@confessions_of_a_funeral_dir would say that we are mosaics of the people we lose. 💎 I agree that we carry our loved ones’ traits forward with us into the rest of our lives.
Right now I’m reading @sueklebold’s book, A Mother’s Reckoning. Sue is the mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the Columbine shooters and victims. Her book is a heart-wrenching wrestling with motherhood, mental health, love, and grief. She notes that Dylan’s actions and death changed how people saw her, as well as how she saw herself. The ways in which our loved ones live and die determines in some ways how our identities will change after loss. There is no avoiding it. How has your loved one’s life shaped your identity after their loss? Who are you becoming in the wake of their departure? 📚 #whatimreading
Death means there are actual, non-negotiable “lasts”. This is the last text message exchange I had with my mom. There won’t be another this week, this month, this year, or 20 years from now no matter how much I hope or wish or try. #adayinthelifewithgrief
Yesterday, I saw a video on YouTube. It was about a woman who lost her husband a month after their marriage. She was telling her story, hoping that it would help someone who is dealing with loss too.
Her husband was in an accident and she said what hurts her the most was the fact that he was alive and well and within a space of few hours he was gone.
I could totally relate to what she said, I mean it hurts terribly because you never expected it, your loved one was not sick, or dying of a terminal disease. Your mind wouldn't even prepare you for the worst.
You're just living your life and all of a sudden everything changes, death happens. That could be one of the worst pains to deal with.
You are constantly being tortured with regret and deep pain, because you wish you had felt ready or because you wish you could turn back the hands of time or even say your goodbyes.
I lived with that kind of pain for a longtime after I lost a loved one so I could totally understand how she felt.
Her story inspired me because despite the pain she felt and how difficult it was for her to share her story, she still did it.
I felt like she shared her strength with everyone who listened to her. I could feel it. I felt stronger.
Now, I'm sharing this hoping that anyone who reads this finds some form strength and courage to keep on living irrespective of how much pain we feel and help others like us.
"He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the former things have passed away. And the One seated on the throne said, “Behold, I make all things new.” Then He said, “Write this down, for these words are faithful and true.” Rev 21:4 #wisdomspeakstoday#liferenovations#dailydose#tears#grief#encouragement
I have always had a love for astrology Linda Goodman was on my old school fave astrologer over the years it’s drop away on how much I was present with it but stepping into such a traumatic time in my life as women being a Sagittarius I want the answer and why the way so it was natural for me to step back into that place of spirituality
What is astrology
Astrology is the study of the influence that distant cosmic objects, usually starts and planets, have on human lives. The position of the sun stars, moon and planets at the time of people's birth (not their conception) is said to shape their personality, affect their romantic relationships and predict their economic fortunes, among other divinations I truly feel in help with self acceptance awareness
We all have a sun your ego ☀️ moon your emotions 🌚 and rising who your present to the world
I’m Sagittarius sun, moon in Taurus and rising Aires we also have many other things that affect our charts like houses, and mathematic points that are not planets
For me having such difficulties for the last 4 years to have a family and I’m fit and healthy I do feel in my chart there is positive of me becoming a mother for sure I have Tauren I my moon which is reflection of fertile and abundant
But there are in my chart where there are some points of why I have had to go thought these changes , I have Moon opposition to a Saturn/Venus conjunction and this requires you to heal and love your womanhood and femininity, as it can often be a process over many years to learn to balance out what you need (Moon) with what you want (Venus) which is why I felt the need to step into that space of body building there is a real batter with feminine/ masculine energy
I also have Saturn there near my moon which is the planet of restriction and limitation this has influence the situation to have had difficulties with motherhood or the fear being feminine that it has lead to pregnancy been limited or restricted in some way as in subconsciously it 100 % use make me feel uncomfortable about being a women / motherhood being feminine which in my childhood I was sooooooooo feminine soft emotional * continues in comments *
“And I’m literally dragging one foot in front of the other walking the paving to you, and every step my heart races one more beat. And I remember the day your kids begged me to get the pretty glitter blue wind chime for your spot and I think, why the fuck do you even have a spot? A tree? A headstone, a body in the grave. It’s two days before you turn 34, and now I’m supposed to say should have ... what a phrase. You should have turned 34, except you won’t and everyone thinks I’ll eventually get over it, but love isn’t the only closet you aren’t allowed to get out of, grief is the one locked up tight with “time will heal” and “one day you will be happy” or my favorite “he is resting in peace now” Do you know where I want him to rest in peace? on my lap, on pizza Sunday watching some avengers movie, laughing about the bad CGI while we drink wine and get drunk so we can play chess and eat and ice cream right out of tub with our fingers. I watch the ants running over your grave and I think, you disrespectful little shits and then I wish I was one. My dreamboat, my love, I see you in everything and I wish I could really see you. But for now I get to watch the ants and sit under the tree by your spot with that awful blue glitter chime” C Perry
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The truth is, in one way or another, loving each other means losing each other. Being alive in such a fleeting, tenuous world is hard. Our hearts get broken in ways that can’t be fixed. There is pain that becomes an immovable part of our lives.
We need to know how to endure that, how to care for ourselves inside that, how to care for one another. We need to know how to live here, where life as we know it can change, forever, at any time. We need to start talking about that reality of life, which is also the reality of love.
There is so much work to do to change this grief-averse culture. We need a whole bunch of tools to help grieving people feel supported, and let friends & family know how to give their support.
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