it’s been one year since @taylorswift won her sexual assault trial. (although i do not have a good picture of me with a dollar, here is one with ella and i from the concert including a weird dollar edited in there). with taylor winning, it wasn’t a so-called “victory”, it was proving the point that females can always fight back and never owe a man anything if he “talks sh*t” about you.
I am a #fat , #hairy , #bearded#woman who loves to #fuck .
I am a fat, hairy, bearded woman who is openly #kinky .
I am a fat, hairy, bearded woman who has had several #sexual partners.
I am a fat, hairy, bearded woman who is ethically non-monogamous.
I am a fat, hairy, bearded woman who has several people citing her as a crush.
I am a fat, hairy, bearded woman who has been fucking for almost 20 years.
I am a fat, hairy, bearded woman who comes home to a man every night who can’t wait to put his hands all over her. “Ok, so what? Who cares?”
The POINT IS, #women who are deemed societally “unpalatable” by.... well, often men (often straight cis men) who discuss or even mention our #sexuality are usually met with, “no one wants to hear that,” or “no one wants to see that,” or sometimes, “yeah, right.”
See, the flipside of reducing societally PALATABLE women to #sex objects, is DENYING the sexuality of “undesirables” (again: fat women, hairy women, older women, disabled women, queer women, women of color, etc etc). We are “not allowed” to discuss our sexuality and be seen/thought of AS sexual because The Bar is set by men who - don’t want to fuck us, or - don’t want to ADMIT they want to fuck us.
So it’s easier to just pretend that women who look like me either DON’T fuck, or SHOULDN’T fuck.
Want to offend shitty men?
Then (if you are sexual, and if you’re not, JUST AS VALID!) be proudly sexual.
Fuck with vigor.
Shop for sex toys (or window shop if you’re broke like me).
Check people out (respectfully!)
Show men that our sexuality isn’t Gatekept by those who reduce us to “yes” or “no” piles.
Or laugh as they turn away, offended.
Lol, what a crock! They are really reaching here. It shows they’re desperate to change the narrative to one that simply isn’t based in reality.
The reason we almost universally say, “You’re **going to be** a big brother” is because we all recognize the clear, objective, important distinction between a life form that is: -non-autonomous
-parasitic (fully dependent on the body of an autonomous person to survive) -non-sentient
-non-gestationally developed (currently gestating)
VERSUS a person who is: -autonomous
-already born -conscious
Birth is *the* distinction. Birth is when a fetus becomes a baby and when the baby becomes autonomous, conscious, sentient, and aware.
The *autonomous* part is the most important aspect here. That’s when the baby no longer depends on another person’s body to sustain its survival. The baby then has BODILY AUTONOMY.
You have to be intellectually honest here. **This distinction exists**, whether you want to acknowledge this or not.
We must not pretend as though there is no distinction to be made.
That is intellectually dishonest.
Embryos and fetuses don’t know they’re getting aborted. They don’t feel sad about it. They don’t care.
They don’t suffer or get traumatized.
The distinction between between post-birth and in utero matters.
Birth changes everything, when it comes to having bodily autonomy rights.
Prior to birth, a being is not autonomous. It is fully dependent on an autonomous person’s body for its survival. ***This distinction is incredibly important.*** An embryos or fetus is like a parasite in a host.
If the host doesn’t want it to stay in her body, that autonomous person can dispose of it. We own and control our bodies. Embryos and fetuses don’t have to remain in our uteruses if we don’t want them to.
Ayooooo...we’re giving away pre-launch access to our @reigningwomen website! This website is one that’s kind of near and dear to my heart, because not only are we offering digital growth and creative strategies for female creative, but we’re also developing organizational tools, self-care e-books, and a ton more resources for young women & developing professionals. Woo! LINK IN BIO for registration!!
Quando decidiu, aos 53 anos, assumir os cabelos brancos e parar de tingi-los, a escritora e jornalista francesa de moda Sophie Fontanel ouviu as mais variadas críticas. Para uma amiga, isso equivalia a parar de tomar banho. Outra achou que ela estava renunciando à sua feminidade e à vida amorosa. Mas Fontanel lançou uma tendência, inspirando inúmeras outras mulheres na França a darem o mesmo passo.
Hoje, se tornou mais comum ver mulheres a partir de 50 anos com cabelos totalmente brancos nas ruas de Paris. E até mais jovens, na faixa dos 40, com os primeiros fios grisalhos aparentes.
Fontanel diz que há uma pressão social que obriga as mulheres a tingirem os cabelos.
Como no Brasil, cabelos brancos femininos também são vistos por muitas pessoas na França como um sinal de desleixo e, claro, de velhice em um mundo onde a busca pela beleza está diretamente ligada à luta contra o envelhecimento.
"A beleza associada simplesmente à juventude é uma construção social", diz ela, que suscitou inúmeras reações, tanto positivas quanto negativas, quando parou de tingir os cabelos.
"As pessoas diziam que cabelos brancos envelhecem. Penso que a verdadeira questão é: 'onde está o problema de parecer mais velha?' Fiquei surpresa com a estupidez da sociedade. Achei que as mulheres já se sentiam mais à vontade com os cabelos brancos".
"Por que as mulheres não querem envelhecer? Não consigo entender. Eu não tenho tanta vontade de ver em mim sinais de envelhecimento, mas os vejo e isso não é o mais importante", diz Fontanel.
"Não pensava que fosse algo tão tabu. Acabei entendendo que o tabu era eu reivindicar os cabelos brancos como um sinal de beleza. Não apenas para mim, mas em geral", afirma.
Matéria BBC Brasil #feminist#feminism#embrace#yourbodyyourrules#mybodymyrules#beautiful#comeasyouare