Just an empath singing about her feelings and last night she had ALOT of feelings! What a day, so much love, so much to be grateful for.
(PS vote for me for r&b artist of the year 😇😍 link in bio) 🎥 @ewalters9
As much as I might not like to admit it the L Word was instrumental in my younger Dyke life, but for all the wrong reasons.
While I never watched the show in real time, I would spend hours binge watching it and discussing it with all my other friends. Our critical analysis, at 15 wasn’t there. Many years later I still reflect on the racism, classism, ableism, transphobia and general toxicity that was the L Word.
But one thing that always fucked with my head was the lack of representation of visibly fat folks. While I understand LA is a city obsessed with being grossly underweight, I find t hard to believe that fat folks don’t exist in LA. For many years this was the pop culture image of Queer women, and honestly, it made me think all Queer women were supposed to be skinny.
Throughout the show, I wondered if any Queer women would love me if I was fat. I became scared for my future Queer dating life, I convinced myself that the only way I could be happy as a Queer woman was through rapid weight loss. Eventually, after months of watching the show, my eating disorder returned. After months of obsessive thoughts with food, I got tired. I was sick of having no energy, I was sick of being hungry, and to be transparent, I had other shit going on that was way more pressing.
Many years later I watched the show again for the first time since a teenager. While my takeaways were drastically different, my heart wept for younger queer Anna. It hurt to know that at some point in time I felt that I wouldn’t have community because I’m fat. While today I have my moments of frustration with the Queer community and their lack of acceptance for fat folk, I’m happy. I exist within those spaces to be fat, serve a lqqk and fuck your shit up.
I’d love to hear what other fat Queer folks experiences have been with navigating fatphobia in the community.
The temps are going down but I’m not ready to put these stripes away yet! 😞 Thinking with a denim jacket and some booties I can totally take this pocket dress into fall! 🤔💙🍁 Do you have any summer favs you aren’t ready to pack away? #fallfashion#stripes#newenglandstyle#femmeboutiqueboston#fallstyle •
Dress: @femmeboutiqueboston Photographer: @brivera__photography Lighting: @pjdufresne_design Venue: @hotelmarblehead
Our fave C.O and inmate from Litchfield 🍊 A #throwback to when @emilytarver & @viccimartinez slayed the #dapperqNYFW runway and broke out into dance at the end. 💃🕺 | 📷: @thestreetsensei & @katcontreras (@netflix @oitnb #oitnb#dapperq )
Probably talking about how I’m a Cancer and my moon is in Sagittarius...or something like that. Catch me this Friday for day 3 of @bustoutboston at the Burren for more astrology or disco or glitter or all the above!
You need to ignore what everyone is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live YOUR best life. You are not in competition with anyone else; plan to outdo your past, not other people.” ❥