We live our whole lives putting on “masks” to help us get through certain situations. We may not even realize we are doing it. Sometimes it’s something new we’ve learned, but usually it’s a cope or a defense.
These masks are inevitable and necessary.
The problem arises when we forget to take off the masks after they’ve served their purpose. They are left attached. They become a part of us.
More years go by and when we reach adulthood we are LAYERED in camouflage and unable to expose who we really are. We look in the mirror and we are barely able to recognize ourselves underneath the disguises.
My Finding Authenticity Workshop encourages us to examine ourselves; to take a look at each “mask” and decide whether or not we need to keep it (some are meant to stay) or let it go.
The hope is for a reveal, a realization, or maybe to just be seen.
Please email me to sign-up! The first class meets tomorrow (Wednesday) night! Details on my website under EVENTS. #findingauthenticity#thinksaydo#jaimethinksaydo#writing#journaling#connecting#selflove#selfcare#reveal#truth#love
Originally posted by my dear friend Jen (@jen.musser) as she sent her son back to school yesterday.
I, (THANK YOU JESUS) am not sending anyone to school yet, but it still applies to so much of my life.
We grow AND oh riiight, OTHERS (like our kids, partners, siblings, friends, co-workers, and parents) grow too - in their own authentic ways. Not like us.
And we support and love them.
Finding Authenticity writing workshop starts September 5th! Details and sign up are on my website under EVENTS. Excerpt is from “Every Day Spirit” by Mary Davis.
When do we know we are being authentic? It starts with deep self acceptance.
It’s loving the core of who you are and believing others will too.
Its tuning into what you want from a thriving place, not a striving place.
It’s throwing off the shackles of what others want you to be.
It’s not about imposing what you want or believe onto others.
It’s not having to advertise who you are - it’s trusting others will see & either accept or move on. You’re OK with that.
It’s not hiding parts of yourself.
It evolves with you as you deepen your awareness of self.
I’m finally starting to get this.
Last year I was sitting at a bar with my friend Erin and her boyfriend, Paul. He is really passionate about all things astrology, spirituality and mindfulness. That day, he was casually leaning back in his chair while reading my astrological chart and simultaneously dipping French fries into horseradish sauce.
He said, “Oh wow, look at this (dip, dip, crunch, mouth wipe)... you’re not a good listener.”
⚡️SHOCK AND AWE.⚡️
I AM GOOD AT EVERYTHING.
After my cheeks started to fade back to a pink translucent hue, I asked “What do you mean?” He said, “You have a hard time just sitting and listening to a problem without trying to fix it (slurp).”
It took me a few days to process Paul’s words. But once I set my giant ego aside, I could see that he was right.
My friend, Jess is the best listener I know. She doesn’t say A WORD except an occasional, “Oh Jaim, I’m so sorry”. She is who I go to when I don’t want a PEEP of advice and when I just want to crumble in a heap and be proverbially held by her silence and on-the-phone presence.
It’s really hard for me to do what Jess does. Like it takes WORK for me to keep my mouth shut and not give steps towards resolution. One of Jess’ many strengths is in listening.
It took me a while to remember the rest of the conversation with Paul at the bar because I was so ridiculously caught up in what I’m NOT.
But then it came back to me.
Right after he shattered my impeccable personality, he said, “But look at this; you’re a good fixer. If someone needs an answer, they come to you.”
Paul was never pointing out what was “good” or “bad” about who I am. There wasn’t the slightest whisper of judgement in his tone. He was just saying the truth.
Sometimes I get “authenticity” mixed up with “perfection.” We aren’t meant to be perfect. We are meant to share our gifts and our strengths. Sure, we can work on ourselves as much as we’d like, but some of the characteristics that make us UNIQUE, are just written in the stars.
✨Come uncover more about who you are this September at my Finding Authenticity Fall Writing Series. Wednesday nights 6-7:15pm, $120. Please message or email me to sign up!✨
THE REWARDS OF ADVERSITY
I watched @yolanda.hadid on the @wendyshow today. There was such a calmness and peace about her. You could tell she was not in competition with the world. She had found her authenticity and her freedom.
Yolanda suffered for 7 years from Lymes disease. That kind of adversity can either destroy you or refine you. It refined her.
WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH YOUR ADVERSITY?
I thought about posting this photo and sharing how grateful I feel today (which I do!). Grateful for living so close to the beach, grateful for a job I love and one that allows me to take breaks to do this with my little. I thought I would also share how I had such a different experience staring at the same ocean yesterday.
Yesterday, I took some time to sit out here and PAUSE. It wasn't comfortable, but it was what I needed. The most important lesson I've learned in this process of finding internal happiness is that all emotions are fleeting. Facing the dark emotions head on really does help in letting them go, so the light can enter more easily. Also, getting present with the light makes life more enjoyable.
As @sherylsandberg taught us in Option B, you will not always feel this way, you will only SOMETIMES feel this way. This goes for the light and the dark. Get present with both and see the magic happen. 🖤 #findingauthenticity#imallaboutoversharing
We can all remember a time someone has said something that's marked our lives... in good ways and in bad ways. Why do words have such power over us? Find out tonight at 7:30! 💡James 3 #FindingAuthenticity
I was recently telling a friend that I am both excited, and scared-to-death, about my upcoming Authenticity workshop. Without skipping a beat she said, “What you haven’t realized yet is that anyone who is even THINKING about going to your event is ALSO scared-to-death.” She was right. It hadn’t occurred to me that anyone who may be wanting change (and is ready to face the truth), would be shitting their pants at the idea of showing up in a public space to hear me talk about the work and the love that is involved with figuring out who you actually ARE. I get it. But remember that we’re all in this one life together. There is no shame in making a decision to better yourself. The starter plunge in the rollercoaster of emotions and self fact-checking can be intense. But then it mellows and feels a lot like the first bike ride of the year. It’s freedom. A cycle. And a life long process of becomeING.
A year and a half ago, when I started my blog, I sent one of my more intimate drafts to my ex-mother-in-law (who is one of my very best friends). She said, “It’s a lot, Sweetie. It’s very honest, but it’s you’re life; you get to do whatever you want with it.” I hit “post,” and have never once regretted being, breathing and sharing my truth.
Sunday, May 21st 5-7pm
Treetop Yoga, Gloucester
$25 pre register online/ $30 at the door
#findingauthenticity#truth#honesty#freedom#inspire#live#happiness#becomeING#strength#newbeginnings#speaker#writer#blogger ...and #wecallhimsam
My AUTHENTICITY workshop is coming up!
It's about looking at all of those hats, layers and masks that we have (inevitably) worn throughout our XX years and deciding if it's time for us to remove them.
Maybe they're the wrong size but we keep sausaging ourselves into them DESPERATELY trying to make them still fit. Or maybe they are too bulky and heavy and our shoulders can't take the weight anymore. Maybe you just realized that you don't give a shit about what's in style and you're done with looking like everyone else. Perhaps your layers have been through hell and back and are slowly unraveling thread by thread without your consent.
Once we choose to take them off, we get a little closer to becoming who we actually ARE instead of being covered up by who we once were or who others think we should be.
I promise you, it's empowering and freeing and scary and exciting and honest.
If these words about this event speak to you at all, then sign up. The layers are just a piece of the puzzle!
Sunday, May 21st 5-7pm
- M o n d a y -
I'd rather like to be back where I was yesterday morning, sitting in a tipi taking on board the wise words of @johnsiddique. So I'm taking what was said and allowing the words to carry me through this new week with purpose ✨🙌🏼✨ Happy Monday, lovely people 😊