dinner with my significant others was an unforgettable moment. I had not filled them in on my 5 years of hell and as I put another spoonful of lentil soup 🍜 in my mouth i spat it all out & burst into tears!
They did not flinch while tears were streaming down my face, neither of them stopped to at least check in, they just continued slurping on their soup!
I wasn’t exactly surprised, they were desensitised anyway, from the numerous times I’d found myself in situations where they’d have to come to my .... er ... hmm 🤔.. I guess, rescue!
However, for them it was not even in their capacity to comprehend, it was their lacking of my most fundamental years, that they missed giving me the life skills to avoid many of the complex situations I gravitated towards!
I had skilled myself with many life tools, however the one thing I never managed to conquer was how to get back up after I had been broken down via someone else’s manipulation of my transparency & vulnerability! Then once back in the family environment I understood why ....and 3 yrs later in 2013, I walked away from that too!
#walkaway from #family#chaos
My heart is beyond full! .
I can’t even express to you the feeling I have right now getting this in the mail!!
So, back story Christina and I met through our coaching business. We found out that we lived near each other and we became inseparable ever since. .
We have found out that we have had similar losses in our lives she,her parents me my sister . .
We both embrace life to the fullest. .
Christina, I can not wait to watch you walk down the aisle. I couldn’t image my life without you in it. .
Thank God we both took a leap of faith! ❤️ #hfbbutterflykissespresets
☾ Winter Dip ☾
Although it isn’t technically winter yet, I do feels like I have a little winter dip. The amount of daylight is still decreasing (only a few days until this will turn around!) and it feels as if time is flying 🕰 It really feels as if the day starts and then I take a few breaths, do a few things and *poof* the day is over! 🌚 That is why I am so happy to go outside and catch some rays of sunlight ☀️ My love and I went for a long walk in nature 🍃 and this always helps me to get more into my body and especially get some fresh air and space in my head. To look even more on the bright side - which I always like to do! - I also bought Christmas decorations today🎄 and tomorrow I will have a beautiful meeting with my sistergroup ❤️ Looking forward to that. What are your plans for the weekend? Let me know in the comments...
Let’s get real, #empath friends… the holidays can rustle up everythingggg you’ve been working on. They can test your boundaries. They can challenge the self work you’ve done. They can trigger your shadow. They can drain your energy that you’ve worked so hard to protect.
So follow the tips above- say NO, be super aware of your energy, schedule YOU time, and utilize your meditation as a way to ground yourself before and/or after high energy situations as well cleanse any energy that is not yours to carry or is not serving you.
And just in case you have a bad day where you are picking up everyone else’s energy…
1. Take a salt bath
2. Apply one drop melaleuca essential oil to your wrists and rub together.
3. Look at yourself in the mirror and declare “What’s mine is mine, what’s yours is yours.”
4. Go outside and take a deep breathe of fresh air.
5. Turn UP the music and have a solo dance party.
6. Look up to the sky and remember how infinite the Universe is and how much possibility exists for you.
7. Unfollow negative people on social media.
8. Turn your phone off for an hour (… maybe 24).
9. Pull up the funniest youtube video you can think of or search “funny youtube videos” for a laugh.
10. Sage yourself.
Happy Holidays Empaths!!!! You totally got this. 🙌🏼
What exactly is "neurodiversity"? There's a lot of confusion surrounding psychiatric diagnoses and now's the time to set the record straight.
In her latest blog post, 'Neurodiversity And The Highly Sensitive Person,' @wellnessforce Ambassador, #WellnessWarrior , and Founder of @primal_musings, Kathryn Kos, explains the traits and beauty of being a highly sensitive person and why their heightened sense of awareness is actually their superpower.
👆Tap the link in the bio or go to 👩💻wellnessforce.com to read the full blog post.
New post on the blog about getting more meaning out of the holidays. 🎄❄️🥰☃️ It’s so easy for me to get stuck in my own head during special moments in life that can only be experienced through presence. And I don’t think I’m alone 😊 Hope you find it helpful ♥️
Vandaag ben ik jarig. Dit heb ik gevierd door een workshop Visionboard maken te geven. Met 6 stoere ladies terugblikken op het afgelopen jaar en vooruitkijken naar het komende. Wat was het leuk en wat zijn er prachtige creaties ontstaan! Mooie #doelen geknipt en geplakt. Op de foto het eindresultaat van één van hen (met toestemming geplaatst). .
Wil jij er een volgende keer ook bij zijn? Houd dan woensdagochtend 23 januari vrij in je agenda. Of nog beter: meld je alvast aan. Stuur mij een DM of mail naar email@example.com
Zie ik je dan?
Step by step you go.
Your journey is your own.
The beauty is there is only one you.
Embrace all of your sides.
I see the power and the spark in people when they can’t see it for themselves. I will tell you the truth and I won’t baby or coddle. I suck at small talk. If you complain a lot I probably won’t call you. If I give you a compliment it is because it is true.
Motherhood, success, passion have all come later in life. I spent my twenties and most of my thirties slowly learning and making sense of the things about me that make me ME.
What makes you YOU?
New blog post! “These 3 Uncommon Sets of Genes Make You a Highly Sensitive Person”
Link in bio
Do you ever find yourself annoyed by tiny sounds or distractions that others don’t seem to notice? Do you quickly pick up on what someone is feeling, or what their intentions are — even if they haven’t expressed them out loud? Do you get totally overwhelmed by a hectic environment, or the sheer number of people whose needs you notice? And do you often need to go somewhere quiet and alone to recover? If so, there’s a good chance you’re a highly sensitive person. And recent research suggests that there’s a good reason you sometimes feel overwhelmed. These are the three sets of genes that make you an HSP.
Poprvé jsem na tuhle knihu narazila na netu, stáhla jsem si ukázku, a dost me zasáhla. Našla jsem se v ní! Ale teď, když přišla, a konečně jsem se začetla,tak jsem se upřímně rozplakala, tady v kavárně. Je ohromná úleva vědět, že člověk není sám. Je to jako kdyby se čtením aktivovala nějaká teplá náruč, která šeptá do vlasů "Vidím tě, cítím tě, přijímám tě, rozumím ti". Kolik úlevy se skrývá v jedné knížečce! Každý jsme citlivý jinak, káva mi nic nedělá, naopak, miluji ji☕zvládám i davy lidí, ale jen omezený čas. Nádherné předvánoční čtení 📖📖📖📖 I have discovered this book not much time ago. Today finally I could read it. I feel so much relieved that there is a text, something... To be read by my beloved to understand me better.
Once a woman existed in that state regardless of society. Her soul existing in harmony despite internalised conflicting desires. Existing at peace with little to show for, hence little to worry over. An enchantress born to rebel against the very land that birthed her. I was struck by her beaut, then again I find most trees beautiful. She was free, majestic, a perfect work of art with little effort. At that rare moment she wasn't burdened with the expectation of society involving souls that thirsted to Fuck her in the name of sexual conquest as others aimed to tame her in name of sexual domination. Lost souls thirsting to take some of her energy so as to sooth their helpless mental struggle. The imbeciles could never realise she's a wild flower that would soon wither after been removed from her natural inhabitant. Her spirit would then diminish as her beaut deteriorates without the freedom promised to her at conception. She'll miss the fields she once sat in. She shall languish in captivity until her soul escapes her faded body. ((((AGNESS CHIBALE )))i#contradiction#personality#rare#truth#rage#warm#empath#empathic#pain#hurt#yoda#hulk#introvert#introvertproblems#infjlife#infjgirl#sensitive#highlysensitive#highlysensitiveperson