If you are the parent of an addict, I’m curious…
If someone told you that the path to recovery started with you allowing your child to sit face to face with you and let you know about every single time in their life that you made them feel like they were “less than” or “unworthy” REGARDLESS of what YOUR memory of the situation was…
Could you/would you do it?
Could you TAME your anger, could you tame your EGO, could you stifle your REACTION for long enough to HEAR the words and to FEEL the feelings that your child was letting you in on?
Would YOU be able to apologize for making them feel that way REGARDLESS of what your actual intentions were in those moments that you are sitting and recalling together?? Could you put aside your feelings of how “ungrateful” your child sounds and simply VALIDATE the fact that they've been hurt by you REGARDLESS of how many times you've been hurt by them?
NOT for the sake of allowing them to “be a victim” and NOT spoken in the whiny, victimized , addicted, voice that you've been accustomed to hearing for the past “x” amount of years…
What if he or she could verbalize their feelings in the CLEAR spoken innocent voice that you once remember of your child?
The one from a moment in time when they were clean but they knew that they could NEVER come to you and voice their authentic feelings to you for fear of your reaction or of hurting your oh so fragile feelings.
Could you/would you do it?
I’ve met/read/seen soooo many parents DESPERATE for a cure… that “can't take” seeing their child this way anymore...PISSED that they can't “get their sh*t together”… But I wonder…. If this WERE THE CURE…the ONLY CURE…
to voice ALL of the feelings that were SILENCED as a child… ~who do you think are you talking to?
~stop acting like a baby
~respect your elders (even when they don't respect you)
~do as I say not as I do
~i'll give you something to cry about
~shut your mouth if you know what's good for you
~I brought you in and i'll take you out
Would you do it???? .... the rest of the post in comments
I forgive and I am #forgiven . I #have peace of mind and heart.Yet just as the trees use winter to prepare internally for eventual springtime, I know that a quiet time of reflection allows me to envision and prepare for #new beginnings in my life.
I cannot hold #on to the life that was, but I can fully live the life that is, right now. #By embracing the present moment, I find #peace in the midst of change. I find hope remembering that in due time, in the right season, my own #spring --my rebirth--will burst #forth
#23GG#Saying "I'm sorry" isn't always easy. It often takes courage to be the first to make amends. However, the first step toward forgiveness is the first step toward !peace of mind.
If I #have wronged another or there is a perception of #wrongdoing , I begin the healing process of forgiveness #through prayer. I open #to the healing power of God.
“ Whenever you feel like your failing...look into the eyes of your child and know your value!” .
Today was tough ... I’m feeling a bit under the weather but we muscled thru and we went out and even got Pizza with real sourdough crust (thanks @pier49pizza ) and hung out at the farmers market for some yummies! Now if I could only get some sleep🤷🏻♀️ #love#lovemyturds#drivemenuts
He said is notta easy road when you walk alone heading to the kingdom of god..but life will be worth living in the end, there is no end? 😂 Stay true to yourself. When canna forgive myself 100? When thought and emotion become 1 eye enter the gates within heavenly kingdom right here on planet earth. In this kingdom when you drink water from my mouth you become me, and eye myself will become he and certain things that are hidden will be revealed. The kingdom of the father is widely spread over the entire earth but man cant see. Where this come from? We see.. Holy Father. Every chosen child will never be forgotten b, a chosen child when he or she say mountain move the mountain will move. Hoi goedemorgen levens krijgers stay close to your firecore 😌
My eyes shot wide open at 5:00am. I reached for my phone looking for the missed text. Nothing. I lay there, my stomach in a knot. It was then that I remembered something my stepson's mom said about always knowing where he was because of the GPS on his phone. My husband and I share the same plan. At 6:06 am, my hands shaking I opened the GPS app and entered his number. It began to circle and circle and circle until it stopped. I stared at the screen. My heart stopped. My husband was not 2 hrs south with his dad. No. He was 2.5 hrs north. His phone was located at 5423 Skyway, Paradise, with high accuracy. It said 14 yards. I Googled the address. Paradise Inn. Why would he be at the Paradise Inn?
I call him. No answer. I call again. No answer. I text. No response. What do I do? What is happening?
The air in the room became thick as I paced back and forth, my heart racing. My friend is now sitting up in bed wondering what has happened so early in the morning. "He's at a hotel. Why is he at a hotel in Paradise? That's the opposite direction from his dad's." My mind in overdrive, I begin to nervously beat my hips as I walk back and forth. "Why would he be in Paradise? He isn't answering." As I stare out at the distance replaying the day before, I do my best to recall our conversations and text exchanges during the week. Nothing out of the ordinary, it was routine. Our routine. It had become robotic and distant long before this. "Do you think it would be okay to call his dad this early?" After some gentle encouragement I dialed the number. "Good morning. Sorry to call so early, but I was wondering if my husband made it there okay?" "Sorry dear, I haven't spoken to him in a couple weeks. Is everything okay?" His voice was far off. But I could clearly hear the words he said; my husband wasn't there. "I'm not sure. He said he was spending the night with you." Think. Think. Think. I am positive he said he was going there. Why would he be in Paradise?
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At the center of it all its you that I see.there's power in your name,Miracles happen in your name....
.Jesus is Lord##all about your commitment##its a question of heart##need free spirit##let go of unforgiveness##be channel of Love##be a doer##relationship ##hearing heart##be a peacemaker##love everyone ##stop reliving the past##let go of hatred##let go of jealousy ##envy ## no bad feelings toward anyone##forgive others##
43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.