We love this so much. Thank you @irisgottlieb for your powerful art and messages about gender! #repost
BOYS DO CRY. Crying is for everyone. Boys cry, dogs cry, men cry, butches cry, femmes cry, babies cry, grandmas cry. Let’s encourage a little tenderness for all genders and bodies.
Things I’ve cried about recently:
1. My broken water heater
2. Friend leaving town
3. Call Me By Your Name
4. Trying to order a biscuit and being too overwhelmed by the menu
5. Not being Harry Styles
6. Not being Troye Sivan
7. Unclear?? (A couple times)
8. My scars looking ugly
9. Bunny, general fear of her dying
10. Live feed of police charging protesters in Portland
12. An America’s Got Talent audition
13. Sad Old Man
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What have you cried about recently?
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On this note of encouraging all around tenderness.. it’s easy for me to feel narcissistic when I post a selfie. But then I remember that if you a) feel self conscious when posting a selfie; b) if you generally lack confidence; and c) have hated the way you’ve looked for a long ass time then getting some self love from external love is just fine. It’s been 11 weeks since surgery. It’s an interesting point in the process. I feel that for every step forward I take into feeling better, the way to feel better moves one step further forward. The closer I look to “boy” since having surgery, the more I notice that just doesn’t feel like enough. It’s strange how the closer we get to a thing, even if that thing is us, the more we notice its details and how different they are up close than from afar. I am trying to take it step by step and do the things I can to mitigate these feelings of inadequacy. Taking myself to get some nice fitting t-shirts. Getting a haircut. Actually washing my face regularly.
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“Gender Noise” exercise today at “Supporting Student Identities” training hosted by SDUSD’s Youth Advocacy Department with presenter, Darlene Tando LCSW.
Term “Gender Noise” and activity created by Aydin Olson-Kennedy, LCSW
#supportouryouth#genderexpansive#transkidsmatter#youth#advocacy @sandiegounified @integratedyouthservices @teaching_tolerance @glsen
Did y’all know Gender Spectrum runs an adorable Online Video Group for trans/non-binary/gender expansive 11 & 12 year olds!
Meet Mikey our current facilitator! I'm Mikey a queer artist living in Chicago and studying Art Therapy! I create quirky little characters for the enjoyment of being immersed in my own imaginative world. These characters range from magical unicornies to lazy slothies who come in the form of plush toys, zines, and key-chains I call “Yarnies". My website is yarniesluvyou.com.
Swipe left to learn more about the impact of the group. Link in bio to signup! Open to any youth 11 & 12 and you can join from anywhere! Thank you @happyhippiefdn for your amazing partnership 💜
So many of you don't know this girl, I barely knew her too- but what I did know, is that she did not deserve to bullied. She did not deserve to think the way she did. To think, that there is no life worse than the one she has right now. A lot of you have thought the way Nevaeh did. She was so pretty and so nice...so nice that people didn't think anything of it when they bullied her non stop, for whatever reason they thought that she would have no emotions to what they did to her. The thing is though, is that she did. With every word they poured out of their mouth she took- she took the words and place them into not only her brain, but into her heart. Many of you know how it is to feel this way or can relate in some shape or form- This is what I have to say to all those who are battling this cold and depressing war. You're words can become actions if you yell fire. Most of you don't think this, but let me tell you something. You only think this because there's a wall stopping you from doing this, and that wall is called fear- think of it like this... you're in burning house, the ambulance and firefighters are already there. However they don't know you're in there. You have two options now, you can either not yell for help and let the fire consume you, or you can crawl to a safer place and yell as loud as you can so that they hear you and get you out of there. I am in no means a firefighter, if you want to die and have your mindset on that. You're going to do it no matter what, but! If you're on the fence or about ready to get on the bad side of the fence let me be your safe place. I can guide you into right direction. I can't help you though if you don't want it. People who go to hospitals aren't the ones who need it, it's the ones who want it, just like people who are on diets. It's never really the ones who need it but the ones who want it. ~bay 🌊
I wrote this around a year ago and have been coming back to it a lot lately, so wanted to share it in hopes it may help/inspire some of you as well:
Finding peace within myself in terms of my (lack of) gender takes creativity. I look in the mirror and instead of imagining my body being different, I try to reimagine gender itself. I reimagine my body and all its parts as existing separately from what we think we know about bodies and parts, separate from ideas that can’t hold me. I reimagine my own physical body as existing without gender, exactly as it is. It’s in these moments that I feel free.
#imageDescription : Ink stares into the camera, their arms crossed to hold their own body. One hand lays gently on the side of their face, the other solidly against their upper chest. They appear thoughtful and calm. They have short brown hair and blue eyes.
i feel at ease in my cis-female body. and, i deeply resonate with the identity of gender expansive. lately, i’ve become very mindful of those moments when i choose to gender my language. and often i find it isn’t necessary. it is a curious journey for me since my current project is VERY gendered. one step i’ve taken as i navigate my own relationship to gender and desire to be concert with all living beings is to create a body map that doesn’t follow gendered lines. •
"radical softness is the idea that unapologetically sharing your emotions is a political move and a way to combat the societal idea that feelings are a sign of weakness. "
Our Non-Binary Expressions and Identities Online Group meets tonight! Swipe left to meet the facilitator, Reed! Link in bio to signup 🌈✨
Reed is a soulful musician, yoga teacher, massage therapist, passionate educator, and spiritual counselor. Reed has designed and facilitated support and empowerment groups for those ranging from ages 5 to 95 years old. Reed identifies as gender-sparkly as well as queer. They can be commonly found outside digging in the garden or covered in glitter from their most recent crafting adventure!
Thank you @happyhippiefdn for your support and partnership!
Meet T one of our awesome facilitators for our Trans Masculine Online Teen Group! Want to hangout with others and meet T? Link in bio to signup for our next group on Tuesday!
Hi I'm T! I'm Thai and Laotian, a designer & photographer living in San Francisco, CA. I grew up in Tennessee and lived there majority of my life. I didn't know many trans/GNC folks there and sometimes felt alone while seeking community, so I'm excited to facilitate groups to help others have a safe space to talk and meet other people!
Special shoutout to our amazing partner @happyhippiefdn for your support in our youth groups!
Coming out is not always a glorious one-time declaration that stands unwavering and echoes into the future. Sometimes coming out is challenging assumptions about your gender and/or sexuality daily, multiple times a day. Sometimes that is exhausting and difficult and it is easier to say nothing. Sometimes saying something puts you at risk of losing your friends, family, job, or physical safety. But I am able to proudly wear this shirt and explore the playground of gender because of the trans and queer people of color that fought boldly before me, and I am able to be here today to tell you that you are not alone and you are loved. And I am very thankful for that, and for all of you. 💚
TODAY at 4pm PT our Faith Programs Coordinator Austen Hartke will be on Instagram Live for a Q&A on Faith and Gender! You can ask about balancing faith and gender, theology and trans identity, how to deal with those who use scripture in harmful ways, or whatever else is on your mind! Thanks to @happyhippiefdn for support of our youth programs!
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 Repost @honkytonktrans
my @genuinevalentine tee came just in time to wear while i party all day and night w/ beautiful queer people. as someone with cis-passing privilege, there are times when I go into queer spaces where I Do Not Want To Look Or Be Cis. this shirt is the answer to all my problems and has already sparked some good conversation. in luv
I’m feeling SO grateful that I got to be apart of Flourish, the #QTBIPoC Arts Fair on #CoastSalishTerritory a couple weeks ago. A huge thank you to @jotikart for organizing a space for us to gather & sell our creations! This event seriously fed my soul!
Sometimes I forget how important it is for me to be around other queer & trans people of colour. Living rurally, I don’t have access to the communities I once had. I try not to think about it too much for the sake of my own mental health, but the isolation does take it’s toll!
I grew up in a small town with active white supremacists & an intense culture of homophobia & transphobia. I’m also the survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I learned from a young age that my race, my culture, my body, & my gender were liabilities that could cause other people to harm me. As a result, I walk through the world with a lot of armour on; layers of protection I’ve learned to wear over the years in an effort to keep my body & spirit safe from ridicule, harassment, & violence. I unconsciously make myself small, avoid eye contact, and rarely talk to strangers.
But when I’m in majority QTBIPoC spaces it’s like I get to shed a couple layers of that armour. I feel a little lighter, and safe enough to stretch out a bit. I breath a little easier, smile a little bigger, and laugh a little harder. Eventually, an emotion that’s hard for me to name rushes through my body and fills me up. And then I remember... oh yeah, this is what JOY feels like.
Have you ever had a full-body experience of joy like this? What were you doing? Who were you with? How did it feel in your body? .
Winter is coming so I’d love your help brainstorming some joy-making strategies for making the dark days ahead a little lighter. What are some ways you try to cultivate joy your everyday life?
Comment below! 👇🏽👇🏾👇🏿
Join other parents of gender-diverse youth for this Faith and Family Parents Storytelling Event this Monday, October 8. It's a chance to talk about the ways gender and faith are intertwined in your life and hear from other parents. This session will be moderated by Gender Spectrum Faith Programs Coordinator Austen Hartke. Use the link in our bio to go to our Groups Page where you can find the link to sign up.
Our Teen Non-Binary Online Group is open to anyone 13-19 interested in meeting others and talking about non-binary identities and expressions, it starts Monday October 8 and meets every Monday in October at 4pm PT. Use the link in our bio to go to our Groups Page where you can find the link to sign up. Thanks to @happyhippiefdn for support of our youth programs!
Our Trans Masculine Online Teen Discussion Group starts on Tuesday, October 9, it's a great way to share experiences or just listen and hang out with peers! Use the link in our bio to go to our Groups Page where you can find the link to sign up. Thanks to @happyhippiefdn for support of our youth programs!
FiRsT oF aLl half man/half woman look waz slayed by me in the early 2000s as you can c right here 👅👄💋Yr WelCoMe ChICaGo that I and others were out here EaRLy decades ago promoting GeNdEr PoLiTics /being AdvOcates for transgender ppl nb ppl gender expansive ppl etc since over a decade ago you are very welcome . This just a snippet of my life but its a time where I really enjoyed stuff . Daytime I did activism werk & nite time I had plenty fun Its been sad that sum ppl not tied to this pic totally sepetate in which I too did gender politics activism with shunned me last year for tellin em I was on T. Its been confusing 2 me how many ppl shun me recently bcuz of how I identify even tho Ive been internally like this all my life & I will post every pick I still have representing visually how Ive always been what Ive alwayz supported & how Ive always lived cuz seems like mfs b forgettin👄 Also it kinda unnerves me that just bcuz I waz gone for a min Its like things Ive done here dont count somehow & Im constantly disrespected. Im tired of the disrespect especially from ppl who just started living here in town or just recently started with activism like do not shade me do not disrespect me I been here waaayyyyy b4 yall have sum respect.Mayb alot of folx dont know me cuz I been away but u know what who knows me these streets know me. Chicago knows me.This my city my town & dont NoBoDy better b shade me no more or b act like I dont know shit bout lgbt stuff gurl plz . And cant no muther fucker tell me where in this city I can & cant go either. I can & WiLl go wherever the fuck I want to go watch me. #goodnite#thankuslater#transgender#nb#bornthisway#lgbtchicago#pioneers#mtf#ftm#genderexpansive#genderqueer#lgbtqactivist#chicagoactivist#genderexpression#girlplz#beentheredonethat#okurrrrr
Our Trans Masculine Online Teen Discussion Group starts on Tuesday, October 9, it's a great way to share experiences or just listen and hang out with peers! Sign up now with the link in our bio. Thanks to @happyhippiefdn for support of our youth programs!
Not only is this a great photo of @beefdog69xxl in our PANSY shirt, but it is also a testament to the craftsmanship of our garments, bc holy shit I have no idea how the sleeve seams are not exploding under the force of those biceps.