Matters of the Heart ♥️ July 18th-Wednesday from 4 to 6 pm
We will have professionals to talk about & answer all questions on Heart Health and wellbeing. ♥️ $1 Raffles Tickets-ALL proceeds going to the Dr “Buzz” Hoagland Scholarship Foundation.This scholarship helps students in Biology further their educational experience at Westfield State University.
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My last share for today’s theme #heartmatters ‘The One’
They know ‘You’
They preempt you in a sweet way, when they see you getting up and if on their feet already they’ll ask; ‘want a brew?’ When you are so akin with another that it’s as though, they read your thoughts, or is it you reading theirs?
They happily cook for you.
They know just what you need, when you need it.
They buy the best gifts, because they know You.
They know if you’re sad, excited and they indulge you.
They have just the right hug for every occasion.
And metaphorically speaking; ‘your bed feels so empty without them’
They are strong when you feel unable to be.
You feel safer with them around.
They watch your fave shows because you asked them to.
And they know they have all the same stuff from you.
The penultimate share for today’s theme #heartmatters
We’ve all met that one that rubs us up the wrong way.
Maybe it’s just in your outer circles, so you can swerve them if it’s suits.
But how about the one who’s smack in the middle of your inner circle ⭕️ and is seemingly only happy when there’s drama..?
It’s impossible to get to the point, or you make your points.
It’s all very pointless, because these people have one aim.
To control the matter from start to finish.
I had a neighbour once. If I said good day, he’d find fault in the day. If I asked how he was, he told me...
It was never good.
I also had a bf once; he was drop dead G. But he had zero coping skills.
Everything was working against him.
To him it changed the planets direction.
And he would collapse literally!
I spent so much of ‘our time’ soothing his ego, over his day at work, or the mood the shop keeper was in.
I couldn’t fancy him anymore.
Half the time the drama was so easy to avoid, yet he would go out of his way to sit right in the eye of the storm.
I’m not kidding.
It was so exhausting.
Drama I prefer to watch on 📺, not have move into my life...!
His fave saying?
Why is it always happening to me??
Wearing Truth: WHAT WE FOCUS ON, WE BECOME.
The lies we believe can seem innocent at first. But, they can grow into weeds.. Then develop deep roots that subtly deceive us. That deception can be recognized at first, but unattended too, it can quickly become a deep rooted plant or a bed of weeds taking over. Don't water the lies! Rip them out & nourish the seeds of truth that you were born with. I say this not to encourage to dig up all the lies or poor mindsets you have..please, don't strive to find all of the lies you innocently believed. Instead focus on what you desire for your life and when the lies are exposed, face them. But don't make them the target. The bullseye is the intentions put inside you & the truth of who you are. So you can experience life in it's abundance & flourish - Kim, FashionableRestStop
Continuing my theme today #heartmatters
So painful and destructive for both parties.
I fell in love with a man over a year of dating.
I never heard those three words.
There was no commitment from him and eventually I became ‘The booty call’
In my defence; I was young and immature.
Turned out he was married and I was just one of many.
We trust what we are told, it’s as if the emotions derived from meeting the object of our desire, make us blind to the truth.
Our ‘truths’ make more sense to us, and we are happier believing that the rest will follow.
Mythical relationships are as painful at the end, as those of some longevity.
What’s ironic for me is, that man got in touch years later...
He spoke of his own regrets, but for me closure had passed.
It’s important to remember that our perception can be challenged.
And no matter what; if the feelings are not shared, it can only end.
My theme today is #heartmatters
It’s seldom that we meet our soulmate, the first time we fall in love..
Often instead we have many false starts.
We can have whirlwind and passionate couplings and still it may fizzle out.
The saddest part about some break-ups; is we inadvertently carry the scars of one relationship into new relationships.
We are intrepid on our maiden voyage and not so on subsequent journeys.
When we feel understood, we wish to marshal the same, sometimes with less successful outcomes.
My mum says there’s a lid for every pot, but often we settle for ill fitting ones....
My theme today is #heartmatters
I’m a huge believer in ‘firsts’
The first time:
We met; it was nerve racking, today it’s more akin to a ‘berceuse’ (lullaby)
When my love walks thru the door today 13yrs on. I will still greet him with every anticipation I had on our first date.
It’s important to remember and maintain those moments that sealed your heart and mind for your love.
Appreciate that your time together gets stronger, stays refreshed, becomes more compassionate, it’s time we realise we live with impermanence..
Each day We see how the world copes with ‘selfish’ actions.
At home with your own world, you can choose to;
Security (create it)
Synergy (maintain it)
Order to the chaos..this has been a mission of mine for, oh, at least the last few months. Create order, organize, sort, sift, purge the items that truly are simply clutter..and yet here I sit, once again overwhelmed with the casually placed this and that strown from here and there.
Isn't life sometimes quite similar? No, maybe it's just mine but when I focus upon what needs to be and should be, my mind starts conducting a spinning motion and to be quite frank, I'm just not on board with enduring such motion sickness.. I adore decor but is my humble abode welcoming when others arrive? I hope to be driven in a forward direction but what is the fuel behind the fast pace? Ironic that too often the visual of my space can be closely paired, almost matched to the happenings in my heart.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct they paths. -Proverbs 3:6
At some point my following train has become derailed and unintentionally taken a different route in it's entirety. Hustle and bustle, a theme that sounds ever so loudly within the walls of our home. Do I sit for even a moment to catch my breath and open my heart & ears to His guidance?
This mess and clutter that with time I've allowed to become a daily focus; it has proven to remain but those heart matters, sharing Jesus, making memories with my child, loving others deeply as Christ loves me...these are the important; essential and at the end of the day, at the end of my life's journey, they will remain ❤
Continuing My Theme #heartmatters
I’m thinking about another typical relationship I recognise; the one we have with the ‘undemonstrative’ partner/parent figure.
You know the kind; when you have plans for ‘alone time’ with your beau.
Or maybe you need reassurance from a person who’s opinion matters.
But plans can collapse and reactions can disappoint.
Relationships; like any important aspects in life....
Are a two-way street.
That said; some people don’t have the same idea of what you may perceive as ‘satisfying chats’ and ‘togetherness’
Relationships are about discovery.
Not the insect kind, but the ‘what makes your loved ones tick’
Balancing the needs of another, whilst having our own met, takes...
And an elementary selflessness..
Balancing ones romantic needs, whilst fulfilling personal goals, requires communication.
‘Date Night’ is popular these days and should be free of every day matters.
As should ‘time-out’ be free of partnership issues.
With friends, family/care-givers:
I find an honest, positive approach will aid a positive energy.
So many challenging moments are based on ‘blame’ and ‘anger’ which portends unapproachable endings.
A possibility; to help lead the conversation to the root of ‘your’ fears and concerns.
It might be better to begin with appreciation of this opportunity to talk.
Our emotional experience is so often a ‘catalyst’ of the support we have found along the way.
My theme today is #heartmatters
Caught in the crossfire.?
Enabling another’s poor behaviour toward us; is like watching it happen to one of our loved ones and doing nothing about it.
Maybe we’re not always sure if it’s happening, or believe the other when they say ‘it won’t happen again’.
But it’s a sign to be ‘checked’
Any repetition of actions, speak or behaviour which leave You feeling fragile; and/or questioning your own self-worth and/or feeling scared.
Is not Acceptable.
It’s easy for me to say ‘Don’t be manipulated by their feint apologies and false promises...’
I spent nine years as a domestic/sexual violence support worker.
(Both sexes are more than capable of being violent)
And in my experience; have found co-dependancy by way of repetitive violence, and manipulation.
This Is a ‘grooming process’
As such; in some cases often there’s no definitive clue, until it ‘becomes a way of life’.
To even contemplate hurting someone you profess to ‘Love’ (in my mind) isn’t Love at all.
Building a life with a person who can make you smile easily.
Whilst you are equally able to explore all possibilities of what you can accomplish together.
There should be no hierarchy; with a dominant and submissive, (unless you each have desires to role play).
As parents we can do our best to show positive and negative behaviour impacts.
Its not a guarantee that our kids will have their ‘Happy Ever After’
But embracing positive relationships and maintaining positive relationships will help.
My theme today is #heartmatters
I know from my own ‘hurt locker’ days, that ‘hindsight’ is everything.
Yet what sense will it make, if you have none of the experiences for comparison??
Endings are painful.
They create more questions than answers.
In the process of ‘licking our wounds’ we will make promises to ourselves.
To not be caught out by that one again.
We will store our more emotional and painful moments.
To act as a ‘deterrent’ and a ‘reminder’
Still; more often than not, it’s usually too weak as a radar, until we rack up a ‘bucket full’ of tears to boot.
I nowadays feel ‘heartbreak’ is something we will have to endure for our relationships to evolve.
Wisdom is goodness.
Trust is necessary.
Experience is ‘Life’
Forgiveness is ‘Future’
Love is ‘Unity’
My theme today is #heartmatters
Having that ‘one’ person in our life; (who knows us so well)....
Who will notice the most subtle of changes.
Who will know when stuff is going awry for us.
Thus; step up to have our back, emotionally, to support us through our period of dis-ease.
I’m glad to say I’m lucky to be blessed with these loving people in my life.
It’s takes just one person (with the tenacity of limpet) to not give up on you during your struggles.
To not lose faith in you.
Who will remind you of your worth, and your ability to heal.
Having active, supportive thoughts and prayers for those you see suffering will ultimately affect your own wellbeing.
It takes so little effort to be some help to someone to help feel some ease from their heavy thoughts.
Today we got together to share our gratitude for being able to survive the past few months.
Dolly & Jay are an amazing couple we love working with, especially out of our office in Monterey Park. We both have all boys (who love Legos), and both love to do planning for events for our offices... We don’t see each other as often as before (since we moved to an office in Fullerton), but have always found ways to get together. .
Dolly and I both got and hospitalized at around the same time, with completely different - yet very similar issues. Our husbands quietly freaked out, while strongly holding our households together. Our families both got shocked with emergencies, and an abrupt change to our daily lives... through weeks and months of prayers, we both held on and are making through. .
We finally had the chance to get together again (it’s been a long time!), and just talk ... about the stress, worry, gratitude, faith and hope we’ve gone through. It’s nice to have people who empathize with you. #tribe .
As we go through our paths of healing, and adjusting, I hope we can find ways to inspire families to prepare for the unexpected and the inevitable. Life really does happen. It’s all a matter of how we handle it :) .
#dollyandjay#heartmatters#lifehappens#wegotthis#momsofboys#supportivespouses “Support Group for the Support of Supportive Spouses” lol
I think we’re always peeling away and discovering new layers of ourselves, especially after we become mothers because we need to reconcile the new us. Who is this new me?
For most, you would say that family is your first priority, and after kids, it shifts to a higher level that you didn’t even realize existed.
Your lifestyle changes, you become hyper focused on their care, and somewhere especially in the beginning, amongst the sleepless nights and rushed half meals you feel lost.
You know your kids and spouse are everything but after that, what’s next? After the giving and caring for. What lights you up? What fills up your cup?
Simply asking yourself that question is a great way to start. You don’t need the answer right away. But as you ask and open yourself up to the answer, you’ll start noticing things along the way. Hints, signs. Pay attention. It’ll come to you 💕✨ . .